[Music]
just didn’t with the hip job chamak make
up – I don’t we head to toxic 8fo job
this is a beautiful hindi couplet
written by very famous boy called
kavita’s it’s also cool to do huh
in Hindi its philosophical but then you
try and interpret the essence of it to
make it relevant for our discussion
today it says just like a sesame seed
has oil with innings and a Flintstone
has firepower after code your board or
your or weaklings is within you realize
it if you can I rented my education at
non graduate level in economics followed
by an amiable and as one clip I
traditionally expect I had a fairly
substantial ich hoffe instead I started
out in the telecommunication sector
those were the days that know by before
the sunrise industry and moved on to
healthcare and even found myself and the
help of Scottish rugby as I had a grand
I know till about 20 months ago before
we moved back to the beautiful city of
Lincoln and I started working at the
university I was a head of marketing for
Microsoft in India so fair amount of
time to learn to probe and reach people
it was at that time in my pocket world
as an emerging leader that I can access
to a lot of platforms very fortunate to
get access to platforms to speak to
share to portrait and I have the most
fascinating conversations and
it was then that I met some very
competent people sometimes men supposed
to be women older or grounded towards me
and they were full of questions they’re
full of questions of their career on
their next steps on what they want to
always talking about the that recipe for
the secret sauce of success that they
were looking for they knew they were
competent they knew they had it within
them and they knew that they could move
on but they just didn’t it was then in
England in those conversations that they
would talk about the concept of the
glass ceiling they shared with me how
they felt as there stood by the
sidelines and watch the world pass on
and the peers make progress and they do
make progress and when a conversation
comes on about women and the careers it
invariably goes hand in hand with the
infamous classy lady
we all have heard of the glass ceiling
it’s that unacknowledged barrier to
growth in a profession mostly affecting
with it now there is mental
deterioration on the glass ceiling and
I’m sure none of us have read up about
it aspect and it is tangible because we
know it’s there however what strikes me
about star ceiling on deflection is the
fact that it went conveniently shifts
the responsibility of slow or no growth
on to an external source the next open
source could be professional or it could
be personal external source that stops
us but stops us it does and I’m talking
tool it is also making us feel quite
quite helpless and helpless is not a
good place to be so just three years
later that I found myself invited to Las
Vegas to speak to a roomful of women who
will invite you for various walks of
life they came from the key starting
points different careers different
thoughts in their head and as you can
imagine that the roomful of women the
conversation shifted quite effortlessly
between careers
aspirations children work-life balance
and then the glass ceiling so to death
in that conference that I came across a
film that would completely change my
perspective on how success or the lack
of it can be viewed and the
conversations of that date have never
been the same
that was concept of the sticky floor
there is limited literature available
misty people but all of it alludes to
the discriminatory pattern of employment
at the bottom of the pyramid but that
day in Las Vegas three years ago I saw
it definitely my definition wasn’t like
that
I saw the sticky floor to represent a
state of mind maybe no mere competent we
know we are capable but we get the
opportunities pass us by
we have quite comfortably being where we
are and we came on to that comfort zone
not wanting to push ourselves forward or
the knowing that we are competent so the
sticky floor then it becomes
diametrically opposite to the glass
ceiling but the glass ceiling passes the
responsibility to somebody else the
uniqueness of a sticky floor is that it
shifts that responsibility back on to us
so sticky floors responsibilities back
onto us
I decided to put this to the test so if
every platform that I got to speak out
there on when the conversation performin
very hot and about the careers of my
aspirations and about the glass ceiling
I would check the interviews the concept
of the state Utah
as you can imagine at first silence and
then the heads in the acknowledgment
that the power to create opportunities
lay in our hands and the conversation in
the discussion the process of discovery
early started there the very next
logical question was so how do I do that
how can I get myself off the sticky ball
and actually get to achieve but I
believe I can achieve so we look for a
lot of answers
I don’t deep into my pocket experience
wanting to bring some of my experience
to life so I shared I learned I listened
