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Embracing Beauty With Acceptance Of One’s Choice | Aashka Goradia | TEDxCRCE


first of all thank you these 20 minutes
out of your lives that you’ve chosen to
give me to listen to me this means a lot
to be on this stage means a lot so going
to our first slide we know what the
topic is beauty so we’re allowed to talk
about beauty but we are not allowed to
talk about beautification sometimes I
wonder do I know anybody who would not
like to look more prettier than they are
more beautiful than they are I keep
wondering
everybody wants to look more beautiful
everybody wants to be a better version
of themselves and be the best honoring
the theme today rewind let’s go back in
history and see how beautification was
looked upon back in time so lush ring
are something that has been around us
for thousands of years inherited by
goddesses rides to do what to enhance
our features wondering what these two
Egyptian women are doing well they
realized 5,000 years ago that lips are
truly a prominent feature of your face
lipsticks were invented 5000 years ago
we may think that makeup is a recent
invention but no it has been there for
the last 5000 years back in time they
would use fruits clays sometimes even
grind gemstones in order to collect
glitter and put it on their face so you
can imagine glitter contouring has been
there for almost 5000 years even the
sculptor when he sculpted puts the color
red on the muse women wore Kajal
to oppose the whites of their eyes to
draw more attention people beautified
their faces in this way when we talk
about the tribes so if we take this
example for the last 5,000 years we’ve
been trying to be better versions of
ourselves to look better to be better to
beautify ourselves so we have history
and then we have these numbers that
states that it’s a hundred and thirty
dollar one hundred and thirty billion
dollar industry Wow
I almost lost the count so hundred and
thirty billion dollar industry and a
history of 5000 years shows how
important it is to beautify ourselves
but today I’m not here to talk about
whether it’s important or it’s not
because there is a certain trend that is
now going on due to social media and the
power that we have got to decide what
others can do so eminent personalities
magazine covers celebrities are now
trying to promote something called raw
beauty natural beauty don’t enhance your
features don’t use a lot of makeup don’t
do anything to your face don’t do
anything to your body’s magazine covers
celebrities my contemporaries a lot of
people that I know on various platforms
worldwide they have spoken that do not
get you know don’t get carried away by
seeing a magazine cover then why do they
exist why do we have a magazine cover
why do we have a magazine selling number
of pages of brands inside because that
has been the demand of the human being
of the human being literally in the
surroundings he always wanted to be
better and so he we Walt we invented new
were things
so a huge industry a history and now
this entire fad about a group of people
telling us that it’s okay not to enhance
yourselves it’s absolutely fine to be
who you are
embrace yourselves but from a
comparatively average appearance when a
woman is looking at that magazine it’s
truly feeling from inside that hey I
wish I looked like that I wish I had
that skin I wish I had that structure
and we would be lying if we picked up a
magazine and we didn’t want to be a part
of it we all wanted to be on the
magazine someday for various reasons for
different reasons but yeah it’s the
magazine today telling us what we must
do for thousands of years they have told
us what to do so they will tell us today
what to do but the idea is not listening
to them why because beauty has no rules
it’s a creative field and beauty has no
limitations beauty has dimensions
creativity has no limitations creativity
has dimensions so I wonder that all of
those people who are today trying to
educate the younger women to believe in
raw beauty it’s wonderful it’s a good
thought raw Beauty should be exactly
relatable to inner beauty and I
understand that we must work on our
inner beauty that makes us a better
human being but what does it have to do
with how we look on the outside how we
present ourselves how we decorate
ourselves so coming back to a campaign
that profound big magazine a profound
actor is promoting and a very big brand
is promoting and and the campaign is
that you shouldn’t distort your face
well I get that okay we shouldn’t but
then there were thousands of other
copies sold before this campaign
that said look at that that’s how a
woman should look perfect sharp eyes
beautiful hair and then we opened that
magazine and then there were ways
through various brands that we could
have looked like them possibly so after
selling this idea for so many years when
that magazine is going to complete that
current issue of the month and go on to
the next issue it’s not going to follow
these guidelines that they’ve given to
the women in that month I feel the
entire campaign is lost the face on the
magazine that promotes this campaign
will somewhere lose the meaning of this
campaign and honor to complete her work
or another project so I feel the
campaign has lost its meaning all over
again and the brand that is supporting
this campaign or various other campaigns
are the brands that are chemically
infused that promotes smooth hair smooth
skin and everything that’s supposed to
beautify different parts of our body so
I believe that the campaign yet again
coming two sculptors back in time again
rewinding when we look at this image you
wanna see it’s perfect there are various
other beautiful paintings that are now
in museums because we admire them so
much you know why are they so special
why are they so beautiful why are they
so perfect because that’s called that
sculptor that painter painted his
deepest desire sculpted his deepest
passion came out with something that was
so universal said a universal story that
related to everybody and now we admire
poets when wrote their poems authors
when they wrote their sonnets their muse
was a perfect hourglass shaped body moon
shaped breasts sharp eyes beautifully
drawn eyebrows and adorned with jewelry
the idea of perfection existed for
everybody who created and we are
creators for our own lives we create
with our body with our minds with the
