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O amor a serviço do outro | Alexandre Crof | TEDxBarraDaTijuca


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op March conviction rate and during
many years I sensed a trip to
I should make this journey you are
close to two groups of people with
distinct realities that my
It is close to people in situations
begging in areas of
vulnerability drugs marginalization
misery of every kind
I also wanted to be close to
people inside people living
with much difficulty and so maybe
very simply people
take care of the earth survive work
manual
I managed to accomplish this trip when
I go out on the road did not have a
very clear reason why I was going
where did this my need was
just a hunch
I did not know exactly what
do when he got there in these areas
so I had already participated in
groups or make solidarity actions in
streets or help the homeless and
group is great is the group he keeps
a constancy consistency this
type of action in the group see merits
the group works to our humility
accept a decision that you do not
I played better but the film has a group
thing he always bothered me
group he opened and gives a spacing
among people who are going to help
people being assisted
huh
I think subconsciously I already
O realized so we’re getting our
we with our that our shirt
group and we help these people
They need and they thought just look
what legal staff’re coming comes in
help the exchange is usually very good
but I needed to feel that reality
a more fully in a way
deeper
then it’s 100 group I went alone and
I started going to these areas right from
vulnerability drugs and I just
finding many of the responses
questions I was not doing
I got needs and ask for
bakery newsstand where he had
large county
the action of beggars and go there I went there
I went to cracolândia in sao paulo
I spent time there to serve the
revellion is with beggars
barriers in the bay and in large cities
and capital and features urban and
squares with great presence of beggars
I arrived there with my small backpack
with some sandwiches and banana cookie
I started I sat next
He began to eat and offered to
people who were closest to me
and we start exchanging idea and I
I listened quite right my order
is knowing of your life from your past
it took him this road condition
will be marginal but will be hooked
constantly told me about many
their lives and their past sought
listen carefully and talk to your eyes
It is about love of a trial or
love them with a touch to touch the
hand touching the shoulder with a hug and
I was acknowledged I began to realize
that these changes right I was not
making a vertical quality as
I felt before I even think that
nor was a charity because I also
I talked about my losses my pains
my joys right did not care
to expose myself as vulnerable because I
I am also vulnerable
I spoke about my sushi pains
pain had about my craving for
I am happy because I have a lot of thirst
happiness
It is these exchanges I got to know
the trajectories of these people and the street
all right
and I began to realize that I was
venerating these people as masters of
survival and ride them listen
as a friend and I often went
recognized as a friend and for me to be
recognized as the very best friend
to be recognized for any work
any made any word I
I have given there and then these
Initial experiments on the streets
I began to feel the need one
Will I started to feel welcomed
for them I started to feel more
comfortable in this type of environment
so I had a desire to create ties
deeper I went to sleep on the street
I wanted to be living that reality
as close as possible despite knowing
that that equality she may not
there right
that’s the year in our exchanges during
night so the early morning turns and moves the
and talk to them or religiosity
spirituality and I kneel before
he asked them to perform to
me with his hand on my head I had
an idea and is also in a few days
so I bought the bags of bread and
made cheese sandwich started
encourage them to distribute me
to other beggars
then he began to beggars start
help other beggars and it’s amazing
to be of service to put the
next service can regenerate
our spirit can not give a
response to feelings of worthlessness
these people in these conditions
street and they have can give an answer
me maybe for us
our sense of impotence
before suffering the world right I
when you are when I’m in the service
I try my very stimulating
reflections on the same ducts in
my family at work in traffic
at the grocery store I think to be
service being sympathetic think we
ignites increasingly being a better person
the best child better husband the best
best friend coworker best
Unemployed
the best is the best wronged
neighbor assaulted the best I started
share some of these experiences
so many stories that I have lived
like the last times
I began to share with some friends and
closest and many so
Bold praise and I started here
never dropped me very well so
I began to realize that courage in
many cases in my case it was a
fairly long
I remember when I was about
