25% 25% 25% Oh everyone Malaysian
Ringgit a man as a woman and 25% less I
get it we live in Malaysia we all like a
good discount yeah I mean I love a good
buy a trans man but ladies how do you
feel about being the discounts that
everything you do is remunerated 25%
less because you are a woman
it literally means you will take 15
months to make what a man earns in 12
months women operate at a discount and
this is true across all of the patients
across all sectors male-dominated female
dominated all balanced this is true
across the wall with the in Cambodia or
in Iceland women operates at the
discount so what I’d like to do today is
talk to you about the elephant in the
room I’d like to talk to you about why
women are less than men and that is our
problem because we are the discount I
like to talk to you about why this
happens and what we can do to stop being
the discount wipers wage that matter
don’t think I like about salary is that
you can mention that yeah
and the fact that is a wage gap between
what a man’s and women allons means that
we being valued differently this is not
an opinion
it’s crashed ladies its cash in the bank
for the body you create either you earn
it or you don’t
and the business reality is that you are
discount so women are being valued less
than men 25
laughs I’m not okay with that and I’m
sure that the only one because you see
my work it’s just as valuable as that of
my men who founded our company you see
the body we create is equal and no I
don’t believe that there is a male
conspiracy against women no whatsoever
so why would I operate at a discount I
my best educated now am i less skilled
has experienced no is my performance
lower I my results worse do I work this
time no no no so why would I earn 25%
less than my male partner it baffles me
let me tell you about the three biggest
myths about why women and a discount
myth number one some people still
believe that women are less educated
than men and this is simply not true the
World Economic Forum shows that globally
women and as educated as men in fact in
countries like the US it’s been 13 years
13 years since women have started our
numbering men in earning a bachelor’s
degree so education is not gonna cut it
right we gave the same education same
qualifications but we’re not getting a
sale anymore and that gap starts and as
soon as you hit the labor market studies
from the American Association University
of women show that women graduates at a
wage gap and that gap white it over time
so let me break this down baby yeah can
I see a show of hands if you are a
university student okay why I love you I
love you lot
women will
the new male classmates in the same
graduating class as soon as you had that
first job you become the discount
immediately and that’s going to confine
you for the rest of your life what are
you going to do about it
okay Jess and we your families talk but
you know we live in the 21st century and
does not change for women and we are no
way and we’ll be there soon which takes
me nicely to myth number two this big
progress will get there really are we
getting there with the wing clothes in
1970 American women and 59 cents for
every one dollar that may account about
us today they are in 1787 that literally
made a progress of 19 cents in 46 years
and when the price of eggs at your
closest supermarket has increased much
more than that for God’s sake and I’m
not making this up the price of egg has
increased much more than the price of
female labor relative to men the reason
I’m showing you data from the US is
because if a country like the US where
you know everything is so advanced
around women apartment cannot get equal
pay right then the rest of the world is
way far behind and isn’t even a question
about by how much the difference is even
if the difference was 96 cents for every
one dollar it is still terrible paying
women less for the same value it’s just
simply clearly wrong equality means men
and women earn equal pay for equal work
period just as week the World Economic
Forum release its 2016
Global Gender Gap report and it revealed
that the pace of change has slowed down
towards just equality over the past
three years and get ready for this yeah
get ready brace yourselves
given the current trajectory it will
take a hundred and seventy years for the
world to close its economy gender gap
completely I’m going to repeat that for
you
given the current trajectory it will
take a hundred and seventy years for the
world to close its economy gap
completely if you’re my age you would be
a hundred and ninety nine years old when
that happens okay you can do the math
the point is it won’t happen in our
lifetime in fact it won’t happen in our
daughter’s lifetime if I even happen in
our daughters daughters lifetime in our
daughters daughters daughters lifetime
and our daughters daughters daughters
daughters lifetime on me then I don’t
know about you by 10 I will not wait for
that knock so before I came through my
rant which I’m sure you’ve been waiting
for let me show you me number three
someone else will fix it and I think
that has been a huge part of the problem
because we expect things like gender
inequality to be fixed by others yeah
like Society will do the right thing and
if it doesn’t work out I would blame
others right don’t get me wrong here I
think we have some amazing initiatives
out there I mean we have the people she
campaign we have the linear movement we
have the 30 per second we
Asians like to read or write and they’re
doing a fantastic job in raising
awareness about this issue and getting
us talking about it
but just because we’re talking about an
issue mode doesn’t mean this issue gets
resolved for us in fact what we’re doing
is not working because we’re not getting
paid we’re getting screwed so when it is
something different when you do
something more radical and I believe
women must own the problem because they
are the discount will have to stop
