hi I just want to talk about something a
bit more serious for now Anthony
Bourdain Chester Bennington Catesby
Alexander McQueen these people have so
much resources but they choose to leave
this world by their own hands and it
confuses a lot of us why would people
with so much want to leave this world
more than we do we have less them death
by suicide it’s probably the opposite
end of what thriving is and have you
having been a person who has been
clinically depressed myself I can
understand where they come from but it
is a wall which is really hard to
understand unless you have been
depressed yourself I was a medical
student I had a prestigious career path
I had parents that was supportive of my
music and career dreams I had a lot of
loving relationships and friendships all
around me yet I wanted to end my life
why did I want to this actually made me
drive drive drove me to be able to try
to figure this out for the last six
years and I think I kind of figured it
out the way this ghastly mindset so
these two words mean nothing to you or
me if I do not describe in detail what’s
really going on behind it
but what scarcity mindset is is that
mindset where you feel like your life is
at risk every single day it’s as if you
are under threat of survival whenever
things don’t go your way it’s almost as
if we are spoiled brats
really and that is because we actually
go into fight or flight whenever things
happen to us if you understand the
origins of fight or flight we evolved it
as a way of responding to
life-threatening situations such as
seeing a predator but how many of us
actually feel that every day no not
really right nobody ever sees a predator
wrong unless you see your care as your
predator
which they can be but instead we’re
going to fight a flight over getting a
job talking to a boss talking about
political affiliations losing our phones
which I did about three weeks back and
over social media posts where people
argue when we’re going to fight we are
competitive
wherever Cyril – as others we focus on
the one thing we think it’s important
and hoard it as much as you can
this is the reason why people keep
chasing those things like accolades
money social status and greets but yet
never seem to be satisfied and when
we’re going to flight we go into cocoons
of addiction such as gaming social media
Korean and Taiwanese soap operas
dysfunctional relationships sometimes
even into depression or worse death but
the problem is as people living here
today we have a more luxurious life than
an 18th century King why do we still
have such ghastly mindset if everything
in the Academy was it was true we should
be enlightened calm rational people
rather than the judgemental depressive
society that is so riddled with scarcity
mindset so what’s the reason behind this
the reason is very simple and it’s very
cliche and probably a million times
it is that we mix up all nice with all
one’s okay now
you probably had this million times
everybody talks about this but nobody
really goes into the details of what
this really talks about and I’m unhappy
with this answer – because what is the
need what is a 1 so to make it a bit
clearer I broke it down into what we
want as what we term as a satisfier a
satisfier
is a tangible measurable thing that we
believe was satisfy us which the name
suggests and by logic satisfy a should
satisfy us
but all mine works a little bit more
complex in there and to explore this we
need to go to the origin or concept
where all this started mass or hierarchy
of needs how many of you has seen heard
or studied metals hierarchy of needs
well that’s a lot of people so next
question how many of you have read the
original article written by him or his
book one oh wow that’s great so if you
actually read the book you’d realize
that the right thing is a rather
different from what we see today but to
go back further into this a lot of this
articles became the benchmark for a lot
of economic psychological and
governmental models afterwards and the
thing is that Maslow’s hierarchy of
needs actually started with an article
that he wrote called theory on human
motivation so the aim of the article was
to talk about what made people actualize
and what year did it get published 1943
what else happened in 1943 everybody
kinda knows okay what war – so this is a
year where the war started where a bunch
of people a specific group of people
what his shift of their needs and taken
into death camps right so that’s what
happened and a lot of people actually
jump the bandwagon so if you read the
original article you know that what
happens that people expended a lot upon
it afterwards so what we see today of
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs on Wikipedia
it’s very different from what actually
metal was writing about and that’s
actually where it comes to the biggest
difference in the Wikipedia all you see
are satisfiers and not needs what I mean
by this is for example physiological
needs right now if you read a wikipedia
you will see that physiological needs
are food water shelter sex all these
kind of different things however these
are satisfiers they’re not needs in
state the need is nutrition or different
things for example if we’re talk about
nutrition we can be satisfied with a
burger a bowl of mixed rice which is
from different cultures or it can be
satisfied by IV
trip which basically pumps all the
nutrients into your bloodstream these
are all satisfiers well food is really
good satisfying but you don’t need it if
not the people on juice detox will
probably drop date within a day so this
is where the problem really lies people
