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The 5 elements of making your dreams come true | Yaron Kafkafi | TEDxTelAviv


I just flew in from New York where I’m
I just flew in from New York where I’m developing my upcoming Broadway musical
this is not just some information I’m
this is not just some information I’m sharing with you
sharing with you
sharing with you I’ve been waiting to say this sentence
I’ve been waiting to say this sentence
I’ve been waiting to say this sentence all my life really so when I was a
all my life really so when I was a
all my life really so when I was a teenager I wanted to be an actor but for
teenager I wanted to be an actor but for
teenager I wanted to be an actor but for some reason when all the other wannabes
some reason when all the other wannabes
some reason when all the other wannabes at my drama class dreamed of being a
at my drama class dreamed of being a
at my drama class dreamed of being a Hollywood star I had my eyes on Broadway
Hollywood star I had my eyes on Broadway
Hollywood star I had my eyes on Broadway I was an actor and a singer in a youth
I was an actor and a singer in a youth
I was an actor and a singer in a youth group and when I joined the Army just a
group and when I joined the Army just a
group and when I joined the Army just a few years later I got to serve in an
few years later I got to serve in an
few years later I got to serve in an entertainment troop I was pretty good at
entertainment troop I was pretty good at
entertainment troop I was pretty good at it and I joined it very much and
it and I joined it very much and
it and I joined it very much and everybody thought including me that this
everybody thought including me that this
everybody thought including me that this is going to be my life’s goal I’m gonna
is going to be my life’s goal I’m gonna
is going to be my life’s goal I’m gonna be an actor but when I got out of the
be an actor but when I got out of the
be an actor but when I got out of the army I replaced the dream of acting in a
army I replaced the dream of acting in a
army I replaced the dream of acting in a musical with a dream of writing
musical with a dream of writing
musical with a dream of writing composing and directing my own musicals
composing and directing my own musicals
composing and directing my own musicals so this change of plans happen mainly
so this change of plans happen mainly
so this change of plans happen mainly because I hate learning long text by
because I hate learning long text by
because I hate learning long text by heart and because I was lucky enough to
heart and because I was lucky enough to
heart and because I was lucky enough to get a job as a drama teacher in a
get a job as a drama teacher in a
get a job as a drama teacher in a northern tel-aviv Community Center the
northern tel-aviv Community Center the
northern tel-aviv Community Center the moment I set foot in this auditorium
moment I set foot in this auditorium
moment I set foot in this auditorium I felt like home now since childhood I
I felt like home now since childhood I
I felt like home now since childhood I had vision of a musical about a certain
had vision of a musical about a certain
had vision of a musical about a certain biblical character and I had to persuade
biblical character and I had to persuade
biblical character and I had to persuade a bunch of cheeky teenager and some
a bunch of cheeky teenager and some
a bunch of cheeky teenager and some skeptic adults that a biblical musical
skeptic adults that a biblical musical
skeptic adults that a biblical musical which a right composed and direct will
which a right composed and direct will
which a right composed and direct will be sexy and commercial enough so here I
be sexy and commercial enough so here I
be sexy and commercial enough so here I am by the age of 23
am by the age of 23
am by the age of 23 with no credential enrolling everyone in
with no credential enrolling everyone in
with no credential enrolling everyone in to make my dream a reality
to make my dream a reality
to make my dream a reality with only passionate words and shining
with only passionate words and shining
with only passionate words and shining eyes so this is how I got to produce my
eyes so this is how I got to produce my
eyes so this is how I got to produce my first musical my faith and passion made
first musical my faith and passion made
first musical my faith and passion made me choose the right words and it was my
me choose the right words and it was my
me choose the right words and it was my first revelation I can generate every
first revelation I can generate every
first revelation I can generate every vision I have with words later on I
vision I have with words later on I
vision I have with words later on I called it
called it
called it taking initiative share your dream in a
taking initiative share your dream in a
taking initiative share your dream in a way that will inspire your listeners
way that will inspire your listeners
way that will inspire your listeners that was only the beginning I found four
that was only the beginning I found four
that was only the beginning I found four more elements that help me with my
more elements that help me with my
more elements that help me with my dreams and I call them the five element
dreams and I call them the five element
dreams and I call them the five element of being extraordinary and I’m here
of being extraordinary and I’m here
of being extraordinary and I’m here today to share them with you these five
today to share them with you these five
today to share them with you these five elements will help you make your dream
elements will help you make your dream
elements will help you make your dream come true back in the small community
come true back in the small community
come true back in the small community centre we all work to passionately and I
centre we all work to passionately and I
centre we all work to passionately and I kept working through the night
kept working through the night
