hi my name is Bora and today I’ll be
talking about normal so when I first
heard about this TED talk event and read
the question what is normal written on
many pastors hanging around school I was
walking to the cafeteria with my friend
doy
it was the lunch break when I saw the
banners I abruptly turned to him and
asked him to define normal for me he
wasn’t expecting that but still tried
yeah we couldn’t come up with an exact
definition however we were thinking that
normal was normal just because majority
of the society thinks as so so here’s
the thing would it still be normal if
I’d give this talk without my pants on
or even you were listening without your
pants on we the humans have lots of
expectations from everything we expect
people to behave the way we want we want
rules to meet our expectations and we
expect the world to be a place we dream
of what doesn’t meet our expectations is
abnormal to us but what is normal
conforming to a standard usual typical
or expected according to the oxford
dictionaries personally I think there is
no such thing as normal there is just
common sense normal of two societies are
formed through hundreds and hundreds
years of experiences each Society have
distinct standards and the social
standards have a strong influence on the
idea of normal what is normal for the
spider is chaos for the fly set Morticia
Addams these social standards are
affected by many factors such as
religion the most basic example for that
occurs when one wonders whether it’s
normal to eat pork or should it be
prohibited as stated in Quran it is okay
to eat pork in many countries
and you don’t get judged by people as
the same act may result in huge
arguments in miniature just because the
behavior doesn’t apply to society
standards
another example is slurping your noodles
or soup would be considered weird in the
United States but not slurping would be
considered weird or even offensive in
some Asian countries normality depends a
lot on time frame and environment there
are tons of historic examples of when a
completely unfair idea was found normal
in past and clearly not accepted in
today’s world something can’t be and
must not be normal just because 90% of
the society thinks that so for instance
slavery was very common before 19th
century however today we know that
slavery is not normal nor right
individuals behaviors are shaped by
their societies expect expectations and
their peers norms people measure the
appropriateness of their acts by how far
away they are from those social norms
however what is perceived as the norm
may or may not actually be the right
behavior I’m doing ballet for 12 years
and I enjoy dancing a lot here’s a
picture of me on the stage doing ballet
at the year-end show I started ballet
when I was only 4 with my parents as a
encouragement everyone except me was a
girl in my ballet class and this rate
has kept for pretty much a long time
there wasn’t any problem for me about
ballet
except for waking up so early in the
mornings then I started the primary
school and eventually told my classmates
about this hobby of mine
although everything’s fine right now
when I was just a little kid 7 or 8
years old as far as I can recall my
friends in my class found it weird for
me to do ballet why was that happening
I was thinking to myself back in those
days two out of three people I meet was
surprised by me doing ballet and some
immediately judged crudely stating it
was a girlish thing to do maybe they
were right it seemed I was the only boy
in my ballet class so yeah maybe ballet
really was a goldish thing to do and I
was not even supposed to do it even
though I enjoy dancing those children in
my class had girlfriends doing ballet
they need about ballerinas childhood
stories were read to them some even saw
dancers alive but it was their first
time meeting with a real little boy who
was soon to be their friend and doing
ballet for all these years
society imposed on the idea of ballet
being a girlish thing to do or that was
they too can understand from the growing
environment so it was not normal for
them anyway it was not their fault
though I quit ballet
fortunately for not more than a year by
the time I realized ballet was the thing
I love doing and those who those kids
opinions were worthless I continued to
do the thing I enjoyed the most luckily
I found it out when I was only nine
people spend their entire lives trying
to be normal they get 7080 years old
still trying to fit in still trying to
be normal
still trying to be just like everyone
else if you are always trying to be
normal you will never know how amazing
you can be you don’t have to be similar
to everyone you don’t have to waste any
of your valuable time doing that for
instance Albert Einstein when he was
very young
Einstein’s parents worried that he had a
learning disability because he was very
slow to learn to talk some say he didn’t
even say a word until he was four
later when he started to school I signed
it very well in class he was creative
and a persistent problem solver but he
hated the road he absolutely detested
school because he could not stand the
way teachers taught he taught there was
no room for questioning or thought with
the classes focusing on strict
memorization he was different than
everyone he dropped out of school when
he was only 15 most of us know very well
about him or at this we have heard of
his name
at some point in our lives Einstein was
not normal he was not an ordinary kid he
was more than that I don’t say you have
to tear atoms apart to be different but
you have to trust yourself and stop
trying so hard to be normal
he was not normal but many still admire
them people can still be appreciated in
this society and be different than
everyone but at the same time society
determines our perception of normality
what we should keep in mind is that
normal is not always what’s right
normality may change over time and
differ from culture to culture we should
have our own standards not follow the
society’s life is not about trying to be
just like everyone else life is not
about normalizing yourself
life’s about creating yourself don’t
live your life based on others people
definition of normal be different be
unique and by the way normal is abnormal
[Applause]
