what could fuck this up tell me what can
fuck this up I see some of you gon get
in my head you’re right get in your head
you’re right dad but when you get in
your head what does that really mean
that means you’re believing the most
limiting thoughts and you have to
remember we all have a
two-million-year-old brain and it’s not
designed to make you happy it’s designed
to make you survive so it’s always
looking for what’s wrong then we played
the game look for brown and y’all saw
bass shit and called it brown just to
feel successful
I said look for red you saw burgundy you
called it red so you could get more
scores whatever you’re looking for seek
and ye shall what fine says that in a
very good book called a good book and
you don’t have to be religious to
understand this that this is a fact of
life so if you and I are gonna really
take things to a different level we
gotta see what could mess it up
so the mind could mess it up but what
aspect of the mind what makes us start
to believe those thoughts what’s the
emotion that meses is that what is it
it’s absolutely fair but there’s more
than this every day of our lives we live
in a world that has incredibly complex
it is no more stressful than world war
two when none of us in this room
probably remember that time but it
looked like democracy was disappearing
and the Germans were gonna win at one
stage that’s stressful being in a
foxhole is stressful you’re not making
as much money as you want or being a
little overweight or someone calling you
names on line that shit is not stressful
we’re making it stressful
we’ve lost perspective who’s with me on
this AI so what’s really useful I think
today is for us to figure out what
messes us up and one of the biggest
thing that messes up is expectation
right what we say the other day trade
your expectations for appreciation and
your whole life changes because when
you’re expecting things that it doesn’t
happen you get upset so that first day
also is all about what if you lived your
life and you made it
decision and the decision was life is
too short to suffer it’s too short to be
stress pissed off fearful worried who’s
with me on this AI but our minds our
survival software is always looking for
it’s wrong our job is to create the
happiness and the only way you do that
is you draw a line in the sand and say
I’m not gonna suffer I’m gonna be honest
I start to feel that stress I’m gonna
breathe and I’m gonna realize we’re the
only creatures from the planet that can
think of thought and become angry think
the thought and become playful think of
thought and be worried think of thought
and feel loved that’s we can change
that’s why we can change how fast but
you have to take control and train this
brain if you don’t train this brain
it’ll use you instead of you using it
just identify with your heart or your
soul or your spirit instead of the brain
as I said in China the heart is the
Emperor it is the highest energy it’s
the thing that is worshipped because
when you were born there was no brain
your heart started beating and there
wasn’t a brain in you as a fetus it has
its own intelligence it produces
hormones that strengthen your bones it
is the strongest force in your immune
system this is the ticket this is what
we get caught up in we want to use the
head and heart together then we have the
power of both of them so to do that
though we got to give up the expectation
that people are going to behave the way
we want them to because what are the
chances if you have if your happiness is
depend upon everyone around you your
mother behaving the way you think she
should your father your brother your
sister your co-workers your employees
what are the chances everybody living
the way you think they should uh Nazira
to 100% scale what are the chances so
why would we allow this to be because
it’s just a bad habit and it’s like my
buddy Mike here with his daughter
instead of trying to control her he
decides I’m gonna learn from her I’m
gonna love her I’m a grown knee and that
pulls her closer instead of pushing her
further away instead of working on them
we’re gonna work on us if I want to
change you the fastest way I can change
you has changed me because we’re in a
cybernetic loop if I respond
dad was spons totally different than she
can predict she doesn’t know how to deal
with that anymore
he left the upper hand now your love can
penetrate her instead of the story in
each other’s minds when he was talking
to me in that first day about her he was
in his hat how many saw them and then he
left his head and gotten his heart and
that’s when a penetrated her look at mom
of you’re smiling from ear-to-ear go nod
in the headphone yeah that’s cool and
look at Mike’s big smile on his face cuz
he can feel the difference so today we
wanted to do our best to catch ourselves
in their hand to get back in our heart
and then here’s the biggest thing you
need you don’t want to make the
assumption that says not done three days
and I’m done this is the beginning not
the end who’s with me on this side now
it doesn’t have to be the beginning with
me if you want to do more with me come
the master University or you go do with
someone else but you got to keep growing
if you don’t keep growing none of this
will matter and you can have tremendous
few months or half a year a year but why
would you settle for six months because
we went to the program I number one time
I had a friend years ago really good
friend of mine it came to this seminar
and he loved it he wasn’t fired he went
back and he lost 32 pounds and he change
his business got closer to his wife and
then he ran to some challenges in one of
his business had to this is one of his
businesses and then their kid had some
challenges and he and his wife got
stressed about it and they started being
stressed with each other in reaction to
the environment and slowly you know I
was like six seven eight months in and I
never said hey Todd I’d love that
seminar but dude it didn’t last and when
it was great for six months I said
asshole
I said who made you think you could do
some for three days and would even last
six months I said do you think I just
like did three days and I’ve been this
way for the last forty no I said forty
years ago I started a journey that has
never ended and so we need a daily
practice right who’s up for hearsay I
and so I want to show you how I do this
for me and I want you to create your own
system based on it so if you and I are
gonna get lasting results you got to do
some things regularly the first thing I
call this immersion coaching the first
thing that I do still myself is I
schedule
myself at least twice a year sometimes
three times a year to go to an event of
some sort where I can make myself better
psychologically emotionally relationship
finances something I call it an event
blast-off because most people learn a
language in high school and college who
learned the language of high school in
college and they show your hands how
many of you don’t speak a fucking word
of it now let me sit your heads what
happened you spent years but you did it
like one hour a day five days a week
immersion is the way to learn when
you’re breathing like we’re doing here
all night all day it’s not comfortable
but it’s unbelievably fulfilling how
many experience here right now say hi
you got to get over your mind going I
can’t do this it’s too hard and all that
shit you got to push yourself through
when you feel exhausted and saying
there’s a second win of me I’m gonna
find it but if you go for immersion you
will master things ten times faster than
you will do another an hour a day or
once a week or something like that I
mean think about it this seminar is 50
hours of the course of the week weekend
four days four hours I can make this so
much easier let’s do an hour a week for
a year we’ll get two weeks off obz would
we get the same result yes or no no way
so I’ll give an example my wife and I
and we have an extended family member of
mine that they marry an area the three
of us travel together marries my right
arm and so I drag Mary with her stupid
she’s part of our family we’ve just
recently finished the date with destiny
which is my most powerful seminar six
days and nights and it’s an experience
of
some grads are they very cool but it’s
one of my favorite things to do on earth
but it’s not an easy thing on my body
she might imagine and it’s incredibly
fulfilling but at the end of it my body
is complete toast as you can imagine and
we were in Australia in the Gold Coast
and I schedules of around ISA mozzies
here how much nice to see you guys and I
I scheduled because my life was so full
there was only like one week I could do
this and so I scheduled to go this place
in Sedona Arizona with this man for 39
years has been a neurological expert
about how do why
brain for alpha states Delta states if
you’re familiar with us but alphas the
expertise and I wanted its graves my
life is I want to take another level so
I have more to give for my family for my
friends for you for myself so we go for
seven days and nights and this is what
it was like you got up first thing in
morning 6:30 and you spend an hour and a
half getting your brain wired with this
glue shit and they put like 180 these
electrodes on your head my wife looks so
attractive and so did I it was amazing
and then after wiring you up with this
goop which by the way takes forever to
get out afterwards there’s why we don’t
see the good you see just our hair
afterwards but the bottom line is we go
and then you go in individual rooms like
I want to be with my family right I want
to be with my wife on with my family and
I got to go in this dark little room
that has no light and all that and it’s
freezing cold
it must be my Karma for the shit I did
you people on a regular basis right and
and sure enough I’m there for 14 hours
in this room you get one break sometimes
to run the restroom and the entire time
you are learning to think and how you
think that these electrodes crazy sounds
and you learn how to put yourself in the
zone of alpha but it’s a batch it’s
horrible I wouldn’t recommend it to
anybody that wants easy experiences but
I recommend to anybody that wants to
grow immensely about the first day I’m
like who do I gotta shoot to get out of
this thing oh it’s me I’m the one that
did this shit but by the end of the week
all three of us were able to go in this
state of alpha and it’s the middle
doubtful the best way I can describe an
alpha is there’s no problem that can’t
be solved enough cuz every problem that
we have was created by us destruction of
the environment to the pissed-off myths
that you may have and since we created
the problems any problem of human
creates we can solve but you can’t do
with the same level of thinking to got
you there so the science of it and you
can’t cheat this thing measures you and
then you take this freaking test with
300 questions three times a day the same
F and s and takes forever now while
you’re answering it these electrodes are
seeing what you’re doing and then the
guy sits down with you
it’s called Sigma’s and it goes well
this is 2 Sigma this is even this is 10
Sigma’s and the more Sigma says how far
you are off from what you wrote from
what was really going on in your nervous
system so I was like you know like you
know said something to me like that I
was demanding like what the fuck I’m not
demanding what are you talking about
right but I guess I guess I was right
and you learn then how to let go those
old patterns great new ones so my point
is I’m doing okay in my life I’m not
exactly hurting I’m having the most
beautiful eyes I could possibly have a
beautiful mission a beautiful family
beautiful children grandchildren
beautiful experience to living life and
yeah I’m not willing to settle for that
because I’m here to deliver more for
everyone I love including myself and so
what I do is I schedule it because
listen to me when you talk about shit
it’s a dream when you envision it it’s
exciting when you plan it it’s possible
when you schedule it it’s real when this
event became real is when you enrolled
yourself before that it was an idea and
there’s lots of people have intended to
be here intended but they never locked
it in so I lock it in advance because if
I unlocked it in after date with destiny
there’s no way I got a plane flying all
the way there and then put myself in a
room for seven days and nights but I’m
grateful I did and it only did it
because I already locked in place so I
encourage you to number one figure out
at least twice a year
what are you gonna go to that’s gonna
make you grow and expand how many they
feel like these last couple days have
been some of the most girls you have in
a couple days here say hi then why
settle for this one time again I’m happy
to do it with you
I have other programs if you want to
come but you’re not limited to me I
don’t care where you go but before you
leave here you should schedule this next
you know why because how many were
looking forward to this for a long time
they’re very excited about this I’m
curious how many were quite scared about
this shit by the way I’m curious but
here’s what’s interesting after you
achieve a goal if you ever done this
worked your ass off achieve the goal you
feel good and then there’s kind of a
drop because we need something
compelling to be going after so we keep