kept working through the night completing the musical underscore
completing the musical underscore
completing the musical underscore designing the logo and the poster I knew
designing the logo and the poster I knew
designing the logo and the poster I knew that so many eyes were looking at me I
that so many eyes were looking at me I
that so many eyes were looking at me I just couldn’t let them down I thought
just couldn’t let them down I thought
just couldn’t let them down I thought that in return to their total devotion
that in return to their total devotion
that in return to their total devotion to me I have to set up an example
to me I have to set up an example
to me I have to set up an example example of commitment and so I held
example of commitment and so I held
example of commitment and so I held every promise I made sacred that was the
every promise I made sacred that was the
every promise I made sacred that was the second element that I got from those
second element that I got from those
second element that I got from those early days in order to be regarded as a
early days in order to be regarded as a
early days in order to be regarded as a pro I have to deliver what I promised at
pro I have to deliver what I promised at
pro I have to deliver what I promised at the time I promised to do it
the time I promised to do it
the time I promised to do it so by now I’m sure you can imagine the
so by now I’m sure you can imagine the
so by now I’m sure you can imagine the excitement at my first opening night my
excitement at my first opening night my
excitement at my first opening night my beloved parents and friends are all
beloved parents and friends are all
beloved parents and friends are all there in that small auditorium we were
there in that small auditorium we were
there in that small auditorium we were all curious how the audience will
all curious how the audience will
all curious how the audience will respond to this full-length biblical
respond to this full-length biblical
respond to this full-length biblical musical my anxiety was
musical my anxiety was
musical my anxiety was because I had another reason to be
because I had another reason to be
because I had another reason to be anxious
anxious
anxious I wrote the lead character as a bisexual
I wrote the lead character as a bisexual
I wrote the lead character as a bisexual engaging with another gay character it
engaging with another gay character it
engaging with another gay character it was in the early 90s and the subject was
was in the early 90s and the subject was
was in the early 90s and the subject was still explosive in Israel especially in
still explosive in Israel especially in
still explosive in Israel especially in the context of the Bible let alone being
the context of the Bible let alone being
the context of the Bible let alone being debated by a youth group on top of the
debated by a youth group on top of the
debated by a youth group on top of the heart back then in my early 20s I was
heart back then in my early 20s I was
heart back then in my early 20s I was closeted gay men and by dealing with
closeted gay men and by dealing with
closeted gay men and by dealing with this subject I felt like I’m outing
this subject I felt like I’m outing
this subject I felt like I’m outing myself so the conflict was a huge issue
myself so the conflict was a huge issue
myself so the conflict was a huge issue for me but I just couldn’t resist
for me but I just couldn’t resist
for me but I just couldn’t resist sharing my truth
sharing my truth
sharing my truth I was sure that when that specific scene
I was sure that when that specific scene
I was sure that when that specific scene when we played on stage all the audience
when we played on stage all the audience
when we played on stage all the audience will turn their head back to me and
will turn their head back to me and
will turn their head back to me and there will say oh so you’re gay and then
there will say oh so you’re gay and then
there will say oh so you’re gay and then I’ll die well I didn’t and I didn’t even
I’ll die well I didn’t and I didn’t even
I’ll die well I didn’t and I didn’t even look at me I don’t know exactly what the
look at me I don’t know exactly what the
look at me I don’t know exactly what the audience thought about that scene but
audience thought about that scene but
audience thought about that scene but the show was become hit and it ran for
the show was become hit and it ran for
the show was become hit and it ran for six years and I became the new kid on
six years and I became the new kid on
six years and I became the new kid on the block in Israel so I wrote and
the block in Israel so I wrote and
the block in Israel so I wrote and composed and director just a few more
composed and director just a few more
composed and director just a few more musical since then and to my surprise
you must have seen something so to my
you must have seen something so to my surprise this thing that I was so afraid
surprise this thing that I was so afraid
surprise this thing that I was so afraid of this exposure made me realize that
of this exposure made me realize that
of this exposure made me realize that the more I expose myself and tell my
the more I expose myself and tell my
the more I expose myself and tell my truth the more I become interesting so
truth the more I become interesting so
truth the more I become interesting so that turned to be my third element
that turned to be my third element
that turned to be my third element authenticity authenticity is all about
authenticity authenticity is all about
authenticity authenticity is all about saying what you think and doing what you
saying what you think and doing what you
saying what you think and doing what you want so sharing my intimate thoughts
want so sharing my intimate thoughts
want so sharing my intimate thoughts made people respond not because they
made people respond not because they
made people respond not because they were looking for gossip about me but
were looking for gossip about me but
