when I was 20 I had dreams I wanted to
live abroad explore new cultures new
countries meet new people taste new food
that was my dream but there I was twenty
years old and living in a town working
really hard living in a town of my
parents and I felt like I was swimming
in a swimming pool I felt my future was
like this straight lane in a swimming
pool the same town the same husband the
same job the same parents the same
everything the rest of my life and I
wanted to swim in the ocean
amongst other fish of all colors and all
sizes and sharks because yeah they’re
sharks in the ocean and when I talked
about my dream to my parents in my
husband today they looked at me and I
smiled and they said Rachel what are you
talking about you have everything going
for you you earn good money you have
clients here you husband with your
parents live closeby I mean what more
can you wish for they were right but I
didn’t want to grow old thinking what if
I had done it what if and so I did
fast-forward my life I can now say that
I’ve lived in seven different countries
I speak six almost seven different
languages and I did achieve my dream and
I have new dreams like standing on a
stage like this now how did I do that
I’ll tell you in just a minute
first let me ask you a question we all
have dreams good ones bad ones
do you also daydream about your future
and do you put a deadline on it six
months one year 10 years or are you the
type of person that says one day I’ll
open up my own business someday I’ll
play the guitar one day I will lose
weight we all have dreams but only few
of us achieve those dreams why is that
you know I have a mission I want to
inspire people to build their confidence
that’s what I do
so I talk to a lot of people and I ask
this question and I get all sorts of
answers things like yeah but I have a
family and kids I can’t achieve my dream
or I don’t have enough money in the bank
or I’m too old okay so then I say well
look at your situation right now imagine
you’re living your dream how would you
feel and then I see sparking eyes and a
big smile and and I hear answers like I
can just see myself my own restaurant
with my name and my logo on it or I
would just love having my own
consultancy career and working from home
picking the kids up from school and if I
wait just a little bit longer there it
comes a three-letter word but that is
too difficult but what will everybody
say but it’s too complicated huh is that
true yeah I think so oh you think why
are so many of us stuck because we think
too much but that’s okay we have 80,000
thoughts in a day it’s normal that we
have so many thoughts but it’s when
those thoughts are negative that they
bring us down I can’t do this I’m not
good enough
if you repeat that over and over again
you’ll start believing it
you see our thoughts our stories in our
mind they lead to feelings and they lead
to actions behaviors so the good news is
if you want to get unstuck you have to
change those stories imagine a first
date a romantic candlelight dinner you
see the cross from each other you look
each other deep into the eyes you feel
those butterflies that chemistry that
click that everybody’s talking about you
feel on top of the world you picture
yourselves together in the future a
house together a holiday together maybe
kids together the next morning you wake
up and you still have that smile on your
face and you take your phone by your
side and you expect a call and a message
and you don’t leave your phone whole day
long and you can go to the bathroom with
your phone and by the end of the night
there’s no call and there is no message
now there’s different options you could
think oh no I will never find anybody
I will stay alone the rest of my life
I’m totally giving up on dating it’s
nothing for me oh I’m just gonna stay
miserable and alone and basically you’ll
feel bad the rest of the night the rest
of the week
maybe the coming months or you can say
oh well that person isn’t right for me
but hey there’s plenty of fish in the
water I’ll just go and find myself
somebody else and you know what I had a
great night last night I want to do that
again so you continue and you go on and
find your next date different stories
different feelings different actions so
if you want to change something you have
to change those stories is it easy is it
difficult if it would be that simple we
would all be famous rock stars or movie
stars it takes effort but there is a
saying if we always do what we always
did we get what we always got now I hear
you you have Rachel but we love to do
what we always do it feels good it’s
easy it’s like an automatic robot it’s
feels comfortable true but comfort is
the enemy of change it’s when we’re
uncomfortable that leads to change in
action so take that effort and energy
and change those thoughts from negative
to positive and with positive I mean
thoughts that help yourself achieve your
