so when it comes to contouring purpose
in life I like many others further there
was right and wrong there was one goal
in my life and there was one way to
evaluate it this is also the way how I
approach discussions discussions were
ballast to be one tried my life in
educational institutions at work I’ve
been trained to pick an argument and to
fight for it while disregarding my
opponent while not thinking of anything
else than just scoring a victory yet
such an approach does not really work
when we talk about identity when we talk
about diversity when we talk about
personal topics I also does not work
when they’re trying to figure our
purpose in our life I had this
realization when I discovered the art of
facilitation two years ago I serve
volunteering with a group of people that
organizes summer programs for youth the
aim is to bring together 16 to 18 year
olds from different backgrounds from
different countries of different ages
and from different socio-economic
classes last year at one such program in
Bulgaria I have met Eastern European guy
just like me it was this big matcher but
bigger than me and big homophobic he was
not really comfortable talking about
sexuality and gender he never really
engaged with that topic before yeah at
this course he had an ability put option
to engage with trans participant he had
an option to hang out and just be okay
with LGBT kids trade his program he
engaged with all these different people
with whom he did not engage before after
two weeks he came up to me and he
thanked me for opening his eyes during
the gender and sexuality workshop and
throughout other discussions during the
course few months down the road he
messages on whatsapp that he faces
backslash in his community back home
because he’s defending
people this participant entered today he
keeps in touch from me as a gay man who
face bullying throughout his life and
who had got into so many discussions
when I just had to defend myself and
prove that I’m no aberration of nature
this was an eye-opener how come that
such big change could be achieved in two
weeks and it was not just this
participant there are participants who
came in
fearing refugees who laughed with
refugee friends now some of them are
organizing a program that will bring
refugees from detention centers in
Belgium to their families so they can
hang out they can be together and they
can get to know each other
how’s this change possible well as
possible thanks to their artifice
rotation facilitation is a technique
that attempts to hold and create spaces
where everybody can share and learn from
each other it tries to break down the
assumption of right and wrong
instead it tries to create spaces where
we can learn and reflect on our own
views to the lens of the other this
might sound bit too abstract right now
so let’s try it out I will show you one
of the workshops that our participants
find most impactful
it’s called identity circle if you’ve
reached out into your folders you’ll
find a little paper there are eight
identity markers on it and I will invite
you to engage in this short showcase of
a workshop there are eight identity
markers check them out see them and I
will say three short statements and I
will ask you to look at these identity
markers and kind of instinctively choose
which of them was most prominent to the
situation that I’m talking about just
try to pick it instinctively and then
you might reflect on it
so first statement which part of your
identity is most prominent right now at
this very moment which part of your
identity is most prominent to you at
this very moment you can write it down
the next one which part of your identity
gives you most privilege which part of
your identity
gives you most privilege don’t think
about it too much just pick what feels
right and the last but not least which
part about your identity was most talks
to you which part of your identity was
most talked to you in this way
participants just like you have option
to reflect on themselves they have
option to engage with topics such as
identity diversity usually in the
workshop this works slightly differently
we plays these identity labels
underground you spread them out and we
divided group into two circles the first
circle I don’t answer is I mean the
statements by moving towards the certain
identity marker that they identify with
at that very moment the group on the
outside comes to the group on the inside
and they just listen them listening is
not there they’re not there to question
they’re not there to doubt they’re not
there to ask why did you make this
choice they’re just there to listen and
as the participants on the inside are
sharing why did they picked this
identity marker at a very moment they
reflect on themselves after one of these
workshops I’ve seen a young woman from
South Asia to burst into tears because
she realized that she’s not the only one
from lower socioeconomic background at
her school in her own words she no
longer felt isolate
and alone she felt like she was fitting
in again I feel another of such
workshops I’ve seen group of 40
participants from 16 to 20 to
spontaneously reflect on how they were
being bullied during their school but
how that gave them reason to believe
somebody else with each of these
workshops there’s a new experience
there’s a new learning process every
time and as you see participants change
thanks to the tools that you gave them
not because you force them to change but
because they decided to use those tools
that you gave them to change themselves
you change as well
this initial idea of me having one goal
in life and one way to evaluate it start
breaking down instead I realize there
were so many ways to learn and so many
things to learn in my life I no longer
thought that I need to set a particular
goal instead I realized that by setting
a particle goal in my life and maybe
setting on a purpose was too limiting
for myself I discovered that learning
and improving for me might be the
purpose that I still have to improve and
I still have to grow that’s why my Chase
for purpose and my purpose itself became
about staying unfinished forever thank you