waiting for others to fix this cause we
can’t wait for this to fix this place
we can’t wait for global leaders to
fight our fights I mean we literally had
President Obama pushing for equal pay
for equal work the moment he entered
office
it is later nothing has changed if we
cannot get the most powerful leader in
the world to lead this change first and
who else do you expect it to it
no one is our problem is not your
employer’s problem is not your medical
expert it is your problem so we need to
stop blaming in the man we need to stop
blaming on society we need to stop
taking on our lizards and we need to
step up and honor the problem because at
the end of the day it’s not my husband
is not my male colleagues who’s gonna
negotiate the salary for me it’s just me
and I understand as someone who might
disagree with it that’s precisely my
point it doesn’t matter whose fault
pieces it doesn’t matter with these
societies from history sports it is a
matter with it’s our fault
what matters is what can we change and
unless we negotiate out sorry for sounds
change isn’t going to happen in our
lifetime you will always be the discount
so I decided to do something about this
and I use the Linnaean platform and I
created
vielen carrier program a twin journey
and empowering women to accelerate their
careers and with practically no budget I
got the best seen the best mentors and
the best trainers I could find and all
together we enabled 22 ordinary women in
Malaysia to truly be me and to achieve
their career goals we created a space
with his women who were able to focus on
themselves rather than others a space
where they were able to overcome
limiting beliefs that have been holding
them back for so long a space where they
could be strong and vulnerable at the
same time at the end of this program the
women came together and presented their
achievements at a final tournament and
that stories were just beyond or
inspiring some of them started new
businesses that had that they added
drugs about for so long
others work towards getting promotions
some quit jobs they had that have made
been miserable for so long and others go
hi okay one of my colleagues literally
go as 70% raise because she did her
research what she was worth she she did
least by looking at what our male
colleagues were burning and neatly and
demanded equal pay to her boss and these
women came on stage and there was so
confidence and so on ambitious and so
strong and rudabeh at the same time and
so just beautifully awesome what I
realized about these women was that they
always hide that in the warrior in
themselves but something was blocking it
fear fear of being disliked as soon as
he’s 22 women let go of that fear joy
in what I learned about running when I
was running this program was that a
major reason why women do not negotiate
their salary it’s because they are
afraid of not being liked
we hold ourselves back because we are
afraid that other people might not like
us so then I wondered why does this fear
baby’s life come from and if we answer
the sadness we need to understand what
is gender bias come from there’s been 30
years worth of research on gender
stereotypes that show that we are much
quicker to associate men with leadership
well with women will associate them with
you know being contributors followers
supporters but certainly not leaders
what this means is that we expect men to
act like leaders yet be decisive keep
rocking it don’t powerful successful but
we expect women to be kind communal
concern about others caregivers the
cannot things you would expect from
someone being supportive we certainly
don’t expect women to be assertive or
dominant my point is we have set
expectations for men and we have set
expectations for women and when we deaf
ear from these expectations we face
resistance as a result of this as a man
gets more powerful and successful he is
better life why because he’s conforming
with our expectations participate him to
be aligned he’s acting like a lion as a
woman gets more powerful and successful
she’s less light we expect her to be a
mouse but she’s acting like a lion
what’s up with that you don’t believe me
ladies over to you let me ask you a
question if you had a choice of two men
one man was kind and gentle lovely the
other man was powerful successful a
respected leader who would you prefer to
marry
let me ask you this follow-up question
then if we had two types of women one
woman was just so lovely and sweet and
communal and kind generous the other
woman was an alpha female dominant
ambitious more powerful than you more
successful than me who do you prefer to
have as a girlfriend the more vicious a
woman needs the more power she gains but
less she’s liked when the exact opposite
is true for men men expected to be
respected leaders women I expected to be
fine for a man to be respected
he needs to negotiate for higher pay for
women to be like she needs to take care
of others but the foundation of the
professional space is based on respect
not friendship if we had to truly stop
being the distant we need to get over
this likability penalty we need to get
past this likeability balance how do we
do that we let go of the fear of not
being might the blood sugar is that
women do not respect themselves enough
and lack the courage to stop in the
discount because we are afraid of not
being light and that is limiting us in
the way we need it’s limiting us in the
way we get paid and it’s limiting us in
the way we are treated as human beings
just two weeks ago a friend of mine
who’s trying to get promoted literally
told me I don’t want to be perceived as
too bossy too pushy
I’m worried about losing my job we were
worried about getting fired and not
getting paid enough we were worried
about being disliked that being is
respected and we worry about this
because society has
visioned us in the choice of respecting
yourself and being said you choose to be