and we came up with a number of Reason
which we can do that I’ve been pleased
to be able to be able to share just
three of those many that we discussed at
work that I feel are implementable
fairly simple concepts which will be
surprised how low the implementation of
those is why the number three well
because three the range a number let’s
say three years
represent the
of heaven earth and water and salts of
the human body mind and spirit
so let’s go it through the first one I
talked about is presence which is your
professional presence your personal
presence I love the sport by offices it
says today you are you that’s truer than
true there’s no one like who’s your than
you unique we are doing and we have the
ability to create a presence and craft
our presence as we wish to thank ability
lies in our hands and they say that the
overlap between how you see yourself and
how others view is really your space to
craft a personal brand so you can see
how a lot of you would have to create at
the airport would have to create your
personal brand and that ability leaves
and their things nice in our hands
needless to say that whatever we do in
the space of personal brand must be
backed up by dollops of entity because
it’s only an authentic personal brand
that can take leave it all there so
sticking to the responsibility back on
us the second one that I’ll share with
you today is one that I enough to talk
about which is network be no net worth
now it surprises me how often and how
negative the word network means to
people the interpretation that they have
of it or it’s crafty it’s not done for
the right reasons it’s not done that the
right intent it’s rejected by people I’m
on the network tracks how often have you
come across that I can’t network but we
all network all the time what are we
doing here today we’ve wanted to meet
people who are like-minded we’re gonna
share didn’t listen and in the process
we will be proved so creating a network
in a positive way a positive light is
all about flowing and the day we start
seeing it as a positive momentum for
ourselves
we changed the conversation to competing
there are many ways in which will
include is a help yourself network
better of course we all possibly do it
very well and many of us out there who
probably don’t 1 listen tactic that I
that I’m happy to share with you it’s
called the 5 cup coffee challenge so it
says that in a month
give us at the timeline set up a coffee
with five people for 19 friends and know
your immediate work buddies and you’ll
be amazed at what you learn of what you
would never have had access to and what
you shared and in the process you won’t
flow so this power of networking and
meeting to network is powers it’s in our
hands sticky throw responsibilities that
works the tumblin that I’ll share with
you is something about very early
material
it’s called informal power the power of
informal power now when I was very young
in my career but two or three years into
40
seems like a long time ago and I was a
junior plant manager like or to their
brothers we do a lot d but the work of
the office and I was born into a team to
work with a large number of people for
an internal event you know what kind of
work out there but in nineteen so I
fractured not like I don’t want to I was
already both loaded or whitson three
don’t – or said my client I did I do
checked with the idea so I decided to
walk up to my manager it was a vice
president of the business and let him to
take them to take me off it I don’t want
to do it but what he told me that they
just stayed with me forever
he taught me the power of informed he
told me about the opportunities the
network and the impact that I can have
that my book will never give me because
former power is your badge is your
corner office is your outcome is your
kudos that you receive because of your
current work but informal part goes much
beyond that I internalized that I think
the organic if you’ve got the
opportunities that come to be on your
work of your what you defined this your
book that power lies and Howard hands so
responsibility that was get off a steady
flow these were just three ways in which
I thought I would share with you today
of what we can do to get all of us
taking from and take those opportunities
the most common between all of these
three it is the fact that it’s not the
glass ceiling it’s about the sticky
floor but last evening shifts the
responsibility the sticky floor gets
that
in our hands and how wonderful is it to
have the power making a difference of
the change to ourselves in our house the
question then comes is this only in a
professional context or canvas also be
applied to a person lives well this is
wrong ramaa the general practitioner and
she is made they can go home for the
last 20 years
rommel of the transformer for a parent
market it’s a beautifully denounced
fault we have become a process for the
very early age in India where ROM and I
both come from little girls start early
to transform at the age of 3 or 4 so by