will often go into fight or flight when
they think that satisfiers are risk
because it makes it up with and mean
every time somebody takes the status
fire for mass it feels like this person
is robbing us of our own survival and to
explain a bit more into this I want to
share with you a story about a man I
helped and it’s named John so John is a
multi-billionaire he inherited all his
money from his family and he had what on
Instagram and Facebook looked like the
most carefree life in the world but he
came to me because he had insomnia
anxiety and paranoia he didn’t trust
anybody around him he thought that
everyone was out to get to use him for
his money one was worse was that he felt
that life was meaningless he was born
living the dream that everyone else had
and he couldn’t figure out why instead
his mind was always focusing on making
more money getting our boredom and
traveling the world this is what we term
as high-functioning depression what this
means is that he has all the symptoms of
depression but he was able to function
because he was he kept going because of
the responsibilities and the things that
he had to do for his family and what he
was driven by to keep doing that was to
prove his value to his family but every
every so often he will end up running
away to holidays and he’ll come back to
Singapore feeling emptier than before so
what was his fight his fight was getting
more money for the family achieve social
societal achievements like getting a
degree or an MBA to solidify his value
in his family his flight he literally
had six months of travels a year I think
that’s what everybody wishes to have or
if not the whole year but he runs away
from the stresses but he ends up buying
happiness
he tries to buy happiness to satisfy
himself however when I sat down with him
and actually asked him what exactly
satisfied him the most
it actually revolved around
relationships in his life and most
importantly it was relationships where
people appreciate that John for himself
that was a really important part so what
was he really looking for he was looking
for intimacy he’s the most alive when he
doesn’t have to spend a single cent to
spend time with somebody he really
enjoys and more importantly he was not
receiving any of this from his family
instead he had to fight to gain any
formal respect or any form of intimacy
with his family and therefore he didn’t
know that he wanted or needed intimacy
so he either tried to fight or he flew
away on a regular level that’s why we
term as mixing satisfiers with needs he
mistook success to gain intimacy he
mistook travelling to gain satisfaction
he tried clubbing you tried music he
tried drugs with amount of money yet he
had tried everything and but they no
longer satisfy him satisfy him no longer
than a single day and if you look at it
objectively you taste whatever he was
doing with things like a job sex the
latest iPhone relationship achievements
and successes grades gold medals of
social media validations what happens is
that you will start realizing that when
you trade up what he was lacking with
any of these things people will go into
a scarcity mindset and no satisfiers
will satisfy you unless you generate
your own satisfier so generating
satisfier is the only way you can
satisfy yourself so it’s not about the
external thing that satisfies you is
that you have to generate yourself and
let me explain a bit more into this so
because I met a lot of people like John
I was trying to figure out what me
people feel the most satisfied so I
mixed in Maslow’s hierarchy a lot of
studies and developmental psychology
my interest in positive psychic
sociology to kind of come up with a new
model based off all these models and
being the geek that I am I called it the
most literal name I could come up with
biopsychosocial needs
literally biological psychological and
sociological needs so what happens which
is different about this model is that we
I’m only talking about the needs while
focusing on the needs how we need it and
how we the satisfiers can fulfill it so
there’s no focus on the satisfiers
themselves so here’s the model so it’s a
lot like Maslow’s hierarchy of needs but
basically I split it up into biological
psychological and sociological and I’m
only gonna focus on the first two levels
to talk about scarcity mindset today so
let’s talk about biological needs so
biological needs is basically what your
body is designed for and needs to be
able to survive so there are three main
categories there’s nutrition which is
basically satisfied by things like food
water sunlight and multiple things like
this this health which is actually
satisfied by hygiene meaning being able
to avoid and being protected from
elements of nature as well as diseases
and for intimacy the feeling of being
engaged and empathized with in fact that
studies saying that babies without
physical human touch will die even in
their farewell people who actually do
not receive empathy and hugs and love
from people will go into depression so
that is a biological need and from there
we need to talk about the generational
satisfiers for these needs which is
actually the next level the first level
of psychological needs is called
ownership needs ownership means that you
own and have proven there this skill can
generate your biological needs so you
won’t be satisfied deep down until your
mind recognizes that these are what you
need and the value of what you just
generated and to bring this on a bit
more the paths of ownership needs are
three simple parts the
survival skill itself the valuation of
the skill and experience of success so
