I remember very clearly the moment when
I came out as gay for the first time it
were to my best friend during our junior
high school junior has good days in
Okinawa he replied to my coming out like
this
oh are you that’s fine in a bland tone
funnily enough they’re sort of Brandes
but his usual way of it speaking I felt
like that he really accepted me and
actually he never changed his attitude
toward me which saved me from drowning
in feelings of loneliness and alienation
after that during my senior high school
days I came out three more friends and
they stayed good friends of mine
such coming-out experiences helped me a
lot to confirm myself and over a longer
period I came out to the people one by
one and I became more and more open
about being gay it was when I was called
for an interview for the Graduate School
of the University of Tokyo there I first
really considered presenting as openly
gay in my public life surrounding on
three sides by all professors and
lecturers in the culture and so apology
cause I stated that I intended to
research gay bears and gay community
consciousness in Shinjuku Natoma from my
own perspective of a gay man from then
on whenever I got hired as a part-time
lecturer at universities I will detail
student about my sexual orientation
I still use hosts today and for the last
two decades I have been writing articles
and lecturing about sexual diversity or
LGBT rights as a guest color
and activist living as an openly gay man
like this I do have to say that I come
across a few comments that make me feel
uneasy among the most common things I
hear the following straight people don’t
come out as straight so why do you come
out as gay why do you get people say
that they are gay even though they don’t
need to I find that people who say these
kind of things have a pretty limited
view of sexual orientation for them
sexuality sure is only about sexual
desire sexual behavior or sexual
identities but it’s not only about these
things
sexuality is also about relationships
that people cherish in life and talk
about daily and also about social
frameworks in the institutions in which
people live imagine what happens when
you have a sexual family members or
colleagues or good friends get married
don’t they talk though they talk about
it with the people around them don’t you
celebrate it of course sometimes you may
not feel like celebrating if you don’t
however when they are expecting a child
don’t they share the happy news even if
they don’t get married don’t they hear
you a heterosexual friend talk about
their love when they have anxieties or
issues with relationships don’t they
sometimes ask for your advice if knowing
over your friends you I suppose you
anyway
it’s clear that heterosexual people talk
about the sexual orientation every day
and everywhere and it often forms the
basis of friendship and social scenes in
order to better understand this
particular aspect of sexual orientation
I think it’s helpful to think about the
question like the following
why do heterosexual people say that they
have sex sir even though they don’t need
to so why exactly it’s because being
heterosexual is a kind of a role
automatically assigned to everyone
regardless the real sex orientation
unless they’re refused to play it in a
clear and obvious way in this sense it’s
also important to note that roars in
societies essentially tied to
performances and by that I mean that
people repeatedly demonstrate their
heterosexual in order to show that they
play the assigned role as a heterosexual
suitably while I’m a lead let me touch
upon the common remarks that stirs
people don’t come out you’ll be wrong if
we took this me that heterosexual people
don’t talk about their sex orientation
they talk and talk and talk but if you
mean that they don’t come out of the
cross yet you will be right because they
heterosexuality as a role is very
related to the functions that marriage
has had for a long time
marriage has been a social system for
the reproduction of ethnic groups or
for the generation of economic and
social networks but things are quite a
bit different in modern societies
because now loving each other is the
most central factor cofactor in marriage
in modern societies most of us live in
societies where such modern marriage is
for implant but functions and images of
traditional marriage remain with us and
it has a lot to do with the
heterosexuals role nevertheless in many
countries marriage has changed
dramatically and more radically by the
recognition of same-sex marriage or
civil union among gay couples but Japan
has yet to do so this lack of the
recognition often places gave people
personally can never forget what I saw
at the funeral of a friend of mine who
are the CEO of a gay business company he
passed away away suddenly in his room
and it was his partner who discovered
the body during of the funeral rites
where family members and friends were
clearly separated as per tradition his
partner had to attend as just one of his
friend the third expression on his face
turned into one a profound grief and
confusion when the emcee
placed their final exclusive call for
relatives to transfer the coffin to
hearse and to get on a bus to the
he was standing rigid frozen in place at
the last minute just before the bus left
a staff member of the gay company who
knew their relationship got him on the
bus
but even then I wonder just how much he
can let go and show the depths of his
the faces of grief misery and desolation
when gay people talked about their loss
of the partners continue to weigh
heavily on me regardless someone’s of
sexual orientation the passing away of a
life partner is depressingly bent for
the beliefs however forgave people it
often happened that they cannot continue
to stay at the belt side of life by life
time partner it is because they cannot
tell their they cannot tell their
partners family members about the nature
of the relationships and they say that
their friends do to Japanese social
customs that privileged family members /
friends they must leave their partner’s
bedside in such serious serious
situations well plus 3 I like to answer
the question why do you come out to my
twenties I came out because I didn’t
like being assumed to be heterosexual
and I wanted to be
more honest to friends but in my
searches on what I had to deal with
passing away of some okay friends
including my best friend as a result I
have been coming out in speaking out in
order to help build a society where gay
people can take care of their partner’s
disease and where should they have to
face the prospect of the eternal
separation they can be together to the
end able to say goodbye as they want
without worrying about getting strange
looks real value this is slowly becoming
a reality the fact I’m standing here
speaking with you today is proof of that
thank you [Applause]