the time they’re hitting their teens
twenty thirteen or fourteen they have
what a public performance or public
stage the first public stage called the
army a drop Rama has an obligation
tonight Rama is 57 years old I caught up
with Rama to ask her what it was that
took us so long to get her out and get
her done which is sit down today what
she shared with me were all love ceiling
woman’s environmental caps that didn’t
allow her to do what she really wanted
to she said when she was little
why do parents encourage certain talents
of course the army gave some of the
public performance was with their
faculty she accepted it an environmental
challenge cap look when she looked at it
she might have been to a Christian
family and promised him she did not want
to stream in the religious element off
the stands fall that will cover to their
household she said by it’s not for me as
yet in a third of the parties Rama was
very busy printing up her three
beautiful children and she prioritized
that over herself knowing for me that
she wanted to really you know dance and
identity the dance form
she acted all three environmental issues
all three pushed away I told us that oh
that’s why I couldn’t do the alligator a
couple of years ago in Macon she met a
dance teacher who saw her beautifully
done she was and encouraged drama to
perform on stage Rama said no and beyond
that time I can do it it was in January
of this year that Rama very kindly was
in the audience of the be inspired
lecture series that I spoke at at the
today it was there that I introduced the
concept of the sticky probe with its
implications the next morning I received
an email from Rama and said thank you so
much coaching for the very inspiring
talk I am now realized that I’ve been on
mysticus for all these years I’ve gone
ahead and booked my own in April at the
Lincoln Performing Arts Center for the
30th of June oscillate to be ladies and
gentlemen it’s better to Andhra
Mahasabha later tonight tonight very
proudly going and be part of the
audience as she dances clothes of hope
and my family’s in the audience today my
husband and children we try to apply
this concept of the sticky feel to our
own lives
and I’m sharing this because I feel so
can we we all embrace it and we find
ourselves using this concept so often
when we feel we have the power we want
to just complain from driven situations
to situations of strategic importance it
applies because we can assess their
assigned to trigger to charge sake no
[Applause] [Music]
just didn’t with the hip job chamak make
up – I don’t we head to toxic 8fo job
this is a beautiful hindi couplet
written by very famous boy called
kavita’s it’s also cool to do huh
in Hindi its philosophical but then you
try and interpret the essence of it to
make it relevant for our discussion
today it says just like a sesame seed
has oil with innings and a Flintstone
has firepower after code your board or
your or weaklings is within you realize
it if you can I rented my education at
non graduate level in economics followed
by an amiable and as one clip I
traditionally expect I had a fairly
substantial ich hoffe instead I started
out in the telecommunication sector
those were the days that know by before
the sunrise industry and moved on to
healthcare and even found myself and the
help of Scottish rugby as I had a grand
I know till about 20 months ago before
we moved back to the beautiful city of
Lincoln and I started working at the
university I was a head of marketing for
Microsoft in India so fair amount of
time to learn to probe and reach people
it was at that time in my pocket world
as an emerging leader that I can access
to a lot of platforms very fortunate to
get access to platforms to speak to
share to portrait and I have the most
fascinating conversations and
it was then that I met some very
competent people sometimes men supposed
to be women older or grounded towards me
and they were full of questions they’re
full of questions of their career on
their next steps on what they want to
always talking about the that recipe for
the secret sauce of success that they
were looking for they knew they were
competent they knew they had it within
them and they knew that they could move
on but they just didn’t it was then in
England in those conversations that they
would talk about the concept of the
glass ceiling they shared with me how
they felt as there stood by the
sidelines and watch the world pass on
and the peers make progress and they do
make progress and when a conversation
comes on about women and the careers it
invariably goes hand in hand with the
infamous classy lady
we all have heard of the glass ceiling
it’s that unacknowledged barrier to
growth in a profession mostly affecting
with it now there is mental
deterioration on the glass ceiling and
I’m sure none of us have read up about
it aspect and it is tangible because we
know it’s there however what strikes me
about star ceiling on deflection is the
fact that it went conveniently shifts
the responsibility of slow or no growth