growing so I always write before I
achieve a goal I neatly set what the
next thing is
walking in my schedule because otherwise
there’s that drop and if I had up the
next thing it’s like you’re going from
peak to peak as opposed to Pete to drop
the beat drop how many fall I’m talking
about here say hi and the other thing
I’ve learned I’ve taught this to all my
children at one time my daughter was
talking to me just like dad you know
you’re so brilliant I said you’re
absolutely right and I said honey you
know I am a smart human being I’ve
worked hard to be a smart human being
but probably my greatest gift is I do
not let opportunity escape my grasp if
there’s an opportunity and it scares me
if there’s not pretending that all the
time if there’s opportunity the money
and the early days in my life is all
three other I did have time the money
and I was fearful I make myself do it
because I know that if I don’t get
myself to do this I’m not gonna keep
going my teacher Jim Rohn used to teach
me this he said Tony if you really want
have an amazing life you gotta learn to
stretch yourself I said I did stretch
myself he goes but let me give you my
philosophy of stretching he said
stretching means if you find yourself
saying I can’t do something then you
must say I must do it immediately and do
with no hesitancy cuz if you hesitate
it’s like the firewalk if you went up to
the firewalk most you got up there made
your move and rock somebody get up there
like fuck fuck fuck oh shit shit ball oh
what am I doing here
and the longer you wait thought what it
is harder it is you just train yourself
to just do it instinctively push
yourself so if I say I can’t than I must
now he first told me this I said well I
can’t I must as I can’t jump off a cliff
than I must they said no be intelligent
but he said if you find yourself saying
I can’t do something I don’t want to do
something but you know if you made
yourself do it you’re gonna be a better
human being than you must do it don’t
hesitate do it immediately and so some
people say well that’s not a very safe
life that’s not a very secure life if
you want security go to prison if you
want freedom this is how you live right
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shake them on your body for 20 seconds
face apart no face apartments a baby
now I argue now I owe you well you say
I’ll give these I’m gonna out get energy
for 30 seconds-1 got events where you’re
gonna make huge growth the next thing
you want to do throw up number two’s you
really want to get yourself a coach or a
mentor why do you want to coach your
mentor you’re smart well I got a series
of mentors I’ve got three men in my life
who are the smartest humans I know some
of most successful people in the world
in business spiritually emotionally
well-developed
they’re eighteen to twenty years my
senior and guess what I come to them all
the time for accountability and feedback
because as much as I don’t drive myself
you don’t do brain surgery on yourself
even if you’re grain brain surgeon does
it make sense
you need some feedback from the outside
cuz you’re still in it and so getting a
coach is critical now I get paid a
million dollars a year to coach someone
I only take on seven clients and I got
now a five year waiting list so I’m not
looking for any coaching clients but
I’ve trained all of my coaches to do the
same things I do and they don’t charge
million-dollar here nothing whoops so
you can use our coaches if you want or
someone else but what you don’t want to
do is have a friend be your coach why
I’ll give an example a few years back I
was on this talk show that’s in the
morning I won’t mention the name but it
has a bunch of ladies what’s the name of
the via that’s right I don’t mention it
and I was on the view and it was a
Barbara Walters was still on and I was a
brilliant amazing lady and they had me
on in January and I was doing a piece on
new year new life how to transform your
energy in your body and when I was done
talking his little seven-minute segments
all four or five lawmakers who has five
women followed me into the green room
literally during the break and they said
listen before the TV comes back on we
want to do this you know tell us more
how we do this
we want to do this together and when
they said they want to do it together I
was like hold it I said can can I be
direct with you on this I said Barbara
you know how much I respect you and all
of you but can I be direct they said
well yeah I said well I respect you
you’re some of the best in the world we
do as journalists I said you have an
incredible show number way to show
you’ve been in years Barbara your role
model for anyone who wants to be
successful man or woman but there’s an
area of your life none of you have
mastered your body I’m not being harsh I
have to tell the truth it’s the truth
that’s how you get to the things change
and you should have seen him look around
and be like I just said I didn’t say
they’re fat I said you haven’t mastered
this area life and I said here’s the
problem if you guys get together now and
none of you’ve mastered this area and
you’re all friends you’ll deal this for
two or three days but about the third or
fourth day end when he’s going to go to
Starbucks and never local smoke or
something something whatever that shit’s
gone right and some of us can say no we
got to work on the go public if we just
stop for a few minutes and then someone
else will say well we can stop for a few
minutes and then you’re fucked cuz
you’ll break the pattern I said have you
ever done this before and they start
shaking hands they said it’s nap time I
said don’t do this together I know you
love each other that’s why you shouldn’t
do it together get it for fashion on
when you go I want to milk and smoke
little Shep of fuck up and you need
someone who’s not gonna listen to your
bullshit it’s gonna push you until you
develop the discipline to develop the
skill and even then they’re gonna know
the little things the two millimeter
things you don’t know that could save
you a decade
how many fathers say I so don’t get a
good coach getting outstanding one and
the problem is I created the coaching
industry before I came along no one
called myself a coach in this industry
that wasn’t decision you got to be a
therapist and you got approved by
insurance and I came along and said
these dentists are sitting down people
for 7fn years and I can wipe out that
phobia in 20 minutes or an hour and so I
went around and I said I guess who I am
I’m not
it never was you know I’m not a guru
what am i I thought was an athlete who
influenced me the most of my coaches and
many of them were not as good as I
wanted but I’m in the game I’m in the
forest they’re outside of it they could
see things and give me cues and they
cared about me so I said that’s where
that forget athletics I could coach I
love people I’m not better than they are
but I’m gonna see things they can’t see
because this is my focus all right and
so I did that and for many years they
call myself a coach no one did and I
remember I was on Larry King Live and I
just started coaching President Clinton
and he goes what is this coaching thing
you’re not a coach you know coach
athletes I said well I actually I do but
I said no here’s what I need my coach
and it’s about to give it up and like
well in the next six months everybody
was a coach therapists are calling self
coaches financial planner stuck home
self coaches became a term of art now I
hate it
you know I there’s no standard by
anybody say they’re calling self a coach
anybody go out there and do it they go
to some class some idiot teaches and
three skills they never produced the
fucking results in their life and their
coach so I feel like they created a
bastard industry and so like any
industry there’s good and bad you gotta
find somebody’s outstanding
don’t settle for somebody’s good it
don’t sell some because you like them
because like game is a nice thing you
need somebody who has the skill to get
you there who’s with me on this AI and
why do we want to coach so you measure
at least twice a month some of you three
times a month because if you don’t
measure you can’t manage what you don’t
measure does that make sense
and you gotta measure it and it’s easy
with your children with your life with
your businesses you’re gonna get caught
up you need somebody helping you to stay
on target for what you want for your
life how many follow say hot and it’s
cheap most coaching is inexpensive in
the people that overcharge don’t go to
them but get somebody’s really late and
then finally thirdly and this is what I
want to show you this morning
you need a daily practice and a daily
practice that’s gonna put you in the
best state possible regularly and so
there’s two parts of the nearly practice
what is you want to feed your mind every
day for at least 30 minutes and when I
say feed your mind my teacher Jim Rohn
used to say miss a meal but don’t miss
reading for 30
and I don’t mean reading the web or your
social media bullshit or Twitter I mean
reading a real book that you’ve selected
because it’s gonna make you grow
spiritually mentally emotionally
financially something that makes you
think something that gives you a
strategy not some cute little blog posts
that you can read in five minutes I mean
something that’s gonna make you not be
mental candy some that’s gonna produce a
different result because our lives are
the result of the input input a bunch of
garbage you get garbage out so I I would
like never miss reading and then I
started listening to audios when I was
really young and the great thing about
audios is you can rely to call net time
no extra time so the biggest challenge
we have so what am I gonna read what am
I gonna do this women do all these
things the answer is it doesn’t take any
extra time you can use net time you can
do it while you’re cleaning the house
while you’re working out going for a
walk when you’re driving in your car
should be your new University where
you’re feeding your moms because if you
don’t feed your mind leads grow
automatically you don’t have to work on
growing weeds they’re gonna be there if
you don’t do something to replace it so
every day 30 minutes of either audio or
a book something that’s gonna make you
grow it’ll feed your mind it’ll keep the
momentum going so this won’t be just the
one verse this will be the one that got
you going and then you keep the momentum
by doing this and then finally and most
importantly many people’s are the most
silly question I’m asked in the media
all the time for 40 years is don’t you
have bad days don’t you get upset don’t
these things happen of course but I said
I don’t stay there I’ve trained myself
like an athlete change their muscles
I’ve trained my emotional muscles which
by the way I think your emotional
spiritual muscles are the most important
ones encourage unused does it grow or
shrink which one faith unemployed unused
does it grow or diminishe diminishes
passion unexpressed does it expand or
shrink so the most important muscles
that change your life are those mental
emotion
spiritual muscles if we develop them
more we’re going to experience more so
the way I do that is to a process I call
priming and this is the part that I
really want you to get because it’s
really simple most of us have you ever
thought seen something do something I
thought to yourself what the f is wrong
with this idiot who’s ever have those
thought how many of you ever done
something yourself and fun what the f am
i doing okay many times we think we’re
thinking our own thoughts when we’re not
we’ve been trying by the environment to
think a certain way and we don’t even
realize it now sometimes just
unconsciously by marketers or
advertisers that’s a simplistic example
but in one powerful example is what
happens in your daily life so let me
give you a couple examples so you become
aware of the power of priming and then I
want to show you how you can consciously
prime your own mind and body and emotion
so you naturally go where you want to go
as opposed to hoping you go there so
some of the studies on priming have
shown that what you think that your
thoughts actually got there because
something in the environment that you’re
no longer noticing so an example this
would be they did a study and they took
two actors and they both approached a
hundred people each and the actors were
designed to do the exact same thing they
walk up the people they have the same
facial expression and they say while
you’re sitting there excuse me could you
hold this to me for one second when I
grab my phone and they hand you this cup
of coffee and then they reach in their
pocket to get their phone for two
seconds they put it back real fast they
go thank you so much and they take it
back and every time they did it exactly
the same way with all the people 200
people hundred each each person did a
hundred people but fifty of those people
that gave hot coffee tip 50 the people
that gave iced coffee to now listen to
this
after 35 to 45 minutes roughly a person
walks by outdoors or at the mall
wherever they did this they have a check
for a clipboard and they go scuse me um
we’ll give you $20 if you’ll give us
three minutes of your time to read these
three paragraphs answer two questions 95
7 people do it 20 bucks 3 minutes of
them and they made these three
paragraphs which is this story about
