[Music]
[Applause]
has anyone ever told you that you remind
them of a certain person from a from a
movie or TV show but you don’t see the
resemblance at all for instance I’ve
been told by one of my friends that I’m
just like Phoebe Buffay a character from
the show friends who is a very Spacey
humorous person yet she doesn’t quite
know it I however don’t see the
correlation much at all I see myself was
an OnPoint
curious bubbly person this is all due to
the fact that sometimes others perceive
us differently from how I perceive
ourselves over the past couple months
I’ve been researching self-image more
specifically how others perceive you
pers how you perceive yourself how we
form our positive self images and why we
have a negative self images so how do we
even create the way we see ourselves in
the first place we continually evaluate
ourselves in multiple domains such as
physical appearance how do I look am i
ugly or pretty and performance how am i
doing am i failure or do I succeed
academically and or socially the way one
might answer these questions ultimately
leads them to having an optimistic or
pessimistic view of themselves but
before we get into any specifics let’s
first define self-image cell phones just
the way you perceive or see yourself and
is built up over time based on the
experiences you go through they can be
optimistic or pessimistic children start
to see themselves as individuals around
middle school during this time they form
and change their self images based on
the experiences they go through such as
they go to a new and larger school they
need lots of new people and they gained
so much more responsibility to create
their own decisions during this time
they form either an optimistic or
pessimistic image of themselves when we
see ourselves
optimistic way that means we focus on
our abilities and potentials having an
optimistic image allows you to focus on
what you can achieve rather than pushing
yourself down constantly all the time it
also means that you let you believe in
yourself and that you learn to love and
accept yourself so others will learn to
accept you it also means that we not
bully ourselves we focus on the can not
the can’t and we realize that we were
all human and we all make mistakes
while I was learning about this the
first thing that popped into my head is
that it must be great to always think of
ourselves in an amazing way however
believing you are the best too much can
encourage underachievement let’s say
that someone burbly commits to a college
so probably feel so great about
themselves because they’re already
committed eventually over time they
start to slack off on schoolwork because
they think that they didn’t have to keep
working rather than someone who is still
trying to find a school eventually the
person that already was committed gets
their commit taken away because they
weren’t working as hard and the person
that was working as hard got their spot
this is why having a realistic image of
yourself
can encourage hard work change and
improvement this does not mean that we
should always look at ourselves in a
negative way if we do this eventually
will become depressed devastated and
even sadly may have suicidal thoughts it
also means that we focus on our fault
weaknesses failures and imperfections
this is why having oh this is why having
a good self-image will allow you to find
a balance between the two to establish
happiness and to be content with how you
view yourself while I was learning this
I figured people that have negative self
images don’t get to live up to their
goals and reach their expectation
do people create false self images to
cover up how they really feel about
themselves if this is the case then that
must mean they create false self images
on purpose to convey what they think the
other person wants them to be knowing
all this
11:2 the big question why would someone
change the way they see themselves in
front of different people let’s say
there is a girl and she is very outgoing
and not that street smart around her
friends but when she is around her
family she is very smart and very
curious because of the way she puts
herself out there that is the way she’ll
be perceived now going forward in her
life she has two different perceptions
from two different groups of people
this continues out through life with
children and adults through their
childhood teenage years and lengths
knowing this I decided to create a
three-question survey which had began
with different animals and character
traits next to them for example an owl
was very smart and thoughtful while a
dolphin was very energetic and happy my
questions were one which animal do you
see yourself as to which animal do you
think others would see you as and three
I asked them to go around and ask
different people in their life which
animal they saw them acts McCoy has this
experience was just get them to open up
really how they felt about themselves
and to think about how they put their
self out there and see if others see
them the same way in the end one of my
responses with someone that thought of
herself as a deer which is very quiet
and calm she thought others would see
her as an owl and in the end when she
went around and asked her were people
her work friends said that he saw her as
an owl but her family said that they saw
her as a sloth which is very easygoing
and calm so this person may have
realized that
as different people perceived her from
how she saw herself she plays two
different roles depending on the group
of people she’s surrounded by knowing
this after my experience I realized that
sometimes people subconsciously changed
the way that they see themselves during
different groups of people so I decided
to take the way I view myself into
action earlier in my talk I had
mentioned that I see myself as a curious
bubbly open-minded kind of person so I
went to school acting and betraying the
complete opposite I was dark and moody I
didn’t speak to anyone I didn’t even
look mr. Walsh in the eye when I shook
his hand
some people had noticed my negative
attitude while others just kept on going
on with their day as if nothing had
changed one of my friends actually
checked my head for a fever to make sure
if I was okay mr. walk my English
teacher had waved his hand in front of
my face because he thought something was
wrong in retrospect looking at myself in
a negative way had made me feel like I
was failing myself and I couldn’t find
anything to be happy about if this was
just me acting like I had a negative
self-image think about the people out
there in real life that really see
themselves in a pessimistic way and how
they really feel
in essence having a negative image led
to a dark consist of feeling and led
others to believe that that person was
always depressed which perpetuates the
negative image so why does it even
matter to think about our self images in
the first place I’m pretty confident
that most of the people in the audience
have either wanted to have children have
children or have one type children when
they’re when they’re older and life
these children are America’s future we
want them to have realistic self images
so they can go forward in life and
complete their goals going to college
getting a job and even maintaining and
creating relationships with their
friends and family the future awaits us
all now just depends
we take the future and turn it into
something that we want it to be but we
cannot do that if we let our pessimistic
and false images get in the way of our
actions I can assure you that having a
realistic image of yourself will allow
others to see you for how you really
want to be seen it will make false
images less of a reality so let me ask
you one simple question how do you
perceive yourself think about it thank
you
[Applause]
[Applause]
