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Porque una cicatriz jamás me hará menos mujer. | Gina Potes | TEDxUniSabana


I am a woman proudly woman because of me
thought for my body by my race
for my being
I am a woman proudly woman and not
it could be otherwise words
Alicia Guevara
pain and false beliefs
these events of pain that brings
the life
pain circumstances that come
also accompanied by false beliefs
as for example who sent it to be
so pretty
that the poor and the ugly are all gone
wishes that there are ones that are born with
star and other stars to dream
high leaves bump
pain circumstances that leave
scars and scars that in turn
they turn into lessons lessons that
it’s in everyone
repeat one or a thousand times
since it cost me more than 10 years
start to understand that it was not a why
to me but why
through these images I want
show them what China has been like
long of a whole story here would have
one year old and I was handing that out
it will be a kiss for my dad here was a
5 years at school
here I was with 10 years
here I remember a lot that I was already like
with many dreams and I wanted to be a singer
and actress
here I was in the 15 years
at 17
at 20 I was a young mother I was mother to
the 15 years
but here at 20 it was full of
dreams and illusions
here I was also 20 years old
I am a pots and I am recognized as the
first survivor of burns with
chemical agents in our country do not
proud that first sad place because
that you burn with your son so
only three years and your sister of 12
it really was very very difficult I do not have
not even words to express what
what was
because at 20 I was full of
dreams illusions was in the world of
modeling and I wanted to study design of
fashions but all those dreams and those
desire to live those illusions were
replaced by multiple scars
for more than 30 tickets to the operating room more
of 70 surgical procedures where
they cut parts of my skin for half
fix other could not avoid the
sadness desolation depressions
Anxiety needs were part of the
day by day between 20 and 30 o more
less will try to take out the head several
times to try to access my
rights to the rights we have
all those who grant us the
constitution but every time I tried
bounced like a ball
indifference was very big
all this anguish and all this pain
came with those false
beliefs but especially one
who sent her to be so beautiful that was
what they told me that October 28,
1996 while they burned not only my
life and my humanity but practically to
my whole family
in all this way
that was in 96 I told them more or less
towards 2004 I became a mother
more time
and sadly for me once I saw her a
Once more violence comes to the doors
of my life and my humanity
this time they tell me that the work does not
it was well done and I was raped and
tortured sexually in a way
impressive leaving footprints on me of
a true way
I remember a lot that I cry for days
weeks
months
my family never found out they believed
that it was a post-partum depression
by this time I also knew another
Maria Maria’s case was another woman who
burned with chemical agents and she
he lost one of his eyes all his leather
scalp
his nose part of his face
and something in me pushed me beyond the
pain and all that I was
happening when I got up here I could not
keep crying all my life that the
sun outside will keep shining here I had
beautiful children who were
sad because I was not able nor
even to take them out to the park
that’s where I understand that the pain
there is the loss of a loved one
amorous break a bad business a
accident a pain disease
there is real but that suffering
it was a big bubble I see it from that
way is this carpet for me the
suffering is a big bubble in the
what happened to me to live there to lick me
the wounds
when I understand this whole process
I understand that Maria needs me
family needs me but that
especially china was needed in that
moment
for this time and in the search for
all these answers and want to want
stop crying and want to stop being
victims and stop the blame I met
sandor sandor is a boy that I knew more
or less by 2008 would have about 33 years
at that time since his 19 was tied
to his bed because one day he came out as
any of us to discuss with
his friends and two bullets hit his
humanity one went through her bone marrow the
another one of your fingers
one of those crimes
tetraplegia was the final opinion when
I knew him I had been looking for several years
to the roof as he said but he had a
wonderful smile
and in the middle I imagine in its process
he also started to look less and because
me because I’m here, he started to read
wer wenn yes in seeing good cinema share
with people and really acquired a
wisdom that I always say that he
for me he was a spiritual master
Well, he gave me one of the most
beautiful that have given me in life that
are the seven spiritual laws of
success
sandor time later transcended
I remember her beautiful and big eyes
green
this is dedicated to you and sando
the seven spiritual laws of success
the universe is not punishing you the
universe is not blessing you the
simple universe and simply answer
to the attitude and vibration that you are
emitting
cause and effect
in all this process and in all that hand
of snot really crying and that up
I ate because you believe me I did not seem
I know it was awesome
one day I loved myself like hey full of truth
I was not able to look in the mirror
Well my mom brings me a mirror very
great memory and I totally undressed
I stood in front of that mirror
and I cried I was still crying but
this time in a different way because
there I started to recognize each one of those
marks and those scars that I had
let the violence
that I had left the events
that the false ones had left me
beliefs but that especially me
they had left my acts
my actions
my false steps
That’s where I understand and I begin
to realize that of course I entered
war with the whole world with the
universe with my mom with my dad good
my dad, not because, well, with my dad
because I abandoned myself since I was little
but it is that he abandoned me is that he does not
I have left is that my friends are now
more beautiful than me and is that my brothers
and is that nobody understands me, let’s say
because you did this to me where you were
and those guilt that’s what I call the
suffering is not left in the big bubble
there stuck in nobody took me out
but when I stop one day and they start
all this process and I reflect
or the question of Iu well clear if I do not
condone violence nobody has
what to come to touch you to harm your
integrity of humanity
but if there is a wonderful thing that I
started to happen at that time and it was that
I began to assume the responsibilities
that I had what were those