this main protagonist and then the two
questions are tell us what’s the first
emotion that you link to the main
character and what’s the second one
those are two questions when they do
this with people they had a hot coffee
to 80% of the people 81% to be exact
roughly 80 81 say that the person they
read the story about is generous and
warm sometimes they had that word loving
but generous and warm is always there
the people of the exact same
presentation 34 40 minutes earlier we’re
getting ice coffee 80% is a 1%
difference which is statistically
irrelevant 80% of them say the person is
cold and uncaring and the only different
is thirty five to four minutes earlier
somebody handed you a hot or cold cup of
coffee that’s wild isn’t it I gave you
another example you know in America many
of the other 72 countries here but in
America a lot of people see individuals
that come from Asia as being superior in
science and math and there’s a different
mindset in those countries about science
and math and when those people come here
they work incredibly hard an incredibly
focused they believe and the belief
structure is they do really well if
you’re Asian now in our culture in the
past many times people have been focused
on the fact that if you are a man you do
well with math and science but if you’re
a woman it’s just not your cup of tea
you’re not quite as strong in it and
there’s no basis for that whatsoever but
it’s a cultural anchor that people have
begun to believe
so here’s what’s interesting they took
the math part of the SAT test and they
took a group of women at Harvard and all
they did to change the test has changed
the first question of the test on half
the test they said what’s your gender on
the other half the tests they said what
is your nationality right what’s your
ethnicity well interesting when they’re
asked what their sexless and they’re all
women they performed 11% lower and if
they are asked what is your ethnicity
and they said Asian they were 11% higher
a 22% difference between the two and the
only difference was the first question
was asked because it primed you either
for your higher level of skill based on
your conditioning or a lower level of
skill based on social conditioning
how many phone there’s a million studies
like this another interesting one that’s
really simple is they didn’t add where
they show the IBM logo and the Apple
logo and they also did this with the
commercial I don’t know if you remember
the commercial think differently than
Apple made years ago sad people watch
the commercials in both cases afterwards
they were given a creativity test the
people that watched the 30-second Apple
commercial versus IBM scored 20 percent
higher consistently across the board and
all they saw was 30 seconds about
thinking differently that is the power
of priming so my point is really simple
if you’re gonna get the results that you
deserve and that you want you want to
prime yourself for success prime
yourself for love prime yourself for
courage rather than hope that you show
up that way
based on the triggers of your
environment does this make sense and so
I prime myself every single day for a
minimum of 10 minutes it’s the first
thing I do in the morning and I’d like
to show you how you do it and have you
do it so you can have a daily discipline
and if you do this every day if you keep
once or twice a year get yourself to an
immersion experience it makes you grab
you get yourself a coach where twice a
month
minutes even you’re just staying on
target measuring and you read 30 minutes
a day or an audio 30 minutes today and
you start with priming then this won’t
be a three six twelve month thing this
will be a lifetime thing does that make
sense so you’re not going to get a
lifetime results unless you’re lucky by
one experience but you can certainly
happen to use this as the blast-off and
then you have a daily discipline to keep
the momentum go so how are we gonna
prime well let me give you a story first
a simple example first was one of my
boys my second youngest son’s name is
Josh I love him to death amazing kid
and Josh came to live with me when he
was five years old member I told you I
was 24 and instantly I got married
tooand and married twice before with
kids from two different husbands and she
wasn’t living with her kids and so I met
her unleveled her brought her into my
life and then saw a sad she was without
her kids so I brought her kids away from
both the other husbands they were happy
to give him to us and I adopted them as
ours and so I’m 24 and I got a 17 year
old son because she was 13 years my
senior and 11 year old daughter of 5
year old and one on the letter
well Josh was the five year old and josh
is just such a sweet really incredibly
great kid but one of the challenges for
josh was he was afraid even walk down
the driveway to get to the bus i’m
mister fear and the power rip shit open
and my son can’t walk down to the bottom
of the strait and so i had to kind of
try to figure out how to deal with this
how to figure it all out and I figured
what I was gonna do to try and make this
thing happen to make a change and so one
of the things that happened was I
started to realize that I needed to
train his nervous system tech courage
instead of hoping it showed up I got a
really train it and I started doing
these things with him and I watched him
before my eyes Chiefs become more
confident he were strong and all I was
doing was getting the program his own
mind prime himself just really simple
little things to do and then one day
Josh came home and he was laughing
uncontrollably like over nothing and
then I came in the room
and there was a new friend with him and
this kid you know you know anybody
that’s not really funny but they think
they are only knows that like this
somebody who cracks himself up you know
they need and this kid was cracking
himself up he wasn’t funny but he
laughed so hard I found myself laughing
at his silly jokes right and Josh
laughing so much when he left I said to
Josh that kid he’s your friend
I said make him your friend for life he
goes why dad I said because if you hang
out with him who you spend time with us
who you become and you’re around him
there’s so much more playful you have so
much more joy you so much you have so
much laughter and that young boy my son
is thirty six nine three grandkids with
him and his best friend is still that
young boy is now also 36 years old
and josh is
and to this day Josh is funny as shit
when he was a little kid like he’s 7 or
8 years old he stole this dirty jokes
book and memorized every frickin joke in
the damn thing and he got so much reward
for it and his body was like that to
this day if I want to laugh gonna Josh’s
my partner a couple of my companies and
he’s not my partner I have four kids
none of my others are partners with me I
love them all equally but he shows up
differently and part of it is things
that stress other people out he breaks
the pattern with his own laughter and
it’s beautiful to be around him great
time ain’t primed them so I’ll give you
another example of priming when I first
started about my date with destiny
seminar decades ago I I did the seminar
on my own house that place called the
Del Mar castle and there were about I
don’t know 38 39 people to seminar a
little different now as you can see and
I was delivering like my heart and soul
into this particular program and
gradually I started looking around and
going man I can’t keep doing this my
house there’s not enough room we got to
100 people I had to move it but I wanted
to keep it in the you know I lived in
Del Mar California on the beach and I
said well there’s a hotel on the beach
and well it’s a really nice hotel called
the Burj LeBaron we’ll go down the birds
will do it there and they have a room
that’ll hold 150 people which is a giant
seminar for me at those days and when
they didn’t count on it I thought this
is great people work on their beliefs
and their goals and values and they go
outside they can sit on the beach during
the breaks breathe the fresh air but
what didn’t think about is right there
in Del Mar on the beach there’s a train
station and so somehow my little brain
didn’t figure this out till it’s too
late I’m in the middle of seminar and
someone is sharing this emotional
experience this woman was raped and
she’s going through it all and I’m
stepping in to help her and I’ll see her
in a new this frickin rain a train
whistle and they do it like five times
so nobody misses the train his everytime
sirtaki interrupted again and people are
getting pissed off and it was happening
so often because there’s so many trains
that at one point I realized I know the
schedule when everybody’s
Soph 8:30 a.m. 10:15 11:30 12:10 they’re
gonna be best because the trains gonna
come so I turn to the audience and I
said we kinda have a schedule for being
pissed off right now
and I’d like us to train ourselves to
feel differently how many of you have
something in your life or someone who
can trigger you at times annoy you
it could be a family member you love but
they have this little thing they do it
could be husband or wife it could be
your kids it could be a cobra how many
got one of these say I I said what if we
trained ourselves so the same stimulus
that was making us angry we trained our
nervous system just using basic science
neuroscience trained our nervous systems
so the same stimulus makes us feel great
and people look to me like this is
bullshit what are you talking about I
said here’s what I want to do since the
train is gonna come a dozen times a day
and we have three more days together
perhaps we should enjoy the Train how
many of you when you’re a kid when you
heard a train you wanted to see the
Train maybe count the number of cars or
run down to be close to it how many how
many were excited when you saw a train
reach and say hi now you’re on the way
to work or a meeting at a train comes in
your way fucking try I’ll give you a
clue the train didn’t change so the
question is I said what if every time
the train comes we train ourselves to
celebrate to feel good to enjoy I said
so here someone asked you to do every
title your train I don’t care from the
middle the most important conversation
of your life I don’t care for her we’re
doing something but you think it’s so
important if you’re tired I don’t give
all the books on your chair I want you
to easily just drop everything and I
want you jump and start to celebrate
like a little kid like it’s the greatest
gift of your life and then we’re gonna
head with a low clap and then we’re
gonna laugh hysterically into our chair
if you can’t what happen I want you to
fake laughing in your chair because most
of you know if you fake laughs what
starts to happen real laughter comes
right and then you wire yourself the
last more easily just like with Josh I
want
people wouldn’t be nice to laugh easier
you didn’t have to have everything need
perfectly funny
for you to have a good time because
mostly it doesn’t have to be perfectly
bad for you to be pissed off so clean it
so I got it would agree and we did it so
every time the train came and some
people I got a frickin train that won’t
work you gotta go it’s a trap you got to
be like a little kid and pretty soon
people look forward to the Train and by
the way will this be useful to train
yourself around a person in your life or
a situation yes or no so I don’t have a
train nearby but I haven’t reported a
special train whistle and I’m gonna ask
you for the rest of today no matter how
tired we are I’m a hard-working no
matter what we’re in the middle of if
we’re that train with so we’re gonna
jump up and we’re gonna celebrate like
little kids make noise laughs bun will
clap will do the well out and then we’re
going to laugh hysterically to our chair
make the point of somebody else and
laugh at them while we’re doing it
to train our nervous system who’s gonna
go for it
who’s willing to go for it
then it could happen anytime you never
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no laughing hysterically in your chair
point of the people I admire you laugh
at them
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yes now does that feel good wouldn’t it
be better than being pissed off or
worried could you do this enough could
you do this often enough that you could
wire yourself to laugh easily over
nothing to celebrate little shit would
that be helpful so throughout the day
this could happen it might happen
multiple times
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yes if that feels good
say yes say yes say yes
so that’s priming can we pry myself to
feel good yes or no what if you knew you
would never have a really important
conversation with your kid or your
spouse or your loved one and you’re
starting to feel a little tension
because you don’t want to deal with this
cuz you love them you don’t deal the
bullshit cuz you know you got to in this
state of being primed about it how’s it
gonna go but if you primed yourself a
laughter or joy or playfulness and now
you gonna be with them somebody goes no
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that’ll fuck with him real quick love it
they don’t to deal with you enjoying
yourself so we are in charge here’s the
point life changes the moment you make
the decision that you’re a hundred
percent responsible for your experience
