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The most unobvious demonstration of discrimination in a modern world | Alexander Danyaev | TEDxPSLU


Hello everyone can hear me
I hear you all hello I would like with you
talk about a topic like
discrimination and raise your hand who
Considers that discrimination is in principle
it is a crime in general
aha for those who did not raise my hand
bad news for you
but it’s true crime is bad and in
what is special about this from this event
this event yes there discriminator
concepts in general is that unlike
he has no classic crime
object and subject explicitly in explicit
form that is
but if you, for example, went to the store and
they stole a chocolate from there on your costume
caught then you are a thief why because you
stolen chocolate she lies with you in
pocket but this is obvious a discrimination
are very non-obvious phenomenon
social phenomenon and but it is without
complex implicit topic I’d like to
today talk about implicit
discrimination about very clearly
discrimination in itself is a concept
originated in social groups in
social strata when everyone shares
the same beliefs are well the brightest and
the most recent there relatively recently
example is equality and not equality
men and women like that suddenly
in the whole society suddenly men
agreed at the same time behind the scenes that
women cannot vote
and yet well, it will not be
vote everything and everyone agreed
Well , there was no such thing that everyone gathered
in one place decided worldwide straight
all the men gathered in one place
music they all vote no more
will such was not this concept just
there is the same thing was
of the African Americans the same thing happened with
other social groups that are not
much you are protected by them which are weaker than
the group that starts to oppress them
somehow my topic is related
with child discrimination with discrimination
children but no it’s not about exploitation
child labor is not about slave labor
children it is about the fact that we are every day
every family almost every family we
see right here every day but I will explain
in order in general in principle for
order to speak and discrimination and
to change something
and my goal is to change certain
conviction regarding this topic for
this is necessary and transparent is very direct
vivid simple example such
example is well here for example who
in general, that’s just there
life is such an example when you lead or
this is your parents or someone close
leads a child to kindergarten and he is very
strongly there does not want to eat such kevin
Yes, there is, and he strongly does not want what
guided by an adult which
Well, java is the first to know what it is better for them
Secondly, I would now give him where
weep he will weep calm him
I will pick him up there again
crying because he is very happy
see us so much and he understands that
tomorrow he will be led there again
crying right now is a funny situation
worn after all this
but a certain infringement of his rights
type we decided for him that he was better there
it seems obvious when you say so
but let’s just in one such situation
at 40 well imagine you have a wife
or husband and you wake up in the morning
say dear we’ll go now
a fitness center
i love you fitness big i want to go there
I’ll give it now and take it in the evening
and for example by chance the wife of data weakens
and even easier as an example to show it
telling me i don’t want you burn opinion
I have to go to work, I will take you there now
I hand over the wording itself to pass to the garden to pass
in the garden I ‘ll give you there now
in the evening pick up she will start crying
we do not pay attention to this plant
we take his car we give fitness trainer
Instructor peasant who then we burn we
than to not give up
funny yes and with the children we do exactly
same type and we don’t care
next my favorite example is that
With regards to hobbies and sports and we somehow
firmly convinced that we know better
they want our children well, and we did so I
I want him to grow up a real man
my son so i will give it for itching or there
he must be well physically developed i
give him swimming baby up to very
long time takes us
adults like gods
who can’t be wrong which are exactly
We know what we want but what we do not say
swimming swimming will not start walking
a month they are engaged in a month
engaged with a swim coach and min
like it then he ceases to like
suddenly all of a sudden playing dads i don’t want anymore
I’m sick of going swimming
adults say at this moment not you
will you go to court I paid for the year
forward you swim out of this pool
every ruble you paid well
will you swim there bye
and in the end, because if we are adults
if we convince ourselves if he
Now throw it and I’ll indulge your
word to indulge a loved one i will
indulge he will then start throwing
and we will justify ourselves and in fact
if he goes through the force in this very
swimming pool
he will learn not to complete the un
learn what the strong needs
obey contrary to your desire
simple situation no need to go far
husband comes home from work and says
the wife is shorter, I realized that this
a woman should be able to cook tomorrow i
enrolled in cooking classes all
you go there now need such a well
Okay, well, but even interesting can
be i go she walks 2 classes she doesn’t
like not like not teacher
which is very strange i like that
what does there do when i like on
comes listening
I don’t want to go away and I don’t like it
you don’t understand i paid for them even
if you don’t like you now
moving on then you will start to like and
forcing it to go well, or that you
do you want to learn how to throw everything
today you will leave the courses tomorrow i am not
and again it’s funny and with children we are so
but doing the most if open wikipedia
in general and the concept of discrimination open
there will be one of the first is
territorial violation
territorial personal identity
property and generally some
property and here’s the brightest example of this
baby room baby is born through
for a while he tells him a little
grows up he begins to understand
it is very important to know and remember always that
baby is just a little man we