I’m not gonna just leave it there I’m
gonna give it a little bit of example so
I play the bass so to me that’s a
survival skill set why because the
second part how society values it and
how I value it I get to play music to
earn money from the gigs and I gain
intimacy that I have from my
interactions with the audience and the
musicians I’m around the next part is
the experience of success which is
really important I survived on just
playing music and creating friendship
circles out of the music circle for one
whole year that gave me this confidence
and the understanding that I owned
playing the bass as a survival skill set
it’s been proven of the success and I
own it so this means that I can generate
my main biological needs from this skill
set so scary scary mindset is basically
when people have not been able to
satisfy their ownership needs which
means your own skill sets that generates
your biological needs so for a lot of
people when they are worried about their
livelihood at stake
the reason they feel so is because they
feel that the satisfiers are what they
need for example a really terrible boss
that threatens your job and I thought
okay if you lose it it didn’t exist
thirty years ago you should be able to
survive without it
or somebody attractive talking to our
partners this is where a lot of people
get really worried but this are the
things that people think that will steal
the status fires away from them because
they’re not confident of generating
their own satisfiers this is the reason
why even though we have all these
external things we feel empty and the
only way to get out of this cassadee
mindset and to be empowered to thrive is
to be able to generate our own satisfies
this is when we are fully capable of
taking on the world as it is but
nowadays a lot of people like to go for
are looking for their purpose to travel
looking for what they want through
things like conferences seminars or
going into entrepreneurship or spiritual
retreats like people going to India for
the yoga meditation retreats but these
are meaningless unless you can generate
your own satisfies because if they were
successful we’d have plenty of
enlightened fulfilled actualized people
all around us but we would we don’t have
that because these people go for these
sessions and people learn to generate
their own satisfiers
and when we depend on other people’s
definitions of what needs and satisfies
us we fell to discover how to generate
the satisfiers we need to fulfill
ourselves have to be at peace with
ourselves so generating our satisfiers
is the only way that we can thrive I
hope that this talk has inspired you to
find out what your needs are and how you
are going to generate your own
satisfiers and for that is the best way
for all of us to grow out of scarcity
mindset thank you [Applause]
bit more serious for now Anthony
Bourdain Chester Bennington Catesby
Alexander McQueen these people have so
much resources but they choose to leave
this world by their own hands and it
confuses a lot of us why would people
with so much want to leave this world
more than we do we have less them death
by suicide it’s probably the opposite
end of what thriving is and have you
having been a person who has been
clinically depressed myself I can
understand where they come from but it
is a wall which is really hard to
understand unless you have been
depressed yourself I was a medical
student I had a prestigious career path
I had parents that was supportive of my
music and career dreams I had a lot of
loving relationships and friendships all
around me yet I wanted to end my life
why did I want to this actually made me
drive drive drove me to be able to try
to figure this out for the last six
years and I think I kind of figured it
out the way this ghastly mindset so
these two words mean nothing to you or
me if I do not describe in detail what’s
really going on behind it
but what scarcity mindset is is that
mindset where you feel like your life is
at risk every single day it’s as if you
are under threat of survival whenever
things don’t go your way it’s almost as
if we are spoiled brats
really and that is because we actually
go into fight or flight whenever things
happen to us if you understand the
origins of fight or flight we evolved it
as a way of responding to
life-threatening situations such as
seeing a predator but how many of us
actually feel that every day no not
really right nobody ever sees a predator
wrong unless you see your care as your
predator
which they can be but instead we’re
going to fight a flight over getting a
job talking to a boss talking about
political affiliations losing our phones
which I did about three weeks back and
over social media posts where people
argue when we’re going to fight we are
competitive
wherever Cyril – as others we focus on
the one thing we think it’s important
and hoard it as much as you can
this is the reason why people keep
chasing those things like accolades
money social status and greets but yet
never seem to be satisfied and when
we’re going to flight we go into cocoons
of addiction such as gaming social media
Korean and Taiwanese soap operas
dysfunctional relationships sometimes
even into depression or worse death but
the problem is as people living here
today we have a more luxurious life than
an 18th century King why do we still
have such ghastly mindset if everything
in the Academy was it was true we should
be enlightened calm rational people
rather than the judgemental depressive
society that is so riddled with scarcity
mindset so what’s the reason behind this
the reason is very simple and it’s very
