the small town is called favor kill it’s
in Kochi in Kerala and growing up in a
middle-class family the most important
thing is budgets and money we are very
budgeted life we had a limited set of
outings in a month it was specifically
two outings in a month we had only meat
come into houses on weekends birthdays
are celebrated a certain way in a
certain kind of you know mom cooking or
baking cake and no outside celebrations
whatsoever so these budgeted outings are
very you know they were calculated so
one of these budgeted outings and this
one in fact was a combined outing so it
was dad a couple of his friends all of
her family’s all of us went out and this
is typically how a day goes when we go
out so we all go out we have some lunch
and then we go for a movie and then we
go home this time what was special
though was there was a circus in town
and I’m I grew up in the 90s of circuses
were a big deal and we kept tripping and
crying to her and saying we have to go
and he also over short on the lunch so
it was almost a no-no from them but then
our dads all huddled up in this corner
and have this discussion saying hey we
can just about make the tickets for the
circus and guard even factor also hey
there is no other emergency that can
come up you know how bad can be let’s
take them for the circus and leave a
given strict instructions saying you
know don’t talk to anyone don’t look at
anyone and we nor it along to everything
because we wanted to go see the circus
now we went to the circus and circuses
in 90s again so it was jam-packed so my
dad mom got to see together we kids the
thickets from the three families all of
us got seeds somewhere in the front
everybody else sort of spread out made
space wherever they got to see they all
sat down and everything was going
according to plan and it was a lovely
yard outing until somebody called the
ice cream guys showed up the ice cream
guy are sure of with these oh so they’re
these lovely flavors i remember right
now we have the in this generation of
choco chip and cookie ice cream being
delivered to our doorsteps but this ice
cream i had some interesting flavors
I remember the middle class family
favorite was this one called two and one
so you basically get a chocolate and a
band lock up for 10 rupees and that was
the hands-down favorite and my favorite
though was this ice cream called Cassata
I know how many of you here i have added
and i remember when you see the ice
cream guy you cannot think any further
than these three letters which is EA t
so all i want to do was eat the ice
cream and i forgot all of my dad’s
advice i forgot everything else i took
one casada and i took one each for both
my friends who was sitting next to me
and when we well into the ice cream very
well indulge in it the ice cream pie
obviously asked for his money and I just
remember like I turned back and I wanted
saying that man over there please go
collected from him and then what
happened after wasn’t very pleasant for
neither the circus guys nor the audience
know my dad so the asking was definitely
there having a heated argument with my
dad and there were all of his friends
all of them trying to there was certain
clinking of coins that was that could be
heard because that was all the money
they had and they clearly didn’t have
enough money and for a second we really
thought there could be nothing that
could be done now this is the time of 90
so there is no concept of ATMs
whatsoever right now i’ll tell you the
closest you can get to ATMs at that
moment so they have money in the pan
pockets which is the normal money and
then they usually wear these really long
boxers which said these back pockets
right so that was basically the ATM and
my daddy idea was empty so we’re his
friends his idioms so there was no
chance over there as well and for a
woman when we thought that everything is
going to go berserk and this everything
is going to get to in right now
something very very amazing happened the
stranger sitting next to us so somebody
position two rupees somebody pushed in
five rupees and in a matter of seconds
we actually had enough money to pay of
the ice cream guy now what’s the most
amazing part about this night except the
look on my dad’s face was the fact that
a group of strangers actually came
together to help people out in a crisis
and I know you might be thinking you’re
what a difficult child and all these
things but I like to think of it as me
giving my dad and X
use of access to the crowdfunding
platforms way before Kickstarter existed
in august of two thousand eight two guys
by the names of Joe Gebbia and Brian
Chesky pushed an absurd seeming idea to
a group of investors now this is what
the piss I’m going to try and coat them
they said we got to build a website
where people are going to put up
pictures of the most private spaces
their bedrooms the bathrooms the kind of
rooms they usually lock up when people
come over and then over the Internet
they going to invite complete strangers
over and have them sleep in their homes
it’s going to be huge and the investor
said no we don’t think so but there were
a couple of them crazy enough to go out
investing in these two guys and today
their owners of a 30 billion dollar
company which is considered the pioneer
of the sharing economy Airbnb as Mimi
works do to one thing it works you do to
trust there is a certain amount of trust
that the horse having the guess and
guests having the horse think about it
you are spending a night with a stranger
in a closed room where you have no idea
what the stranger might be he could he
could be a serial killer he could be a
murderer he could be a vampire it could
be a ghost and there is this mutual
system of trust that they’ve established
by which we believe that they’re not now
I don’t think this can become 30 years
ago because 30 years ago was up heading
generation which I hate to say but is
raised on skepticism let me give you a
couple of examples right I want I want
to show of hands how many of you guys
have been scolded by a mom for leaving
your money lose at home while a maid is
cleaning of the house right right it
could be a twenty rupee note but your
mom has this fair assumption that
somehow this maid is going to steal this
20 rupee note retired from my life moved
to the Bahamas and start a fresh 100
fresh identity right now another one is
when when you reach the mall and you’re
