Why Choosing How to Dress Became the Most Important Decision I Made | Deana Shaaban | TEDxAUK

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I want to share time with you that I
I want to share time with you that I once designed a wedding dress for a
once designed a wedding dress for a
once designed a wedding dress for a groom it’s about 12 o’clock in the
groom it’s about 12 o’clock in the
groom it’s about 12 o’clock in the afternoon and a client walks in with her
afternoon and a client walks in with her
afternoon and a client walks in with her mother and her fiance and they come into
mother and her fiance and they come into
mother and her fiance and they come into my studio to discuss her wedding dress
my studio to discuss her wedding dress
my studio to discuss her wedding dress and as we start talking she continuously
and as we start talking she continuously
and as we start talking she continuously looks over at the two people
looks over at the two people
looks over at the two people accompanying her and asked them and
accompanying her and asked them and
accompanying her and asked them and tells them you know they think I need to
tells them you know they think I need to
tells them you know they think I need to lose weight as they both laugh and we
lose weight as they both laugh and we
lose weight as they both laugh and we continuously start talking about
continuously start talking about
continuously start talking about different design aspects and as we do
different design aspects and as we do
different design aspects and as we do she continuously looks over at them and
she continuously looks over at them and
she continuously looks over at them and asks do you think I should wear this
asks do you think I should wear this
asks do you think I should wear this will it make me look nice do you think
will it make me look nice do you think
will it make me look nice do you think it would look good on my body enough of
it would look good on my body enough of
it would look good on my body enough of these questions are asked and answered
these questions are asked and answered
these questions are asked and answered by them over the hour that were together
by them over the hour that were together
by them over the hour that were together so much so that by the time that they’ve
so much so that by the time that they’ve
so much so that by the time that they’ve left we’ve designed nothing that would
left we’ve designed nothing that would
left we’ve designed nothing that would look good on her we have however
look good on her we have however
look good on her we have however designed an incredible wedding dress for
designed an incredible wedding dress for
designed an incredible wedding dress for her fiance that moment was very pivotal
her fiance that moment was very pivotal
her fiance that moment was very pivotal for me it was from that moment on that
for me it was from that moment on that
for me it was from that moment on that we made the decision to send the
we made the decision to send the
we made the decision to send the following email to all of our clients
following email to all of our clients
following email to all of our clients dear clients this is a gentle reminder
dear clients this is a gentle reminder
dear clients this is a gentle reminder of your appointment at our studio in
of your appointment at our studio in
of your appointment at our studio in order to ensure that we design a dress
order to ensure that we design a dress
order to ensure that we design a dress that best suits everything that you are
that best suits everything that you are
that best suits everything that you are we require that your visits to our
we require that your visits to our
we require that your visits to our studio are not accompanied by anyone of
studio are not accompanied by anyone of
studio are not accompanied by anyone of course this wasn’t taken very well at
course this wasn’t taken very well at
course this wasn’t taken very well at the beginning and we lost a lot of
the beginning and we lost a lot of
the beginning and we lost a lot of clients initially eventually people
clients initially eventually people
clients initially eventually people begun to get on board with the process
begun to get on board with the process
begun to get on board with the process that moment was very pivotal for me
that moment was very pivotal for me
that moment was very pivotal for me because it was from that moment on that
because it was from that moment on that
because it was from that moment on that we began to decide how it is that we
we began to decide how it is that we
we began to decide how it is that we design for our clients because what
design for our clients because what
design for our clients because what happens is this I realized that growing
happens is this I realized that growing
happens is this I realized that growing up very rarely do we make decisions
up very rarely do we make decisions
up very rarely do we make decisions about things in our lives that are not
about things in our lives that are not
about things in our lives that are not accompanied by the outside world
accompanied by the outside world
accompanied by the outside world what then results is I end up getting
what then results is I end up getting
what then results is I end up getting clients that come to my studio and walk
clients that come to my studio and walk
clients that come to my studio and walk out with dresses that don’t suit
out with dresses that don’t suit
out with dresses that don’t suit anything that they are and what happens
anything that they are and what happens
anything that they are and what happens is it suits everything that the people
is it suits everything that the people