cliche and probably a million times
it is that we mix up all nice with all
one’s okay now
you probably had this million times
everybody talks about this but nobody
really goes into the details of what
this really talks about and I’m unhappy
with this answer – because what is the
need what is a 1 so to make it a bit
clearer I broke it down into what we
want as what we term as a satisfier a
satisfier
is a tangible measurable thing that we
believe was satisfy us which the name
suggests and by logic satisfy a should
satisfy us
but all mine works a little bit more
complex in there and to explore this we
need to go to the origin or concept
where all this started mass or hierarchy
of needs how many of you has seen heard
or studied metals hierarchy of needs
well that’s a lot of people so next
question how many of you have read the
original article written by him or his
book one oh wow that’s great so if you
actually read the book you’d realize
that the right thing is a rather
different from what we see today but to
go back further into this a lot of this
articles became the benchmark for a lot
of economic psychological and
governmental models afterwards and the
thing is that Maslow’s hierarchy of
needs actually started with an article
that he wrote called theory on human
motivation so the aim of the article was
to talk about what made people actualize
and what year did it get published 1943
what else happened in 1943 everybody
kinda knows okay what war – so this is a
year where the war started where a bunch
of people a specific group of people
what his shift of their needs and taken
into death camps right so that’s what
happened and a lot of people actually
jump the bandwagon so if you read the
original article you know that what
happens that people expended a lot upon
it afterwards so what we see today of
Maslow’s hierarchy of needs on Wikipedia
it’s very different from what actually
metal was writing about and that’s
actually where it comes to the biggest
difference in the Wikipedia all you see
are satisfiers and not needs what I mean
by this is for example physiological
needs right now if you read a wikipedia
you will see that physiological needs
are food water shelter sex all these
kind of different things however these
are satisfiers they’re not needs in
state the need is nutrition or different
things for example if we’re talk about
nutrition we can be satisfied with a
burger a bowl of mixed rice which is
from different cultures or it can be
satisfied by IV
trip which basically pumps all the
nutrients into your bloodstream these
are all satisfiers well food is really
good satisfying but you don’t need it if
not the people on juice detox will
probably drop date within a day so this
is where the problem really lies people
will often go into fight or flight when
they think that satisfiers are risk
because it makes it up with and mean
every time somebody takes the status
fire for mass it feels like this person
is robbing us of our own survival and to
explain a bit more into this I want to
share with you a story about a man I
helped and it’s named John so John is a
multi-billionaire he inherited all his
money from his family and he had what on
Instagram and Facebook looked like the
most carefree life in the world but he
came to me because he had insomnia
anxiety and paranoia he didn’t trust
anybody around him he thought that
everyone was out to get to use him for
his money one was worse was that he felt
that life was meaningless he was born
living the dream that everyone else had
and he couldn’t figure out why instead
his mind was always focusing on making
more money getting our boredom and
traveling the world this is what we term
as high-functioning depression what this
means is that he has all the symptoms of
depression but he was able to function
because he was he kept going because of
the responsibilities and the things that
he had to do for his family and what he
was driven by to keep doing that was to
prove his value to his family but every
every so often he will end up running
away to holidays and he’ll come back to
Singapore feeling emptier than before so
what was his fight his fight was getting
more money for the family achieve social
societal achievements like getting a
degree or an MBA to solidify his value
in his family his flight he literally
had six months of travels a year I think
that’s what everybody wishes to have or
if not the whole year but he runs away
from the stresses but he ends up buying
happiness
he tries to buy happiness to satisfy
himself however when I sat down with him
and actually asked him what exactly
satisfied him the most
it actually revolved around
relationships in his life and most
importantly it was relationships where
people appreciate that John for himself
that was a really important part so what
was he really looking for he was looking
for intimacy he’s the most alive when he
doesn’t have to spend a single cent to
spend time with somebody he really
enjoys and more importantly he was not
receiving any of this from his family
instead he had to fight to gain any
formal respect or any form of intimacy
with his family and therefore he didn’t
know that he wanted or needed intimacy
so he either tried to fight or he flew
away on a regular level that’s why we
term as mixing satisfiers with needs he
mistook success to gain intimacy he
mistook travelling to gain satisfaction
he tried clubbing you tried music he
tried drugs with amount of money yet he
had tried everything and but they no
longer satisfy him satisfy him no longer
than a single day and if you look at it
objectively you taste whatever he was