I came out as gay for the first time it
were to my best friend during our junior
high school junior has good days in
Okinawa he replied to my coming out like
this
oh are you that’s fine in a bland tone
funnily enough they’re sort of Brandes
but his usual way of it speaking I felt
like that he really accepted me and
actually he never changed his attitude
toward me which saved me from drowning
in feelings of loneliness and alienation
after that during my senior high school
days I came out three more friends and
they stayed good friends of mine
such coming-out experiences helped me a
lot to confirm myself and over a longer
period I came out to the people one by
one and I became more and more open
about being gay it was when I was called
for an interview for the Graduate School
of the University of Tokyo there I first
really considered presenting as openly
gay in my public life surrounding on
three sides by all professors and
lecturers in the culture and so apology
cause I stated that I intended to
research gay bears and gay community
consciousness in Shinjuku Natoma from my
own perspective of a gay man from then
on whenever I got hired as a part-time
lecturer at universities I will detail
student about my sexual orientation
I still use hosts today and for the last
two decades I have been writing articles
and lecturing about sexual diversity or
LGBT rights as a guest color
and activist living as an openly gay man
like this I do have to say that I come
across a few comments that make me feel
uneasy among the most common things I
hear the following straight people don’t
come out as straight so why do you come
out as gay why do you get people say
that they are gay even though they don’t
need to I find that people who say these
kind of things have a pretty limited
view of sexual orientation for them
sexuality sure is only about sexual
desire sexual behavior or sexual
identities but it’s not only about these
things
sexuality is also about relationships
that people cherish in life and talk
about daily and also about social
frameworks in the institutions in which
people live imagine what happens when
you have a sexual family members or
colleagues or good friends get married
don’t they talk though they talk about
it with the people around them don’t you
celebrate it of course sometimes you may
not feel like celebrating if you don’t
however when they are expecting a child
don’t they share the happy news even if
they don’t get married don’t they hear
you a heterosexual friend talk about
their love when they have anxieties or
issues with relationships don’t they
sometimes ask for your advice if knowing
over your friends you I suppose you
anyway
it’s clear that heterosexual people talk
about the sexual orientation every day
and everywhere and it often forms the
basis of friendship and social scenes in
order to better understand this
particular aspect of sexual orientation
I think it’s helpful to think about the
question like the following
why do heterosexual people say that they
have sex sir even though they don’t need
to so why exactly it’s because being
heterosexual is a kind of a role
automatically assigned to everyone
regardless the real sex orientation
unless they’re refused to play it in a
clear and obvious way in this sense it’s
also important to note that roars in
societies essentially tied to
performances and by that I mean that
people repeatedly demonstrate their
heterosexual in order to show that they
play the assigned role as a heterosexual
suitably while I’m a lead let me touch
upon the common remarks that stirs
people don’t come out you’ll be wrong if
we took this me that heterosexual people
don’t talk about their sex orientation
they talk and talk and talk but if you
mean that they don’t come out of the
cross yet you will be right because they
heterosexuality as a role is very
related to the functions that marriage
has had for a long time
marriage has been a social system for
the reproduction of ethnic groups or
for the generation of economic and
social networks but things are quite a
bit different in modern societies
because now loving each other is the
most central factor cofactor in marriage
in modern societies most of us live in
societies where such modern marriage is
for implant but functions and images of
traditional marriage remain with us and
it has a lot to do with the
heterosexuals role nevertheless in many
countries marriage has changed
dramatically and more radically by the
recognition of same-sex marriage or
civil union among gay couples but Japan
has yet to do so this lack of the
recognition often places gave people
personally can never forget what I saw
at the funeral of a friend of mine who
are the CEO of a gay business company he
passed away away suddenly in his room
and it was his partner who discovered
the body during of the funeral rites
where family members and friends were
clearly separated as per tradition his
partner had to attend as just one of his
friend the third expression on his face
turned into one a profound grief and
confusion when the emcee
placed their final exclusive call for
relatives to transfer the coffin to
hearse and to get on a bus to the
he was standing rigid frozen in place at
the last minute just before the bus left
a staff member of the gay company who
knew their relationship got him on the
bus
but even then I wonder just how much he
can let go and show the depths of his
the faces of grief misery and desolation
when gay people talked about their loss
of the partners continue to weigh
heavily on me regardless someone’s of
sexual orientation the passing away of a
life partner is depressingly bent for
the beliefs however forgave people it
often happened that they cannot continue
to stay at the belt side of life by life
time partner it is because they cannot
tell their they cannot tell their
partners family members about the nature
of the relationships and they say that
their friends do to Japanese social
customs that privileged family members /
friends they must leave their partner’s
bedside in such serious serious
situations well plus 3 I like to answer
the question why do you come out to my
twenties I came out because I didn’t
like being assumed to be heterosexual
and I wanted to be
more honest to friends but in my
searches on what I had to deal with
passing away of some okay friends
including my best friend as a result I
have been coming out in speaking out in
order to help build a society where gay
people can take care of their partner’s
disease and where should they have to
face the prospect of the eternal
separation they can be together to the
end able to say goodbye as they want
without worrying about getting strange
looks real value this is slowly becoming
a reality the fact I’m standing here
speaking with you today is proof of that
thank you [Applause]
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