is it suits everything that the people accompanying them are growing up I was a
accompanying them are growing up I was a
accompanying them are growing up I was a pro swimmer I had very short hair
pro swimmer I had very short hair
pro swimmer I had very short hair broccoli head if you will that’s what I
broccoli head if you will that’s what I
broccoli head if you will that’s what I called it I always believed I’d look
called it I always believed I’d look
called it I always believed I’d look like a boy and so did the security
like a boy and so did the security
like a boy and so did the security guards that continuously ran in after me
guards that continuously ran in after me
guards that continuously ran in after me into the female toilets to notify me
into the female toilets to notify me
into the female toilets to notify me that I’ve just now gone into the women’s
that I’ve just now gone into the women’s
that I’ve just now gone into the women’s bathroom enough of this happened over
bathroom enough of this happened over
bathroom enough of this happened over the years and I became so fed up
the years and I became so fed up
the years and I became so fed up with it but eventually I ended up just
with it but eventually I ended up just
with it but eventually I ended up just lifting my shirt up to prove to them
lifting my shirt up to prove to them
lifting my shirt up to prove to them that I was a girl of course that too
that I was a girl of course that too
that I was a girl of course that too wasn’t received very well something just
wasn’t received very well something just
wasn’t received very well something just never felt right I always felt like
never felt right I always felt like
never felt right I always felt like there wasn’t any harmony between what
there wasn’t any harmony between what
there wasn’t any harmony between what was happening on the inside and how I
was happening on the inside and how I
was happening on the inside and how I was on the outside and then the noise
was on the outside and then the noise
was on the outside and then the noise that was accompanied by the outside
that was accompanied by the outside
that was accompanied by the outside world continuously saying that I was a
world continuously saying that I was a
world continuously saying that I was a pro swimmer so of course I was going to
pro swimmer so of course I was going to
pro swimmer so of course I was going to be dressed in oversized t-shirts baggy
be dressed in oversized t-shirts baggy
be dressed in oversized t-shirts baggy clothes and flip-flops because of that
clothes and flip-flops because of that
clothes and flip-flops because of that always made me feel like this is how I
always made me feel like this is how I
always made me feel like this is how I should be dressing it was only after I
should be dressing it was only after I
should be dressing it was only after I became what I believed to be a conscious
became what I believed to be a conscious
became what I believed to be a conscious dresser did I start to feel like there
dresser did I start to feel like there
dresser did I start to feel like there was an overall harmony within me and I
was an overall harmony within me and I
was an overall harmony within me and I had to start asking myself very simple
had to start asking myself very simple
had to start asking myself very simple questions do I like this it seems like
questions do I like this it seems like
questions do I like this it seems like such a simple question right but how
such a simple question right but how
such a simple question right but how many of us have really stopped to think
many of us have really stopped to think
many of us have really stopped to think of the answer that question for
of the answer that question for
of the answer that question for ourselves so initially by allowing our
ourselves so initially by allowing our
ourselves so initially by allowing our clients to come alone and to come
clients to come alone and to come
clients to come alone and to come unarmed we allowed a space safe space
unarmed we allowed a space safe space
unarmed we allowed a space safe space for them to be honest
for them to be honest
for them to be honest getting them to then bare their soul
getting them to then bare their soul
getting them to then bare their soul when we are alone we are most vulnerable
when we are alone we are most vulnerable
when we are alone we are most vulnerable and when we are vulnerable it then
and when we are vulnerable it then
and when we are vulnerable it then provides a safe space and a passageway
provides a safe space and a passageway
provides a safe space and a passageway for honesty to come to the surface when
for honesty to come to the surface when
for honesty to come to the surface when I first began to do it it was very
I first began to do it it was very
I first began to do it it was very difficult for me to be honest with
difficult for me to be honest with
difficult for me to be honest with myself about why I thought the way that
myself about why I thought the way that
myself about why I thought the way that I did and why my tastes and preferences
I did and why my tastes and preferences
I did and why my tastes and preferences were the way that they were and it is
were the way that they were and it is
were the way that they were and it is because that this line of thinking was
because that this line of thinking was
because that this line of thinking was so difficult for me and very unfamiliar
so difficult for me and very unfamiliar
so difficult for me and very unfamiliar growing up I was bullied a lot at school
growing up I was bullied a lot at school
growing up I was bullied a lot at school from about junior kindergarten all the