saved you could choose to go on Monday
morning and you could choose to
negotiate your salary with your boss in
fact you have chosen to do that any
other day you’ve been working but you
don’t because you are afraid and there’s
nothing wrong with being afraid but
there’s something really wrong about
letting your fear stand in the way of
your dreams respecting yourself is about
moving beyond your fears it’s about not
letting you fear stand in the way of you
getting paid for what you’re worth
what if my parents disowned me what if
my husband leaves me what if my boss
fires me then let them let go of the
fear of being this like Squidling us
it’s okay for your boss to fire you
it’s okay for your spouse and parents to
be angry at you because you know what
they’ll get over it and the world will
move on and most importantly they’ll
respect you for it because don’t confuse
the fact that because your father loves
you doesn’t mean he respects you the
fact that because your boss likes you
doesn’t mean he respects you or she
respects you it’s okay not to be liked
it is not okay to be disrespected and
I’m talking about the professional space
here okay what are you doing your
personal life is compared to you but if
we are trying to achieve equal pay we
will not get there because everyone else
likes this but we will if we respect
ourselves first and confidently
negotiate with it is by respecting
ourselves first that we let other people
respect us if you are fan of house of
cards I think you’ll like this Robin
Wright who plays Claire on the wood in
the series opened up about her recently
negotiations with her employer Netflix
she found out that she was being on the
page because her male co-stars baby was
only much more than her so she bent in
and she negotiated and she said hey pay
me equal amount us my co-star and they
denied they said no so she didn’t into
the statistics and found out that Claire
underwood her character was actually
being more popular for period of time
that came in spaces character and she
capitalized on it and she’s been she
said you better pay me I’m going to go
public and so they did and today she
earns equal pay to her male counterpart
next time you negotiating for your son
we take a cue from Robin Wright she was
able to do this because she respects
herself and she expects others to
respect her the 23 ordinary women in
Malaysia who completed the program were
able to do this because they like oh the
fear of not being liked they chose to
respect themselves first and by doing
that it enabled them to achieve
extraordinary things themselves so
ladies and gentlemen if we are trying to
stop being 25 percent discount and I
believe women must own the problem
because play at the discount we can own
the problem by letting go of the fear of
not being liked in the professional
space is okay not to be liked it is not
okay to be disrespected the fight starts
with respect and ends with equal pay
thank you
you
Ringgit a man as a woman and 25% less I
get it we live in Malaysia we all like a
good discount yeah I mean I love a good
buy a trans man but ladies how do you
feel about being the discounts that
everything you do is remunerated 25%
less because you are a woman
it literally means you will take 15
months to make what a man earns in 12
months women operate at a discount and
this is true across all of the patients
across all sectors male-dominated female
dominated all balanced this is true
across the wall with the in Cambodia or
in Iceland women operates at the
discount so what I’d like to do today is
talk to you about the elephant in the
room I’d like to talk to you about why
women are less than men and that is our
problem because we are the discount I
like to talk to you about why this
happens and what we can do to stop being
the discount wipers wage that matter
don’t think I like about salary is that
you can mention that yeah
and the fact that is a wage gap between
what a man’s and women allons means that
we being valued differently this is not
an opinion
it’s crashed ladies its cash in the bank
for the body you create either you earn
it or you don’t
and the business reality is that you are
discount so women are being valued less
than men 25
laughs I’m not okay with that and I’m
sure that the only one because you see
my work it’s just as valuable as that of
my men who founded our company you see
the body we create is equal and no I
don’t believe that there is a male
conspiracy against women no whatsoever
so why would I operate at a discount I
my best educated now am i less skilled
has experienced no is my performance
lower I my results worse do I work this
time no no no so why would I earn 25%
less than my male partner it baffles me
let me tell you about the three biggest
myths about why women and a discount
myth number one some people still
believe that women are less educated
than men and this is simply not true the
World Economic Forum shows that globally
women and as educated as men in fact in
countries like the US it’s been 13 years
13 years since women have started our
numbering men in earning a bachelor’s
degree so education is not gonna cut it
right we gave the same education same
qualifications but we’re not getting a
sale anymore and that gap starts and as
soon as you hit the labor market studies
from the American Association University
of women show that women graduates at a
wage gap and that gap white it over time
so let me break this down baby yeah can
I see a show of hands if you are a
university student okay why I love you I
love you lot
women will
the new male classmates in the same
graduating class as soon as you had that
first job you become the discount
immediately and that’s going to confine
you for the rest of your life what are
you going to do about it
okay Jess and we your families talk but
you know we live in the 21st century and
does not change for women and we are no
way and we’ll be there soon which takes