of life not responsible like a heavy
response able if you’re responsible
you’re able to respond you’re gonna even
spawn and be able to do that if you own
yourself and if you know people can do
anything but still you’re the authority
of what it means to you you’re the
authority of your own emotions you’re
the authority of your own actions who’s
with me on the side and blaming other
people which the human mind is always
looking to do will never make you happy
never make you fulfilled never bring you
closer to
I’ll never make you grub so when you’re
willing to take that level
responsibility but you’re like making
judgments and you go on that person is
such a bullshit of such a liar
one of things I always do is I do a
reversal mahat and go you’re such a
bullshitter uses on no I’m not
where are you a bullshitter well it did
bullshit about that once who’s ever said
something and after you said it fuck
yourself what I just said was Pogo
bullshit I leave I bought this
hummingbird someone else say something
about yourself what they just said is
fucking bullshit see if you can see it
in someone else they can see it you
better to just own it let go cuz that’s
what the mind does if we look the mind
run us we’re gonna have a tough time
this mind serves me I don’t negotiate
with it member I told you I don’t say
well I’ll do this well maybe we can do
it people jump in the water now it’s
like it knows I’m not here to negotiate
when I say it we do it that’s what we
want to train ourselves then you’re dead
who’s up for that say ahh so the first
step to that would be priming so let me
show you exactly what I do for 10
minutes by the way
my son he came over Adam enough he
laughed so much he is depriving to other
people when he shows up in the room cuz
around Josh enough and they know at any
moment Josh can crack them up and
there’s an unconscious anticipation of
it does that make sense so even some
stressful they’re almost done their ads
are josh is gonna do something of this
nature it’s an incredible skill it’s an
incredible gift
so here’s how I pride myself I do three
things first before I do the three
things whenever you want to make a
change or improve something the first
place you want to prove it is in your
mental emotional state if you did
something from the pissed-off state from
an exhausted state from a frustrated
state from a weak state you won’t matter
what you do the thoughts are weak when
you’re in a weak place the actions are
weak so the first thing we’re going to
do is I’m going to show you a simple
breathing pattern and the breathing
pattern if you’re familiar gets like
Breath of Fire is similar to breath the
fire and it’s a movement is what’s gonna
look like is this you’re gonna sit up in
the chair with energy I’ll show you what
we’re doing then we’ll do
we’re gonna raise your hands up as we
take the air in and then you’re gonna
blow it up you’re gonna blow it out your
nose now to do that if there’s anything
in there it may show up coming out of
your body
so if it does just wipe it on your
neighbor is not a problem once order so
if you do have some Kleenex you might
want to grab your Kleenex if you got
some just in case something happens
because you’re gonna be blowing out that
nose strong in fact if you have some
tissue or a sleeve or something now’s
the time to use it
so here’s we’re gonna do you’re gonna
take the breath in your hands are gonna
go where up and then actually then stuff
like this and we’re gonna do that over
and over again for 30 breaths all
Cannibals you three sets of ten you’re
gonna do this with your eyes closed then
you’re gonna drop your hands down palms
up on your weight on your legs and
you’re just gonna feel whatever you feel
you might notice some tingling you might
notice a sense of peace you might just
feel relaxed and then we’ll do another
three sets of 10 another 30 will relax
and then another so there are three sets
of thirty three sets of ten tenten
tenten tenten tenten ten with a break
between them when you’re done with that
you’re ready to try cause it puts you in
state priming is three actions it’s not
in ten minutes you can do more than ten
and many of you will enjoy it so much
you’ll be longer but the reason I do ten
minutes of priming is I wanted to come
up with a daily discipline there was no
excuse not to do if you don’t have ten
fucking minutes for your life you don’t
have a life it was with me on this day i
and by the way when you get on the
airplane what’s the first thing they
teach you when they get on the airplane
they say okay here’s how to putting your
seatbelt as if you don’t know and then
they say in the result of the loss of
oxygen what’s gonna happen these masks
can drop down they have oxygen and the
first thing you just grab it and put it
on your child it’s the first thing you
gotta do is they tell you what do they
tell you put on yourself you selfish
bastard what are you talking about
why do they tell you to do that because
if you don’t take care of you you can’t
take care of them
and what a good metaphor for our lives
yes give it up for that piece as well
so we’re priming ting care of ourselves
we take everybody else to is it make
sense so what we’re gonna do is we’re
gonna do our three sets of ten three
sets of ten three sets of ten then with
our eyes closed the first three and a
third minutes of the ten minutes is
we’re gonna focus on three experiences
in our life that we can feel deeply
grateful for three of them and we’re not
gonna think in that cause this this this
we’re taking one at a time spend about a
minute each and step into that moment in
your life that you can feel grateful for
it could be a little thing or a big
thing it doesn’t matter what matters is
that you go there you know if I ask you
what’s it like to be on a roller coaster
and you remember time you know the
roller coaster and you picture yourself
in a roller coaster over there you’re
gonna give me a very different feedback
then if I get you to imagine the moment
you were going over the edge and you’re
in the front seat
then you’re gonna show me a different
result you want your gratitude to be in
the front seat not an intellectual
gratitude out there so I take three
minutes a minute each I come up with
something different every time
I think of a moment that I could feel so
grateful for a blessed moment a
beautiful moment a loving moment a
sacred moment and I step in and feel it
and flood myself with the gratitude and
if you remember why we use gratitude
sounds corny right but why from a
scientific perspective remember what I
showed you the other day when someone’s
frustrated when they’re angry we can
measure your EKG in your egt we can see
what your heart and your brain are both
doing and they are all over the place
they don’t match they’re jagged you
remember the image but when you breathe
in your heart and you put some focus in
your heart where focus goes energy and
so what happens is you get unified and
all of a sudden the brain and the heart
become one tracing energy it’s crazy
that’s the flow state so when you’re
grateful gratitude is the antidote to
the two emotions that mess up most
people’s lives
what are they anger and what fear those
are two Biggie’s
you cannot be grateful and angry
simultaneously that’s the beauty of it
it’s the antidote to anger you can’t be
fearful and grateful simultaneously so
the more you cultivate and prime
yourself for gratitude the more you can
push through anger and fear very quickly
does that make sense so yeah the
scientific this is not like positive
thinking bullshit it’s about what
actually changes biochemistry and what
will get you to wire and fire a new set
of patterns that are more elegant more
rewarding more impactful than the ones
that society will condition you to do if
you let it okay so three minutes and
then in each and by the way when I do it
I usually pick two strong ones and then
I pick something really simple and I
make myself really feel the gratitude
like the wind on my fish or the smell of
the ocean if I’m doing it outside by my
house or the look on one of my
children’s faces and I’ll just fill that
up and the reason is if all you do is
get grateful about big things you’re
gonna miss most of life you know the
guys that astronauts that went to the
moon
think about that journey think about as
a child these guys dreamed of being an
astronaut they competed with hundreds of
thousands of people and then a few of
these guys get on that rocket and go to
the moon
imagine you walked on the moon you look
back and you see that picture we’ve all
seen of the blue-green earth that’s so
beautiful and it’s not a photograph they
were the ones there seeing him talk
about an experience and then they face
their fears and come in they land
successfully in the ocean and they’re
rescued and then there’s a ticker tape
parade in New York they shake the
president’s hand and now what do you do
you’re 32 years old and you walked on
the fucking moon what do you do now for
adventure and if you study the
astronauts Buzz Aldrin all these guys
had a chance to give you most of not all
but three of them almost all of them
wrote about describe what happened to
them they no longer had a compelling
future hello in addition I walked in the
everything else is small by nature and
as a result they got depressed most of
them abused alcohol and drugs why
because they’re looking for adventure on
a moon run and they missed the adventure
in a smile
so I train myself daily pry myself to
find those little things that are so
beautiful and feel them because the more
I filled and the more I can give that to
someone else the more I can move that
direction the more I can enjoy as well
it’s putting the mask on me first
who’s with me on this a-ha okay so
that’s after we do our breathing step
one of the three steps first the
breathing then the three steps one
gratitude three minutes roughly a minute
each three different moments you can
feel grateful for and feel it enjoy it
savor it living it next three in the
third minutes second thing you’re gonna
do is you’re gonna feel the energy in
you and do a prayer or a blessing now I
know many of you are not religious I’m
not suggesting you need to be but almost
all of us know there’s a power in love
you know if God was love and we didn’t
come up with all the other names for God
you wouldn’t have much argument between
people so imagine that what you’re gonna
do is imagine that energy of God the
universe whatever you want imagine
coming down empty like a white light and
breathing it down in through your body
down your legs into the earth and then
coming back up and out against us and it
comes back up and you’d have to do this
with your hands but I’m trying to show
you what the feeling is and while you’re
doing this what are you gonna do during
those three minutes is you’re gonna give
thanks it’s like a prayer saying heal my
body my mind my emotions strengthen me
make me the best I can be strengthen my
love my passion my courage whatever it
is that you value in yourself you feel
that happening of the three minutes I do
that for about an in and a half
I then take that energy through me and I
send it in a circle around to my
children to my family to my friends and
my co-workers to my associates to my
partners to the people I meet in the
street to my clients and so it’s taking
the energy now you might sound like
Lulu’s stuff but the idea of allowing
your nervous system to heal and
strengthen just the focus of that alone
for you is strong and sending to others
as well so you can think it’s all
bullshit but try it and decide based on
the experience that you do in a while I
think you’re gonna find
it’ll look deep in that sense of
gratitude because it becomes not only
gratitude but healing or strengthening
and a gift to those you love the last
three minutes I call three to throt
you’re gonna think of three things that
you really want to accomplish or achieve
but instead of like hoping it happens or
thinking about it happening you’re gonna
step in your mind and experience it as
if it’s done you’re gonna see it or feel
it breathe it celebrate it like you’ve
already achieved the goal what you’re
doing is training your reticular
activating system that we talked about
this the other day the part of your
brain that notices things when you did
you know before you bought that car
outfit you never noticed them now you
buy that car outfit those cars and
outfits are everywhere how come cuz your
Ras now the Olin says this is important
I need to pay attention to this well
when you get clear what you want and you
see this done and feel it and create it
in your mind and your heart and you
celebrate it there’s a sense of
certainty then there’s your body and
your reticular activating system starts
to go to work on making it happen so you
spent a minute each of those so
basically three minutes each three to 30
minutes each and we’re done all right
how many one try all right then let’s do
it so before you do stand up shake your
body out and if you’re gonna relax the
faster way to relax is first push
yourself from a high level of energy
that it allows you to drop deeper so
find a partner and go ionia when you say
I own you it means I challenge you I’ve
got more energy than you all person
yeah yeah are you unaccounted for ELT of
their energy with celebration like the
little pig one is do it one too
