all right so this is what I want to
share with you on today I actually have
a confession to make
but before I make that confession I need
you all to share a little bit of
information with me by Chopin who in
here has had at least a little bit of
dissatisfaction in their career yes
perfect show of hands it means a
moderate amount of dissatisfaction in
their work career and before you answer
I promise not to tell your boss yes so
some people just a little bit stuff are
a lot of people just a little bit and
some people just a little bit more and I
won’t even ask you how many of you have
had complete job dissatisfaction inside
of your career yes it’s not ready so
we’re gonna talk about the tool that
zips on how to get over there but before
we do I want to go ahead and share with
you what my confession is my confession
is that I actually have a huge amount of
job dissatisfaction right so huge in
well I guess I’m gonna take that back
because I don’t hate it anymore because
I actually quit the job hey Frank so
this used to be me how many of you all
can relate to that particular set of
photos yes I see somebody point I know
that’s me right there right so I wanted
to backtrack just a little bit so that I
can tell you a little bit a little bit
of information about myself so it all
started way back when I was searching
for my first job my first career and I
landed on the role in a position of
teacher so as I landed on that position
of teacher I went into that first
interview and I got that job right after
the first time so I was elated how many
people could actually say that they’d
get a job on their first try right so I
went through that I started to fall in
love with teaching as I received my
assignment to be a reading an English
teacher I started doing all kinds of
things with my students that got them
recognition inside of the community and
I eventually ended up becoming Teacher
of the Year and I even got a free
education out of it I received my
master’s degree from the University of
Texas in education and it was paid for
by the University of Texas and the
district how much more sweet
can workplace happiness gift but that
bliss soon started to toasty right after
I stepped into the role of assistant
principal who knew that in the case of
leadership I could experience so much
workplace dissatisfaction so with its
blissful time paint tumbling down I ran
into somebody that I like to appoint as
a work head a work head is a maliciously
bishop colleague whose primary goal it’s
a boy the workplace the pile of human
interaction and use their venomous
nature to poison the pollution and
culture of the war community I know it
might sound a little bit harsh in a
little bit but please take the time to
hear me out now when I started I
experienced this workplace had certain
things started to happen to me like
being called on my phone and secondly 11
times in a row inside of my office where
I was conducting a private meeting even
though I told my work head that
she then went like to belittle me in
front of my peers and in front of the
students and finally it ended with her
actually trying to discredit me in front
of my mom I mean who does that
clearly she goes but one of the things
that I found out was fast I have a
certain level of what I perceived to be
as weakness so I would have my
confidence to decrease bit by bit and
each day as I had to walk into the
workplace I thought about how much I did
not want to be there and I figured that
this dead dissatisfaction just wasn’t
worth the actual sacrifice so I would go
through the motions each day and this
may resonate with some of you I would
wake up in the morning pull myself out
of bed think about why I had to go to
work because I needed to make money cool
myself up got to the car drove in
traffic got ready to get the harassment
that I knew I was worthless in for the
day and took my verbal beating then cry
about that verbal beating went home at
the end of the day and crawled back into
bed being fearful of what I would have
to face again the following day so
because I knew that this was not the way
work life is supposed to feel I realized
that this type of dissatisfaction was
not or the sacrifice and I specially
transferred and after transferring away
from my work
I have mentally found myself in a
similar situation though it wasn’t as
intense I decided that I just couldn’t
deal anymore and quit their job
according to parents is not necessarily
the best method of action so for many of
us who have parents who’ve been working
in jobs for thirty plus years you just
don’t quit and one of the things that
you might hear from them is that Oh
it’ll be okay
things will get better or if they’re
another position available within your
company why don’t you just try to apply
for another position and some of my
favorites oh you should just create a
thick skin you know it’s tough inside of
the workplace you should just try that
brush it off and move on and also I
heard my mom vividly say never let us
see a slit and I hated that phrase we
thought what does that even mean never
let them see you sweat
because sometimes we actually have to
lick it out we have to cry but I knew
that coming from my parents who’ve been
inside their careers for 20 and 30 and
35 years they weren’t going to talk