talking about normal so when I first
heard about this TED talk event and read
the question what is normal written on
many pastors hanging around school I was
walking to the cafeteria with my friend
doy
it was the lunch break when I saw the
banners I abruptly turned to him and
asked him to define normal for me he
wasn’t expecting that but still tried
yeah we couldn’t come up with an exact
definition however we were thinking that
normal was normal just because majority
of the society thinks as so so here’s
the thing would it still be normal if
I’d give this talk without my pants on
or even you were listening without your
pants on we the humans have lots of
expectations from everything we expect
people to behave the way we want we want
rules to meet our expectations and we
expect the world to be a place we dream
of what doesn’t meet our expectations is
abnormal to us but what is normal
conforming to a standard usual typical
or expected according to the oxford
dictionaries personally I think there is
no such thing as normal there is just
common sense normal of two societies are
formed through hundreds and hundreds
years of experiences each Society have
distinct standards and the social
standards have a strong influence on the
idea of normal what is normal for the
spider is chaos for the fly set Morticia
Addams these social standards are
affected by many factors such as
religion the most basic example for that
occurs when one wonders whether it’s
normal to eat pork or should it be
prohibited as stated in Quran it is okay
to eat pork in many countries
and you don’t get judged by people as
the same act may result in huge
arguments in miniature just because the
behavior doesn’t apply to society
standards
another example is slurping your noodles
or soup would be considered weird in the
United States but not slurping would be
considered weird or even offensive in
some Asian countries normality depends a
lot on time frame and environment there
are tons of historic examples of when a
completely unfair idea was found normal
in past and clearly not accepted in
today’s world something can’t be and
must not be normal just because 90% of
the society thinks that so for instance
slavery was very common before 19th
century however today we know that
slavery is not normal nor right
individuals behaviors are shaped by
their societies expect expectations and
their peers norms people measure the
appropriateness of their acts by how far
away they are from those social norms
however what is perceived as the norm
may or may not actually be the right
behavior I’m doing ballet for 12 years
and I enjoy dancing a lot here’s a
picture of me on the stage doing ballet
at the year-end show I started ballet
when I was only 4 with my parents as a
encouragement everyone except me was a
girl in my ballet class and this rate
has kept for pretty much a long time
there wasn’t any problem for me about
ballet
except for waking up so early in the
mornings then I started the primary
school and eventually told my classmates
about this hobby of mine
although everything’s fine right now
when I was just a little kid 7 or 8
years old as far as I can recall my
friends in my class found it weird for
me to do ballet why was that happening
I was thinking to myself back in those
days two out of three people I meet was
surprised by me doing ballet and some
immediately judged crudely stating it
was a girlish thing to do maybe they
were right it seemed I was the only boy
in my ballet class so yeah maybe ballet
really was a goldish thing to do and I
was not even supposed to do it even
though I enjoy dancing those children in
my class had girlfriends doing ballet
they need about ballerinas childhood
stories were read to them some even saw
dancers alive but it was their first
time meeting with a real little boy who
was soon to be their friend and doing
ballet for all these years
society imposed on the idea of ballet
being a girlish thing to do or that was
they too can understand from the growing
environment so it was not normal for
them anyway it was not their fault
though I quit ballet
fortunately for not more than a year by
the time I realized ballet was the thing
I love doing and those who those kids
opinions were worthless I continued to
do the thing I enjoyed the most luckily
I found it out when I was only nine
people spend their entire lives trying
to be normal they get 7080 years old
still trying to fit in still trying to
be normal
still trying to be just like everyone
else if you are always trying to be
normal you will never know how amazing
you can be you don’t have to be similar
to everyone you don’t have to waste any
of your valuable time doing that for
instance Albert Einstein when he was
very young
Einstein’s parents worried that he had a
learning disability because he was very
slow to learn to talk some say he didn’t
even say a word until he was four
later when he started to school I signed
it very well in class he was creative
and a persistent problem solver but he
hated the road he absolutely detested
school because he could not stand the
way teachers taught he taught there was
no room for questioning or thought with
the classes focusing on strict
memorization he was different than
everyone he dropped out of school when
he was only 15 most of us know very well
about him or at this we have heard of
his name
at some point in our lives Einstein was
not normal he was not an ordinary kid he
was more than that I don’t say you have
to tear atoms apart to be different but
you have to trust yourself and stop
trying so hard to be normal
he was not normal but many still admire
them people can still be appreciated in
this society and be different than
everyone but at the same time society
determines our perception of normality
what we should keep in mind is that
normal is not always what’s right
normality may change over time and
differ from culture to culture we should
have our own standards not follow the
society’s life is not about trying to be
just like everyone else life is not
about normalizing yourself
life’s about creating yourself don’t
live your life based on others people
definition of normal be different be
unique and by the way normal is abnormal
[Applause]
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