fuck this up I see some of you gon get
in my head you’re right get in your head
you’re right dad but when you get in
your head what does that really mean
that means you’re believing the most
limiting thoughts and you have to
remember we all have a
two-million-year-old brain and it’s not
designed to make you happy it’s designed
to make you survive so it’s always
looking for what’s wrong then we played
the game look for brown and y’all saw
bass shit and called it brown just to
feel successful
I said look for red you saw burgundy you
called it red so you could get more
scores whatever you’re looking for seek
and ye shall what fine says that in a
very good book called a good book and
you don’t have to be religious to
understand this that this is a fact of
life so if you and I are gonna really
take things to a different level we
gotta see what could mess it up
so the mind could mess it up but what
aspect of the mind what makes us start
to believe those thoughts what’s the
emotion that meses is that what is it
it’s absolutely fair but there’s more
than this every day of our lives we live
in a world that has incredibly complex
it is no more stressful than world war
two when none of us in this room
probably remember that time but it
looked like democracy was disappearing
and the Germans were gonna win at one
stage that’s stressful being in a
foxhole is stressful you’re not making
as much money as you want or being a
little overweight or someone calling you
names on line that shit is not stressful
we’re making it stressful
we’ve lost perspective who’s with me on
this AI so what’s really useful I think
today is for us to figure out what
messes us up and one of the biggest
thing that messes up is expectation
right what we say the other day trade
your expectations for appreciation and
your whole life changes because when
you’re expecting things that it doesn’t
happen you get upset so that first day
also is all about what if you lived your
life and you made it
decision and the decision was life is
too short to suffer it’s too short to be
stress pissed off fearful worried who’s
with me on this AI but our minds our
survival software is always looking for
it’s wrong our job is to create the
happiness and the only way you do that
is you draw a line in the sand and say
I’m not gonna suffer I’m gonna be honest
I start to feel that stress I’m gonna
breathe and I’m gonna realize we’re the
only creatures from the planet that can
think of thought and become angry think
the thought and become playful think of
thought and be worried think of thought
and feel loved that’s we can change
that’s why we can change how fast but
you have to take control and train this
brain if you don’t train this brain
it’ll use you instead of you using it
just identify with your heart or your
soul or your spirit instead of the brain
as I said in China the heart is the
Emperor it is the highest energy it’s
the thing that is worshipped because
when you were born there was no brain
your heart started beating and there
wasn’t a brain in you as a fetus it has
its own intelligence it produces
hormones that strengthen your bones it
is the strongest force in your immune
system this is the ticket this is what
we get caught up in we want to use the
head and heart together then we have the
power of both of them so to do that
though we got to give up the expectation
that people are going to behave the way
we want them to because what are the
chances if you have if your happiness is
depend upon everyone around you your
mother behaving the way you think she
should your father your brother your
sister your co-workers your employees
what are the chances everybody living
the way you think they should uh Nazira
to 100% scale what are the chances so
why would we allow this to be because
it’s just a bad habit and it’s like my
buddy Mike here with his daughter
instead of trying to control her he
decides I’m gonna learn from her I’m
gonna love her I’m a grown knee and that
pulls her closer instead of pushing her
further away instead of working on them
we’re gonna work on us if I want to
change you the fastest way I can change
you has changed me because we’re in a
cybernetic loop if I respond
dad was spons totally different than she
can predict she doesn’t know how to deal
with that anymore
he left the upper hand now your love can
penetrate her instead of the story in
each other’s minds when he was talking
to me in that first day about her he was
in his hat how many saw them and then he
left his head and gotten his heart and
that’s when a penetrated her look at mom
of you’re smiling from ear-to-ear go nod
in the headphone yeah that’s cool and
look at Mike’s big smile on his face cuz
he can feel the difference so today we
wanted to do our best to catch ourselves
in their hand to get back in our heart
and then here’s the biggest thing you
need you don’t want to make the
assumption that says not done three days
and I’m done this is the beginning not
the end who’s with me on this side now
it doesn’t have to be the beginning with
me if you want to do more with me come
the master University or you go do with
someone else but you got to keep growing
if you don’t keep growing none of this
will matter and you can have tremendous
few months or half a year a year but why
would you settle for six months because
we went to the program I number one time
I had a friend years ago really good
friend of mine it came to this seminar
and he loved it he wasn’t fired he went
back and he lost 32 pounds and he change
his business got closer to his wife and
then he ran to some challenges in one of
his business had to this is one of his
businesses and then their kid had some
challenges and he and his wife got
stressed about it and they started being
stressed with each other in reaction to
the environment and slowly you know I
was like six seven eight months in and I
never said hey Todd I’d love that
seminar but dude it didn’t last and when
it was great for six months I said
asshole
I said who made you think you could do
some for three days and would even last
six months I said do you think I just
like did three days and I’ve been this
way for the last forty no I said forty
years ago I started a journey that has
never ended and so we need a daily
practice right who’s up for hearsay I
and so I want to show you how I do this
for me and I want you to create your own
system based on it so if you and I are
gonna get lasting results you got to do
some things regularly the first thing I
call this immersion coaching the first
thing that I do still myself is I
schedule
myself at least twice a year sometimes
three times a year to go to an event of
some sort where I can make myself better
psychologically emotionally relationship
finances something I call it an event
blast-off because most people learn a
language in high school and college who
learned the language of high school in
college and they show your hands how
many of you don’t speak a fucking word
of it now let me sit your heads what
happened you spent years but you did it
like one hour a day five days a week
immersion is the way to learn when
you’re breathing like we’re doing here
all night all day it’s not comfortable
but it’s unbelievably fulfilling how
many experience here right now say hi
you got to get over your mind going I
can’t do this it’s too hard and all that
shit you got to push yourself through
when you feel exhausted and saying
there’s a second win of me I’m gonna
find it but if you go for immersion you
will master things ten times faster than
you will do another an hour a day or
once a week or something like that I
mean think about it this seminar is 50
hours of the course of the week weekend
four days four hours I can make this so
much easier let’s do an hour a week for
a year we’ll get two weeks off obz would
we get the same result yes or no no way
so I’ll give an example my wife and I
and we have an extended family member of
mine that they marry an area the three
of us travel together marries my right
arm and so I drag Mary with her stupid
she’s part of our family we’ve just
recently finished the date with destiny
which is my most powerful seminar six
days and nights and it’s an experience
of
some grads are they very cool but it’s
one of my favorite things to do on earth
but it’s not an easy thing on my body
she might imagine and it’s incredibly
fulfilling but at the end of it my body
is complete toast as you can imagine and
we were in Australia in the Gold Coast
and I schedules of around ISA mozzies
here how much nice to see you guys and I
I scheduled because my life was so full
there was only like one week I could do
this and so I scheduled to go this place
in Sedona Arizona with this man for 39
years has been a neurological expert
about how do why
brain for alpha states Delta states if
you’re familiar with us but alphas the
expertise and I wanted its graves my
life is I want to take another level so
I have more to give for my family for my
friends for you for myself so we go for
seven days and nights and this is what
it was like you got up first thing in
morning 6:30 and you spend an hour and a
half getting your brain wired with this
glue shit and they put like 180 these
electrodes on your head my wife looks so
attractive and so did I it was amazing
and then after wiring you up with this
goop which by the way takes forever to
get out afterwards there’s why we don’t
see the good you see just our hair
afterwards but the bottom line is we go
and then you go in individual rooms like
I want to be with my family right I want
to be with my wife on with my family and
I got to go in this dark little room
that has no light and all that and it’s
freezing cold
it must be my Karma for the shit I did
you people on a regular basis right and
and sure enough I’m there for 14 hours
in this room you get one break sometimes
to run the restroom and the entire time
you are learning to think and how you
think that these electrodes crazy sounds
and you learn how to put yourself in the
zone of alpha but it’s a batch it’s
horrible I wouldn’t recommend it to
anybody that wants easy experiences but
I recommend to anybody that wants to
grow immensely about the first day I’m
like who do I gotta shoot to get out of
this thing oh it’s me I’m the one that
did this shit but by the end of the week
all three of us were able to go in this
state of alpha and it’s the middle
doubtful the best way I can describe an
alpha is there’s no problem that can’t
be solved enough cuz every problem that
we have was created by us destruction of
the environment to the pissed-off myths
that you may have and since we created
the problems any problem of human
creates we can solve but you can’t do
with the same level of thinking to got
you there so the science of it and you
can’t cheat this thing measures you and
then you take this freaking test with
300 questions three times a day the same
F and s and takes forever now while
you’re answering it these electrodes are
seeing what you’re doing and then the
guy sits down with you
it’s called Sigma’s and it goes well
this is 2 Sigma this is even this is 10
Sigma’s and the more Sigma says how far
you are off from what you wrote from
what was really going on in your nervous
system so I was like you know like you
know said something to me like that I
was demanding like what the fuck I’m not
demanding what are you talking about
right but I guess I guess I was right
and you learn then how to let go those
old patterns great new ones so my point
is I’m doing okay in my life I’m not
exactly hurting I’m having the most
beautiful eyes I could possibly have a
beautiful mission a beautiful family
beautiful children grandchildren
beautiful experience to living life and
yeah I’m not willing to settle for that
because I’m here to deliver more for
everyone I love including myself and so
what I do is I schedule it because
listen to me when you talk about shit
it’s a dream when you envision it it’s
exciting when you plan it it’s possible
when you schedule it it’s real when this
event became real is when you enrolled
yourself before that it was an idea and
there’s lots of people have intended to
be here intended but they never locked
it in so I lock it in advance because if
I unlocked it in after date with destiny
there’s no way I got a plane flying all
the way there and then put myself in a
room for seven days and nights but I’m
grateful I did and it only did it
because I already locked in place so I
encourage you to number one figure out
at least twice a year
what are you gonna go to that’s gonna
make you grow and expand how many they
feel like these last couple days have
been some of the most girls you have in
a couple days here say hi then why
settle for this one time again I’m happy
to do it with you
I have other programs if you want to
come but you’re not limited to me I
don’t care where you go but before you
leave here you should schedule this next
you know why because how many were
looking forward to this for a long time
they’re very excited about this I’m
curious how many were quite scared about
this shit by the way I’m curious but
here’s what’s interesting after you
achieve a goal if you ever done this
worked your ass off achieve the goal you
feel good and then there’s kind of a
drop because we need something
compelling to be going after so we keep
growing so I always write before I