discriminate and infringe rights
just the same person as we just
because he is smaller
Well, like he has the same hand
the same he even looks like socks
to your parent but we are him but he is not
man as if not to man he
little
how could it sound but we are true to
we treat him that way we give him a room in
where he has his bed he sleeps there
him there is a personal spatial supposedly
him there toys are all that
and at some point we just
open the door and to him I am silent what
this without knocking happens just open
camera you are a mess
I am a court, and then I’m right in this pigsty live
I do not want
let’s clean
Well, agree strange if some
a person even a close friend of yours
will open the door to your house and say no
listens but I don’t want to be here
clearly as though it were you
They said that this is your room and here
another person comes in
regulates it just overhaul
Your hell’s room is my house, but it will be
own that’s who raise your hand who remembers
straight this phrase will do the trick and there chu
buzz buzz and
and also strange but it’s really strange
that it just has tools well
I mean my task here is not easy
criticize this behavior pattern
parents who do that too
my reasons for that are definitely
but this one has a solution tool we
are talking
if the child doesn’t clean the room he doesn’t
sees a causal relationship between
the fact that between his convenience such as him
I want to play cubes every day and he
but if he won’t clean them in
certain point it will just
suffer because he will be left
kick or attack
It means very painful and he himself but he can
immediately obviously not see it from our task
how parents show him teach to see
relationship and this can only be done with
using dialogue without suppressing him otherwise he
learn what you just need to be stronger
well type any person is stronger there
another can come ska do like this
why well why did i want to because
that I am more simple and stronger because
This has big consequences.
well we are funny now we laugh it
really fun and especially if you translate
for example from older it is generally cool
but this is very
distant consequences are about
a month ago a friend called me
former colleague from work girl I look
we will call together 1 month
and they are busy burning your listen at me
the question is , but I’m fine, but I
a bit while rubbing the car another here
tell me what to do where to call
there in the insurance as this procedure
what happens is that you have a car there
for a long time you drive for 800 years all in
okay and so i say yes masha sensations
I will tell the question now I am telling
where to call insurance memorable police
who when come what do i do and
helping
and I suddenly so and slips
why did you call me at all ?
I still call the clay listen at you
there is dad dad then just in case
even the dad works in the police
cops to be and he needed
call and know what she said if
I’ll call him the number of problems I have
obviously will increase and I will not decrease yet
I’m afraid to call him I got used to a bit
almost keepass there insurance damage 5000
rubles paint me well me
easier to solve the question you just tell me
everything and I thought because our parents
told us that we will always help you
we will be near you what
and more than anything they experienced
that we are fighting some kind of wrong
by a company a person who falls into
trouble
big little doesn’t matter even if he
just priter someone else’s car he got into
micro trouble and the first thing he does is calling
another stranger well i mean
I do not
close relative i’m not a close friend
they are just a man who has experience in
addressing such issues and she with me
advised
and it’s good that I don’t want to cause her
no inconvenience or harm
such a task I want to help her but because
my place could be a man who could
of a person from another person
being so utterly shaky
position to take advantage of the type he
could take advantage of this situation
selfish purposes and agree how
ironic that our
parents and when we become
parents and such a model
behavior act cause
Togo
and what we most wanted to protect and
protect your children it’s the same
it seems very ironic to me and therefore what
have to do
what do you need to do in this situation
talk as soon as we change
filter that children are people too
it didn’t sound like they just
smaller size they have their desires
your needs if a person went on
dancing for example ballet with us today
went to the ballet and in two months well she
stop liking ballet and she will say
about it ok they can
communicate children can talk
you won’t believe but when they start
you can talk and they can say
I don’t want to ask one question enough
why if I don’t want to go for what
get up early can change the group if
do not like to walk at all the garden is very
traumatic type history with her
she was beside him all the time he was a child
you give this little man in
another place to other people in all
gardens and discover the secret in all gardens
can you agree to parent first
time sat somewhere nearby need
teach the child to the fact that I am near
always help just i have my own
affairs need work i think that with
any work will be released for a day or two and this
the story is no longer he just has to
feel a little man should
feel
that he is always ready to support him
always ready to help
it ‘s not difficult, I’m for talking this very
it is important and equally important that our
our desire is an educator our desires
to help
it was really really honest because
There is no worse phrase for another person than
I am ashamed of you
what am I ashamed of you for this protection
you did not meet my expectations who said
that you need to meet other people’s expectations in
if this person is an independent person
with his nervous system he’s just a little
slightly smaller than us therefore let’s
try to look at the world a little
with different eyes look at them through
filter of the fact that it is just the same
adults like us just a little less and
our task is simply to help them help them
share experiences talking to them and
help them interact with this world
so that they get from this
pleasure thank you
[applause]
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