from about junior kindergarten all the
from about junior kindergarten all the way up to sixth grade every time I had
way up to sixth grade every time I had
way up to sixth grade every time I had an opinion it was either shot down or
an opinion it was either shot down or
an opinion it was either shot down or made fun of when enough of that begins
made fun of when enough of that begins
made fun of when enough of that begins to happen what happens then is I end up
to happen what happens then is I end up
to happen what happens then is I end up feeling like it’s better to keep my pins
feeling like it’s better to keep my pins
feeling like it’s better to keep my pins to myself than to be able to voice my
to myself than to be able to voice my
to myself than to be able to voice my opinions to the outside world and so
opinions to the outside world and so
opinions to the outside world and so after years of that happening I ended up
after years of that happening I ended up
after years of that happening I ended up not having any opinions for myself to
not having any opinions for myself to
not having any opinions for myself to begin with I never really felt like I
begin with I never really felt like I
begin with I never really felt like I had a safe space for me to be able to
had a safe space for me to be able to
had a safe space for me to be able to share my opinions and then have it
share my opinions and then have it
share my opinions and then have it received by the worlds and what I didn’t
received by the worlds and what I didn’t
received by the worlds and what I didn’t realize at the time was it was never
realize at the time was it was never
realize at the time was it was never about the world accepting who I was it
about the world accepting who I was it
about the world accepting who I was it was always about me accepting myself
was always about me accepting myself
was always about me accepting myself first and foremost
first and foremost
first and foremost what we do with our clients is then this
what we do with our clients is then this
what we do with our clients is then this we end up giving them a safe space for
we end up giving them a safe space for
we end up giving them a safe space for them to be honest with themselves
them to be honest with themselves
them to be honest with themselves because up for example about the fact
because up for example about the fact
because up for example about the fact that for they want to design in a dress
that for they want to design in a dress
that for they want to design in a dress with a slit from the ground all the way
with a slit from the ground all the way
with a slit from the ground all the way up to their tonsils is because they want
up to their tonsils is because they want
up to their tonsils is because they want to feel sexy and a little bit risky and
to feel sexy and a little bit risky and
to feel sexy and a little bit risky and then telling them that that line of
then telling them that that line of
then telling them that that line of thinking is totally okay because if we
thinking is totally okay because if we
thinking is totally okay because if we can get past a simple I want this dress
can get past a simple I want this dress
can get past a simple I want this dress because it’s super pretty then we can
because it’s super pretty then we can
because it’s super pretty then we can allow our clients to understand
allow our clients to understand
allow our clients to understand themselves with a little bit more depth
themselves with a little bit more depth
themselves with a little bit more depth than when they walked into our studio as
than when they walked into our studio as
than when they walked into our studio as they walk out and after we’ve provided a
they walk out and after we’ve provided a
they walk out and after we’ve provided a safe space for our clients to be able to
safe space for our clients to be able to
safe space for our clients to be able to bare their soul and be honest with
bare their soul and be honest with
bare their soul and be honest with themselves we can then begin the third
themselves we can then begin the third
themselves we can then begin the third step in our design process helping them
step in our design process helping them
step in our design process helping them to eliminate preconceived notions about
to eliminate preconceived notions about
to eliminate preconceived notions about what they can and cannot wear and what
what they can and cannot wear and what
what they can and cannot wear and what they should more importantly or should
they should more importantly or should
they should more importantly or should not be wearing at all and then why they
not be wearing at all and then why they
not be wearing at all and then why they thought this way to begin with a few
thought this way to begin with a few
thought this way to begin with a few years ago I had a six year old client
years ago I had a six year old client
years ago I had a six year old client walk into my studio and say to me my
walk into my studio and say to me my
walk into my studio and say to me my husband is dead and now I want to wear
husband is dead and now I want to wear
husband is dead and now I want to wear turqoise so while I was super excited
turqoise so while I was super excited
turqoise so while I was super excited that she was ready for a makeover the
that she was ready for a makeover the
that she was ready for a makeover the reality behind the paralyzing nature of
reality behind the paralyzing nature of
reality behind the paralyzing nature of our Egyptian culture really hit me at
our Egyptian culture really hit me at
our Egyptian culture really hit me at that very moment so when I said to her