goal change it from I can’t – I will I’m
no good I’m awesome seeing the glass
half-empty
– filling your glass half-full stop
dreaming and start doing
it’s like when you bake a cake as
anybody ever tried baking a cake I did –
I’m terrible in cooking but I tried so
what do you do you follow a recipe you
take a bowl you take flour some sugar
mix it together
some eggs and basically by the end of
the recipe you put it in the oven and 45
minutes later being your cake is ready
it’s the same thing in life you take
small steps there is no such thing as
taking the ball put again in the oven
and ping cake is ready
no can’t run before you walk I
interviewed this man and he story’s
amazing so I really want to share that
with you his name is Steven as a child
he had a stutter he stuttered in school
he was laughed at joked at ridiculous
when a teacher called up his name he
just wanted to crawl away and hide
forever
he felt miserable until one day he made
the decision in his mind and he said I
want to change
so he took small steps first he called
up a phone company and asked for some
product information very scary for him
calling up making a conversation with
somebody you don’t know but he did he
did it again and again until he felt a
bit better and then the next step walk
into a store and ask for some
information again very scary seeing
somebody face to face making
conversation with a stutter but he did
and he did it several times in class he
started raising his hand long story
short he is now a very professional
public speaker and he loves it what did
he do small steps so think about what
can be your smallest actionable step
towards your dream you know when I moved
abroad every single time I took a lot of
small steps talking to people visiting
countries applying for jobs I never
jumped in the ocean I look at the ocean
I look at what’s out there I put a toe
in the water and a foot and another foot
small steps you want to publish your
book start by writing a paragraph
you know another reason why people are
not achieving their dreams is the fear
of failure the fear of making mistakes
now who has never made any mistakes in
their lives
I made a lot of mistakes a lot of
mistakes but I learned a lot as well
relationships I had many relationships
hey I even got a divorce does it mean I
will never find a relationship anymore
of course not but I’ll learn from every
relationship I learned what I like and
what I don’t like what I want and what I
don’t want in a man jobs I had many jobs
dream jobs that ended up a disaster let
me tell you about this one time I landed
this job title commercial manager of the
whole west of France I was so happy I
could choose any car I wanted I chose a
car with so many options it could
practically drive itself
I could choose where I live so I chose
an apartment right by the beach
I received the latest smartphone the
latest laptop and I could just see
myself driving by the ocean every
weekend by the beach I could I couldn’t
wait to pack up all my boxes and move to
this new country until several months
into the job I was exhausted so stressed
out I nearly a burnout I I hardly saw my
partner because I was sleeping in hotels
five nights a week
I loved my car but I had to drive to the
physical therapist every week for my
back pain the beach in the weekends
hardly ever because I had to write so
many reports of the past week and plan
my coming week really terrible within
one year I quit and I left mistake yeah
maybe do I regret it no way no because I
learned so many things I learned about
the culture the country the people there
the job as a matter of fact since then
when I go into a job interview I ask
more questions than the interviewer
itself I just want to make sure but
mistakes I think they’re important
I think mistakes are a good thing we
learn from our mistakes and there is one
cool
I want to share with you because I can’t
say it any better I never make the same
mistake twice I make it five or six
times just to make sure it’s like when
you’re driving a car you’re driving
you’re going to your destination maybe a
short distance maybe a long distance and
you have this rearview mirror and what
you see in there your past
your past is behind you so it’s good to
look in that rearview mirror once in a
while because your past is where you
come from your past made you who you are
today so use that use it to create your
future but don’t keep your eyes stuck on
that rearview mirror or you will crash
and remember you are the one driving you
are in that driver’s seat nobody else
you are responsible for your life so
life changes and so can you we can think
thoughts and stories in our head that
can mean anything we can take small
steps one foot after the other into the
ocean we can take a look in that
rearview mirror and learn from what we
see in there we all have dreams so what
is your next step
you