were looking for gossip about me but because it made them dive deeper into
because it made them dive deeper into
because it made them dive deeper into their own intimate thoughts and that’s
their own intimate thoughts and that’s
their own intimate thoughts and that’s interesting so after this great
interesting so after this great
interesting so after this great breakthrough came years upon years of
breakthrough came years upon years of
breakthrough came years upon years of work I collaborated with a lot of actors
work I collaborated with a lot of actors
work I collaborated with a lot of actors some of them were just teenagers when I
some of them were just teenagers when I
some of them were just teenagers when I first met them they were young
first met them they were young
first met them they were young professionals and I saw their full
professionals and I saw their full
professionals and I saw their full potential
potential
potential one was an actor to be the other a
one was an actor to be the other a
one was an actor to be the other a singer and an actress and I was
singer and an actress and I was
singer and an actress and I was surrounded by future superstars models
surrounded by future superstars models
surrounded by future superstars models playwrights songwriters book writers
playwrights songwriters book writers
playwrights songwriters book writers producers and one guy who was so
producers and one guy who was so
producers and one guy who was so talented
talented
talented and energetic that for the lack of a
and energetic that for the lack of a
and energetic that for the lack of a better name I just called him the
better name I just called him the
better name I just called him the hurricane looking at it now I was
hurricane looking at it now I was
hurricane looking at it now I was probably their first fan
probably their first fan
probably their first fan I showed my topic visions with them and
I showed my topic visions with them and
I showed my topic visions with them and those who believed me and followed those
those who believed me and followed those
those who believed me and followed those elements got inspired and indeed in just
elements got inspired and indeed in just
elements got inspired and indeed in just a few years a bunch of them became so
a few years a bunch of them became so
a few years a bunch of them became so successful
successful
successful that now the whole country were was
that now the whole country were was
that now the whole country were was adoring them but something else was
adoring them but something else was
adoring them but something else was happening something that I wasn’t aware
happening something that I wasn’t aware
happening something that I wasn’t aware of and it will manifest only years after
of and it will manifest only years after
of and it will manifest only years after as my fifth element but first let’s get
as my fifth element but first let’s get
as my fifth element but first let’s get back to the fourth one
back to the fourth one
back to the fourth one so meanwhile the distance between Tel
so meanwhile the distance between Tel
so meanwhile the distance between Tel Aviv and Broadway didn’t get any shorter
Aviv and Broadway didn’t get any shorter
Aviv and Broadway didn’t get any shorter I tried to initiate all kind of projects
I tried to initiate all kind of projects
I tried to initiate all kind of projects try to reach producers in London and in
try to reach producers in London and in
try to reach producers in London and in New York but I kept getting what most
New York but I kept getting what most
New York but I kept getting what most entrepreneurs keep hearing no I was
entrepreneurs keep hearing no I was
entrepreneurs keep hearing no I was bitching about it to my friends spilling
bitching about it to my friends spilling
bitching about it to my friends spilling out my heart to my mom and generally
out my heart to my mom and generally
out my heart to my mom and generally just felt sorry for myself I knew I
just felt sorry for myself I knew I
just felt sorry for myself I knew I wasn’t pushing enough not fighting for
wasn’t pushing enough not fighting for
wasn’t pushing enough not fighting for my future it seemed like I was having
my future it seemed like I was having
my future it seemed like I was having more of the same every year but one
more of the same every year but one
more of the same every year but one thing was beyond doubt I am never gonna
thing was beyond doubt I am never gonna
thing was beyond doubt I am never gonna give up my dream I was working with
give up my dream I was working with
give up my dream I was working with actors leading workshops and I used to
actors leading workshops and I used to
actors leading workshops and I used to tell them a story about a single mom who
tell them a story about a single mom who
tell them a story about a single mom who didn’t have money for food and then she
didn’t have money for food and then she
didn’t have money for food and then she wrote on napkin a story about a young
wrote on napkin a story about a young
wrote on napkin a story about a young magician everybody knows this is the
magician everybody knows this is the
magician everybody knows this is the story about JK Rowling but the thing
story about JK Rowling but the thing
story about JK Rowling but the thing that really moved me was the number of
that really moved me was the number of
that really moved me was the number of publishing houses who turned Harry
publishing houses who turned Harry
publishing houses who turned Harry Potter down she didn’t quit and that
Potter down she didn’t quit and that
Potter down she didn’t quit and that inspired me she wouldn’t take no for an
inspired me she wouldn’t take no for an
inspired me she wouldn’t take no for an answer and that became my fourth element
answer and that became my fourth element
answer and that became my fourth element most success stories are really about
most success stories are really about
most success stories are really about perseverance and perseverance to me is
