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Misconceptions are more crippling than disabilities | Cindy Edson | TEDxMustaqillikSquare


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I’m just an ordinary person but I’ve

been able to see the amazing power of

love changed the lives of special-needs

orphans and Uzbekistan it’s been a

journey a 23 years and I am so grateful

for the partnership the kindness and the

hospitality of the Uzbek people where my

husband and I started to work in the

western region of Uzbekistan caracal

Pakistan together with local I hospital

to bring preventive I care to the people

there it was a very beautiful experience

and you know the really cool thing that

I learned from these people is

hospitality who is becca stan is a land

of hospitality and you know after a

after a long day of working and

screening children the our friends would

invite us to their homes and those

tables there was like no place to put

any more food their tables were full

full of food and it really touched my

heart that they would kill their sheep

for us and/or their turkey and we would

have you know these huge cousins of Ash

and beshbarmak it’s beautiful for me

it’s like what I learned from the Uzbek

people what I receive from the Uzbek

people was much more than what I gave to

them it was truly beautiful I I was sooo

Navi know after some time I was invited

to a local

can’t orphanage with children with

special needs and this is just like

right up my alley I really love to work

with vulnerable children and I just

think they’re just so beautiful because

in them lies this beautiful ability

impossibility they’re like these little

flowers that are like tight but when

they’re given that chance to be who they

they were meant to be when they’re given

a chance to express themselves they

bloom into these beautiful little

flowers well I was walking down the

hallway of the orphanage and I looked

into one of the play rooms there was the

our eyes met it was a little boy named

Atilla Antilla was sitting there he was

looking a little bit bored and I was

carrying the bag of different toys and

things to distribute at the orphanage

and so I thought well I’ll get him a big

string and some large beads so that he

can string them but then I as he

unfolded his arms and he kind of pressed

towards me to look at me I could see

that he didn’t have full hands he didn’t

have any he didn’t have any fingers

except for one thumb and then one side

of his body was kind of less developed

than the other and he didn’t have full

feet all of a sudden I had this

misconception that Tillich wouldn’t put

the bead on the string I thought well

what good is that gonna do if I give him

a bead in a string he’s so wrong so

wrong to give these misconceptions about

persons with disabilities but I guess so

I gave him you I gave him the bead with

the string and he started to he was

trying to

put it together and he just he couldn’t

do it and he was trying and trying so I

sat with him and it’s like a couple

hours passed and he finally did it

he finally accomplished it he put this

his beads on the string and just to see

his face in the expression on his face

of joy and just being content and that

he was able to do something that he had

never done before in his life never had

the opportunity to do before in his life

there was such joy on his face we

continued to work and we continued to by

invitation we continued to work in that

orphanage and open several different

classrooms a music classroom a special

education classroom sewing a sewing

Center and at first you know people were

just saying are you crazy or what you

know what are they gonna do with what

are they going to do with all this but

you know what it’s so awesome is that

these kids from the orphanage there’s

400 special-needs children in this

orphanage they proved those with the

misconceptions wrong because they can

they can do what people when people say

no you can’t do that you’ll never do

that you can’t accomplish anything your

places over here not to be seen but

these children they prove them wrong

they prove their misconceptions wrong

and it’s so beautiful that are the

children at the orphanage together with

the government staff we’ve been able

just to see incredible changes in the

lives of these kids and see that they

have a

elytis that we didn’t realize before at

one point we had a opportunity to have a

presentation at the orphanage kind of to

create awareness and of the abilities

and the possibilities of the

special-needs children in this

presentation we put all of their

classwork out on the tables their

beautiful pictures on the walls and and

we invited people to come and to see

what they had done and I remember it was

like such a joy for me to look at the

people’s faces who came because there

was surprise there was shock there was

joy to see what these children had

accomplished and one man he came to me

he came up close to me and he had like

kind of a stern face and I was thinking

oh no what’s gonna happen what’s he

gonna say to me but he was just holding

back until he got to me and then he held

my hand and he’s and with tears in his

eyes he said I didn’t think this was

ever possible I didn’t think it was

possible for these children to ever

learn and to do the same thing that my

kids do misconceptions are more

you know watching these kids grow and

develop it was it has been it continues

to be such a joy in my life and to work

with such committed loving staff that

truly want to see these children achieve

their dreams and their hopes and their

goals it’s just been my privilege one of

the sad things for me is that when the

children when they reached the age 17

they were gonna be moved to an adult

institution because they aged out of the

children’s institution so this was this

is really hard for me because I really

love these guys I love watching them

grow I love being with them and I didn’t

know what their future was gonna be I

didn’t know and it was a little bit it

was really hard for me and I cried and I

remember I would come home and I would

just cry and my husband’s lap and think

what can we do and you know what the

really wonderful a really wonderful

thing happened that the government

partnered with us to open a transition

center that would give these young

people the possibility to continue to

grow to learn social skills social

independent and vocational skills and

that they would have a chance at

achieving that dream of integrating into

society you know all our kids they have

dreams they have dreams of integration

of being with everybody else having a

job like everybody else having a fam

like everybody else because they’re

because they’re disabled they don’t even

look at themselves I can say they don’t

even look at themselves as persons with

disabilities in fact I was listening to

one of our young adults well why do

people you know look at us the way the

like were disables we can do more than

they can do and it’s true it’s true

these kids have at the transition center

they have grown so much they have

learned independent living skills they

take care of their own apartments they

write their own menus of healthy food

they prepare their meals their own meals

their self-discipline to do their

homework and to get their different

duties their jobs done during the day

and then they study outside and for like

a person like Atilla he had a dream to

be a jewelry designer this is what

Atilla me

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has made many creative beautiful pieces

of jewelry and that is what lies in the

heart of the person with disabilities

this creativity that is like clamped up

but needs to be encouraged by all of us

that they could be who they were meant

to be that they can have a dream and see

it come true another young lady in our

transition Center her name is Allah and

I asked Allah like I we ask each of the

young adults we have 15 young adults at

the transition center and I asked all of

all of what do you want to do with what

you want to do what vocation do you want

and she said Cindy I really want to be

someone that does massage for others and

I was thinking in my mind again like

this kind of misconception like wow that

is huge you know that’s huge that’s she

has to learn a lot about the body the

bones the muscles and that horror that

ugly misconception that wants to kind of

come in her mind and say they can’t all

I did all are completed or Klatte she

completed her course she was announced

the best in her class and she does an

incredible massage and she achieved her

dreams love love is amazing the power of

love and giving love is amazing and that

love that reaches down into the heart

into the lives of others where there’s

despair where there’s misconception

where there’s hurt in pain

loneliness and that love comes and it

breathes life and joy and creativity

it’s the most beautiful thing to see

a life that was crushed or seemingly

crushed and then come into this place

where they’re happy and functioning as

any other person love sees in us what we

can’t see in ourselves love sees in us

what we do not see in ourselves thank you

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