live abroad explore new cultures new
countries meet new people taste new food
that was my dream but there I was twenty
years old and living in a town working
really hard living in a town of my
parents and I felt like I was swimming
in a swimming pool I felt my future was
like this straight lane in a swimming
pool the same town the same husband the
same job the same parents the same
everything the rest of my life and I
wanted to swim in the ocean
amongst other fish of all colors and all
sizes and sharks because yeah they’re
sharks in the ocean and when I talked
about my dream to my parents in my
husband today they looked at me and I
smiled and they said Rachel what are you
talking about you have everything going
for you you earn good money you have
clients here you husband with your
parents live closeby I mean what more
can you wish for they were right but I
didn’t want to grow old thinking what if
I had done it what if and so I did
fast-forward my life I can now say that
I’ve lived in seven different countries
I speak six almost seven different
languages and I did achieve my dream and
I have new dreams like standing on a
stage like this now how did I do that
I’ll tell you in just a minute
first let me ask you a question we all
have dreams good ones bad ones
do you also daydream about your future
and do you put a deadline on it six
months one year 10 years or are you the
type of person that says one day I’ll
open up my own business someday I’ll
play the guitar one day I will lose
weight we all have dreams but only few
of us achieve those dreams why is that
you know I have a mission I want to
inspire people to build their confidence
that’s what I do
so I talk to a lot of people and I ask
this question and I get all sorts of
answers things like yeah but I have a
family and kids I can’t achieve my dream
or I don’t have enough money in the bank
or I’m too old okay so then I say well
look at your situation right now imagine
you’re living your dream how would you
feel and then I see sparking eyes and a
big smile and and I hear answers like I
can just see myself my own restaurant
with my name and my logo on it or I
would just love having my own
consultancy career and working from home
picking the kids up from school and if I
wait just a little bit longer there it
comes a three-letter word but that is
too difficult but what will everybody
say but it’s too complicated huh is that
true yeah I think so oh you think why
are so many of us stuck because we think
too much but that’s okay we have 80,000
thoughts in a day it’s normal that we
have so many thoughts but it’s when
those thoughts are negative that they
bring us down I can’t do this I’m not
good enough
if you repeat that over and over again
you’ll start believing it
you see our thoughts our stories in our
mind they lead to feelings and they lead
to actions behaviors so the good news is
if you want to get unstuck you have to
change those stories imagine a first
date a romantic candlelight dinner you
see the cross from each other you look
each other deep into the eyes you feel
those butterflies that chemistry that
click that everybody’s talking about you
feel on top of the world you picture
yourselves together in the future a
house together a holiday together maybe
kids together the next morning you wake
up and you still have that smile on your
face and you take your phone by your
side and you expect a call and a message
and you don’t leave your phone whole day
long and you can go to the bathroom with
your phone and by the end of the night
there’s no call and there is no message
now there’s different options you could
think oh no I will never find anybody
I will stay alone the rest of my life
I’m totally giving up on dating it’s
nothing for me oh I’m just gonna stay
miserable and alone and basically you’ll
feel bad the rest of the night the rest
of the week
maybe the coming months or you can say
oh well that person isn’t right for me
but hey there’s plenty of fish in the
water I’ll just go and find myself
somebody else and you know what I had a
great night last night I want to do that
again so you continue and you go on and
find your next date different stories
different feelings different actions so
if you want to change something you have
to change those stories is it easy is it
difficult if it would be that simple we
would all be famous rock stars or movie
stars it takes effort but there is a
saying if we always do what we always
did we get what we always got now I hear
you you have Rachel but we love to do
what we always do it feels good it’s
easy it’s like an automatic robot it’s
feels comfortable true but comfort is
the enemy of change it’s when we’re
uncomfortable that leads to change in
action so take that effort and energy
and change those thoughts from negative
to positive and with positive I mean
thoughts that help yourself achieve your
goal change it from I can’t – I will I’m