me nicely to myth number two this big
progress will get there really are we
getting there with the wing clothes in
1970 American women and 59 cents for
every one dollar that may account about
us today they are in 1787 that literally
made a progress of 19 cents in 46 years
and when the price of eggs at your
closest supermarket has increased much
more than that for God’s sake and I’m
not making this up the price of egg has
increased much more than the price of
female labor relative to men the reason
I’m showing you data from the US is
because if a country like the US where
you know everything is so advanced
around women apartment cannot get equal
pay right then the rest of the world is
way far behind and isn’t even a question
about by how much the difference is even
if the difference was 96 cents for every
one dollar it is still terrible paying
women less for the same value it’s just
simply clearly wrong equality means men
and women earn equal pay for equal work
period just as week the World Economic
Forum release its 2016
Global Gender Gap report and it revealed
that the pace of change has slowed down
towards just equality over the past
three years and get ready for this yeah
get ready brace yourselves
given the current trajectory it will
take a hundred and seventy years for the
world to close its economy gender gap
completely I’m going to repeat that for
you
given the current trajectory it will
take a hundred and seventy years for the
world to close its economy gap
completely if you’re my age you would be
a hundred and ninety nine years old when
that happens okay you can do the math
the point is it won’t happen in our
lifetime in fact it won’t happen in our
daughter’s lifetime if I even happen in
our daughters daughters lifetime in our
daughters daughters daughters lifetime
and our daughters daughters daughters
daughters lifetime on me then I don’t
know about you by 10 I will not wait for
that knock so before I came through my
rant which I’m sure you’ve been waiting
for let me show you me number three
someone else will fix it and I think
that has been a huge part of the problem
because we expect things like gender
inequality to be fixed by others yeah
like Society will do the right thing and
if it doesn’t work out I would blame
others right don’t get me wrong here I
think we have some amazing initiatives
out there I mean we have the people she
campaign we have the linear movement we
have the 30 per second we
Asians like to read or write and they’re
doing a fantastic job in raising
awareness about this issue and getting
us talking about it
but just because we’re talking about an
issue mode doesn’t mean this issue gets
resolved for us in fact what we’re doing
is not working because we’re not getting
paid we’re getting screwed so when it is
something different when you do
something more radical and I believe
women must own the problem because they
are the discount will have to stop
waiting for others to fix this cause we
can’t wait for this to fix this place
we can’t wait for global leaders to
fight our fights I mean we literally had
President Obama pushing for equal pay
for equal work the moment he entered
office
it is later nothing has changed if we
cannot get the most powerful leader in
the world to lead this change first and
who else do you expect it to it
no one is our problem is not your
employer’s problem is not your medical
expert it is your problem so we need to
stop blaming in the man we need to stop
blaming on society we need to stop
taking on our lizards and we need to
step up and honor the problem because at
the end of the day it’s not my husband
is not my male colleagues who’s gonna
negotiate the salary for me it’s just me
and I understand as someone who might
disagree with it that’s precisely my
point it doesn’t matter whose fault
pieces it doesn’t matter with these
societies from history sports it is a
matter with it’s our fault
what matters is what can we change and
unless we negotiate out sorry for sounds
change isn’t going to happen in our
lifetime you will always be the discount
so I decided to do something about this
and I use the Linnaean platform and I
created
vielen carrier program a twin journey
and empowering women to accelerate their
careers and with practically no budget I
got the best seen the best mentors and
the best trainers I could find and all
together we enabled 22 ordinary women in
Malaysia to truly be me and to achieve
their career goals we created a space
with his women who were able to focus on
themselves rather than others a space
where they were able to overcome
limiting beliefs that have been holding
them back for so long a space where they
could be strong and vulnerable at the
same time at the end of this program the
women came together and presented their
achievements at a final tournament and
that stories were just beyond or
inspiring some of them started new
businesses that had that they added
drugs about for so long
others work towards getting promotions
some quit jobs they had that have made
been miserable for so long and others go
hi okay one of my colleagues literally
go as 70% raise because she did her
research what she was worth she she did
least by looking at what our male
colleagues were burning and neatly and
demanded equal pay to her boss and these
women came on stage and there was so
confidence and so on ambitious and so
strong and rudabeh at the same time and
so just beautifully awesome what I
realized about these women was that they
always hide that in the warrior in
themselves but something was blocking it
fear fear of being disliked as soon as
he’s 22 women let go of that fear joy
in what I learned about running when I
was running this program was that a
major reason why women do not negotiate
their salary it’s because they are
afraid of not being liked
we hold ourselves back because we are
afraid that other people might not like
us so then I wondered why does this fear