has anyone ever told you that you remind
them of a certain person from a from a
movie or TV show but you don’t see the
resemblance at all for instance I’ve
been told by one of my friends that I’m
just like Phoebe Buffay a character from
the show friends who is a very Spacey
humorous person yet she doesn’t quite
know it I however don’t see the
correlation much at all I see myself was
an OnPoint
curious bubbly person this is all due to
the fact that sometimes others perceive
us differently from how I perceive
ourselves over the past couple months
I’ve been researching self-image more
specifically how others perceive you
pers how you perceive yourself how we
form our positive self images and why we
have a negative self images so how do we
even create the way we see ourselves in
the first place we continually evaluate
ourselves in multiple domains such as
physical appearance how do I look am i
ugly or pretty and performance how am i
doing am i failure or do I succeed
academically and or socially the way one
might answer these questions ultimately
leads them to having an optimistic or
pessimistic view of themselves but
before we get into any specifics let’s
first define self-image cell phones just
the way you perceive or see yourself and
is built up over time based on the
experiences you go through they can be
optimistic or pessimistic children start
to see themselves as individuals around
middle school during this time they form
and change their self images based on
the experiences they go through such as
they go to a new and larger school they
need lots of new people and they gained
so much more responsibility to create
their own decisions during this time
they form either an optimistic or
pessimistic image of themselves when we
see ourselves
optimistic way that means we focus on
our abilities and potentials having an
optimistic image allows you to focus on
what you can achieve rather than pushing
yourself down constantly all the time it
also means that you let you believe in
yourself and that you learn to love and
accept yourself so others will learn to
accept you it also means that we not
bully ourselves we focus on the can not
the can’t and we realize that we were
all human and we all make mistakes
while I was learning about this the
first thing that popped into my head is
that it must be great to always think of
ourselves in an amazing way however
believing you are the best too much can
encourage underachievement let’s say
that someone burbly commits to a college
so probably feel so great about
themselves because they’re already
committed eventually over time they
start to slack off on schoolwork because
they think that they didn’t have to keep
working rather than someone who is still
trying to find a school eventually the
person that already was committed gets
their commit taken away because they
weren’t working as hard and the person
that was working as hard got their spot
this is why having a realistic image of
yourself
can encourage hard work change and
improvement this does not mean that we
should always look at ourselves in a
negative way if we do this eventually
will become depressed devastated and
even sadly may have suicidal thoughts it
also means that we focus on our fault
weaknesses failures and imperfections
this is why having oh this is why having
a good self-image will allow you to find
a balance between the two to establish
happiness and to be content with how you
view yourself while I was learning this
I figured people that have negative self
images don’t get to live up to their
goals and reach their expectation
do people create false self images to
cover up how they really feel about
themselves if this is the case then that
must mean they create false self images
on purpose to convey what they think the
other person wants them to be knowing
all this
11:2 the big question why would someone
change the way they see themselves in
front of different people let’s say
there is a girl and she is very outgoing
and not that street smart around her
friends but when she is around her
family she is very smart and very
curious because of the way she puts
herself out there that is the way she’ll
be perceived now going forward in her
life she has two different perceptions
from two different groups of people
this continues out through life with
children and adults through their
childhood teenage years and lengths
knowing this I decided to create a
three-question survey which had began
with different animals and character
traits next to them for example an owl
was very smart and thoughtful while a
dolphin was very energetic and happy my
questions were one which animal do you
see yourself as to which animal do you
think others would see you as and three
I asked them to go around and ask
different people in their life which
animal they saw them acts McCoy has this
experience was just get them to open up
really how they felt about themselves
and to think about how they put their
self out there and see if others see
them the same way in the end one of my
responses with someone that thought of
herself as a deer which is very quiet
and calm she thought others would see
her as an owl and in the end when she
went around and asked her were people
her work friends said that he saw her as
an owl but her family said that they saw
her as a sloth which is very easygoing
and calm so this person may have
realized that
as different people perceived her from
how she saw herself she plays two
different roles depending on the group
of people she’s surrounded by knowing
this after my experience I realized that
sometimes people subconsciously changed
the way that they see themselves during
different groups of people so I decided
to take the way I view myself into
action earlier in my talk I had
mentioned that I see myself as a curious
bubbly open-minded kind of person so I
went to school acting and betraying the
complete opposite I was dark and moody I
didn’t speak to anyone I didn’t even
look mr. Walsh in the eye when I shook
his hand
some people had noticed my negative
attitude while others just kept on going
on with their day as if nothing had
changed one of my friends actually
checked my head for a fever to make sure
if I was okay mr. walk my English
teacher had waved his hand in front of
my face because he thought something was
wrong in retrospect looking at myself in
a negative way had made me feel like I
was failing myself and I couldn’t find
anything to be happy about if this was
just me acting like I had a negative
self-image think about the people out
there in real life that really see
themselves in a pessimistic way and how
they really feel
in essence having a negative image led
to a dark consist of feeling and led
others to believe that that person was
always depressed which perpetuates the
negative image so why does it even
matter to think about our self images in
the first place I’m pretty confident
that most of the people in the audience
have either wanted to have children have
children or have one type children when
they’re when they’re older and life
these children are America’s future we
want them to have realistic self images
so they can go forward in life and
complete their goals going to college
getting a job and even maintaining and
creating relationships with their
friends and family the future awaits us
all now just depends
we take the future and turn it into
something that we want it to be but we
cannot do that if we let our pessimistic
and false images get in the way of our
actions I can assure you that having a
realistic image of yourself will allow
others to see you for how you really
want to be seen it will make false
images less of a reality so let me ask
you one simple question how do you
perceive yourself think about it thank
you
[Applause]
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