have you ever thought to run away from
your home
be honest
no I thought about it and then I ran
I remember I was in ninth standard and
me and my friend so Dave after the ninth
standard exam and just before the result
every day we used to meet and discuss
only one question what if you fail and
we knew in our hearts if was not
required in that question but when we
decided that we are living in a very
small city Nasik and the city is too
small for our dreams our dreams were big
they were different and we decided to
run away to Mumbai to achieve our big
dreams but only if we fail and the
raziel they arrived
I still remember our going to school and
standing in the in front of the display
board and checking my name pppp Praveen
fail and ssss fail we decided to go home
and is a mute goodbye your family
friends for the last time I knocked the
door my elder brother was sitting inside
he asked me Praveen what happened I said
no result is not today’s tomorrow asked
him what is mama
and he said mama has gone out today’s
your reserved that’s why he’s gone out
to buy some sweets oops
time has come
so I decided his sigmoid goodbye to
everyone to my brother that cricket bat
but at school back a choose to that door
for that cycle to that gate and I
reached the road I was walking on the
road and I reached the first point where
we were supposed to meet my friend but
he failed twice that day one in maths
and then in friendship he didn’t come
I thought what I should do shall I shall
I go back or shall I move and they
decided to move
I reached Mumbai was 14 years old
wearing half pant it was red in color
yellow t-shirt reached Mumbai in and I
slept on the platform brought up in the
morning in the morning I thought I
should work now to find some money so I
can eat so with whatever wisdom 14 years
old child had I started approaching
shops and my unique selling point was I
know English I know Hindi I know Marathi
give me walk and they started rejecting
me but one shot and I still remember
when as standing in front of that shop
the first thing dragged my attention was
a red colour box a sweet box with lot of
white colour sweet pieces we call it
beta in it I said wow they are looking
so tempting and then I said uncle I need
job and to my surprise they said yes I
have one job for you
the for a moment I thought I will go
inside world inside the shop will also
enjoy paid us and then he said you have
but you have to just go behind the shop
there’s some construction work going on
you have to walk there I said ok a whole
day I was just passing bricks it’s it’s
tiring it’s boring and around 5 p.m. in
the evening I came back and the first
thing again dragged my attention was
again that red colour balls but this
time there was only one sweet pea in it
I knew my name was written on it I said
uncle my walk is over give me some money
he looked at me and said are you crazy
today’s Tuesday we give money only on
Friday you have to still work for next 3
days oops I said I have no money I need
money to eat I waited for 15 minutes 30
minutes
45 minutes and all this 45 minutes my
eyes were playing between uncle and beta
uncle and beta but after 45 minutes
neither I got beta nor my money again
went back to station slept on the
platform next day was amazing
fortunately I reached one temple where
they were serving free food whole day
life is so cool I was just eating and
enjoying but then something happened on
day 3 which has changed my life and
today wherever I am is because of that
one realization day 3 morning I was
standing on the other station surrounded
by so many people and then I decided to
go home I didn’t decide to go home
because I was thirsty or I was hungry or
I was I was tired or scared the only
reason I decided to go home because even
in all among these people in that crowd
I was feeling lonely and then I realized
that my existence on this planet is not
even noticeable without my family and
without my friends at very early age at
very early age in my life I realized the
most important thing you have in your
life a people and that one value has
shaped my life and today wherever I am
whether I’m running a digital marketing
company I have a team of hundred people
I love to do this I’m doing this
successfully because I love my team I’m
a mountain am a certified Mountaineer I
has solar travel the only reason I love
to do this because I’d love to meet
strangers I love people I do a lot of
storytelling real-life storytelling and
the only reason I do love I love
real-life storytelling cause whenever we
share stories on the stage we know
there’s someone sitting in that crowd
who wanted that story more than oxygen I
but unfortunately unfortunately even
though this world is densely populated
there’s so many people while feeling
lonely there’s one study in us saying
that more than 72% Americans feel lonely
and loneliness is dangerous as for one
health study it is as dangerous as
smoking 15 cigarettes per day oh there’s
a difference between sitting lonely and
feeling lonely don’t mix that one can
sit lonely and enjoy a life but that
loneliness is painful one can feel
lonely even in this crowd right now one
can feel lonely even in the class one
can feel lonely even in marriage and
today one of the key reason why people
are feeling lonely is this social media
there are so many documentation there
are so many studies available that
because of social media it’s pushing
people towards loneliness but my
question is how social media is designed
to bring people together how can social
media drifting people away from each
other and we have to understand this was
answer this this question is very simple
the only reason why people are moving
towards loneliness because of social
media is this social media is powerful
