none of us see the world in the same way
so you and I could go watch a movie it’s
the same movie that we’re watching I
love it I see something you hate it you
see something else you don’t experience
it the same way we’re watching the same
world the same reality but we experience
it differently
everybody you meet is experiencing their
world differently than you are so you
have an attitude that color is what you
see and some people have an attitude
that tends towards the negative and I
describe a negative attitude to
something that’s closed so you’re not
open to new experience you’re trying to
close that lens you once you have
certain beliefs certain ideas about life
and you’re not willing to change them
right because that gives you a sense of
security and so you want an attitude
that’s expansive where you accept people
you’re not always judging them you’re
not negative about them you understand
that people that can’t necessarily help
who they are you’re open to change
you’re open to being into having
adventure and that kind of attitude kind
of gives you a certain degree of freedom
so that the worst thing that happened to
you and you’re able to transform that
into something good if we have a setback
or a failure in life which is inevitable
do we do one of two things do we analyze
ourselves and see what we did wrong and
how we could change ourselves or do we
immediately look outward and blame other
people that person screwed me Society
doesn’t like me because of these
circumstances I’m I’m screwed and I can
never help it it’s the world it’s not me
that’s a self sabotaging pattern and
behavior because if you’re always
pointing fingers at other people and
blaming them you’re never gonna learn
from your experiences and you’re all
you’re gonna end up being quite bitter
so that’s probably one of the most the
main sources of a
self-sabotaging so we can’t we’re not in
charge of everything that happens in
life there are circumstances that are
beyond our control right but a lot of
what does happen to us
is something that we do that we are
responsible for there are amazing
studies about the role of attitude and
what happens to you in life so they have
this thing called the Pygmalion effect
teachers who treat a student as if they
are smart and gonna do well those
students end up doing well right so how
you treat people how you think about
yourself has a great impact on what
happens to you when doctors prescribed a
new medication there’s always the same
trend that when a new medication has
been invented the success rate is like
80% because people believe in it because
it’s new then like two years later it
starts going down person up yeah it’s a
placebo effect so if you believe
something is going to work if you
believe that you’re great your did you
deserve good things that you are a good
stew you will end up making those things
happen so how you look at yourself will
often determine what ends up happening
to yourself so if you’re talking about
somewhat what causes self-sabotage
if you go through life thinking God I’m
not really that good
you know there’s something wrong with me
I don’t really deserve good things I
don’t deserve to have a lot of success
or to have a lot of money people read
that off of you a major theme in this
book is that we’re masters at reading
people’s body language and nonverbal
behavior so when somebody feels that
they don’t deserve things it’s kind of
an off-putting quality in them and it
pushes people away so you create
self-fulfilling dynamics by how you look
at yourself in your attitude so your
attitude and how you think about
yourself so determine how people treat you and what happens in life
so you and I could go watch a movie it’s
the same movie that we’re watching I
love it I see something you hate it you
see something else you don’t experience
it the same way we’re watching the same
world the same reality but we experience
it differently
everybody you meet is experiencing their
world differently than you are so you
have an attitude that color is what you
see and some people have an attitude
that tends towards the negative and I
describe a negative attitude to
something that’s closed so you’re not
open to new experience you’re trying to
close that lens you once you have
certain beliefs certain ideas about life
and you’re not willing to change them
right because that gives you a sense of
security and so you want an attitude
that’s expansive where you accept people
you’re not always judging them you’re
not negative about them you understand
that people that can’t necessarily help
who they are you’re open to change
you’re open to being into having
adventure and that kind of attitude kind
of gives you a certain degree of freedom
so that the worst thing that happened to
you and you’re able to transform that
into something good if we have a setback
or a failure in life which is inevitable
do we do one of two things do we analyze
ourselves and see what we did wrong and
how we could change ourselves or do we
immediately look outward and blame other
people that person screwed me Society
doesn’t like me because of these
circumstances I’m I’m screwed and I can
never help it it’s the world it’s not me
that’s a self sabotaging pattern and
behavior because if you’re always
pointing fingers at other people and
blaming them you’re never gonna learn
from your experiences and you’re all
you’re gonna end up being quite bitter
so that’s probably one of the most the
main sources of a
self-sabotaging so we can’t we’re not in
charge of everything that happens in
life there are circumstances that are
beyond our control right but a lot of
what does happen to us
is something that we do that we are
responsible for there are amazing
studies about the role of attitude and
what happens to you in life so they have
this thing called the Pygmalion effect
teachers who treat a student as if they
are smart and gonna do well those
students end up doing well right so how
you treat people how you think about
yourself has a great impact on what
happens to you when doctors prescribed a
new medication there’s always the same
trend that when a new medication has
been invented the success rate is like
80% because people believe in it because
it’s new then like two years later it
starts going down person up yeah it’s a
placebo effect so if you believe
something is going to work if you
believe that you’re great your did you
deserve good things that you are a good
stew you will end up making those things
happen so how you look at yourself will
often determine what ends up happening
to yourself so if you’re talking about
somewhat what causes self-sabotage
if you go through life thinking God I’m
not really that good
you know there’s something wrong with me
I don’t really deserve good things I
don’t deserve to have a lot of success
or to have a lot of money people read
that off of you a major theme in this
book is that we’re masters at reading
people’s body language and nonverbal
behavior so when somebody feels that
they don’t deserve things it’s kind of
an off-putting quality in them and it
pushes people away so you create
self-fulfilling dynamics by how you look
at yourself in your attitude so your
attitude and how you think about
yourself so determine how people treat you and what happens in life
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