on to an external source the next open
source could be professional or it could
be personal external source that stops
us but stops us it does and I’m talking
tool it is also making us feel quite
quite helpless and helpless is not a
good place to be so just three years
later that I found myself invited to Las
Vegas to speak to a roomful of women who
will invite you for various walks of
life they came from the key starting
points different careers different
thoughts in their head and as you can
imagine that the roomful of women the
conversation shifted quite effortlessly
between careers
aspirations children work-life balance
and then the glass ceiling so to death
in that conference that I came across a
film that would completely change my
perspective on how success or the lack
of it can be viewed and the
conversations of that date have never
been the same
that was concept of the sticky floor
there is limited literature available
misty people but all of it alludes to
the discriminatory pattern of employment
at the bottom of the pyramid but that
day in Las Vegas three years ago I saw
it definitely my definition wasn’t like
that
I saw the sticky floor to represent a
state of mind maybe no mere competent we
know we are capable but we get the
opportunities pass us by
we have quite comfortably being where we
are and we came on to that comfort zone
not wanting to push ourselves forward or
the knowing that we are competent so the
sticky floor then it becomes
diametrically opposite to the glass
ceiling but the glass ceiling passes the
responsibility to somebody else the
uniqueness of a sticky floor is that it
shifts that responsibility back on to us
so sticky floors responsibilities back
onto us
I decided to put this to the test so if
every platform that I got to speak out
there on when the conversation performin
very hot and about the careers of my
aspirations and about the glass ceiling
I would check the interviews the concept
of the state Utah
as you can imagine at first silence and
then the heads in the acknowledgment
that the power to create opportunities
lay in our hands and the conversation in
the discussion the process of discovery
early started there the very next
logical question was so how do I do that
how can I get myself off the sticky ball
and actually get to achieve but I
believe I can achieve so we look for a
lot of answers
I don’t deep into my pocket experience
wanting to bring some of my experience
to life so I shared I learned I listened
and we came up with a number of Reason
which we can do that I’ve been pleased
to be able to be able to share just
three of those many that we discussed at
work that I feel are implementable
fairly simple concepts which will be
surprised how low the implementation of
those is why the number three well
because three the range a number let’s
say three years
represent the
of heaven earth and water and salts of
the human body mind and spirit
so let’s go it through the first one I
talked about is presence which is your
professional presence your personal
presence I love the sport by offices it
says today you are you that’s truer than
true there’s no one like who’s your than
you unique we are doing and we have the
ability to create a presence and craft
our presence as we wish to thank ability
lies in our hands and they say that the
overlap between how you see yourself and
how others view is really your space to
craft a personal brand so you can see
how a lot of you would have to create at
the airport would have to create your
personal brand and that ability leaves
and their things nice in our hands
needless to say that whatever we do in
the space of personal brand must be
backed up by dollops of entity because
it’s only an authentic personal brand
that can take leave it all there so
sticking to the responsibility back on
us the second one that I’ll share with
you today is one that I enough to talk
about which is network be no net worth
now it surprises me how often and how
negative the word network means to
people the interpretation that they have
of it or it’s crafty it’s not done for
the right reasons it’s not done that the
right intent it’s rejected by people I’m
on the network tracks how often have you
come across that I can’t network but we
all network all the time what are we
doing here today we’ve wanted to meet
people who are like-minded we’re gonna
share didn’t listen and in the process
we will be proved so creating a network
in a positive way a positive light is
all about flowing and the day we start
seeing it as a positive momentum for
ourselves
we changed the conversation to competing
there are many ways in which will
include is a help yourself network
better of course we all possibly do it
very well and many of us out there who
probably don’t 1 listen tactic that I
that I’m happy to share with you it’s
called the 5 cup coffee challenge so it
says that in a month
give us at the timeline set up a coffee
with five people for 19 friends and know
your immediate work buddies and you’ll
be amazed at what you learn of what you