baby’s life come from and if we answer
the sadness we need to understand what
is gender bias come from there’s been 30
years worth of research on gender
stereotypes that show that we are much
quicker to associate men with leadership
well with women will associate them with
you know being contributors followers
supporters but certainly not leaders
what this means is that we expect men to
act like leaders yet be decisive keep
rocking it don’t powerful successful but
we expect women to be kind communal
concern about others caregivers the
cannot things you would expect from
someone being supportive we certainly
don’t expect women to be assertive or
dominant my point is we have set
expectations for men and we have set
expectations for women and when we deaf
ear from these expectations we face
resistance as a result of this as a man
gets more powerful and successful he is
better life why because he’s conforming
with our expectations participate him to
be aligned he’s acting like a lion as a
woman gets more powerful and successful
she’s less light we expect her to be a
mouse but she’s acting like a lion
what’s up with that you don’t believe me
ladies over to you let me ask you a
question if you had a choice of two men
one man was kind and gentle lovely the
other man was powerful successful a
respected leader who would you prefer to
marry
let me ask you this follow-up question
then if we had two types of women one
woman was just so lovely and sweet and
communal and kind generous the other
woman was an alpha female dominant
ambitious more powerful than you more
successful than me who do you prefer to
have as a girlfriend the more vicious a
woman needs the more power she gains but
less she’s liked when the exact opposite
is true for men men expected to be
respected leaders women I expected to be
fine for a man to be respected
he needs to negotiate for higher pay for
women to be like she needs to take care
of others but the foundation of the
professional space is based on respect
not friendship if we had to truly stop
being the distant we need to get over
this likability penalty we need to get
past this likeability balance how do we
do that we let go of the fear of not
being might the blood sugar is that
women do not respect themselves enough
and lack the courage to stop in the
discount because we are afraid of not
being light and that is limiting us in
the way we need it’s limiting us in the
way we get paid and it’s limiting us in
the way we are treated as human beings
just two weeks ago a friend of mine
who’s trying to get promoted literally
told me I don’t want to be perceived as
too bossy too pushy
I’m worried about losing my job we were
worried about getting fired and not
getting paid enough we were worried
about being disliked that being is
respected and we worry about this
because society has
visioned us in the choice of respecting
yourself and being said you choose to be
saved you could choose to go on Monday
morning and you could choose to
negotiate your salary with your boss in
fact you have chosen to do that any
other day you’ve been working but you
don’t because you are afraid and there’s
nothing wrong with being afraid but
there’s something really wrong about
letting your fear stand in the way of
your dreams respecting yourself is about
moving beyond your fears it’s about not
letting you fear stand in the way of you
getting paid for what you’re worth
what if my parents disowned me what if
my husband leaves me what if my boss
fires me then let them let go of the
fear of being this like Squidling us
it’s okay for your boss to fire you
it’s okay for your spouse and parents to
be angry at you because you know what
they’ll get over it and the world will
move on and most importantly they’ll
respect you for it because don’t confuse
the fact that because your father loves
you doesn’t mean he respects you the
fact that because your boss likes you
doesn’t mean he respects you or she
respects you it’s okay not to be liked
it is not okay to be disrespected and
I’m talking about the professional space
here okay what are you doing your
personal life is compared to you but if
we are trying to achieve equal pay we
will not get there because everyone else
likes this but we will if we respect
ourselves first and confidently
negotiate with it is by respecting
ourselves first that we let other people
respect us if you are fan of house of
cards I think you’ll like this Robin
Wright who plays Claire on the wood in
the series opened up about her recently
negotiations with her employer Netflix
she found out that she was being on the
page because her male co-stars baby was
only much more than her so she bent in
and she negotiated and she said hey pay
me equal amount us my co-star and they
denied they said no so she didn’t into
the statistics and found out that Claire
underwood her character was actually
being more popular for period of time
that came in spaces character and she
capitalized on it and she’s been she
said you better pay me I’m going to go
public and so they did and today she
earns equal pay to her male counterpart
next time you negotiating for your son
we take a cue from Robin Wright she was
able to do this because she respects
herself and she expects others to
respect her the 23 ordinary women in
Malaysia who completed the program were
able to do this because they like oh the
fear of not being liked they chose to
respect themselves first and by doing
that it enabled them to achieve
extraordinary things themselves so
ladies and gentlemen if we are trying to
stop being 25 percent discount and I
believe women must own the problem
because play at the discount we can own
the problem by letting go of the fear of
not being liked in the professional
space is okay not to be liked it is not
okay to be disrespected the fight starts
with respect and ends with equal pay
thank you
you
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