perseverance and perseverance to me is
perseverance and perseverance to me is the number of times you can hear no and
the number of times you can hear no and
the number of times you can hear no and keep hold to your dream and then came
keep hold to your dream and then came
keep hold to your dream and then came 2016 it was as the latin phrase says
2016 it was as the latin phrase says
2016 it was as the latin phrase says annus horribilis horrible year it seems
annus horribilis horrible year it seems
annus horribilis horrible year it seems now that I had to test my perseverance
now that I had to test my perseverance
now that I had to test my perseverance through the worst year of my life so one
through the worst year of my life so one
through the worst year of my life so one second thought maybe this slide should
second thought maybe this slide should
second thought maybe this slide should be look more like this
be look more like this
it didn’t look like this at the
it didn’t look like this at the beginning I was commissioned to write
beginning I was commissioned to write
beginning I was commissioned to write and compose and direct three musicals
and compose and direct three musicals
and compose and direct three musicals along that year and I was thrilled and
along that year and I was thrilled and
along that year and I was thrilled and creative as always but after years of
creative as always but after years of
creative as always but after years of experience working with producers for
experience working with producers for
experience working with producers for the first time I had fights and loud
the first time I had fights and loud
the first time I had fights and loud arguments with all three of them
arguments with all three of them
arguments with all three of them everything turned out fine at the end
everything turned out fine at the end
everything turned out fine at the end but I will never forget one particularly
but I will never forget one particularly
but I will never forget one particularly obnoxious producer who didn’t want to
obnoxious producer who didn’t want to
obnoxious producer who didn’t want to pay me in the last quarter of my feet
pay me in the last quarter of my feet
pay me in the last quarter of my feet after the show was successfully running
after the show was successfully running
after the show was successfully running because as he explained it I wasn’t at
because as he explained it I wasn’t at
because as he explained it I wasn’t at my best while my mom was dying I lost my
my best while my mom was dying I lost my
my best while my mom was dying I lost my mom seven days into 2017 I was a wreck
mom seven days into 2017 I was a wreck
mom seven days into 2017 I was a wreck she was an opera singer and a teacher
she was an opera singer and a teacher
she was an opera singer and a teacher and I was living her legacy and
and I was living her legacy and
and I was living her legacy and fulfilling both her dreams and mine but
fulfilling both her dreams and mine but
fulfilling both her dreams and mine but oddly enough that was when my life
oddly enough that was when my life
oddly enough that was when my life started to change so thank you mom I
started to change so thank you mom I
started to change so thank you mom I know you have something to do with it
know you have something to do with it
know you have something to do with it and I miss
so by now I’ve shared with you four of
so by now I’ve shared with you four of the five elements of making dreams come
the five elements of making dreams come
the five elements of making dreams come true one initiate your dream and share
true one initiate your dream and share
true one initiate your dream and share it in an inspiring way to be a
it in an inspiring way to be a
it in an inspiring way to be a professional by keeping your word three
professional by keeping your word three
professional by keeping your word three be interesting be yourself
be interesting be yourself
be interesting be yourself share what you really think and four
share what you really think and four
share what you really think and four have patience perseverance is the key to
have patience perseverance is the key to
have patience perseverance is the key to success and the most important thing is
success and the most important thing is
success and the most important thing is to remember that it’s not about choosing
to remember that it’s not about choosing
to remember that it’s not about choosing one or the other it’s combining them and
one or the other it’s combining them and
one or the other it’s combining them and to reach the highest average possible
to reach the highest average possible
to reach the highest average possible these elements may be quite confronting
these elements may be quite confronting
these elements may be quite confronting dealing with them on a daily basis so as
dealing with them on a daily basis so as
dealing with them on a daily basis so as I said one needs a jet fuel in order to
I said one needs a jet fuel in order to
I said one needs a jet fuel in order to keep generating this energy and I find
keep generating this energy and I find
keep generating this energy and I find my jet fuel in the fifth element which
my jet fuel in the fifth element which
my jet fuel in the fifth element which is human capital after the days of my
is human capital after the days of my
is human capital after the days of my mom’s morning I flew to LA with a show I
mom’s morning I flew to LA with a show I
mom’s morning I flew to LA with a show I directed for a tour in the United States
directed for a tour in the United States
directed for a tour in the United States and on the way back I wanted to stay a
and on the way back I wanted to stay a
and on the way back I wanted to stay a few days in New York just for a breath
few days in New York just for a breath
few days in New York just for a breath of air so I was picked up in the airport
of air so I was picked up in the airport