a 10 12 I came home from a
football played was raining
and quite near my house had a
street kid so right and more or less
of my age perhaps a
little older a teenager he
I was covering the rain and cold
placing the jacket on the knee
sitting on the curb and I was close to
house at the end of a good deed but I
sensibilizei to the scene and took the
my shirt and I give it to him without
say nothing
he was amazed that attitude
right he got a hand to pick up but
before grabbing the shirt he turned to
me
and he asked when you will run out
he then what touched me deeply
because that kid that
Street rain cold condition
helpless friends and family by
close it bothered me before
he accept a donation is that
probably part of a good effect
there in that condition so I
I realize that today is the courage one
process may in the long run is not me
it took me decades to finally
get these incursions that I have
I made my latest trend
right and I realize I actually accept
this is when people call me
brave and everything but I do not
I like this because I know the
I’m actually just following a
I’m following my intuition
heart
when we go out of our hearts
We do not exert a practice of
people the courage exerts an act of
need we just need
do what needs to be done to
our own life and makes it and accepting
this praise of brave people
constantly asked if I have
afraid to go to these areas and all
I understand it all because I spent
by delicate situations situations
danger but the fear of going to install
these environments has never been greater than
my desire to be there than
my will to love and have a song
bob dylan in a line from a song
it enough that I bring to my
life he speaks the fool without deception
use when you have nothing you
has nothing to lose so I tried
undress completely and who was
I had to leave home and of all
my stuff and started this
trajectory so when I’m in those
environments bring me my money
my clothes is my cell my
documents but to me it matters little
anything that has value to me of course
They brought a lot for my integrity
Physics is like living
I’m not a kamikaze I take my
care right time and realized the danger
before the period to approach me
of course it is not an exact science but
I also can not I started
feel to realize that this journey
or his life belongs to me
so I can not be afraid to put in
risk if I have endangering
is an act of love if I have to
lost there I know I miss
loving and outside these street experiences
Also on the street is I have
the inner experience in farm
the plantations and in the backcountry here in
Brazil already walked quite a bit
also
and go in these environments receive
thus solidarity life lessons
I’ll tell amazing three
quickly so many stories I
I have lived most of which I was
there doing one of the farms us
tava knocking is not making cement
beating the cement had the shovel and
companion there in the hinterland was in
hoe the elite others around
and he approached me and said softly
he wanted to teach me a prayer
Secret wants a protection prayer
he spoke so do not want to teach you
on the action because you come from a
very dangerous city in rio de janeiro
and I wanted to protect you from afar
through this prayer I found it
so beautiful so that delivery
mixing a little of the spiritual
Bringing it a little at me he
only asked me not to share this
prayer to anyone because otherwise would
lose strength was not worth anything
so I have no one held it
I know only one and another situation
another time I was in another
farm say goodbye to all my
companions there’s work hoe
manual and I went I was hitchhiking
truck and farm that I was was
in piauí is she was in front of a
br br so the crossing was on the other
side of the road was already motioning
there for a half hour in a truck and
a car was stopping , and there came a
these friends I had just me
fire and crossed the street approached
me took his wallet and pulled out
single note that he had in his wallet
he told me he wanted
deliver such a value mark well
down but it was a huge era of huge
human value because he told me that
I wanted to give because I could spend
need on the road as travel
ride and he said he had passed
much need in his life and that he
I had had helped much he wanted
do the same for me in that situation
another time a situation
of pure beauty and purity was beautiful
when this is the daughters of one
friend you
is more dolls I bought a
supermarket super simple dolls
just handed it to them and they were
our very happy to one in
joy of ecstasy
she turned to me and thanked me and
following with the following sentence right
that God bless you that God bless you and
She touched me deeply is like
a child with that reality as
distinct from the child I was , nor can
thank me for such a gift
simple with this magnitude and snow
God boy in her acceptance and that
the inner experience of so
farms planting this together
people even legwork is not over
convinced that with a simplicity
is one way to simplicity is a
decision and simplicity it can be
a solution to our personal life
to our professional life can be
a solution to the world also