very powerful so powerful that it can
create huge impact on your mental health
and most of the time that impact is good
but many times that impact is not good
it’s negative it can cause stress it can
cause maybe some emotional trauma and
that leads to loneliness now let me talk
about three key reasons how social media
can impact the mental health and the
first most common reason is this social
media can take your ability to live in
the present so when I was working on
this presentation
I decided to separate myself from the my
office and I decided to sit here in
national park and when I was working I
thought let me have a reality check
art people because this is the national
power people were sitting there they
have come to enjoy nature so I thought
let me have let me see people what
exactly they are doing are they really
enjoying
then living in the movement or they are
busy in social media so I decided to go
to and walk for 15 minutes and take some
pictures and I was very surprised but
not pleasantly because I saw some images
like this there were leaks but people
were not enjoying lakes there were trees
there were music of birds but people
were not enjoying that they were good
amazing breeze but people were not
enjoying all that people were busy in
social media
they were busy in their mobile there’s
one TEDx talk saying that people who can
live in the present can live for
healthier happier compared to those who
can’t live in the present the number one
reason how social media can impact your
mental health is this your ability to
speak ability to live in the present
number two reason now be honest how many
of you are only taking selfies this
morning many of you might have taken
selfies this morning you are very honest
now what exactly selfie is I imagine for
a moment that I am taking a selfie now
but if I take a selfie now what is going
in my mind okay let me take a selfie
now what is the monologue going in my
mind okay I have taken a selfie now I
will post this on social media or maybe
on Facebook on install on LinkedIn it’s
not selfie is actually cell free you are
selling your post selling your image on
it’s not free because the moment you do
that people will start giving values to
it and the currency they use is show
some social currency your likes your
comments how many of you feel happy when
you get a lot of likes on your post but
even the reverse is equally possible
right you don’t like it when people
don’t like your post unfortunately there
are cases where people have attempted
suicide just because they have not got
significant likes on their post and what
is exactly happening we are giving power
to other to decide our work they are
deciding our world and when we get less
valuation we feel unhappy and when we
feel unhappy it again impacts your
mental health the second reason why it
impact social media impacts your mental
health is because you lose confidence
because you are getting less valuation
from people but there is a reverse
there’s another part of the story this
other side of the coin also I imagine
for a moment this selfie which I have
just taken I am posting on Facebook now
many of my friends my family those with
whom I have shared my college school
they will see this many of them will say
wow and few of them will say is it he
failed in nine stranded
I was far better than him in my life I
worked better than him how he has
achieved this why I am not achieving
this and then you face self-doubt you
start doubting your own potential
because on social media we don’t put our
efforts we just put our results and when
you lose your ability to stay in the
movement when you lose your confidence
when you lose your self we start
doubting your own ability your mental
health is not good and then you move
towards loneliness so why should you
well you should use social media then if
it is so creating so much a problem why
we should use social media and this
exactly we have to answer that why we
should use social media not at least for
this
we have to first change our perspective
towards social media social media is
there to share not to flare let me use
this incidence of my life to put this
put things in perspective she is my very
good friend her name is Diwali she’s
100% blind
I met her first time in Indian instead
of blind in Mumbai and we were playing a
simple storytelling where we are
encouraging people to come on the stage
and share stories but before
storytelling you were playing a very
simple game where person has to take or
choose one word which represents your
personality and she decided to choose
word I’m good observer excuse me and she
said yes I’m a good observer not this
coming from a blind person 100% blind
person means a lot for people like us
who believe we can observe but very
surprisingly after few days I go down I
got a request from her on LinkedIn and
the two questions came in my mind how
she’s using social media and second why
she’s using social media and I called
her now answer to this question how is
very simple she said Praveen a lot of
screen reading software is available we
can just open that and it tells us
exactly what is there on the screen but
the answer to why is the heart of the
story she said Praveen I use social
media to send hi to people and what do
you mean by that
we sent hi to start conversation and
what kind of conversation I said with
who what kind of people who like to
start conversation she gave me two
example one is this she said she is one
of my friend bond mountaineer
mountaineer she is a writer and she’s
very successful but she is again a blind
100% blind that is the first you
use of social media because only we said
I want to be like her the first use of
social media is to find people who have