things we do for the lives we live so
why am I saying all this why am i
showing you sculptors perfect sculpt why
am i talking about a painters perfect
paint it’s because in today’s time when
science is advanced there’s technology
back in time people use paints now
people use fillers in those days they
grind it gemstones now we grind almost
everything to look beautiful that’s fine
everybody is allowed to do what they
want what they like what they wish
because what I have learned is you
cannot take somebody’s imagination of
can you I don’t think so
I wouldn’t like somebody taking my
imagination away from me that’s how
important it is to us because that’s the
only thing that is in our control to
noggin to star ash Correa has the
perfect response to a lip job rumor lips
mine face mine doctor mine reminding you
that the doctor has pledged and taken an
oath that he can’t discuss one patient
to be another but my my fellow people
who have the power of pen the power to
write things right ash Correa has
perfect response to her lip job rumor so
you’re making a lot of things apparent
in your title then and now forget about
actors forget about people who enhance
if I were to pick up one of you paint
your face and then do a before and after
I tell you you will look spectacularly
different
that’s how images work that’s how makeup
works that’s what exactly it does it
changes you and enhances you makes you a
better version of your end even if it
changes you it makes you somebody that
you will still relate to yourself I am
not sure if you can read what I said
when I said that and again I wasn’t
asked about my lips in on over a phone
call where I could have felt comfortable
talking about or in privacy because
you’re talking about a part of my body
in no privacy in a press conference by a
woman journalist who walks up to me and
says so hey I should go what have you
sorry
that people today have gathered courage
to try to shame people on their faces
and the reason I’m sharing my story with
you guys today is because there are a
lot of contemporaries from my industry
my friends young girls I know who write
to me asking various kind of beauty tips
beauty tips
not life tips beauty tips this then yes
I think I had pretty decent lips even
because I wanted it I wish I could give
you a story that if I have fuller lips
I’ll get a better role if I have fuller
lips I will always look nicer than the
other person no I’m the sculptor of my
body I’m the painter of my body I choose
to paint and sculpt whatever I like of
my body what something that was
practiced thousands of years ago is
ashamed today if you enhanced if you
were grinding gemstones and putting
glitter on your lips was creativity and
invention 5,000 years ago it was
celebrated women did it together today
women don’t do it together today there
is a competition there’s a competition
of I am raw I am natural and I am
mightier than you because I don’t use
cosmetics
I don’t feel there is a need to enhance
my feature because I have complete
self-worth where is the question of
self-worth there is no question of
self-worth it’s it’s my face that I
thought that if I sculpt better might
look better and if you were to ask me if
you are you happy with your sculpt I’ll
see yes I am because it’s my sculpt so
I’m happy with it so it says that Ash
coal ash outer journalist now see how
things unfold a private question that
you shouldn’t be been asking me because
there is no relationship but now that
I’m a public figure I have let my life
be on a platform where you can turn
around and ask anything so you ask me a
private question publicly and
then I lash out at you this is how
things on for ladies and gentlemen I
lash out at the journalists sing tell me
in what capacity can you ask me a
question like that because I felt that
in that moment when such a private
question was asked to me so publicly
I was not obliged to answer not obliged
to answer media my friends journalists
or my fans she calmed down later she
calmed down later I mean really if I
come to one of you and tell you hey what
have you done to your face what have you
been eating you look so bad you’ll feel
bad if you are intimidated by me you
might not say anything to me but if
you’re not you’ll turn around tell me
so she calmed down later and finally
replied as long as lip job is concerned
if I ever need to do it I will not shy
away because I will pay for it and today
I used this platform to say yes I did
not shy away from enhancing a feature of
my face but I was shamed for it
and in fear of being shamed of something
that was my choice and my decision
almost made me respond to that woman
saying no whereas I should have said yes
but no because it wasn’t asked nicely
and a lot of people might feel this is
entertainment but ladies and gentlemen I
look at this as a big time body shaming
if you can’t call a fat girl fat a short
girl short a bald man bald then you
Asch Kagura is a household name for all
the role she played on TV thank you for
that compliment
they have been rampant reports of her
going under the knife now how we all
love to read sensations and that’s how
people who work behind and have this
power of pen how they sensationalize
things going under the knife I beg your
pardon
I wish nobody has to go under the knife
because that’s needed and some serious
conveniently jumping the gun not giving
the audience’s masses in young girls
what they really need to know what
you’re giving them a completely a
complete story that’s that that comes
from a desk of unawareness only a pen
and a desk will write something like
this when they don’t have enough time to
research about their stories so no going
under the knife is massive and that I
didn’t do ladies and gentlemen but see
how they sensationalize things
the speculation seems to be on the point
her lips are fuller the cheekbones look
higher and her smile too looks plastic
so not only you are body shaming me for
something that I’ve done but you’re also
passing a judgement when how I look and
that’s supposed to make me feel good and
that’s supposed to kick and boost up my
confidence not only me but I’m talking
on behalf of all those contemporaries in
in my industry and all those women who
are not in my industry and who choose to
look better and take various ways to
look better I’m not promoting things
that need to be done I’m promoting the
