my tutees yeah so very frankly you know
I really like coming to a place like
this where sometimes I feel that in the
profession that I am in there is a
certain amount of complacency that seeps
in we also cannot get used to the kind
of work that we’re doing every day it’s
nice to meet students like y’all who
want to start off to something new there
are interesting conversations that
happen it’s really nice to meet you
today and yeah so there has been one
argument that me and my team a lot of my
colleagues have visit us is that most of
the time when we discuss that how we
have succeeded in achieving what we
wanted to achieve whatever I have done
today or whatever I have become or
managed to achieve is most of the time a
lot of people only that I don’t have a
story I do not have a story because I
come from a Marwari
business family and a fairly decent
well-to-do family so I am told these are
my friends who tell me that you okay are
you used to wear before also you were a
well-to-do person you had a car in your
house today also you are the same thing
so what’s the big deal if you know
you’re there the stories are of people
who come from backgrounds where they
don’t really have much and and then you
kind of grew so that’s the story but you
don’t really have a story but that’s not
really true in a way where you know that
there are a lot of actors that I know
who generally have already live the life
where they
i Mumbai and there was this huge
struggle and there was we slept on the
platform railway platform for a few days
we didn’t have a place you were eight
people camped in one room a lot of it is
not true also and I know a lot of actors
is gonna read these stories which are
not but purely for the sake of having a
story they come up with these these
ideas but I genuinely have not really
slept on a railway platform and not
really struggled the way a lot of other
people have struggled probably I had a
little cushion because my father is a
businessman and I am from Mumbai it
wasn’t that I had to come from another
city look for a place and start off my
career in Mumbai so yeah it was all
comfortable but the biggest challenge
for me was that when you come from a
Marwari business family from a
background like that invariably what
happens ah ye curtayne Chaka Fattah ji
ki Fateh Singh basically in the Marathi
family your father’s business is your
business and then it goes on and on and
on and on here when you want to cut your
book out there and do something new even
probably forget being in the creative
line or forget acting even if you want
to kind of go out there do a job that’s
also not like a done thing my dad
himself what’s up its with you respect
and I love him but he is used to tell me
this thing this was his favorite phrase
he no cleanup EJ cascode country he used
to tell me it to job you can match a
physical to conquer nuts or to do your
own thing do your own business I said I
understand this whole own business thing
but you don’t and you’re good at what
you do and you know your job I do not
understand the stuff that you do my
father is from corporate finance
he is into funding and you know working
capital requirements that companies has
companies have these kind of he
organizes the fun
for them so he is a complete business
guy with financials with balance sheets
and my dad was of this thing as you grew
like Mario 15 or 16 years old he’s
probably on your 10th you have to come
to the office so this is where I started
and this was my little struggle was that
I never understood office I never
understood finance I still don’t
understand balance sheets they used to
make something once gave me DITA risk of
uniformity expect me so much many is and
this all this used to happen around me
and my dad is dead we can hang out with
the office guys sit with them to this
understand this file is and I said you
total phony happiness with my dad I need
to do this and I used to go to the
office at center I used to sit around
largely I used to handle really stuff
man you know manage the stationery
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I used to argument small small things
and I used to do random stuff basically
I was something that you might call this
guy’s done employment I was unemployed
and yeah so I was just sitting there and
doing nothing and from the time I was in
school and college acting was my passion
this is what I used to like coming on
stage talking acting performing
dramatics debates this is what I used to
enjoy doing but it was very difficult to
explain it to my father which they are
basically three brothers
I had a brother younger brother my elder
brother walls of the same wavelength as
my dad and used to do all these
financial things and he understood the
business well I did not and for me it
was like going to the office and
spending the day there was like one one
it was like yeah it was for sure in the
beginning but then I understood that by
that would be happy if I do this so I
continued I tried my level best
my dad said getting to my office
I often say I come to the office and I
will do my children do whatever I can so
that’s how it all started I was in
college I entered college I went to a
college called
nm nursing woodsy College of Commerce
and economics which is in Mumbai in
Villa Harlem and there also I started
participating into the college
competitions of acting so there are a
lot of good festivals that happen in
Mumbai a lot of talent which is fetched
from these these are these festivals
because you know invariably a lot of
good directors and actors come and
judging these competitions and that is
where you meet people and you kind of
even they want actors when you who are
wrong and obviously the bigger actors
become expensive then you have these
actors were new and they are not ready
so yeah they come cheap also so these
guys used to come to the college to
charge stuff that is where it all
started I had a friend of mine called
instructing shut these other he’s
actually the grandson of mr. davanon
Sagar and it was a very dear friend of
mine in college and used to study
together and I started my acting career