achieve a goal I neatly set what the
next thing is
walking in my schedule because otherwise
there’s that drop and if I had up the
next thing it’s like you’re going from
peak to peak as opposed to Pete to drop
the beat drop how many fall I’m talking
about here say hi and the other thing
I’ve learned I’ve taught this to all my
children at one time my daughter was
talking to me just like dad you know
you’re so brilliant I said you’re
absolutely right and I said honey you
know I am a smart human being I’ve
worked hard to be a smart human being
but probably my greatest gift is I do
not let opportunity escape my grasp if
there’s an opportunity and it scares me
if there’s not pretending that all the
time if there’s opportunity the money
and the early days in my life is all
three other I did have time the money
and I was fearful I make myself do it
because I know that if I don’t get
myself to do this I’m not gonna keep
going my teacher Jim Rohn used to teach
me this he said Tony if you really want
have an amazing life you gotta learn to
stretch yourself I said I did stretch
myself he goes but let me give you my
philosophy of stretching he said
stretching means if you find yourself
saying I can’t do something then you
must say I must do it immediately and do
with no hesitancy cuz if you hesitate
it’s like the firewalk if you went up to
the firewalk most you got up there made
your move and rock somebody get up there
like fuck fuck fuck oh shit shit ball oh
what am I doing here
and the longer you wait thought what it
is harder it is you just train yourself
to just do it instinctively push
yourself so if I say I can’t than I must
now he first told me this I said well I
can’t I must as I can’t jump off a cliff
than I must they said no be intelligent
but he said if you find yourself saying
I can’t do something I don’t want to do
something but you know if you made
yourself do it you’re gonna be a better
human being than you must do it don’t
hesitate do it immediately and so some
people say well that’s not a very safe
life that’s not a very secure life if
you want security go to prison if you
want freedom this is how you live right
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shake them on your body for 20 seconds
face apart no face apartments a baby
now I argue now I owe you well you say
I’ll give these I’m gonna out get energy
for 30 seconds-1 got events where you’re
gonna make huge growth the next thing
you want to do throw up number two’s you
really want to get yourself a coach or a
mentor why do you want to coach your
mentor you’re smart well I got a series
of mentors I’ve got three men in my life
who are the smartest humans I know some
of most successful people in the world
in business spiritually emotionally
well-developed
they’re eighteen to twenty years my
senior and guess what I come to them all
the time for accountability and feedback
because as much as I don’t drive myself
you don’t do brain surgery on yourself
even if you’re grain brain surgeon does
it make sense
you need some feedback from the outside
cuz you’re still in it and so getting a
coach is critical now I get paid a
million dollars a year to coach someone
I only take on seven clients and I got
now a five year waiting list so I’m not
looking for any coaching clients but
I’ve trained all of my coaches to do the
same things I do and they don’t charge
million-dollar here nothing whoops so
you can use our coaches if you want or
someone else but what you don’t want to
do is have a friend be your coach why
I’ll give an example a few years back I
was on this talk show that’s in the
morning I won’t mention the name but it
has a bunch of ladies what’s the name of
the via that’s right I don’t mention it
and I was on the view and it was a
Barbara Walters was still on and I was a
brilliant amazing lady and they had me
on in January and I was doing a piece on
new year new life how to transform your
energy in your body and when I was done
talking his little seven-minute segments
all four or five lawmakers who has five
women followed me into the green room
literally during the break and they said
listen before the TV comes back on we
want to do this you know tell us more
how we do this
we want to do this together and when
they said they want to do it together I
was like hold it I said can can I be
direct with you on this I said Barbara
you know how much I respect you and all
of you but can I be direct they said
well yeah I said well I respect you
you’re some of the best in the world we
do as journalists I said you have an
incredible show number way to show
you’ve been in years Barbara your role
model for anyone who wants to be
successful man or woman but there’s an
area of your life none of you have
mastered your body I’m not being harsh I
have to tell the truth it’s the truth
that’s how you get to the things change
and you should have seen him look around
and be like I just said I didn’t say
they’re fat I said you haven’t mastered
this area life and I said here’s the
problem if you guys get together now and
none of you’ve mastered this area and
you’re all friends you’ll deal this for
two or three days but about the third or
fourth day end when he’s going to go to
Starbucks and never local smoke or
something something whatever that shit’s
gone right and some of us can say no we
got to work on the go public if we just
stop for a few minutes and then someone
else will say well we can stop for a few
minutes and then you’re fucked cuz
you’ll break the pattern I said have you
ever done this before and they start
shaking hands they said it’s nap time I
said don’t do this together I know you
love each other that’s why you shouldn’t
do it together get it for fashion on
when you go I want to milk and smoke
little Shep of fuck up and you need
someone who’s not gonna listen to your
bullshit it’s gonna push you until you
develop the discipline to develop the
skill and even then they’re gonna know
the little things the two millimeter
things you don’t know that could save
you a decade
how many fathers say I so don’t get a
good coach getting outstanding one and
the problem is I created the coaching
industry before I came along no one
called myself a coach in this industry
that wasn’t decision you got to be a
therapist and you got approved by
insurance and I came along and said
these dentists are sitting down people
for 7fn years and I can wipe out that
phobia in 20 minutes or an hour and so I
went around and I said I guess who I am
I’m not
it never was you know I’m not a guru
what am i I thought was an athlete who
influenced me the most of my coaches and
many of them were not as good as I
wanted but I’m in the game I’m in the
forest they’re outside of it they could
see things and give me cues and they
cared about me so I said that’s where
that forget athletics I could coach I
love people I’m not better than they are
but I’m gonna see things they can’t see
because this is my focus all right and
so I did that and for many years they
call myself a coach no one did and I
remember I was on Larry King Live and I
just started coaching President Clinton
and he goes what is this coaching thing
you’re not a coach you know coach
athletes I said well I actually I do but
I said no here’s what I need my coach
and it’s about to give it up and like
well in the next six months everybody
was a coach therapists are calling self
coaches financial planner stuck home
self coaches became a term of art now I
hate it
you know I there’s no standard by
anybody say they’re calling self a coach
anybody go out there and do it they go
to some class some idiot teaches and
three skills they never produced the
fucking results in their life and their
coach so I feel like they created a
bastard industry and so like any
industry there’s good and bad you gotta
find somebody’s outstanding
don’t settle for somebody’s good it
don’t sell some because you like them
because like game is a nice thing you
need somebody who has the skill to get
you there who’s with me on this AI and
why do we want to coach so you measure
at least twice a month some of you three
times a month because if you don’t
measure you can’t manage what you don’t
measure does that make sense
and you gotta measure it and it’s easy
with your children with your life with
your businesses you’re gonna get caught
up you need somebody helping you to stay
on target for what you want for your
life how many follow say hot and it’s
cheap most coaching is inexpensive in
the people that overcharge don’t go to
them but get somebody’s really late and
then finally thirdly and this is what I
want to show you this morning
you need a daily practice and a daily
practice that’s gonna put you in the
best state possible regularly and so
there’s two parts of the nearly practice
what is you want to feed your mind every
day for at least 30 minutes and when I
say feed your mind my teacher Jim Rohn
used to say miss a meal but don’t miss
reading for 30
and I don’t mean reading the web or your
social media bullshit or Twitter I mean
reading a real book that you’ve selected
because it’s gonna make you grow
spiritually mentally emotionally
financially something that makes you
think something that gives you a
strategy not some cute little blog posts
that you can read in five minutes I mean
something that’s gonna make you not be
mental candy some that’s gonna produce a
different result because our lives are
the result of the input input a bunch of
garbage you get garbage out so I I would
like never miss reading and then I
started listening to audios when I was
really young and the great thing about
audios is you can rely to call net time
no extra time so the biggest challenge
we have so what am I gonna read what am
I gonna do this women do all these
things the answer is it doesn’t take any
extra time you can use net time you can
do it while you’re cleaning the house
while you’re working out going for a
walk when you’re driving in your car
should be your new University where
you’re feeding your moms because if you
don’t feed your mind leads grow
automatically you don’t have to work on
growing weeds they’re gonna be there if
you don’t do something to replace it so
every day 30 minutes of either audio or
a book something that’s gonna make you
grow it’ll feed your mind it’ll keep the
momentum going so this won’t be just the
one verse this will be the one that got
you going and then you keep the momentum
by doing this and then finally and most
importantly many people’s are the most
silly question I’m asked in the media
all the time for 40 years is don’t you
have bad days don’t you get upset don’t
these things happen of course but I said
I don’t stay there I’ve trained myself
like an athlete change their muscles
I’ve trained my emotional muscles which
by the way I think your emotional
spiritual muscles are the most important
ones encourage unused does it grow or
shrink which one faith unemployed unused
does it grow or diminishe diminishes
passion unexpressed does it expand or
shrink so the most important muscles
that change your life are those mental
emotion
spiritual muscles if we develop them
more we’re going to experience more so
the way I do that is to a process I call
priming and this is the part that I
really want you to get because it’s
really simple most of us have you ever
thought seen something do something I
thought to yourself what the f is wrong
with this idiot who’s ever have those
thought how many of you ever done
something yourself and fun what the f am
i doing okay many times we think we’re
thinking our own thoughts when we’re not
we’ve been trying by the environment to
think a certain way and we don’t even
realize it now sometimes just
unconsciously by marketers or
advertisers that’s a simplistic example
but in one powerful example is what
happens in your daily life so let me
give you a couple examples so you become
aware of the power of priming and then I
want to show you how you can consciously
prime your own mind and body and emotion
so you naturally go where you want to go
as opposed to hoping you go there so
some of the studies on priming have
shown that what you think that your
thoughts actually got there because
something in the environment that you’re
no longer noticing so an example this
would be they did a study and they took
two actors and they both approached a
hundred people each and the actors were
designed to do the exact same thing they
walk up the people they have the same
facial expression and they say while
you’re sitting there excuse me could you
hold this to me for one second when I
grab my phone and they hand you this cup
of coffee and then they reach in their
pocket to get their phone for two
seconds they put it back real fast they
go thank you so much and they take it
back and every time they did it exactly
the same way with all the people 200
people hundred each each person did a
hundred people but fifty of those people
that gave hot coffee tip 50 the people
that gave iced coffee to now listen to
this
after 35 to 45 minutes roughly a person
walks by outdoors or at the mall
wherever they did this they have a check
for a clipboard and they go scuse me um
we’ll give you $20 if you’ll give us
three minutes of your time to read these
three paragraphs answer two questions 95
7 people do it 20 bucks 3 minutes of
them and they made these three
paragraphs which is this story about
this main protagonist and then the two