about their bosses at work they were
going to come home they were going to
complain about it to their significant
other their spouse and then they were
going to go back to work only to fight
that battle once again however I think
we moved past this time especially for
me and the bet advice couldn’t work from
the inside of my workplace
situation so I decided to do a little
bit of my own research on work places
best fashion so some of the research
that has been conducted by places like
Gallup or USA Today and even the
Huffington Post also heard that over 70%
of people hate some aspects of their job
and as the hands have gone up today we
see that to be the truth now this hatred
steam stems from a range of indicators
and those indicators include the commute
to work the level of economy that you
might have inside of the workplace and
it might also include you being able to
take the reins of your particular
position and do what’s necessary for
your role but it also includes those
relationships that we have with our
bosses and with our co-workers and
because these triggers help employees to
discover a certain level of satisfaction
it also determines how well we are going
to assimilate to that particular work
environment so because these indicators
are fluid across most particular
organizations and come
these indicators are something that we
can connect with across most jobs what
we come to understand is what our
parents say it’s not necessarily true
sometimes it just doesn’t get better
sometimes we have to stay the course but
when we consider these findings what we
must ask ourselves as employees is how
much am I willing to put up with how
much and I’m willing to brush aside so
that I can find a workplace that fits
now a recent workplace bullying survey
conducted by the workplace bullying
Institute says that 72% of employers
denied or defended workplace bullying
and 27% of employees have current or
past direct experience with the use of
conduct at work and because this is over
1/4 of the workplace community I can’t
help but to imagine the level of
accuracy these people must feel while
alive inside of this particular role but
shockingly enough 89% of female targets
lose their jobs when they are the
subjects of the bully while only 11% of
female perpetrators summer job loss when
the bullying is against another one
conversely women suffer a 30% job loss
when that Spain bullying is against
another male
so male please feel sure
that your job is safe if you end up
being bullied by a woman now that also
supports the research that we have to do
and the work that we have to do to talk
about gender equity across jobs but
that’s another talk all right so similar
to my work back this bullying is
something that you have to start to try
to figure out how to eradicate inside of
the workplace and the workplace bullying
institute defines it as abusive conduct
based on threatening humiliation or
intimidation work sabotage or verbal
abuse but the stuff despite all of these
statistics there is a race of hope and
that rate of hope means that rules have
changed and shifted since the times when
our parents gave us that information on
how to handle workplace bullying so
before transferring I want to update you
all before I transfer from that job I
actually went to my supervisors and I
let them know that this was going on and
through that experience I realized that
we have to turn our process and to our
promise and that’s actually me in fact
my promise right there
so sometimes
we go through our the process that has
to take place in order for us to feel
purpose inside of our jobs now this
process helped me to eradicate belief on
the job where I served as an assistant
principal and being able to help others
who were experiencing that same
situation and that process led me to
create a team that was no longer
dysfunctional but a team that could work
together and ground together in order to
create something great for the school
which ended up landing us in the top ten
as far as I state testing scores were
concerned and through that I found my
purpose of being able to be a success
coach outside of the work place so what
am I trying to say regardless of whether
your situation is bullying or if it’s
something else
how do you apply that to your particular
life how do you apply that workplace
frustration and dissatisfaction in a way
that is meaningful for you what I’m
saying is that you have to create your
niche inside of the workplace now you
have to consider that there will always
be some type of struggle that will exist
inside of the workplace but it matters
how to shift your mindset in order to
tackle those particular things now there
are certain things that we just can’t
control and one of those things is boxes
and our co-workers those pesky
co-workers that we sometimes can’t seems
to get along with but just as I
eventually found my niche and coaching
you can also find their leash on the job
so that means you have to after you part
that leash devise a plan what does that
plan want to look like for you to be
successful and be audacious meaning
walking upright and speaking out towards
the injustice that might happen inside
of the workplace now as you do that I
also encourage you to win on the job
that means you have to weather the storm and fight for what is right