largely because of him but before that I
used to do a play it was a play for all
the best all the best was a play about
three men one deaf one mu that one blind
and how these three friends come
together they fall in love with the same
girl and how now it was a funny play was
a hilarious play and I did shows of that
play all over the world in India I think
we did about 700 shows it was a hindi
play and we get 400 shows of that play
at that point of time I used to try to
explain to my dad that this is this is
like the big thing you know acting and
being in theatre which is actually
called the actor’s medium theatre is
where or to back over kind of note
explore himself completely and my dad is
– thinking what do you get beta you go
to a theater you perform you do so much
they used to actually pay her 700 rupees
per show but I was like you make seven
hundred rupees you struggling so much
and you know I get money travelling
mayonnaise anime algorithm why do you
want to do this as I have now give me
some time at least let me start off
doing this once I at least polish myself
through theater that is when I can do
other stuff my dad wasn’t really very
interested but he never kind of stopped
me also he said that listen do what you
think is right but office I said he had
an office office so I used to go to this
office again I used to do my little bit
here and there
whatever acting bit I could do I used to
do my shows plays this this play call
all the best professionally this was my
first play and this is we travel to the
play we did a lot of stuff then when I
was in college only a my friend distract
each other he offered me a TV show on
Hathi
that was my first TV show at that point
of time I had to convince my dad that I
will be traveling to a city called
Baroda because they used to shoot the
show in Baroda so my dad is library then
office office so I said yes what you do
is that I will go and kind of manage my
shoot for about 10-15 days there and
rest is all office and probably I give
less time in the office and if I’m there
for 15 days or if you for time I will
sleep more I learn more but let’s
explore this also and very frankly when
I came from very come from a background
where nobody is an actor it’s pretty
shocking once my friend also told me
apart from you know being an actor my
friend told me that you come to karate
shoot as a ha this is 9
I said then there is a swimming pool
there so after she will go for a swim
oh this is all so cool and so then I
have music and you do this and I said
I’m actually going to like literally
actually the friend of mine for 10-15
days it’s almost like a holiday they’ll
give me a room which will have a TV you
drive an AC and then you will have a
swimming pool and you will hang out and
for 10 days for 10 days like this
normally I would have paid for a holiday
like this but the best part is that you
make me stay and hang out and chill and
then you take me money also I have those
amazed as if because I’ve never done
this you know and we are not from this
thing for us we’ve always gone on a
holiday and we’ve paid for things not
nobody give me a free room till then
that whole idea of someone offering a
free room to me was like oh man this is
so cool yeah I have to pay for nothing
and I am sinking me to change it give me
time so cool
so I thought that this was an attractive
life I think I should do this so I went
off to Peru da more to hang out and you
know chill and then you know bit of
acting also will happen
I always got that the theatre was the
main thing where you will learn acting
television was like okay it’s fun is fun
let’s start over let’s see what happens
and 15 days in a month I used to shoot
in Baroda and the rest of the 15 days
Scourge is used to happen on his own
part office was the main job that 15
days I had to be there so my dad kind of
started like over there missing a lot of
things you’re not learning you’re
learning stories your brother
and grown into learning so much more
because many things on his own now you
have not started going for meetings on
your own like I understand that but you
know this is another profession say
thank your profession and all is fine
what you understand that nobody can
obtain our family and it’s not really
the most and they used to live never
even look at it as like the most of the
cool job on earth they were like eh
what if you tell someone in the business
clan that you’re an actor that are
chargeable talk a little bit back
account chattering never acting
seriously there are actors singers
dancers ito after they Masada
so anyway I never had an answer for that
so I I didn’t know how to explain it to
them slowly and artha my first show
happen I used to play a character called
Bobo which are not hears and so yeah so
how they were happened I think in 2004
or something that is where my dad I
think for the first time realized that
sometimes when we go out for dinner then
there are people looking at me and
wanting to meet me and my dad story
started getting impressed with the idea
that time he had no clue
he had no pin and he thought that the
big thing is you know you got to do this
this this and until you do you buy a
money with a core here to me a
philosopher with a four year they call
in Hebrew they go I said he used to
always kind of narrate the big stories
to me and you to respect those were
inspiring stories nevertheless but then
slowly when my dad started realizing
this here we go out with for a family
wedding and there are more people
looking at me then his friend who runs a
300 crore company
a charter company Hitachi said yeah yeah
I guess that is where my dad started
getting a little embraced with the
profession that I was in he stopped
asking me the question how much money do
you make and you know what is little bit
me you can make more money here which
always was the case for the first few
years of my career it all that my dad
kept thinking that oh you can make so
much more money doing my work there in
the work that you are doing but yeah
that recognition part kind of gave him a
little listening he was getting a little
convinced but still office existed I
