some days ago as I was walking towards
my seminar a girl whom I knew passed by
and I smiled at her she gave me rather
weird look and asked why are you smiling
every single time I see you
which probably stands for what’s wrong
with you but in a more polite way
this incident except for making me feel
quite uncomfortable made me realize how
bad the situation truly is have come to
the point where we don’t ask the people
who seem to be upset what’s wrong but
the ones who seem to be happy have we
come to the point where we’re not
concerned about the people who are sad
or unsatisfied but about the ones who
seem to be pleased and happy things are
so bad that people are surprised when
what appears to be happy and the reason
is because of how seldom people actually
smile and verbally express joy and
satisfaction why do you people
experience so seldom and for such a
small duration happy motions because
they’re not being positive people
usually silently object at this point
thinking it’s easy for you to be
positive you were probably born this way
and I really want to take the chance to
clarify this I have to admit I myself am
a very positive person but I assure you
my positivity has nothing to do with my
genes I have no positive genes
whatsoever and no one else has anything
alike simply because positive genes do
not exist positivity is not hereditary
positivity is a choice now choosing to
be positive it’s simple
careful I didn’t say easy people always
ask how can you be so positive and I
always replied by asking them
can you be so negative because I know
that I will not survive even one day in
today’s world which is full of
difficulties without being positive
that’s the reason why I simply don’t get
how so many people are negative and
pessimistic and still able to go on now
I want to ask a personal question has
any of you here experienced printer
crashing do you want to raise your hand
if you ever tried to print something and
your printer failed you know you guys
have good printers oh my god I want some
recommendations after the talk come talk
to me so you know what I’m talking about
can you trash computers No so picture
this it’s a magnificent Sunday morning
and you’re able to bring this huge
project you’ve been working on the last
couple of months when suddenly your
printer crashes as soon as you realize
what happened you stopped performing
another aggressive soliloquy and the
next thing you know is that there is
coffee all over your favorite white
shirt how did you manage to spill your
drink all of me Wow it may be because
you were too busy complaining about your
printer crossing instead of trying to
find a solution to the problem that you
made things even worse than before you
know what they say when it rains it
pause and maybe you should start
wondering whether you’re contributing to
the rainy weather by your way of
thinking and the reason why I really
want to emphasize that is because I
don’t think people realize that by being
negative
they are literally hurting themselves
waking up every single day thinking oh
I’m so going to fail that test they
won’t like me I’m so going to screw up
he’s hurting you more than you can
imagine all these self-fulfilling
prophecies are hurting you more than you
can imagine
our thoughts shape who we are and a
reality so next time you think about
something wonder whether you would like
this thought to be a part of you if not
change it how by being positive another
thing that I’ve noticed is that people
have the tendency to mix up the finish
so let’s agree once and for all
being positive does not mean being happy
positive means choosing to think about
the good qualities of someone or
something and this doesn’t make you
necessarily happy or happier it simply
makes you positive also choosing to be
positive doesn’t mean that you have to
be positive all the time no one can do
that there are days that even the most
positive person on earth will not be
able to resist thinking negative yay
happens all the time but the thing that
differentiates people who are positive
from the people who are negative is that
positive people at the end of such days
after crying and cursing and thinking
how awful things are will rise and shine
and choose to try you think about the
bright sort of things which had been
right in front of them all this time so
what you can do and what really matters
is if you try try to be positive until
you manage to be positive trying is what
really counts now about point usually
the big question pops out okay so how
can I be positive what do I do well the
first thing you need to do is realize
the positive eating is married to
appreciation if you don’t appreciate you
can’t concentrate on the good side of
things if you can’t concentrate on the
good side of things you can’t be
positive so I asked them tell me one
thing that you really appreciate about
your life and this is when the difficult
part begins after thinking about it for
a bit they reply well I don’t know I
mean I’m not really that good at
something I don’t have a partner my
friends are like these my family doesn’t
really understand me etc etc etc and
they can’t find anything that they
really appreciate so I hop them and say
can you tell me any of you what is the
first thing the very first thing you did
this morning
can you
No you call it you don’t know what you
did I’m up concerned what is the very
first thing you did this morning thank
you appreciate the fact that you woke up
today I appreciate all the small things
that you take for granted every single
day I appreciate the fact that you have
a house you can sleep in and clean water
to drink and food to eat
appreciate the fact that you have the
opportunity to educate yourself
appreciate the fact that if anything
happens to you you’re able to go to a
hospital and if you think that this is
not a privilege to have in today’s world
I am sorry but you have no idea about
what is going on around you about 21,000
people die of hunger every single day
every ten seconds a child dies 100
million people worldwide are harmless
and eight hundred five million people do
not have enough to eat so appreciate
appreciate the simplest things around
you appreciate the fact that you don’t
have to worry about losing the warmth of
your house I appreciate the fact that
you and your loved ones are healthy I
appreciate the fact that you know how
piece looks like while other people die
without knowing the meaning of the word
appreciate the smell of flowers or
appreciate a wonderful sunset that you
may see appreciate everything that has
always been there and you did not take a
moment to truly see them by being able
to appreciate and concentrate on the
good side of things you’ll start
thinking positively and you will see the
difference that I have in your life
because I promise you you are no better
than the thoughts in your head and when
difficult times come because they will
and you start thinking about the future
and what you’re going to do remember
people have the tendency to worry about
tomorrow as if it is given and negative
mind will not
we’ll give you a positive life so change
your way of thinking and I am Telling
You good things can and we will happen
with a half-full glass
let’s host a great future ahead of us
today is going to be a good day stay
positive
thank you very much [Applause]