idea of how one can stop body shaming
well I had recently gotten engaged that
that’s not a point that I want to read
but my husband’s here and he’s a very
big reason why I came out and open and
I’ve been meaning to talk about this for
the last one and a half years because
when he moved to India he he read these
articles and then he asked me that
what’s going on
I said nothing I I haven’t done anything
because he was new in my life I didn’t
want him to judge me I didn’t want him
to think that if I had fillers in my
face I’m a fake person because it’s
pretty easily understood that if you’re
going to bake your face with makeup you
are instantly going to be somebody who’s
he said well I’m from Vegas so you can’t
tell me what you have and haven’t done
on your face I know but what I want you
to know is there is nothing to fear or
shame yourself about or your decision
about he helped me to be honest to
accept the fact that it’s okay to
beautify my face because that will not
change the person I am inside
so thank you Brent for that this is just
about me because I can take my example
and I can talk to you guys about how I
feel other people have a right to tell
me how I look and not only that it
doesn’t it doesn’t end there when they
when they post these articles they also
ask social media users to comment to
leave what they think below that article
or the video so you’re not only shaming
me by all your means but you’re also
asking people to shame me and you’re
asking people to write plastic face so
she looks like a duck now really how
should this make a woman feel about
herself there is no question of
self-worth when she’s going for such
enhancement so when she’s going to
change her look so when she’s using
makeup or doing anything to make herself
look more beautiful there is no question
of self what would but when these things
happen then there is a question of
self-worth what pretty thick-skinned it
is in effect now because if a painter
and a sculptor started to think what the
world might think about the creation
that he is about to make then he would
have never made that so my point today
we’re going back in history and then
coming back to me
beautification from gemstones grinding
to cosmetic surgery my point today is
that let’s stop this entire fad about
raw beauty just like how feminism is
forced
bonus nepotism is forced upon us let’s
let’s not tell people let’s not have
people tell us what should be the rules
of beauty let’s not have them take the
control and power once again to tell us
how we should look what we should do so
you can’t ask a woman in today’s time
what’s her age but you can definitely
ask her what’s in her face that’s the
power people have and not only over
social media but in person people can do
that to your face my neighbor did it to
me you know in a lift full of people
because like I think whatever you have
done on your face is not looking nice on
you it took me 2 seconds 2 seconds and I
didn’t have to prepare but something
inside of me just came out and said sir
you’re having a bald patch nothing you
must consider weaving some hair on it it
wasn’t important to give an answer like
that but it was important for other
people standing in that lift to know
that you can’t do this you can’t shame
women just because they have made
I’ve had friends who social media posts
that I read no filter sunlit natural
real raw it’s beautiful that you guys
are so beautiful it’s amazing that you
have a smooth skin and you don’t need a
filter but what about that girl who has
a big pimple that just came out a day
before she was going out with her
friends
all her friends are looking smooth and
lovely but that one pimple on her face
is going to make her feel miserable
so she’s supposed to follow the raw
natural beauty fad that we are forcing
on them that we are taking on magazine
covers 16 years in this industry 22
shows 5000 episodes of telecast on this
face just by assuming that I shouldn’t
have invested in my grooming just by
assuming that I should stay the way I am
raw natural beauty I don’t think I would
have been able to entertain so many
people and keep them engaged in watching
me today or be even here with you guys
today so if you want to wake up look
into the mirror and feel that is
something you need to do because that’s
gonna make you feel better then go out
and do it because there should be no one
to judge you there should be no one to
tell you what you should do and make
that happen today when when you’re
breathing because we can get sometimes
so bad to give you a recent example a
legend left this planet and by all means
media and a lot of other people and fans
wrote too many surgeries cause of death
too much dieting cause of death what
about the mental stress what about the
stress when you write these things take
the liberty of writing anything about
people’s appearances and tell them on
social media on their faces we are media
we are gossips
so today all these articles that I
showed you were checked and you may go
ahead and Google some more there is one
thing that you’ll find in common that
all these articles have been done by
women so the pretentious feminism that
we say will not talk about it today 18
minutes wouldn’t be enough all these
articles have been done by other women
so I asked which feminism are we talking
about why are we trying to pull our
fellow women down why are we rating
people as fake as real as for the
choices that they make as the clothes
that they wear as the makeup that they
use don’t even think about wearing a red
lipstick because that will be a color of
feminists you’re a feminist or I don’t
want to use the adjective very common
adjectives that could be given to you
that you are oh my god she’s wearing a
red color
that’s how judgmental we have become
that’s how mean we have become to people
who make rather different choices than
we do so I use this platform I use this
stage send out this very little message
that it’s amazing that there are so many
campaigns and so many people and
wonderful messages out there to look
inside to embrace that the way we are
it’s beautiful to embrace yourself and
only if you embrace yourself will you
want to invest in yourself so thank you
for listening to me ladies and gentlemen
this was my only message today that be
beautiful and respect people accept
people fully thank you [Applause]
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