that very moment so when I said to her
that very moment so when I said to her okay then let’s do it let’s make a dress
okay then let’s do it let’s make a dress
okay then let’s do it let’s make a dress with turqoise she said to me oh but wait
with turqoise she said to me oh but wait
with turqoise she said to me oh but wait what are my in-laws gonna think they’re
what are my in-laws gonna think they’re
what are my in-laws gonna think they’re gonna think I waited till my husband
gonna think I waited till my husband
gonna think I waited till my husband died so that I could live my life and
died so that I could live my life and
died so that I could live my life and then I’m thinking because you want to
then I’m thinking because you want to
then I’m thinking because you want to wear turqoise and then how is this any
wear turqoise and then how is this any
wear turqoise and then how is this any of their business here you have the
of their business here you have the
of their business here you have the perfectly okay turquoise dress
perfectly okay turquoise dress
perfectly okay turquoise dress encounters with my clients have been a
encounters with my clients have been a
encounters with my clients have been a series of comments my series of thoughts
series of comments my series of thoughts
series of comments my series of thoughts like what is my father gonna think my
like what is my father gonna think my
like what is my father gonna think my mom is gonna kill me if I end up wearing
mom is gonna kill me if I end up wearing
mom is gonna kill me if I end up wearing this what are the neighbors gonna say
this what are the neighbors gonna say
this what are the neighbors gonna say about my personality and then the one
about my personality and then the one
about my personality and then the one that’s revisited the most I love this
that’s revisited the most I love this
that’s revisited the most I love this dress
dress
dress it’s the issues not me it’s my husband
it’s the issues not me it’s my husband
it’s the issues not me it’s my husband most women have a wardrobe for Egypt and
most women have a wardrobe for Egypt and
most women have a wardrobe for Egypt and another wardrobe for their vacation
another wardrobe for their vacation
another wardrobe for their vacation vacations outside of Egypt and the
vacations outside of Egypt and the
vacations outside of Egypt and the reason for that is they’ve decided that
reason for that is they’ve decided that
reason for that is they’ve decided that over the years it’s easier to conform to
over the years it’s easier to conform to
over the years it’s easier to conform to the overall cultural restrictions than
the overall cultural restrictions than
the overall cultural restrictions than have to scream against it and protest by
have to scream against it and protest by
have to scream against it and protest by the way that they’re dressed
the way that they’re dressed
the way that they’re dressed oftentimes they visit our studio with
oftentimes they visit our studio with
oftentimes they visit our studio with pictures of dresses and then they say oh
pictures of dresses and then they say oh
pictures of dresses and then they say oh I want to wear this dress but because
I want to wear this dress but because
I want to wear this dress but because not every dress suits every woman we
not every dress suits every woman we
not every dress suits every woman we kind of have to start from the beginning
kind of have to start from the beginning
kind of have to start from the beginning with them by asking them why do you like
with them by asking them why do you like
with them by asking them why do you like this design and then working our way
this design and then working our way
this design and then working our way backwards and then why do you like it
backwards and then why do you like it
backwards and then why do you like it and if we’re able to kind of backtrack
and if we’re able to kind of backtrack
and if we’re able to kind of backtrack and start from the beginning with them
and start from the beginning with them
and start from the beginning with them most of the time they come and they tell
most of the time they come and they tell
most of the time they come and they tell us oh ok nevermind I didn’t really like
us oh ok nevermind I didn’t really like
us oh ok nevermind I didn’t really like the dress or perhaps they liked a
the dress or perhaps they liked a
the dress or perhaps they liked a detailer too but in allowing them to
detailer too but in allowing them to
detailer too but in allowing them to strip themselves of the preconceived
strip themselves of the preconceived
strip themselves of the preconceived notions about what they can wear and
notions about what they can wear and
notions about what they can wear and what they can’t wear and what they
what they can’t wear and what they
what they can’t wear and what they should or should not be bearing and
should or should not be bearing and
should or should not be bearing and starting with the beginning with who am
starting with the beginning with who am
starting with the beginning with who am I were able to help them understand who
I were able to help them understand who
I were able to help them understand who it is they are and why it is they
it is they are and why it is they
it is they are and why it is they believe things from the beginning the
believe things from the beginning the
believe things from the beginning the most difficult part of the design
most difficult part of the design
most difficult part of the design process for me is bringing all of this
process for me is bringing all of this
process for me is bringing all of this together I have to be really
together I have to be really