would never have had access to and what
you shared and in the process you won’t
flow so this power of networking and
meeting to network is powers it’s in our
hands sticky throw responsibilities that
works the tumblin that I’ll share with
you is something about very early
material
it’s called informal power the power of
informal power now when I was very young
in my career but two or three years into
40
seems like a long time ago and I was a
junior plant manager like or to their
brothers we do a lot d but the work of
the office and I was born into a team to
work with a large number of people for
an internal event you know what kind of
work out there but in nineteen so I
fractured not like I don’t want to I was
already both loaded or whitson three
don’t – or said my client I did I do
checked with the idea so I decided to
walk up to my manager it was a vice
president of the business and let him to
take them to take me off it I don’t want
to do it but what he told me that they
just stayed with me forever
he taught me the power of informed he
told me about the opportunities the
network and the impact that I can have
that my book will never give me because
former power is your badge is your
corner office is your outcome is your
kudos that you receive because of your
current work but informal part goes much
beyond that I internalized that I think
the organic if you’ve got the
opportunities that come to be on your
work of your what you defined this your
book that power lies and Howard hands so
responsibility that was get off a steady
flow these were just three ways in which
I thought I would share with you today
of what we can do to get all of us
taking from and take those opportunities
the most common between all of these
three it is the fact that it’s not the
glass ceiling it’s about the sticky
floor but last evening shifts the
responsibility the sticky floor gets
that
in our hands and how wonderful is it to
have the power making a difference of
the change to ourselves in our house the
question then comes is this only in a
professional context or canvas also be
applied to a person lives well this is
wrong ramaa the general practitioner and
she is made they can go home for the
last 20 years
rommel of the transformer for a parent
market it’s a beautifully denounced
fault we have become a process for the
very early age in India where ROM and I
both come from little girls start early
to transform at the age of 3 or 4 so by
the time they’re hitting their teens
twenty thirteen or fourteen they have
what a public performance or public
stage the first public stage called the
army a drop Rama has an obligation
tonight Rama is 57 years old I caught up
with Rama to ask her what it was that
took us so long to get her out and get
her done which is sit down today what
she shared with me were all love ceiling
woman’s environmental caps that didn’t
allow her to do what she really wanted
to she said when she was little
why do parents encourage certain talents
of course the army gave some of the
public performance was with their
faculty she accepted it an environmental
challenge cap look when she looked at it
she might have been to a Christian
family and promised him she did not want
to stream in the religious element off
the stands fall that will cover to their
household she said by it’s not for me as
yet in a third of the parties Rama was
very busy printing up her three
beautiful children and she prioritized
that over herself knowing for me that
she wanted to really you know dance and
identity the dance form
she acted all three environmental issues
all three pushed away I told us that oh
that’s why I couldn’t do the alligator a
couple of years ago in Macon she met a
dance teacher who saw her beautifully
done she was and encouraged drama to
perform on stage Rama said no and beyond
that time I can do it it was in January
of this year that Rama very kindly was
in the audience of the be inspired
lecture series that I spoke at at the
today it was there that I introduced the
concept of the sticky probe with its
implications the next morning I received
an email from Rama and said thank you so
much coaching for the very inspiring
talk I am now realized that I’ve been on
mysticus for all these years I’ve gone
ahead and booked my own in April at the
Lincoln Performing Arts Center for the
30th of June oscillate to be ladies and
gentlemen it’s better to Andhra
Mahasabha later tonight tonight very
proudly going and be part of the
audience as she dances clothes of hope
and my family’s in the audience today my
husband and children we try to apply
this concept of the sticky feel to our
own lives
and I’m sharing this because I feel so
can we we all embrace it and we find
ourselves using this concept so often
when we feel we have the power we want
to just complain from driven situations
to situations of strategic importance it
applies because we can assess their
assigned to trigger to charge sake no
[Applause] [Music]
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