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Não gaste energia para tentar ser quem você não é | Daniela Petruzalek | TEDxNiteroi


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I’m a trans woman, I’m not someone
knows the term trans can be a
obligation a synonym for transsexual is
transsexual is a concept is more popular
more accessible in the media but today people
recognizes that the term politically
correct would not be transgender because
people understand that the genre is much larger
than biological sex for those who do not
familiar with the concept
basically a trans person is that
person who is born with having
a given gender is born but she is
your identity is the opposite gender
So, for example, I was born a
boy but the gender identity is of
a woman just as there are women
trans there is also a man transmits
in the opposite case in the identified child
as a girl at birth but along the
life there is discovered with the identity of
male gender the opposite of trans is the
person if he or she basically
identifies with that genre that it
been born she does not have a
your identity
said this little introduction about
What is a trans person?
I wanted to invite you to make a
reflection from the moment a
person comes to you, so do I
If you only read one story, one person
sttrans somewhere is the
first image that comes to the head of
you
giving my example of telling a little
of my story I am a person who
I’m a technology consultant.
I work with development of
software, I’m also a speaker at
area of ​​technology I have been circulating in
practically the various cities of Brazil
and most recently made up lectures
I am a
person who is relatively successful and only
So you do not keep talking about work.
also likes to run I’m the sock
Marathon is yes I like to run 21
kilometers My dream is someday
to run the marathon and
we can talk but there are also those who are
more beautiful but unfortunately it is not this
the image that we have
nekounan discusses this one at a
trans person because our conscious
collective is constructed the concept of
so many trans people is built to
From that base of knowledge
comes from newspaper pages
who are usually in the police section and
with that we have that feeling of
that person sttrans has a very relationship
strong with prostitution with
crime with promiscuity with
drugs with a number of problems
social and even this is
construction it ends up generating this
preconception
and look how it is this problem is a
serious problem because the prejudice it
ends up creating the very prejudice the
person to person when he or she
take it trans often
meets with a barrier that people
do not want to be associated with that
I count on all that context and they
simply close the doors will close
the door to the family made friends door the
leave job opportunities
man and what happens is incredible
that seems to be a concept
revolutionary trans people are people
and we need to pay comedy
the ticket he has bills to pay and anyway
we need to make money and when
these people do not have opportunities
that happens
she finds herself in a desperate situation and
eventually she has two choices one
it is to reinforce the stereotype that
stereotype of prejudice is because they
need to earn money or even a
most tragic solution is a suicide and not
there is perhaps even population with the
of suicide as high as the population
trans depending on the study that you
to be observed ranges from 30 to 50
the center is a very high number then
when I speak here of the privilege of being
here speaking with you already have one already
I feel very privileged to be a
of the group that survived and more than
so I’m still one of those who
she did not have to prostitute herself if 10% of
trans people will not need to
prostitute
This is a very great privilege.
only does not mean that this
prejudice did not affect me
of course just a few prejudices in my
day by day
but worse than that was the prejudice
that I learned to have with myself
during development
when we are a child in our memory
old of me being a person transits
different person is more or less
four five years old
I remember thinking that there was a
invisible wall between me and that group
that I wanted to be part of the group of
girls because when we are children
we have the designation of a genre and the
people know a whole format than that
genius representative receives a
training to behave like that
genre
So I was born the boy so I had a
male name had a haircut
a type of clothing that had to wear my
favorite color was a specific palette
that I could choose about the
toys people who
to interact all this was standardized and
any behavior other than itself
he was repressed he understood that it was dirty that
It was ugly to be that way but
everything was bad is you eventually
learn some things from the universe
that are typically perceived as male
male I ended up absorbing for
example liked to liked games that
I was playing health games that
were recognized with men
ok life goes on and on to puberty and over there
in fact the conflict was no longer about
the difference is male and female
I had physical transformations
happening in my body
hormones acting and with each passing day
It was terrible because it stopped me
recognize in a mirror
I would arrive people who are happening
with me only that so with puberty comes
also the interest
romantic, I finally got interested
by girls and that was the plane there was a
another prejudice is my wish is as follows
go I learned that men like
women and men like men and
imagine the confusion that has formed in the
It’s in my head and what happened.