together I have to be really introspective because I have to put
introspective because I have to put
introspective because I have to put aside my own biases about what I
aside my own biases about what I
aside my own biases about what I initially thought would look best on
initially thought would look best on
initially thought would look best on them and I write what I initially
them and I write what I initially
them and I write what I initially thought of them as a person and try and
thought of them as a person and try and
thought of them as a person and try and really see past all that to really
really see past all that to really
really see past all that to really understand who my clients are to best
understand who my clients are to best
understand who my clients are to best design for their personalities their
design for their personalities their
design for their personalities their bodies and the events that they plan to
bodies and the events that they plan to
bodies and the events that they plan to attend what happens is this with most of
attend what happens is this with most of
attend what happens is this with most of our clients that we end up starting with
our clients that we end up starting with
our clients that we end up starting with the design at the beginning and as we go
the design at the beginning and as we go
the design at the beginning and as we go along the design process the design can
along the design process the design can
along the design process the design can then morph into something else entirely
then morph into something else entirely
then morph into something else entirely and there’s two reasons for that
and there’s two reasons for that
and there’s two reasons for that firstly our clients don’t have an entire
firstly our clients don’t have an entire
firstly our clients don’t have an entire understanding of who it is they are and
understanding of who it is they are and
understanding of who it is they are and they’re still experimenting with who
they’re still experimenting with who
they’re still experimenting with who they are as they go along and then a lot
they are as they go along and then a lot
they are as they go along and then a lot of the times when they come with
of the times when they come with
of the times when they come with frequency of notions that completely
frequency of notions that completely
frequency of notions that completely changes by the time that we’ve reached
changes by the time that we’ve reached
changes by the time that we’ve reached the end of the design process I’m a
the end of the design process I’m a
the end of the design process I’m a highly emotional person
highly emotional person
highly emotional person it’s too hysterical is probably a better
it’s too hysterical is probably a better
it’s too hysterical is probably a better way to describe it and around the time I
way to describe it and around the time I
way to describe it and around the time I was starting my business I had a great
was starting my business I had a great
was starting my business I had a great deal of emotional ups and downs downs
deal of emotional ups and downs downs
deal of emotional ups and downs downs more than ups ups excuse me it’s down
more than ups ups excuse me it’s down
more than ups ups excuse me it’s down more than ups I went resulted then is I
more than ups I went resulted then is I
more than ups I went resulted then is I ended up being in a very very dark place
ended up being in a very very dark place
ended up being in a very very dark place I was diagnosed with the clinical
I was diagnosed with the clinical
I was diagnosed with the clinical depression at the time and a good few
depression at the time and a good few
depression at the time and a good few therapists attempted to medicate me I
therapists attempted to medicate me I
therapists attempted to medicate me I refused something in me just never felt
refused something in me just never felt
refused something in me just never felt right about that and what happens is
right about that and what happens is
right about that and what happens is this what I decided to do at the time
this what I decided to do at the time
this what I decided to do at the time was instead of trying of going through
was instead of trying of going through
was instead of trying of going through the emotions and allowing my
the emotions and allowing my
the emotions and allowing my stuff to completely submit to them I was
stuff to completely submit to them I was
stuff to completely submit to them I was attempting to try and understand myself
attempting to try and understand myself
attempting to try and understand myself a little bit better initially what I
a little bit better initially what I
a little bit better initially what I would do is so my initial thought always
would do is so my initial thought always
would do is so my initial thought always at the time was oh my god I’m so
at the time was oh my god I’m so
at the time was oh my god I’m so depressed and when I initially tried to
depressed and when I initially tried to
depressed and when I initially tried to understand it my first thought
understand it my first thought
understand it my first thought afterwards was oh my gosh I’m depressed
afterwards was oh my gosh I’m depressed
afterwards was oh my gosh I’m depressed because my life sucks and then when I
because my life sucks and then when I
because my life sucks and then when I was able to put my egos aside and the
was able to put my egos aside and the
was able to put my egos aside and the overwhelming amount of emotions aside I
overwhelming amount of emotions aside I
overwhelming amount of emotions aside I was then able to answer questions a lot