of air so I was picked up in the airport by the hurricane not the storm it was
by the hurricane not the storm it was
by the hurricane not the storm it was the actor I directed decade before and
the actor I directed decade before and
the actor I directed decade before and while driving back into the city he told
while driving back into the city he told
while driving back into the city he told me that he used his human capital to set
me that he used his human capital to set
me that he used his human capital to set up a meeting between me and one of the
up a meeting between me and one of the
up a meeting between me and one of the most successful lyricist and musical
most successful lyricist and musical
most successful lyricist and musical composers in Broadway this guide during
composers in Broadway this guide during
composers in Broadway this guide during my meeting with this wonderful person I
my meeting with this wonderful person I
my meeting with this wonderful person I presented him with my latest original
presented him with my latest original
presented him with my latest original musical and seemed to like it
musical and seemed to like it
musical and seemed to like it then he gave me some advice he showed me
then he gave me some advice he showed me
then he gave me some advice he showed me the way and I was inspired and suddenly
the way and I was inspired and suddenly
the way and I was inspired and suddenly everything became clear and I know
everything became clear and I know
everything became clear and I know exactly what I need to do I have to
exactly what I need to do I have to
exactly what I need to do I have to adopt my Israeli musical into an
adopt my Israeli musical into an
adopt my Israeli musical into an American one but I just can’t do it
American one but I just can’t do it
American one but I just can’t do it alone so fortunately two more friends in
alone so fortunately two more friends in
alone so fortunately two more friends in New York
New York
New York also former actors of mine join our team
also former actors of mine join our team
also former actors of mine join our team and after I told them what just happened
and after I told them what just happened
and after I told them what just happened their eyes were shining like mine they
their eyes were shining like mine they
their eyes were shining like mine they immediately took things into their hand
immediately took things into their hand
immediately took things into their hand helping me translate my music my musical
helping me translate my music my musical
helping me translate my music my musical into English and recording the demo
into English and recording the demo
into English and recording the demo songs and in just one year we developed
songs and in just one year we developed
songs and in just one year we developed the show in English and brought it
the show in English and brought it
the show in English and brought it brought in the investors so I’m sure
brought in the investors so I’m sure
brought in the investors so I’m sure you’re gonna hear about it very soon so
you’re gonna hear about it very soon so
you’re gonna hear about it very soon so that was the fifth element in action and
that was the fifth element in action and
that was the fifth element in action and as the hurricane himself said over the
as the hurricane himself said over the
as the hurricane himself said over the year you gave us so much we’ve all been
year you gave us so much we’ve all been
year you gave us so much we’ve all been waiting for our chance to give something
waiting for our chance to give something
waiting for our chance to give something in return
in return
in return and since we all knew exactly what you
and since we all knew exactly what you
and since we all knew exactly what you want the most it was just a matter of
want the most it was just a matter of
want the most it was just a matter of time until one of us will have access
time until one of us will have access
time until one of us will have access and to get it for you and this guy the
and to get it for you and this guy the
and to get it for you and this guy the hurricane is now the producer of my
hurricane is now the producer of my
hurricane is now the producer of my musical so I don’t know which of the
musical so I don’t know which of the
musical so I don’t know which of the five elements I mentioned here today is
five elements I mentioned here today is
five elements I mentioned here today is the most important it’s quite obvious
the most important it’s quite obvious
the most important it’s quite obvious that I needed all of them in order to
that I needed all of them in order to
that I needed all of them in order to make my dream come true
but now I can tell you what I didn’t get
but now I can tell you what I didn’t get when I was young
when I was young
when I was young when you empower others they’ll never
when you empower others they’ll never
when you empower others they’ll never forget it
forget it
forget it I didn’t think about it then I just
I didn’t think about it then I just
I didn’t think about it then I just enjoyed my contribution I was making to
enjoyed my contribution I was making to
enjoyed my contribution I was making to their lives but kids grow up and if you
their lives but kids grow up and if you
their lives but kids grow up and if you empower them when they’re young or
empower them when they’re young or
empower them when they’re young or anyone else you’ll never know when they
anyone else you’ll never know when they
anyone else you’ll never know when they might empower you back and when they do
might empower you back and when they do
might empower you back and when they do it might be the most amazing thing in
it might be the most amazing thing in
it might be the most amazing thing in your life
your life
your life they might even help you make your
they might even help you make your
they might even help you make your biggest dream come true
biggest dream come true
biggest dream come true [Applause]
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