doing with things like a job sex the
latest iPhone relationship achievements
and successes grades gold medals of
social media validations what happens is
that you will start realizing that when
you trade up what he was lacking with
any of these things people will go into
a scarcity mindset and no satisfiers
will satisfy you unless you generate
your own satisfier so generating
satisfier is the only way you can
satisfy yourself so it’s not about the
external thing that satisfies you is
that you have to generate yourself and
let me explain a bit more into this so
because I met a lot of people like John
I was trying to figure out what me
people feel the most satisfied so I
mixed in Maslow’s hierarchy a lot of
studies and developmental psychology
my interest in positive psychic
sociology to kind of come up with a new
model based off all these models and
being the geek that I am I called it the
most literal name I could come up with
biopsychosocial needs
literally biological psychological and
sociological needs so what happens which
is different about this model is that we
I’m only talking about the needs while
focusing on the needs how we need it and
how we the satisfiers can fulfill it so
there’s no focus on the satisfiers
themselves so here’s the model so it’s a
lot like Maslow’s hierarchy of needs but
basically I split it up into biological
psychological and sociological and I’m
only gonna focus on the first two levels
to talk about scarcity mindset today so
let’s talk about biological needs so
biological needs is basically what your
body is designed for and needs to be
able to survive so there are three main
categories there’s nutrition which is
basically satisfied by things like food
water sunlight and multiple things like
this this health which is actually
satisfied by hygiene meaning being able
to avoid and being protected from
elements of nature as well as diseases
and for intimacy the feeling of being
engaged and empathized with in fact that
studies saying that babies without
physical human touch will die even in
their farewell people who actually do
not receive empathy and hugs and love
from people will go into depression so
that is a biological need and from there
we need to talk about the generational
satisfiers for these needs which is
actually the next level the first level
of psychological needs is called
ownership needs ownership means that you
own and have proven there this skill can
generate your biological needs so you
won’t be satisfied deep down until your
mind recognizes that these are what you
need and the value of what you just
generated and to bring this on a bit
more the paths of ownership needs are
three simple parts the
survival skill itself the valuation of
the skill and experience of success so
I’m not gonna just leave it there I’m
gonna give it a little bit of example so
I play the bass so to me that’s a
survival skill set why because the
second part how society values it and
how I value it I get to play music to
earn money from the gigs and I gain
intimacy that I have from my
interactions with the audience and the
musicians I’m around the next part is
the experience of success which is
really important I survived on just
playing music and creating friendship
circles out of the music circle for one
whole year that gave me this confidence
and the understanding that I owned
playing the bass as a survival skill set
it’s been proven of the success and I
own it so this means that I can generate
my main biological needs from this skill
set so scary scary mindset is basically
when people have not been able to
satisfy their ownership needs which
means your own skill sets that generates
your biological needs so for a lot of
people when they are worried about their
livelihood at stake
the reason they feel so is because they
feel that the satisfiers are what they
need for example a really terrible boss
that threatens your job and I thought
okay if you lose it it didn’t exist
thirty years ago you should be able to
survive without it
or somebody attractive talking to our
partners this is where a lot of people
get really worried but this are the
things that people think that will steal
the status fires away from them because
they’re not confident of generating
their own satisfiers this is the reason
why even though we have all these
external things we feel empty and the
only way to get out of this cassadee
mindset and to be empowered to thrive is
to be able to generate our own satisfies
this is when we are fully capable of
taking on the world as it is but
nowadays a lot of people like to go for
are looking for their purpose to travel
looking for what they want through
things like conferences seminars or
going into entrepreneurship or spiritual
retreats like people going to India for
the yoga meditation retreats but these
are meaningless unless you can generate
your own satisfies because if they were
successful we’d have plenty of
enlightened fulfilled actualized people
all around us but we would we don’t have
that because these people go for these
sessions and people learn to generate
their own satisfiers
and when we depend on other people’s
definitions of what needs and satisfies
us we fell to discover how to generate
the satisfiers we need to fulfill
ourselves have to be at peace with
ourselves so generating our satisfiers
is the only way that we can thrive I
hope that this talk has inspired you to
find out what your needs are and how you
are going to generate your own
satisfiers and for that is the best way
for all of us to grow out of scarcity
mindset thank you [Applause]
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