was then able to answer questions a lot
was then able to answer questions a lot more a little bit more logically and
more a little bit more logically and
more a little bit more logically and tangibly in a way that I could fix them
tangibly in a way that I could fix them
tangibly in a way that I could fix them such as I don’t have any money I don’t
such as I don’t have any money I don’t
such as I don’t have any money I don’t know how I’m going to start why did I
know how I’m going to start why did I
know how I’m going to start why did I think I could even start a business and
think I could even start a business and
think I could even start a business and what on earth do I even know about
what on earth do I even know about
what on earth do I even know about design and then a lot of the times at
design and then a lot of the times at
design and then a lot of the times at the beginning I was having to sew
the beginning I was having to sew
the beginning I was having to sew everything on my own because I didn’t
everything on my own because I didn’t
everything on my own because I didn’t really have the budget to do it so then
really have the budget to do it so then
really have the budget to do it so then I would even get more depressed about oh
I would even get more depressed about oh
I would even get more depressed about oh my gosh I’ve sewn 25 pieces I have about
my gosh I’ve sewn 25 pieces I have about
my gosh I’ve sewn 25 pieces I have about like 200 left to go and eventually if
like 200 left to go and eventually if
like 200 left to go and eventually if you’re able to really understand who you
you’re able to really understand who you
you’re able to really understand who you are you end up understanding the
are you end up understanding the
are you end up understanding the negative feelings where they’re derived
negative feelings where they’re derived
negative feelings where they’re derived from and understanding that I was able
from and understanding that I was able
from and understanding that I was able to fully translate these feelings into
to fully translate these feelings into
to fully translate these feelings into the things that my clients will then
the things that my clients will then
the things that my clients will then wear because in understanding the person
wear because in understanding the person
wear because in understanding the person that you’re designing for you are then
that you’re designing for you are then
that you’re designing for you are then able to translate those emotions and
able to translate those emotions and
able to translate those emotions and that personality into a piece that they
that personality into a piece that they
that personality into a piece that they will then wear this brings us to the
will then wear this brings us to the
will then wear this brings us to the final step of our design process
final step of our design process
final step of our design process alignment with the inner self this is a
alignment with the inner self this is a
alignment with the inner self this is a bit more difficult what happens is this
bit more difficult what happens is this
bit more difficult what happens is this ultimately the success of a design is
ultimately the success of a design is
ultimately the success of a design is not in designing a great piece alone you
not in designing a great piece alone you
not in designing a great piece alone you have to design something that is an
have to design something that is an
have to design something that is an extension of what a person is in
extension of what a person is in
extension of what a person is in designing that you’re designing
designing that you’re designing
designing that you’re designing something that is not separate from who
something that is not separate from who
something that is not separate from who they are because people need to see both
they are because people need to see both
they are because people need to see both human and design as one harmonious
human and design as one harmonious
human and design as one harmonious pastor piece there cannot be a
pastor piece there cannot be a
pastor piece there cannot be a separation of the two many times I’ve
separation of the two many times I’ve
separation of the two many times I’ve found that clients don’t have an
found that clients don’t have an
found that clients don’t have an understanding of who it is that they are
understanding of who it is that they are
understanding of who it is that they are which is evident through the
which is evident through the
which is evident through the conversations that we have and is
conversations that we have and is
conversations that we have and is evident through the many things that we
evident through the many things that we
evident through the many things that we go through together along the design
go through together along the design
go through together along the design process because we don’t only meet once
process because we don’t only meet once
process because we don’t only meet once we meet several times in order for them
we meet several times in order for them
we meet several times in order for them to have that deeper understanding of who
to have that deeper understanding of who
to have that deeper understanding of who they are
they are
they are so once I’d sit down with them and
so once I’d sit down with them and
so once I’d sit down with them and explain my research process and my line
explain my research process and my line
explain my research process and my line of thinking they’re then able to
of thinking they’re then able to
of thinking they’re then able to understand and more often than not they
understand and more often than not they
understand and more often than not they are totally ok with it and they totally