so you eventually understand that I had
to suppress what this was because
ugly here as soon as I had learned
it was an ugly thing so me to me
hide I went exactly to the side
opposite
I tried to hide myself being the person
or the dumbest guy possible because
I was in the comfort zone and here
No one will realize that I have the
ugly side
even at this time I did many
things that I’m not proud of myself
I take this opportunity that people
has a certain visibility I want
Apologize to the people I think
that at that time if they were living
please because really back then
was wearing a mask to hide
who I was and what energy I
I used to hide
started to destroy I got into
depression i lost the will to live
really and things got worse
but I was lucky enough to be born in the age of
internet and I got through
I wanted to understand what I was doing.
happening to me and a moment arrived
that I finally found the few
explanations I finally understand that
one thing is the gender identity that is
basically who is identified and another
thing is the sexual orientation that is
Whom do you like and from mexico?
deconstructed I took this call myself
I started to see how much other things
were wrong as the others
I had learned that I
I needed to do another one.
fact that computing is one thing
male because I buy the computer
not have sex because the computer has to
be a male concept and today we
This is a woman’s place.
where she wants
then santi the other prejudice that
face
Ok I started to organize I started to
understand how I was and I finally I
I came to the conclusion here I can not
but living this life this way I’m going
really do the process he calls
that change from one gender to another
to the other and this involves treatment
hormonal psychologists have an evaluation
psychological very extensive reports at last
Surgeries were also some suggestions
necessary and only that I knew that if I
did it in a unstructured way
she was going to drop that stereotype that I
I described at the beginning so I did not
could do anyway I had to
I planned a lot this time I
worked in an American multinational
in a sales area of ​​technology sales
and I talked to people
responsible is a company that she had
a policy of non-discrimination
I thought I ‘m protected, okay, let’s go.
let’s go ahead
and on a beautiful day had a meeting of
team
at the end of that meeting I kidnapped
A few minutes to tell me about myself.
I got personal so the situation is this
from now on I just danced it
for about 20 people
the news spread that neither fire in the
company felt people like
talk and that moment was very
interesting because before that
He was a very good person at the time.
technically well-known
company and from that none I was
daniela transexual was no longer that
professional qualified super here the
people came and talked petro sa come
here gives me a clear opinion that
eventually culminated that the
my opinions were no longer so
important
some years later I was fired and I
was there in the market facing a
completely new situation that was
look for a job as a woman I do not
I was used to it, I do not understand
difference
I’ve been looking for six months
being extremely more qualified
what I was when I was a man and
Of course I can really put myself
in the market today I have a position
very good as I said I consider myself a
successful person but I only succeeded
enter because I had an indication of a
person who knew me in the past world
huh
this was something that for me was
quite striking I just made it clear
overcome today I’m in a very
Nice, I have this visibility as
speaker is but still for example I
I do not have the compensation I had before
this gender gap in the payment of
because there are differences I am today
a mature older person more
qualified as it was before and this is
preconceptions that we have in our
society that we learn people
places these boxes and often
people do not question I had to say
a great internal conflict that forced me
to think about my prejudices
only not necessarily everyone
has this stimulus but there is a certain way
I know that each of us has to leave.
of house wears masks of a larger larger
or lower intensity
and to sustain their brands, people
also spends energy then reflection
that I wanted to bring to you today.
How much energy do you spend to not
You’re being who you are not to me.
I know it cost me dearly.
I regained my health after I
I started to knock these masks down but it’s
important to reflect that you do not need
be transparent and that a benefit
from that moment when people
begins to reflect on the prejudices
deconstruct them we are also
basically creating a better world a
world where we can
also value diversity diversity
with the cognitive diversity
diversity of ideas can express itself
better than the world literally
free and together we can learn is to
learn to build this one
world we spend our energy
brow on things that makes us happy and so
build a better world
thanks
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