achieved what you want to achieve in
your life and then she gave me one more
example she said there’s one more friend
on social media
Pallavi is a good blogger she writes a
lot and this person had want to start
blogging Paulo is sharing a lot of stuff
how to start blogging how to write this
is helping that person the second use of
social media is to help people who want
to achieve what you have achieved that
is the only simple use of social media
social media is there to share your
stories now when I say share stories
many of you might be thinking oh come on
my life there are no stories in my life
my life is very simple so let me share a
very quick story I remember I was doing
a storytelling event in Mumbai and there
were kids ranging from 8 years to 14
years and one 13 years old girl came on
the stage and she shared a story she
said when I was nine years old my
grandfather got paralyzed is how her
body was completely paralyzed and he was
always shouting screaming and even at
that age I used to feel that why is
there at my home even at that age I was
under stress then one day suddenly I
decided to sit beside him and for the
first time I was doing that and I still
remember that moment was my grandfather
he tapped me on my shoulder smiled at me
just brushed my hairs from the forehead
for the first time I felt he loves me he
cares for me but within a week he died
now the reason why she was sharing that
story because there are people in your
life you don’t like them they are not
like the way you
but still love them because sometimes
when you realize that you love them or
they love it’s too late
and when you she was sharing that story
on the stage I saw one child around ten
years old started crying like a small
six years old build baby I went to my
said hey what happened and he said
so even I behave like this with my
grandfather and one story has changed
his perspective that is the use of
social media when I say that you should
share your stories not about how much
you are earning because that is not the
real asset the real asset is your values
your beliefs social media is there to
share your stories your values your
beliefs so people can achieve what you
have achieved in your life this is the
best use of social media if you are on
social media find people who have
achieved what you want to achieve follow
them listen to their stories if you are
on social media share your stories share
your beliefs
share your thoughts but there are people
who want to be like you let them learn
from you and reach where you are already
reached I would like to congratulate
everyone sitting here because we are
living in the era where we can connect
with people in just one click social
media is very powerful use that and
those who are not using social media
please start using it because the
biggest misuse of social media is not
using it thank you very much [Applause]
your home
be honest
no I thought about it and then I ran
I remember I was in ninth standard and
me and my friend so Dave after the ninth
standard exam and just before the result
every day we used to meet and discuss
only one question what if you fail and
we knew in our hearts if was not
required in that question but when we
decided that we are living in a very
small city Nasik and the city is too
small for our dreams our dreams were big
they were different and we decided to
run away to Mumbai to achieve our big
dreams but only if we fail and the
raziel they arrived
I still remember our going to school and
standing in the in front of the display
board and checking my name pppp Praveen
fail and ssss fail we decided to go home
and is a mute goodbye your family
friends for the last time I knocked the
door my elder brother was sitting inside
he asked me Praveen what happened I said
no result is not today’s tomorrow asked
him what is mama
and he said mama has gone out today’s
your reserved that’s why he’s gone out
to buy some sweets oops
time has come
so I decided his sigmoid goodbye to
everyone to my brother that cricket bat
but at school back a choose to that door
for that cycle to that gate and I
reached the road I was walking on the
road and I reached the first point where
we were supposed to meet my friend but
he failed twice that day one in maths
and then in friendship he didn’t come
I thought what I should do shall I shall
I go back or shall I move and they
decided to move
I reached Mumbai was 14 years old
wearing half pant it was red in color
yellow t-shirt reached Mumbai in and I
slept on the platform brought up in the
morning in the morning I thought I
should work now to find some money so I
can eat so with whatever wisdom 14 years
old child had I started approaching
shops and my unique selling point was I
know English I know Hindi I know Marathi
give me walk and they started rejecting
me but one shot and I still remember
when as standing in front of that shop
the first thing dragged my attention was
a red colour box a sweet box with lot of
white colour sweet pieces we call it
beta in it I said wow they are looking
so tempting and then I said uncle I need
job and to my surprise they said yes I
have one job for you
the for a moment I thought I will go
inside world inside the shop will also
enjoy paid us and then he said you have
but you have to just go behind the shop
there’s some construction work going on
you have to walk there I said ok a whole
day I was just passing bricks it’s it’s
tiring it’s boring and around 5 p.m. in
the evening I came back and the first
thing again dragged my attention was
again that red colour balls but this
time there was only one sweet pea in it
I knew my name was written on it I said
uncle my walk is over give me some money
he looked at me and said are you crazy
today’s Tuesday we give money only on