are totally ok with it and they totally
are totally ok with it and they totally agree with the kinds of designs that we
agree with the kinds of designs that we
agree with the kinds of designs that we do most of our clients at the beacon
do most of our clients at the beacon
do most of our clients at the beacon when they come in there you could feel
when they come in there you could feel
when they come in there you could feel that there’s an air of a lack of
that there’s an air of a lack of
that there’s an air of a lack of confidence that’s within them because
confidence that’s within them because
confidence that’s within them because what they were wearing most of the time
what they were wearing most of the time
what they were wearing most of the time and they end up telling us later is not
and they end up telling us later is not
and they end up telling us later is not in line with who they are as a person
in line with who they are as a person
in line with who they are as a person you see there’s like an extraordinary
you see there’s like an extraordinary
you see there’s like an extraordinary transformation that happens for a person
transformation that happens for a person
transformation that happens for a person when they’re able to wear something that
when they’re able to wear something that
when they’re able to wear something that feels like their own skin her back is
feels like their own skin her back is
feels like their own skin her back is taller she smiles more she stands up
taller she smiles more she stands up
taller she smiles more she stands up straight and there is an overwhelming
straight and there is an overwhelming
straight and there is an overwhelming amount of joy that overcomes her entire
amount of joy that overcomes her entire
amount of joy that overcomes her entire being the simple act of waking up in the
being the simple act of waking up in the
being the simple act of waking up in the morning and choosing to be a certain way
morning and choosing to be a certain way
morning and choosing to be a certain way and deciding what will go on your body
and deciding what will go on your body
and deciding what will go on your body is one of the most decisions that you
is one of the most decisions that you
is one of the most decisions that you will make every single day in your life
will make every single day in your life
will make every single day in your life what I think most people don’t realize
what I think most people don’t realize
what I think most people don’t realize is this if our clothing is an extension
is this if our clothing is an extension
is this if our clothing is an extension of who we are and we neglect it’s we
of who we are and we neglect it’s we
of who we are and we neglect it’s we discourage it and we’re not true to it
discourage it and we’re not true to it
discourage it and we’re not true to it ultimately we’re taking away and we are
ultimately we’re taking away and we are
ultimately we’re taking away and we are denying who it is we choose to be as
denying who it is we choose to be as
denying who it is we choose to be as human beings in making our clients come
human beings in making our clients come
human beings in making our clients come alone to our studio and unarmed guiding
alone to our studio and unarmed guiding
alone to our studio and unarmed guiding them to help them bare their soul and
them to help them bare their soul and
them to help them bare their soul and then encouraging them to rid themselves
then encouraging them to rid themselves
then encouraging them to rid themselves of pre-existing notions of what the
of pre-existing notions of what the
of pre-existing notions of what the world around them thinks they should be
world around them thinks they should be
world around them thinks they should be and then helping a-line their outers
and then helping a-line their outers
and then helping a-line their outers extremes with their inner self we are
extremes with their inner self we are
extremes with their inner self we are helping them then carry them through to
helping them then carry them through to
helping them then carry them through to outer alignment we’re allowing them the
outer alignment we’re allowing them the
outer alignment we’re allowing them the space to choose who it is they really
space to choose who it is they really
space to choose who it is they really want to be this idea is so powerful that
want to be this idea is so powerful that
want to be this idea is so powerful that it then carries on into our everyday
it then carries on into our everyday
it then carries on into our everyday lives if you can wake up every single
lives if you can wake up every single
lives if you can wake up every single morning and make a decision about what
morning and make a decision about what
morning and make a decision about what it is you want to be through the one
it is you want to be through the one
it is you want to be through the one thing that is the most obvious form of
thing that is the most obvious form of
thing that is the most obvious form of self-expression and the extension of who
self-expression and the extension of who
self-expression and the extension of who you are as human beings then the
you are as human beings then the
you are as human beings then the realizes that you begin to realize that
realizes that you begin to realize that
realizes that you begin to realize that anything in the world is then possible
anything in the world is then possible
anything in the world is then possible simply because you have chosen to be
simply because you have chosen to be
simply because you have chosen to be thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]