no good I’m awesome seeing the glass
half-empty
– filling your glass half-full stop
dreaming and start doing
it’s like when you bake a cake as
anybody ever tried baking a cake I did –
I’m terrible in cooking but I tried so
what do you do you follow a recipe you
take a bowl you take flour some sugar
mix it together
some eggs and basically by the end of
the recipe you put it in the oven and 45
minutes later being your cake is ready
it’s the same thing in life you take
small steps there is no such thing as
taking the ball put again in the oven
and ping cake is ready
no can’t run before you walk I
interviewed this man and he story’s
amazing so I really want to share that
with you his name is Steven as a child
he had a stutter he stuttered in school
he was laughed at joked at ridiculous
when a teacher called up his name he
just wanted to crawl away and hide
forever
he felt miserable until one day he made
the decision in his mind and he said I
want to change
so he took small steps first he called
up a phone company and asked for some
product information very scary for him
calling up making a conversation with
somebody you don’t know but he did he
did it again and again until he felt a
bit better and then the next step walk
into a store and ask for some
information again very scary seeing
somebody face to face making
conversation with a stutter but he did
and he did it several times in class he
started raising his hand long story
short he is now a very professional
public speaker and he loves it what did
he do small steps so think about what
can be your smallest actionable step
towards your dream you know when I moved
abroad every single time I took a lot of
small steps talking to people visiting
countries applying for jobs I never
jumped in the ocean I look at the ocean
I look at what’s out there I put a toe
in the water and a foot and another foot
small steps you want to publish your
book start by writing a paragraph
you know another reason why people are
not achieving their dreams is the fear
of failure the fear of making mistakes
now who has never made any mistakes in
their lives
I made a lot of mistakes a lot of
mistakes but I learned a lot as well
relationships I had many relationships
hey I even got a divorce does it mean I
will never find a relationship anymore
of course not but I’ll learn from every
relationship I learned what I like and
what I don’t like what I want and what I
don’t want in a man jobs I had many jobs
dream jobs that ended up a disaster let
me tell you about this one time I landed
this job title commercial manager of the
whole west of France I was so happy I
could choose any car I wanted I chose a
car with so many options it could
practically drive itself
I could choose where I live so I chose
an apartment right by the beach
I received the latest smartphone the
latest laptop and I could just see
myself driving by the ocean every
weekend by the beach I could I couldn’t
wait to pack up all my boxes and move to
this new country until several months
into the job I was exhausted so stressed
out I nearly a burnout I I hardly saw my
partner because I was sleeping in hotels
five nights a week
I loved my car but I had to drive to the
physical therapist every week for my
back pain the beach in the weekends
hardly ever because I had to write so
many reports of the past week and plan
my coming week really terrible within
one year I quit and I left mistake yeah
maybe do I regret it no way no because I
learned so many things I learned about
the culture the country the people there
the job as a matter of fact since then
when I go into a job interview I ask
more questions than the interviewer
itself I just want to make sure but
mistakes I think they’re important
I think mistakes are a good thing we
learn from our mistakes and there is one
cool
I want to share with you because I can’t
say it any better I never make the same
mistake twice I make it five or six
times just to make sure it’s like when
you’re driving a car you’re driving
you’re going to your destination maybe a
short distance maybe a long distance and
you have this rearview mirror and what
you see in there your past
your past is behind you so it’s good to
look in that rearview mirror once in a
while because your past is where you
come from your past made you who you are
today so use that use it to create your
future but don’t keep your eyes stuck on
that rearview mirror or you will crash
and remember you are the one driving you
are in that driver’s seat nobody else
you are responsible for your life so
life changes and so can you we can think
thoughts and stories in our head that
can mean anything we can take small
steps one foot after the other into the
ocean we can take a look in that
rearview mirror and learn from what we
see in there we all have dreams so what
is your next step
you
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