questions are tell us what’s the first
emotion that you link to the main
character and what’s the second one
those are two questions when they do
this with people they had a hot coffee
to 80% of the people 81% to be exact
roughly 80 81 say that the person they
read the story about is generous and
warm sometimes they had that word loving
but generous and warm is always there
the people of the exact same
presentation 34 40 minutes earlier we’re
getting ice coffee 80% is a 1%
difference which is statistically
irrelevant 80% of them say the person is
cold and uncaring and the only different
is thirty five to four minutes earlier
somebody handed you a hot or cold cup of
coffee that’s wild isn’t it I gave you
another example you know in America many
of the other 72 countries here but in
America a lot of people see individuals
that come from Asia as being superior in
science and math and there’s a different
mindset in those countries about science
and math and when those people come here
they work incredibly hard an incredibly
focused they believe and the belief
structure is they do really well if
you’re Asian now in our culture in the
past many times people have been focused
on the fact that if you are a man you do
well with math and science but if you’re
a woman it’s just not your cup of tea
you’re not quite as strong in it and
there’s no basis for that whatsoever but
it’s a cultural anchor that people have
begun to believe
so here’s what’s interesting they took
the math part of the SAT test and they
took a group of women at Harvard and all
they did to change the test has changed
the first question of the test on half
the test they said what’s your gender on
the other half the tests they said what
is your nationality right what’s your
ethnicity well interesting when they’re
asked what their sexless and they’re all
women they performed 11% lower and if
they are asked what is your ethnicity
and they said Asian they were 11% higher
a 22% difference between the two and the
only difference was the first question
was asked because it primed you either
for your higher level of skill based on
your conditioning or a lower level of
skill based on social conditioning
how many phone there’s a million studies
like this another interesting one that’s
really simple is they didn’t add where
they show the IBM logo and the Apple
logo and they also did this with the
commercial I don’t know if you remember
the commercial think differently than
Apple made years ago sad people watch
the commercials in both cases afterwards
they were given a creativity test the
people that watched the 30-second Apple
commercial versus IBM scored 20 percent
higher consistently across the board and
all they saw was 30 seconds about
thinking differently that is the power
of priming so my point is really simple
if you’re gonna get the results that you
deserve and that you want you want to
prime yourself for success prime
yourself for love prime yourself for
courage rather than hope that you show
up that way
based on the triggers of your
environment does this make sense and so
I prime myself every single day for a
minimum of 10 minutes it’s the first
thing I do in the morning and I’d like
to show you how you do it and have you
do it so you can have a daily discipline
and if you do this every day if you keep
once or twice a year get yourself to an
immersion experience it makes you grab
you get yourself a coach where twice a
month
minutes even you’re just staying on
target measuring and you read 30 minutes
a day or an audio 30 minutes today and
you start with priming then this won’t
be a three six twelve month thing this
will be a lifetime thing does that make
sense so you’re not going to get a
lifetime results unless you’re lucky by
one experience but you can certainly
happen to use this as the blast-off and
then you have a daily discipline to keep
the momentum go so how are we gonna
prime well let me give you a story first
a simple example first was one of my
boys my second youngest son’s name is
Josh I love him to death amazing kid
and Josh came to live with me when he
was five years old member I told you I
was 24 and instantly I got married
tooand and married twice before with
kids from two different husbands and she
wasn’t living with her kids and so I met
her unleveled her brought her into my
life and then saw a sad she was without
her kids so I brought her kids away from
both the other husbands they were happy
to give him to us and I adopted them as
ours and so I’m 24 and I got a 17 year
old son because she was 13 years my
senior and 11 year old daughter of 5
year old and one on the letter
well Josh was the five year old and josh
is just such a sweet really incredibly
great kid but one of the challenges for
josh was he was afraid even walk down
the driveway to get to the bus i’m
mister fear and the power rip shit open
and my son can’t walk down to the bottom
of the strait and so i had to kind of
try to figure out how to deal with this
how to figure it all out and I figured
what I was gonna do to try and make this
thing happen to make a change and so one
of the things that happened was I
started to realize that I needed to
train his nervous system tech courage
instead of hoping it showed up I got a
really train it and I started doing
these things with him and I watched him
before my eyes Chiefs become more
confident he were strong and all I was
doing was getting the program his own
mind prime himself just really simple
little things to do and then one day
Josh came home and he was laughing
uncontrollably like over nothing and
then I came in the room
and there was a new friend with him and
this kid you know you know anybody
that’s not really funny but they think
they are only knows that like this
somebody who cracks himself up you know
they need and this kid was cracking
himself up he wasn’t funny but he
laughed so hard I found myself laughing
at his silly jokes right and Josh
laughing so much when he left I said to
Josh that kid he’s your friend
I said make him your friend for life he
goes why dad I said because if you hang
out with him who you spend time with us
who you become and you’re around him
there’s so much more playful you have so
much more joy you so much you have so
much laughter and that young boy my son
is thirty six nine three grandkids with
him and his best friend is still that
young boy is now also 36 years old
and josh is
and to this day Josh is funny as shit
when he was a little kid like he’s 7 or
8 years old he stole this dirty jokes
book and memorized every frickin joke in
the damn thing and he got so much reward
for it and his body was like that to
this day if I want to laugh gonna Josh’s
my partner a couple of my companies and
he’s not my partner I have four kids
none of my others are partners with me I
love them all equally but he shows up
differently and part of it is things
that stress other people out he breaks
the pattern with his own laughter and
it’s beautiful to be around him great
time ain’t primed them so I’ll give you
another example of priming when I first
started about my date with destiny
seminar decades ago I I did the seminar
on my own house that place called the
Del Mar castle and there were about I
don’t know 38 39 people to seminar a
little different now as you can see and
I was delivering like my heart and soul
into this particular program and
gradually I started looking around and
going man I can’t keep doing this my
house there’s not enough room we got to
100 people I had to move it but I wanted
to keep it in the you know I lived in
Del Mar California on the beach and I
said well there’s a hotel on the beach
and well it’s a really nice hotel called
the Burj LeBaron we’ll go down the birds
will do it there and they have a room
that’ll hold 150 people which is a giant
seminar for me at those days and when
they didn’t count on it I thought this
is great people work on their beliefs
and their goals and values and they go
outside they can sit on the beach during
the breaks breathe the fresh air but
what didn’t think about is right there
in Del Mar on the beach there’s a train
station and so somehow my little brain
didn’t figure this out till it’s too
late I’m in the middle of seminar and
someone is sharing this emotional
experience this woman was raped and
she’s going through it all and I’m
stepping in to help her and I’ll see her
in a new this frickin rain a train
whistle and they do it like five times
so nobody misses the train his everytime
sirtaki interrupted again and people are
getting pissed off and it was happening
so often because there’s so many trains
that at one point I realized I know the
schedule when everybody’s
Soph 8:30 a.m. 10:15 11:30 12:10 they’re
gonna be best because the trains gonna
come so I turn to the audience and I
said we kinda have a schedule for being
pissed off right now
and I’d like us to train ourselves to
feel differently how many of you have
something in your life or someone who
can trigger you at times annoy you
it could be a family member you love but
they have this little thing they do it
could be husband or wife it could be
your kids it could be a cobra how many
got one of these say I I said what if we
trained ourselves so the same stimulus
that was making us angry we trained our
nervous system just using basic science
neuroscience trained our nervous systems
so the same stimulus makes us feel great
and people look to me like this is
bullshit what are you talking about I
said here’s what I want to do since the
train is gonna come a dozen times a day
and we have three more days together
perhaps we should enjoy the Train how
many of you when you’re a kid when you
heard a train you wanted to see the
Train maybe count the number of cars or
run down to be close to it how many how
many were excited when you saw a train
reach and say hi now you’re on the way
to work or a meeting at a train comes in
your way fucking try I’ll give you a
clue the train didn’t change so the
question is I said what if every time
the train comes we train ourselves to
celebrate to feel good to enjoy I said
so here someone asked you to do every
title your train I don’t care from the
middle the most important conversation
of your life I don’t care for her we’re
doing something but you think it’s so
important if you’re tired I don’t give
all the books on your chair I want you
to easily just drop everything and I
want you jump and start to celebrate
like a little kid like it’s the greatest
gift of your life and then we’re gonna
head with a low clap and then we’re
gonna laugh hysterically into our chair
if you can’t what happen I want you to
fake laughing in your chair because most
of you know if you fake laughs what
starts to happen real laughter comes
right and then you wire yourself the
last more easily just like with Josh I
want
people wouldn’t be nice to laugh easier
you didn’t have to have everything need
perfectly funny
for you to have a good time because
mostly it doesn’t have to be perfectly
bad for you to be pissed off so clean it
so I got it would agree and we did it so
every time the train came and some
people I got a frickin train that won’t
work you gotta go it’s a trap you got to
be like a little kid and pretty soon
people look forward to the Train and by
the way will this be useful to train
yourself around a person in your life or
a situation yes or no so I don’t have a
train nearby but I haven’t reported a
special train whistle and I’m gonna ask
you for the rest of today no matter how
tired we are I’m a hard-working no
matter what we’re in the middle of if
we’re that train with so we’re gonna
jump up and we’re gonna celebrate like
little kids make noise laughs bun will
clap will do the well out and then we’re
going to laugh hysterically to our chair
make the point of somebody else and
laugh at them while we’re doing it
to train our nervous system who’s gonna
go for it
who’s willing to go for it
then it could happen anytime you never
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no laughing hysterically in your chair
point of the people I admire you laugh
at them
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yes now does that feel good wouldn’t it
be better than being pissed off or
worried could you do this enough could
you do this often enough that you could
wire yourself to laugh easily over
nothing to celebrate little shit would
that be helpful so throughout the day
this could happen it might happen
multiple times
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yes if that feels good
say yes say yes say yes
so that’s priming can we pry myself to
feel good yes or no what if you knew you
would never have a really important
conversation with your kid or your
spouse or your loved one and you’re
starting to feel a little tension
because you don’t want to deal with this
cuz you love them you don’t deal the
bullshit cuz you know you got to in this
state of being primed about it how’s it
gonna go but if you primed yourself a
laughter or joy or playfulness and now
you gonna be with them somebody goes no
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that’ll fuck with him real quick love it
they don’t to deal with you enjoying
yourself so we are in charge here’s the
point life changes the moment you make
the decision that you’re a hundred
percent responsible for your experience
of life not responsible like a heavy