still had to go to office I said open
rod in Baroda
and then whatever other acting
assignments I bought with small small
assignment is a beginning it wasn’t
great is moving the way it is now but in
the beginning it was slow and I can put
into the office and I can you know
hanging out with dad and explaining to
him and then we have three brothers my
other two brothers were there in the
business and they were with Papa doing
doing the work that he wanted them to
and slowly slowly he started kind of
giving up on me this guy is managing you
know chata and then used to get even
impressed by the idea used to go to the
temple and till date my dad tells me
that we used to go to this Mahalakshmi
temple which is in my Lakshmi and and my
dad is like Neil of the language theory
on the day of Diwali and all when you go
there oh they’re lying the flu is gong
and then suddenly little bit of
recognition from the ox and the pop
singer a je je je that is where my dad
fought K Bosley what I you know my son
has arrived great lines people don’t
stop him so my dad was more than
impressed with this whole thing and but
in any case I I kept doing whatever and
obviously today which time slowly slowly
slowly today the kind of work that I do
my father’s extremely extremely proud of
me he now he talks to people he
obviously most of the people that made
him some one or the other kind of legs
the other person know that mr. Sharma is
you know his his son is this one he does
TV and my dad is like another the other
person gets impressed and my dad dad has
a big grin on his face and every evening
or every in a week I think two to three
times but I calls me and tells me that
when I am really happy
with the career that you’ve chosen and
I’m really happy that you’ve kind of
grown and this he watches episodes he
gives me a call what is couples episode
two gives me a call he tells me that you
know that it’s such a long journey and
you know you think Filmfare Awards he
saw Filmfare Awards lately he gave me a
call that I was very impressed because
with what you did then but having said
all that I am really happy that I could
make my father proud but I did if I get
always tell people that maybe I don’t
have a rags to riches story I don’t have
a story where I kind of grown from
nowhere okay fine I was like a from
available to my wording family but the
point being that to move out from a
family business who convincingly move
into a profession which is completely in
here to what what my father’s been doing
itself is a struggle it’s not easy
and at every point we’re meeting you’re
acting variance or failing or
something’s not going right you know
that your father’s sitting there and he
is waiting this is not working better
come here sit here so that is the blend
that I had to kind of manage and balance
out which was the struggle in my life
but having said that for everyone here I
was very very passionate about what I
was doing I could have been and I would
have not been like a complete mother I
would have done alright with my dad also
but you know I would have been just
doing whatever kind of taught me to do
nothing on my own but I went with my
passion and went with my gut feeling
this is what I wanted to do and trust me
today I spend every day of mine being
extremely extremely happy I walk to the
set where I have a bunch of people who
are happy people will laugh through the
day because this is
job we crack jokes the world day and
this is what we keep doing it like
reactors they’re about five six writers
we sit in couples office also and we are
basically brainstorming where it is just
cracking jokes and laughing in your
tracking jokes and you’re laughing so I
have a great day and every single day is
a day like this so I do not sing I mean
I don’t know what a happier life is much
more than this this is the best thing
that could have happened to me and I am
grateful to God that I got the
opportunity to do this having said that
what I’m saying is that everyone here
also I am sure you come from families
where there is certain thing expected
out of you but what you are passionate
about is something that we need to
continue with my younger brother he now
is not working with my dad he works for
a headhunting company or I don’t know he
calls it a high-end search companies the
company called positive moves he is a
partner in that company for the last ten
years and he is doing pretty well for
himself and he boosts who work with a
ties included every day but sometimes
you know there is a perception where
people who are going to their jobs
wearing a tie that life when when people
meet me also I tell me HMDA of now you
know we have such a miserable day and
then maybe what’s your show me feel so
happy
my first question goes because the bike
is your day miserable why is every day
of yours visible why is that most people
kind of speak this language when you do
a Monday to Friday job
I hope somewhere you enjoying yourself
and if you are not then look for some
kind of a place or some space where you
can really enjoy the day-to-day work
because I understand that your Saturday
night will will be really cool you will
watch our show also and you feel happy
about it but why is that wanting to
Friday and I heard Dave not a good day
for you it’s very important that those
days become good days and happy days
that is the only way you can lead a
happier life otherwise looking for these
corners to kind of get enjoyment if
someone is passionate about I feel very
nice when you need a couple my husband
for working they have a good day at work
and then they have their whole plan set
a Friday night is this Saturday like
this they go out enjoy yourself
spend money on things that we enjoy
doing there are people who go
you know rafting or like adventure
sports and you take time out in the end
I am perfect eight three to four days
also you travel you do your thing that’s
extremely important because running
after a successful career is one thing
but having a good enjoyable life is
another thing and I really hope and
expect and I want you all to have a
great enjoyable life more than a successful