in life I like many others further there
was right and wrong there was one goal
in my life and there was one way to
evaluate it this is also the way how I
approach discussions discussions were
ballast to be one tried my life in
educational institutions at work I’ve
been trained to pick an argument and to
fight for it while disregarding my
opponent while not thinking of anything
else than just scoring a victory yet
such an approach does not really work
when we talk about identity when we talk
about diversity when we talk about
personal topics I also does not work
when they’re trying to figure our
purpose in our life I had this
realization when I discovered the art of
facilitation two years ago I serve
volunteering with a group of people that
organizes summer programs for youth the
aim is to bring together 16 to 18 year
olds from different backgrounds from
different countries of different ages
and from different socio-economic
classes last year at one such program in
Bulgaria I have met Eastern European guy
just like me it was this big matcher but
bigger than me and big homophobic he was
not really comfortable talking about
sexuality and gender he never really
engaged with that topic before yeah at
this course he had an ability put option
to engage with trans participant he had
an option to hang out and just be okay
with LGBT kids trade his program he
engaged with all these different people
with whom he did not engage before after
two weeks he came up to me and he
thanked me for opening his eyes during
the gender and sexuality workshop and
throughout other discussions during the
course few months down the road he
messages on whatsapp that he faces
backslash in his community back home
because he’s defending
people this participant entered today he
keeps in touch from me as a gay man who
face bullying throughout his life and
who had got into so many discussions
when I just had to defend myself and
prove that I’m no aberration of nature
this was an eye-opener how come that
such big change could be achieved in two
weeks and it was not just this
participant there are participants who
came in
fearing refugees who laughed with
refugee friends now some of them are
organizing a program that will bring
refugees from detention centers in
Belgium to their families so they can
hang out they can be together and they
can get to know each other
how’s this change possible well as
possible thanks to their artifice
rotation facilitation is a technique
that attempts to hold and create spaces
where everybody can share and learn from
each other it tries to break down the
assumption of right and wrong
instead it tries to create spaces where
we can learn and reflect on our own
views to the lens of the other this
might sound bit too abstract right now
so let’s try it out I will show you one
of the workshops that our participants
find most impactful
it’s called identity circle if you’ve
reached out into your folders you’ll
find a little paper there are eight
identity markers on it and I will invite
you to engage in this short showcase of
a workshop there are eight identity
markers check them out see them and I
will say three short statements and I
will ask you to look at these identity
markers and kind of instinctively choose
which of them was most prominent to the
situation that I’m talking about just
try to pick it instinctively and then
you might reflect on it
so first statement which part of your
identity is most prominent right now at
this very moment which part of your
identity is most prominent to you at
this very moment you can write it down
the next one which part of your identity
gives you most privilege which part of
your identity
gives you most privilege don’t think
about it too much just pick what feels
right and the last but not least which
part about your identity was most talks
to you which part of your identity was
most talked to you in this way
participants just like you have option
to reflect on themselves they have
option to engage with topics such as
identity diversity usually in the
workshop this works slightly differently
we plays these identity labels
underground you spread them out and we
divided group into two circles the first
circle I don’t answer is I mean the
statements by moving towards the certain
identity marker that they identify with
at that very moment the group on the
outside comes to the group on the inside
and they just listen them listening is
not there they’re not there to question
they’re not there to doubt they’re not
there to ask why did you make this
choice they’re just there to listen and
as the participants on the inside are
sharing why did they picked this
identity marker at a very moment they
reflect on themselves after one of these
workshops I’ve seen a young woman from
South Asia to burst into tears because
she realized that she’s not the only one
from lower socioeconomic background at
her school in her own words she no
longer felt isolate
and alone she felt like she was fitting
in again I feel another of such
workshops I’ve seen group of 40
participants from 16 to 20 to
spontaneously reflect on how they were
being bullied during their school but
how that gave them reason to believe
somebody else with each of these
workshops there’s a new experience
there’s a new learning process every
time and as you see participants change
thanks to the tools that you gave them
not because you force them to change but
because they decided to use those tools
that you gave them to change themselves
you change as well
this initial idea of me having one goal
in life and one way to evaluate it start
breaking down instead I realize there
were so many ways to learn and so many
things to learn in my life I no longer
thought that I need to set a particular
goal instead I realized that by setting
a particle goal in my life and maybe
setting on a purpose was too limiting
for myself I discovered that learning
and improving for me might be the
purpose that I still have to improve and
I still have to grow that’s why my Chase
for purpose and my purpose itself became
about staying unfinished forever thank you
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