Friday you have to still work for next 3
days oops I said I have no money I need
money to eat I waited for 15 minutes 30
minutes
45 minutes and all this 45 minutes my
eyes were playing between uncle and beta
uncle and beta but after 45 minutes
neither I got beta nor my money again
went back to station slept on the
platform next day was amazing
fortunately I reached one temple where
they were serving free food whole day
life is so cool I was just eating and
enjoying but then something happened on
day 3 which has changed my life and
today wherever I am is because of that
one realization day 3 morning I was
standing on the other station surrounded
by so many people and then I decided to
go home I didn’t decide to go home
because I was thirsty or I was hungry or
I was I was tired or scared the only
reason I decided to go home because even
in all among these people in that crowd
I was feeling lonely and then I realized
that my existence on this planet is not
even noticeable without my family and
without my friends at very early age at
very early age in my life I realized the
most important thing you have in your
life a people and that one value has
shaped my life and today wherever I am
whether I’m running a digital marketing
company I have a team of hundred people
I love to do this I’m doing this
successfully because I love my team I’m
a mountain am a certified Mountaineer I
has solar travel the only reason I love
to do this because I’d love to meet
strangers I love people I do a lot of
storytelling real-life storytelling and
the only reason I do love I love
real-life storytelling cause whenever we
share stories on the stage we know
there’s someone sitting in that crowd
who wanted that story more than oxygen I
but unfortunately unfortunately even
though this world is densely populated
there’s so many people while feeling
lonely there’s one study in us saying
that more than 72% Americans feel lonely
and loneliness is dangerous as for one
health study it is as dangerous as
smoking 15 cigarettes per day oh there’s
a difference between sitting lonely and
feeling lonely don’t mix that one can
sit lonely and enjoy a life but that
loneliness is painful one can feel
lonely even in this crowd right now one
can feel lonely even in the class one
can feel lonely even in marriage and
today one of the key reason why people
are feeling lonely is this social media
there are so many documentation there
are so many studies available that
because of social media it’s pushing
people towards loneliness but my
question is how social media is designed
to bring people together how can social
media drifting people away from each
other and we have to understand this was
answer this this question is very simple
the only reason why people are moving
towards loneliness because of social
media is this social media is powerful
very powerful so powerful that it can
create huge impact on your mental health
and most of the time that impact is good
but many times that impact is not good
it’s negative it can cause stress it can
cause maybe some emotional trauma and
that leads to loneliness now let me talk
about three key reasons how social media
can impact the mental health and the
first most common reason is this social
media can take your ability to live in
the present so when I was working on
this presentation
I decided to separate myself from the my
office and I decided to sit here in
national park and when I was working I
thought let me have a reality check
art people because this is the national
power people were sitting there they
have come to enjoy nature so I thought
let me have let me see people what
exactly they are doing are they really
enjoying
then living in the movement or they are
busy in social media so I decided to go
to and walk for 15 minutes and take some
pictures and I was very surprised but
not pleasantly because I saw some images
like this there were leaks but people
were not enjoying lakes there were trees
there were music of birds but people
were not enjoying that they were good
amazing breeze but people were not
enjoying all that people were busy in
social media
they were busy in their mobile there’s
one TEDx talk saying that people who can
live in the present can live for
healthier happier compared to those who
can’t live in the present the number one
reason how social media can impact your
mental health is this your ability to
speak ability to live in the present
number two reason now be honest how many
of you are only taking selfies this
morning many of you might have taken
selfies this morning you are very honest
now what exactly selfie is I imagine for
a moment that I am taking a selfie now
but if I take a selfie now what is going
in my mind okay let me take a selfie
now what is the monologue going in my
mind okay I have taken a selfie now I
will post this on social media or maybe
on Facebook on install on LinkedIn it’s
not selfie is actually cell free you are
selling your post selling your image on
it’s not free because the moment you do
that people will start giving values to
it and the currency they use is show
some social currency your likes your
comments how many of you feel happy when
you get a lot of likes on your post but
even the reverse is equally possible
right you don’t like it when people
don’t like your post unfortunately there
are cases where people have attempted
suicide just because they have not got
significant likes on their post and what
is exactly happening we are giving power
to other to decide our work they are
deciding our world and when we get less
valuation we feel unhappy and when we
feel unhappy it again impacts your
mental health the second reason why it
impact social media impacts your mental
health is because you lose confidence