response able if you’re responsible
you’re able to respond you’re gonna even
spawn and be able to do that if you own
yourself and if you know people can do
anything but still you’re the authority
of what it means to you you’re the
authority of your own emotions you’re
the authority of your own actions who’s
with me on the side and blaming other
people which the human mind is always
looking to do will never make you happy
never make you fulfilled never bring you
closer to
I’ll never make you grub so when you’re
willing to take that level
responsibility but you’re like making
judgments and you go on that person is
such a bullshit of such a liar
one of things I always do is I do a
reversal mahat and go you’re such a
bullshitter uses on no I’m not
where are you a bullshitter well it did
bullshit about that once who’s ever said
something and after you said it fuck
yourself what I just said was Pogo
bullshit I leave I bought this
hummingbird someone else say something
about yourself what they just said is
fucking bullshit see if you can see it
in someone else they can see it you
better to just own it let go cuz that’s
what the mind does if we look the mind
run us we’re gonna have a tough time
this mind serves me I don’t negotiate
with it member I told you I don’t say
well I’ll do this well maybe we can do
it people jump in the water now it’s
like it knows I’m not here to negotiate
when I say it we do it that’s what we
want to train ourselves then you’re dead
who’s up for that say ahh so the first
step to that would be priming so let me
show you exactly what I do for 10
minutes by the way
my son he came over Adam enough he
laughed so much he is depriving to other
people when he shows up in the room cuz
around Josh enough and they know at any
moment Josh can crack them up and
there’s an unconscious anticipation of
it does that make sense so even some
stressful they’re almost done their ads
are josh is gonna do something of this
nature it’s an incredible skill it’s an
incredible gift
so here’s how I pride myself I do three
things first before I do the three
things whenever you want to make a
change or improve something the first
place you want to prove it is in your
mental emotional state if you did
something from the pissed-off state from
an exhausted state from a frustrated
state from a weak state you won’t matter
what you do the thoughts are weak when
you’re in a weak place the actions are
weak so the first thing we’re going to
do is I’m going to show you a simple
breathing pattern and the breathing
pattern if you’re familiar gets like
Breath of Fire is similar to breath the
fire and it’s a movement is what’s gonna
look like is this you’re gonna sit up in
the chair with energy I’ll show you what
we’re doing then we’ll do
we’re gonna raise your hands up as we
take the air in and then you’re gonna
blow it up you’re gonna blow it out your
nose now to do that if there’s anything
in there it may show up coming out of
your body
so if it does just wipe it on your
neighbor is not a problem once order so
if you do have some Kleenex you might
want to grab your Kleenex if you got
some just in case something happens
because you’re gonna be blowing out that
nose strong in fact if you have some
tissue or a sleeve or something now’s
the time to use it
so here’s we’re gonna do you’re gonna
take the breath in your hands are gonna
go where up and then actually then stuff
like this and we’re gonna do that over
and over again for 30 breaths all
Cannibals you three sets of ten you’re
gonna do this with your eyes closed then
you’re gonna drop your hands down palms
up on your weight on your legs and
you’re just gonna feel whatever you feel
you might notice some tingling you might
notice a sense of peace you might just
feel relaxed and then we’ll do another
three sets of 10 another 30 will relax
and then another so there are three sets
of thirty three sets of ten tenten
tenten tenten tenten ten with a break
between them when you’re done with that
you’re ready to try cause it puts you in
state priming is three actions it’s not
in ten minutes you can do more than ten
and many of you will enjoy it so much
you’ll be longer but the reason I do ten
minutes of priming is I wanted to come
up with a daily discipline there was no
excuse not to do if you don’t have ten
fucking minutes for your life you don’t
have a life it was with me on this day i
and by the way when you get on the
airplane what’s the first thing they
teach you when they get on the airplane
they say okay here’s how to putting your
seatbelt as if you don’t know and then
they say in the result of the loss of
oxygen what’s gonna happen these masks
can drop down they have oxygen and the
first thing you just grab it and put it
on your child it’s the first thing you
gotta do is they tell you what do they
tell you put on yourself you selfish
bastard what are you talking about
why do they tell you to do that because
if you don’t take care of you you can’t
take care of them
and what a good metaphor for our lives
yes give it up for that piece as well
so we’re priming ting care of ourselves
we take everybody else to is it make
sense so what we’re gonna do is we’re
gonna do our three sets of ten three
sets of ten three sets of ten then with
our eyes closed the first three and a
third minutes of the ten minutes is
we’re gonna focus on three experiences
in our life that we can feel deeply
grateful for three of them and we’re not
gonna think in that cause this this this
we’re taking one at a time spend about a
minute each and step into that moment in
your life that you can feel grateful for
it could be a little thing or a big
thing it doesn’t matter what matters is
that you go there you know if I ask you
what’s it like to be on a roller coaster
and you remember time you know the
roller coaster and you picture yourself
in a roller coaster over there you’re
gonna give me a very different feedback
then if I get you to imagine the moment
you were going over the edge and you’re
in the front seat
then you’re gonna show me a different
result you want your gratitude to be in
the front seat not an intellectual
gratitude out there so I take three
minutes a minute each I come up with
something different every time
I think of a moment that I could feel so
grateful for a blessed moment a
beautiful moment a loving moment a
sacred moment and I step in and feel it
and flood myself with the gratitude and
if you remember why we use gratitude
sounds corny right but why from a
scientific perspective remember what I
showed you the other day when someone’s
frustrated when they’re angry we can
measure your EKG in your egt we can see
what your heart and your brain are both
doing and they are all over the place
they don’t match they’re jagged you
remember the image but when you breathe
in your heart and you put some focus in
your heart where focus goes energy and
so what happens is you get unified and
all of a sudden the brain and the heart
become one tracing energy it’s crazy
that’s the flow state so when you’re
grateful gratitude is the antidote to
the two emotions that mess up most
people’s lives
what are they anger and what fear those
are two Biggie’s
you cannot be grateful and angry
simultaneously that’s the beauty of it
it’s the antidote to anger you can’t be
fearful and grateful simultaneously so
the more you cultivate and prime
yourself for gratitude the more you can
push through anger and fear very quickly
does that make sense so yeah the
scientific this is not like positive
thinking bullshit it’s about what
actually changes biochemistry and what
will get you to wire and fire a new set
of patterns that are more elegant more
rewarding more impactful than the ones
that society will condition you to do if
you let it okay so three minutes and
then in each and by the way when I do it
I usually pick two strong ones and then
I pick something really simple and I
make myself really feel the gratitude
like the wind on my fish or the smell of
the ocean if I’m doing it outside by my
house or the look on one of my
children’s faces and I’ll just fill that
up and the reason is if all you do is
get grateful about big things you’re
gonna miss most of life you know the
guys that astronauts that went to the
moon
think about that journey think about as
a child these guys dreamed of being an
astronaut they competed with hundreds of
thousands of people and then a few of
these guys get on that rocket and go to
the moon
imagine you walked on the moon you look
back and you see that picture we’ve all
seen of the blue-green earth that’s so
beautiful and it’s not a photograph they
were the ones there seeing him talk
about an experience and then they face
their fears and come in they land
successfully in the ocean and they’re
rescued and then there’s a ticker tape
parade in New York they shake the
president’s hand and now what do you do
you’re 32 years old and you walked on
the fucking moon what do you do now for
adventure and if you study the
astronauts Buzz Aldrin all these guys
had a chance to give you most of not all
but three of them almost all of them
wrote about describe what happened to
them they no longer had a compelling
future hello in addition I walked in the
everything else is small by nature and
as a result they got depressed most of
them abused alcohol and drugs why
because they’re looking for adventure on
a moon run and they missed the adventure
in a smile
so I train myself daily pry myself to
find those little things that are so
beautiful and feel them because the more
I filled and the more I can give that to
someone else the more I can move that
direction the more I can enjoy as well
it’s putting the mask on me first
who’s with me on this a-ha okay so
that’s after we do our breathing step
one of the three steps first the
breathing then the three steps one
gratitude three minutes roughly a minute
each three different moments you can
feel grateful for and feel it enjoy it
savor it living it next three in the
third minutes second thing you’re gonna
do is you’re gonna feel the energy in
you and do a prayer or a blessing now I
know many of you are not religious I’m
not suggesting you need to be but almost
all of us know there’s a power in love
you know if God was love and we didn’t
come up with all the other names for God
you wouldn’t have much argument between
people so imagine that what you’re gonna
do is imagine that energy of God the
universe whatever you want imagine
coming down empty like a white light and
breathing it down in through your body
down your legs into the earth and then
coming back up and out against us and it
comes back up and you’d have to do this
with your hands but I’m trying to show
you what the feeling is and while you’re
doing this what are you gonna do during
those three minutes is you’re gonna give
thanks it’s like a prayer saying heal my
body my mind my emotions strengthen me
make me the best I can be strengthen my
love my passion my courage whatever it
is that you value in yourself you feel
that happening of the three minutes I do
that for about an in and a half
I then take that energy through me and I
send it in a circle around to my
children to my family to my friends and
my co-workers to my associates to my
partners to the people I meet in the
street to my clients and so it’s taking
the energy now you might sound like
Lulu’s stuff but the idea of allowing
your nervous system to heal and
strengthen just the focus of that alone
for you is strong and sending to others
as well so you can think it’s all
bullshit but try it and decide based on
the experience that you do in a while I
think you’re gonna find
it’ll look deep in that sense of
gratitude because it becomes not only
gratitude but healing or strengthening
and a gift to those you love the last
three minutes I call three to throt
you’re gonna think of three things that
you really want to accomplish or achieve
but instead of like hoping it happens or
thinking about it happening you’re gonna
step in your mind and experience it as
if it’s done you’re gonna see it or feel
it breathe it celebrate it like you’ve
already achieved the goal what you’re
doing is training your reticular
activating system that we talked about
this the other day the part of your
brain that notices things when you did
you know before you bought that car
outfit you never noticed them now you
buy that car outfit those cars and
outfits are everywhere how come cuz your
Ras now the Olin says this is important
I need to pay attention to this well
when you get clear what you want and you
see this done and feel it and create it
in your mind and your heart and you
celebrate it there’s a sense of
certainty then there’s your body and
your reticular activating system starts
to go to work on making it happen so you
spent a minute each of those so
basically three minutes each three to 30
minutes each and we’re done all right
how many one try all right then let’s do
it so before you do stand up shake your
body out and if you’re gonna relax the
faster way to relax is first push
yourself from a high level of energy
that it allows you to drop deeper so
find a partner and go ionia when you say
I own you it means I challenge you I’ve
got more energy than you all person
yeah yeah are you unaccounted for ELT of
their energy with celebration like the
little pig one is do it one too
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