at the mall suddenly your dad somehow
starts having trust issues with a car
he’s like I don’t know if I lock the car
and first off he sends us to actually
check if the car is locked now you go
there and suddenly when you
come back your dad happens you remember
that you do not possess the superpower
to judge between a locked car and an
unlocked car so what he does is he goes
in double checks on it himself no it’s a
generation of skepticism which of a
brand is a scam which ever offered is a
scam uber is a scam ATM is a scam and
what is way more amusing than all of
this is this somehow after all of the
skepticism all they choose to believe in
and forward and what’s have family
groups is this back in school there was
this time when mom used to pack me lunch
and some of the days when she used to
pack me lunch she would pack me this
slab of cake now those of a lucky days
for me because and whenever you took my
brain activity on that day at any point
of time you would see this video of me
playing in slow motion of me eating cake
playing a loop and come lunch break
though the picture would be completely
different because there will be 20 human
beings I did not know existed before
suddenly appear around me all demanding
for the small piece of cake now I would
smile on the outside and I would share
this piece of cake with him because I
love my friends I am NOT a selfish
person on the outside so i would
actually share this share this cake with
them for friendship and humans as a
species are a social species we have
always evolved and existed as a group
which is why a lot of our actions are
always looking for validation and
approval from a friends and not only are
we looking for validation and approval
we are also looking at finding new
friends we never sell for the ones we
have we always are looking for more
like-minded people and i’m a bit of a
nerd so bear with me over here this is
what happens in our heads when we
actually meet somebody like minded when
you having a conversation with the
like-minded person your brain sword
starts imitating the other person’s
brain with the help of something called
mirror neurons now many neurons sort of
start lighting up the parts of your
brain that is laid upon the other
person’s brain as well so there’s sort
of mirroring of emotions going on
leading to the most important quality
that human being possesses to be a
social species something called empathy
something that we all
something which is why we all desire
friendship on another level and and we
don’t stop at becoming friends with
somebody do we know we always want to go
and form a story with them once you
become friends with them I am going I am
going to stay silent on stage for the
next five seconds and give you time to
think of the top three moments from your
year last year starting now okay so if
anybody has started thinking on that
note I’m going to go out on a limb here
and say that most of you guys would have
been thinking about an event with your
friends or your family or your dear ones
it would have been it could be in a
marriage it could have been a road trip
probably was just another friday night
switch your own probably remember really
well but it’s always about having a
story with your friends that always
seems to get you going it’s it’s amusing
though because we live in a time of 12
liters and virtual reality is in virtual
worlds where if we choose we could avoid
human contact altogether and somehow
this is when we needed the most now when
i started off beatmap it was about it
was never about a big idea it was about
the smallest problem that I faced now I
really wanted some new friends because
my current ones were boring except for
the ones who are sitting here today but
but this is all of us I just wanted some
new friends and I wanted to form some
new stories with him but there was some
hassles so I hated travel I wasn’t a big
fan of clubbing or going dancing because
I can’t dance even if somebody puts a
gun to my head and I didn’t like the
sweaty people that came with the dancing
so my favorite kind of entertainment or
saturday night was actually a house
party no I had only one house which when
I could only have one house party and I
started opening up houses of my friends
for the same and I started opening up
houses of friends of friends to start
expanding it and all through this we
noticed another problem which was sort
of bothering all of us we knew that we
enjoyed these house parties best with
one of her friends who is playing the
guitar or doing poetry some form of live
art that took place in the event but the
they were not enough places in the city
hosting these artists as well so these
house parties are welcome relief to them
as well now this is the beat map started
off right now this is a big dream how
many how many of you are artists in the
house in it can I can I have a show of
hands poets 28 ellos you know stand-up
comics dancers lovey so this is this is
what I haven’t proposition for you guys
what I want beatmap to become is this
place where this whole bolt becomes one
big stage and this is how i’m going to
make it happen what if this auditorium
could be opened up to the public when
it’s not being used by you guys what is
all school and college auditorium scheme
on both his idea saying we are open to
the public on Saturdays and Sundays what
if every office space became a
performance space by the evening and
what if i told you that your next
performance could be at something like
this guys we moving towards the world
weather weather words infinite and
limitless i started becoming extinct for
all purposes except for in the
dictionary and there is one word that is
replacing all of them very strongly and
the world is finite and this is what we
all need to keep in mind because there
is only limited number of there are only
a limited number of resources that are
there with us right now and there is
growing strain on all these resources
day by day so sharing is not an optional
reality is going to be a way of
embracing lifestyle in the future and
i’m proud to be standing here
representing a generation a time and a
product which is embrace the way of
sharing because every time even though
it requires me to close my eyes turn the
other way round and transfer to a
stranger’s arms in the process each time
i find a new friend and in the process each time i create a new story thank