because you are getting less valuation
from people but there is a reverse
there’s another part of the story this
other side of the coin also I imagine
for a moment this selfie which I have
just taken I am posting on Facebook now
many of my friends my family those with
whom I have shared my college school
they will see this many of them will say
wow and few of them will say is it he
failed in nine stranded
I was far better than him in my life I
worked better than him how he has
achieved this why I am not achieving
this and then you face self-doubt you
start doubting your own potential
because on social media we don’t put our
efforts we just put our results and when
you lose your ability to stay in the
movement when you lose your confidence
when you lose your self we start
doubting your own ability your mental
health is not good and then you move
towards loneliness so why should you
well you should use social media then if
it is so creating so much a problem why
we should use social media and this
exactly we have to answer that why we
should use social media not at least for
this
we have to first change our perspective
towards social media social media is
there to share not to flare let me use
this incidence of my life to put this
put things in perspective she is my very
good friend her name is Diwali she’s
100% blind
I met her first time in Indian instead
of blind in Mumbai and we were playing a
simple storytelling where we are
encouraging people to come on the stage
and share stories but before
storytelling you were playing a very
simple game where person has to take or
choose one word which represents your
personality and she decided to choose
word I’m good observer excuse me and she
said yes I’m a good observer not this
coming from a blind person 100% blind
person means a lot for people like us
who believe we can observe but very
surprisingly after few days I go down I
got a request from her on LinkedIn and
the two questions came in my mind how
she’s using social media and second why
she’s using social media and I called
her now answer to this question how is
very simple she said Praveen a lot of
screen reading software is available we
can just open that and it tells us
exactly what is there on the screen but
the answer to why is the heart of the
story she said Praveen I use social
media to send hi to people and what do
you mean by that
we sent hi to start conversation and
what kind of conversation I said with
who what kind of people who like to
start conversation she gave me two
example one is this she said she is one
of my friend bond mountaineer
mountaineer she is a writer and she’s
very successful but she is again a blind
100% blind that is the first you
use of social media because only we said
I want to be like her the first use of
social media is to find people who have
achieved what you want to achieve in
your life and then she gave me one more
example she said there’s one more friend
on social media
Pallavi is a good blogger she writes a
lot and this person had want to start
blogging Paulo is sharing a lot of stuff
how to start blogging how to write this
is helping that person the second use of
social media is to help people who want
to achieve what you have achieved that
is the only simple use of social media
social media is there to share your
stories now when I say share stories
many of you might be thinking oh come on
my life there are no stories in my life
my life is very simple so let me share a
very quick story I remember I was doing
a storytelling event in Mumbai and there
were kids ranging from 8 years to 14
years and one 13 years old girl came on
the stage and she shared a story she
said when I was nine years old my
grandfather got paralyzed is how her
body was completely paralyzed and he was
always shouting screaming and even at
that age I used to feel that why is
there at my home even at that age I was
under stress then one day suddenly I
decided to sit beside him and for the
first time I was doing that and I still
remember that moment was my grandfather
he tapped me on my shoulder smiled at me
just brushed my hairs from the forehead
for the first time I felt he loves me he
cares for me but within a week he died
now the reason why she was sharing that
story because there are people in your
life you don’t like them they are not
like the way you
but still love them because sometimes
when you realize that you love them or
they love it’s too late
and when you she was sharing that story
on the stage I saw one child around ten
years old started crying like a small
six years old build baby I went to my
said hey what happened and he said
so even I behave like this with my
grandfather and one story has changed
his perspective that is the use of
social media when I say that you should
share your stories not about how much
you are earning because that is not the
real asset the real asset is your values
your beliefs social media is there to
share your stories your values your
beliefs so people can achieve what you
have achieved in your life this is the
best use of social media if you are on
social media find people who have
achieved what you want to achieve follow
them listen to their stories if you are
on social media share your stories share
your beliefs
share your thoughts but there are people
who want to be like you let them learn
from you and reach where you are already
reached I would like to congratulate
everyone sitting here because we are
living in the era where we can connect
with people in just one click social
media is very powerful use that and
those who are not using social media
please start using it because the
biggest misuse of social media is not
using it thank you very much [Applause]
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