decisions in life that I took so that
will take me to the point of having been a
victim more in this type of violence
of course I’m not saying that I
and that I deserved nothing but blame
I take a path one day in life
I got with a person who had not gotten
I knew they did not love me I knew there was
enemies but still it was still there because
God cares for me, we are always
leaving responsibility to others
It has been wonderful for me to learn
to release these faults and this one responds
these these guilt and assume the
responsibilities I feel much more
happy today I feel much more
able to make conscious decisions
because as they say it cause-effect
cause the cause always has a
detonator and that detonator is me
that detonator is your reaction action and
the effect is the consequence or the
answer
that leaves you any thought
any word or any action that
you have
I do not know if you guys have heard
sure that if that song by Alci Acosta
that says well I will not sing the lyrics
is the one that says and we both go to the
night was getting dark and I could not see myself
I was driving more than seven I turned on the
lights to read surely wore them
paid there was a deviation sign
which they passed without precaution very late
was and when braking the car surrounds until the
background
Then he says why he left because he died
because the Lord took it from me not me
be more than 100 we did not have
seriously
is what happens in life with each one
from us
we have a partial tomorrow but let’s go
of parrado
and the next day lost the partial lost
semester so is that you take me
a newspaper I had to stay studying
it’s not that that teacher
but look there is one there is an anecdote
I have in my life I am a beautician
Cosmetologist by profession it shows
I love everything that has to do with
the beauty the clothes or in a lot of
things although he does not exercise
the first time I went to look for work
I
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my travel sheet
the lady when she saw me
that almost I’m going to make revilla
back when the lady forgives him
I had a lot of years to throw the
blame the lady for new employer not
is that as I go backwards it is that
publicita I lived how they treated me
and doing this talk something very happened to me
nice preparing this talk and it was that
I was already thinking about this issue of
blame so examples bring you this
people my god because I understand something very
pretty to these humans
wonderful and I remember a lot
that day when I went to look for work and
today I understand that the lady had all the
Clear reason was not very subtle at the time
to tell me because I almost killed myself
I have something but do not look if I had gone
this china that is talking to you and look
I swear that even management gives it to me
it’s more until the model puts me
Lifting buttocks
[Laughs]
seriously that day I took the victim
that day I went with the with porn
misery that is a term that I use
because unfortunately when we are
victims or when many things happen in
life we live from the comfort zone
in the great bubble of suffering and not
we reach to realize that there is something
beyond that there is something that depends on you
that just as suffering is a
option when one is going to eat a
hamburger they call potatoes
enlarged
suppressing additional
look what good of the shadow
It’s that simple the day I understood it
Believe me, I feel supremely happy
I am the director and founder of the
foundation rebuilding faces the
first organization that exists in
attention to women or people
survivors of assaults with agents
chemicals I have achieved or rather we have
managed to get two laws out of the
republic two protocols of attention the
care routes guides booklet
to the first responder we are the first
country worldwide that record more
aggressions with chemical agents what
sadness where 87 percent of the
victims are women and where 90 by
a hundred of the aggressors are men
today we have done a wonderful job
the victims have arrived in the little bubble
I already identified them then
I start a process but see if you can
swim picking your hair that is not
that you wear a girdle and that you guess
and we are going to look for work we see
I have achieved it with many others
still nobody in the lament in the
that there is everyone is in their process
life continues I am a woman
wonderful I am a woman mother of three
beautiful children 1 924 andres 1 of 22
Jon and a 15 year old babe
I live with them and with snow with me
puppy
and that means I ‘m single but
I’m looking for
No lies
I am supremely happy I love to sleep
I love partying I love it
talk with my friends I love to see
those people that we have sometimes there at
side to brother to mom who sometimes
for being stuck in the cell phone or being
we do not see and there they are
that is real love
my son of 22 jets with a companion
of the foundation
I dream like Adriana said
being as well as with the scars and
everything could also get to the subject of being
model I was on a catwalk was in
two catwalks and it’s been wonderful
because it’s not the scar it ‘s like you
see how you see yourself others see you
when the scars of violence
they transcend in empowerment and
resilience of women
gratitude is one of those want something
wonderful for me that drives me to
follow every day
I want to tell an anecdote about this photo
when they burned me and all this
dye happened to me
I broke photos or I was left without
nothing nothing nothing I disappeared everything in
these days preparing this talk I
I found a civilian from a video that
we had recorded this picture I took it
14 days before I was burned
I had a mole and everyone had to
see with that mole is what you have
‘cielito lindo’ point is the horn this
they sing it to me all the time
when I heard this picture that was on Sunday
I remembered Roberto who was with me
it was raining this picture and I
I put this is a screenshot of the video and
today
I want to fill pots of 20 years ask you
sorry
ask forgiveness for bad decisions
I took
because it is the mole although I can not
recover and that beautiful smile that
you have can not be lost because if
these scars have hurt me so much in
life but today I put them to service
of all and all because it serves as
mirror some time ago a girl came
of eighth semester do a job in
the university
and I gave the interview to the whole subject
I speak to them I tell them I make them laugh
I enter as unconsciousness of hey
where do you go what do you want
at the end his companions left and
he stayed and crying he says gina you
you just saved my life I was going to
commit suicide today
that’s where I say it’s not a why
to me but for here
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