the coexistence of relations
interpersonal relationships
but for us to live a life and
simply have to give up
some things right
our pride is relations
Friendship is I think is mostly
vanity not only physical vanity
enact slender and receive praise and
so tanned and not vanity
right stuff
they alone nor sporting goods and all
more but mostly vanity
intellectual because intellectual vanity
Which brings us an illusory seat
social prestige
I think it takes us
recognize the greatness of doing
small and want to be anonymous is
do not live a life in search
recognition fame success not charge
live a life on the number
but let the numbers meet
I have tried in practice this is
very very difficult today I believe
it is easier to become a millionaire
than I do me a humble than me
make small
I think it is necessary that we look
off point of view of results
tangible things we do in
our lives
when I left for this course is
never thought did not even know what’s
doing so never thought in terms of
effectiveness of what he was doing
I’m sure that’s why
I have lived so many moments and infinite
currently the result it is not my
criterion of action to do anything in
my life right
after these experiences and on the streets
the interiors I began to reassess
same behaviors in my life and started
to feel a deep shaming the
my past is that I discovered a
huge responsibility that I have
before my existence
this shaming it is not
question of money or goods
materials exclusively but is a
question over perception of life right
I like that for decades since the
sensibilizei childhood always with me
these conditions of abandoned lives
for so long I could only worry
with my achievements with
Brazilians with my relationships
exercising my ego centrism is that
combines the pride in my
aggressiveness when I am upset
in my machismo and in my vanity
yet this is very ashamed but
it does not paralyze me it does not bring me
guilt or depression
instead it brings me strength she me
Ghana brings to live a life each
more to those in need of service
I want to live a life that get me out of
center of the universe and that puts me
Finally I started talking to here
you that I wanted to accomplish this
trip I made this trip I want
conclude by saying that I am still
this trip and talk to you here me
does very well because it is a
possibility of a little reflection
more news
such as intimate experiences have
lived and mostly it’s a way
to repeat it all here for me loud and
good sound and often these things
saved so much time just inside me
and I repeat now is for myself heard
that all these stories and all these
perceptions of life that brief
recent trajectory of my life on it
message has nothing anything new right
millennia
this idea of love right was propagated
the world and has been practiced over the
centuries by millions of people
a few of these people are well
famous but most million
They are beautifully anonymous
known and they live their lives
so anonymous I believe it is right
can we live for you
instrument of a greater love love
do not want anything in exchange for a love that
cry together that dream together that want to see
the other restored
I think the attitude of love in our
it is not passive conduits it is not
the politics
I think of love in our stance
lives it is revolutionary and all
the world calls utopia and romanticism
are actually profound changes in
Most profound changes they
they are time consuming
they are silent, they are not
the daily news so maybe
We have so much difficulty
mobilization is so little
matter how much wisdom there is in
words as matter how much
actions that are carried out what
really affects our lives our
surroundings is as if love is to live and
It offers this passage and me
lay off of you have a little more
time was not going to speak but I will speak
I wanted to share it is one of those
More responses of these responses
questions I was not doing
find that talent is a gift but
quality is exercise
I’m not a good person to exercise
goodness me whenever I can I
I’m not a caring person
the army solidarity Me I
I am a safe person the Army
control of my emotions and thus
wanting to say goodbye exercising one
quality I lack so much that is not
so expensive I wanted to exercise my
humility and because I think the act of
altruism solidarity can not
serve so I convince myself that
I’m a good decent person and honest
and so I rule out any exaltation
me any intimate exaltation of me
same
so I ask the applause of
nerd practice or for when people
just talk that is directed
targeted
these people living in these
conditions and abandoned forgotten by
us and for themselves people living
crushed by our social structure
button hand on garbage to survive
man with his head in the open at night
cold and also the people who survive
the manual work both in the field
as the city right
while here in this building and
Finally I wanted to ask these
applause including mine are
directed to my parents that they
live my side every day
despite having died in front of me
they taught me what love is
they saved my life
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