[Music]
the truth is that I am very honored to
be in front of you
but I must be honest with you honestly
this is intimidating
intimidating because despite being a man
that we are safe people us
we own the word I feel
as probably many women are
they feel in their daily lives terrified
terrified trying to have a minimum of
consideration if today I came a little to
provoke them to provoke them and talk about
micro machismo
as a form of violence
but not one form of physical violence is
something we see every day many
times a day
but it goes unnoticed it ‘s almost invisible
but I think I need to tell you a little
back I come from a family
where
I was totally matriarchal my grandmother was
the one who directed the direction of the family
she and her daughters who were warriors
permanent
my mother among them were the ones
they defined the future of everyone in that
context it was impossible to think the
machismo really the truth is that
we were all feminists for
default
I remember when I was a kid that we
he prepared breakfast but at school
it was my father who went to the market was
him and that was something normal was not something
special
then we arrived at my house and in my house
we follow the inheritance and follow the
tradition
and I have 33 wrestling women and
brave
my daughter luciana the minor fernanda and my
wife more is what is probably the
more feminist of the house
and good things are still the same with my
son rodrigo let’s go to the market we cook
and not just the easy chef cook end
of the week they make the food and leave
all thrown away but we washed the soy from
the dishes etc. and so on
in that context
you will imagine that for me
and in the world we live in we said
we are normal people but a few months ago
something rather strange happened to me and that is
the origin of this talk of mine that I studied
in europe holiday wine
and she tells us that her boyfriend was going to come and
that he was going to stay at home
I was so incautious in my wave of
structure and order as a good
host who asks and where are you going to
sleep
and had a strong response
my youngest daughter and my wife told me
the obvious light
and I felt like a scolded child and
answer obvious very slowly
and then I kept thinking and said that
would have happened if this was the other way around
my son was coming with the girlfriend me
surely I would not even have
put to think where I sleep the girlfriend
because it was obvious that he had to sleep
with the
and there I made as a small click choose or
Something is wrong here and I started to give
laps and well thank god we have
internet between the internet and I found
with the word micromachism and I said no
this is impossible but I am a type
normal I’m not macho then I do not
good in that search I found myself
the definition of a gentleman
llama luis bonino that is really the
that coined the word at the beginning of the
90 I had never heard it and according to me
I’m a guy who more or less reads but
I had never heard the definition and I
I’m going to take it
leave to read this because I thought
quite interesting says this term
designates the subtle and imperceptible
maneuvers and exercise strategies
male domain power in what
daily
that attempt to varying degrees against
female autonomy avilés arts tricks
tricks and manipulations with which the
males try to impose on women
your own reasons desires and interests
in daily life
and this is also conscious and
unconscious wow
Next page that the internet throws at me
and I see a well-known clothing store
with beautiful baby clothes
beautiful things for those who have had
children are wonderful and I find a
light blue shirt that says smart
like dad of tender and next to it was the
rosadita that said pretty as mom
it could not be the other way around
could be cute as dad and smart
as moms no good they gave me
millions of those shirts and there I started
to think about everyday examples and a
little to question me if this really is
A) Yes
first it came to my head the typical
example of the mom of my best
friends that said no I iron him the
shirts because the baby does not know how to iron
the ok he never learned he’ll never learn
one thing that happened to me in an office
where a girl was telling a classmate
of work that does not enter where the boss
because I was in the attitude of little girls
I imagine that it is curious sensitive that
it will have happened I have no idea
and from there I started looking for themes clearly
labor then we see a typical
corporate directory where the
Female presence is always reduced
and when a woman takes the floor
any of the men who are there
be more or less with greater the going to
interrupt and it will not matter what
is saying and it does not matter if he says it
ok or says it wrong
but not only the short but in many
cases has happened that hey you have good
letter not because he does not take the notes
I think it ‘s the most degrading thing that
there is a good meeting but it happens
and so a lot came to mind
of examples and things that I have lived a
company where most women
of the collaborators the companies are
women said it’s better to have a boss
man because that’s how there is balance
Wow
and from there I thought about the roles and there are
roles that we automatically define
for men or for women
Have you ever seen a receptionist or
you would hire a good babysitter
the roles seem to be
pre-established care is not true
from women and so on and so on and
there you have to start giving it a spin
If you stop to think about these
examples surely the list will be
endless and you will go thinking
in all the things that happen to them
daily
I’m going to tell you something
and I think it has been noticed men
we are afraid we love the status quo and
to maintain that status quo one of the
great tools that I found
is the micro machismo
if it is a form of violence
at some point they called it
soft violence
after violence at the end
and the critical of this type of violence
is that it is socially accepted
and we live it every day
I propose
that when we come up against this kind of
attitudes let’s put the evidence
let’s do the exercise ourselves
without making it public- in principle they leave
to surprise me I’m doing this
exercise and it really has called me the
attention the number of times that I
spend a day in different circles
social activities and is
permanent
and the deeper problem is still that
this hits here
he hits women in the psyche
ah
I really believe that
the changes are made with small things
with attitudes with showing against
example I believe that equity is a
subject of reciprocity
and I think that together
we should try to change this little to
little giving the example
and I say that because I think that we
we must but that actually we
we deserve
Thank you
[Applause]
the truth is that I am very honored to
be in front of you
but I must be honest with you honestly
this is intimidating
intimidating because despite being a man
that we are safe people us
we own the word I feel
as probably many women are
they feel in their daily lives terrified
terrified trying to have a minimum of
consideration if today I came a little to
provoke them to provoke them and talk about
micro machismo
as a form of violence
but not one form of physical violence is
something we see every day many
times a day
but it goes unnoticed it ‘s almost invisible
but I think I need to tell you a little
back I come from a family
where
I was totally matriarchal my grandmother was
the one who directed the direction of the family
she and her daughters who were warriors
permanent
my mother among them were the ones
they defined the future of everyone in that
context it was impossible to think the
machismo really the truth is that
we were all feminists for
default
I remember when I was a kid that we
he prepared breakfast but at school
it was my father who went to the market was
him and that was something normal was not something
special
then we arrived at my house and in my house
we follow the inheritance and follow the
tradition
and I have 33 wrestling women and
brave
my daughter luciana the minor fernanda and my
wife more is what is probably the
more feminist of the house
and good things are still the same with my
son rodrigo let’s go to the market we cook
and not just the easy chef cook end
of the week they make the food and leave
all thrown away but we washed the soy from
the dishes etc. and so on
in that context
you will imagine that for me
and in the world we live in we said
we are normal people but a few months ago
something rather strange happened to me and that is
the origin of this talk of mine that I studied
in europe holiday wine
and she tells us that her boyfriend was going to come and
that he was going to stay at home
I was so incautious in my wave of
structure and order as a good
host who asks and where are you going to
sleep
and had a strong response
my youngest daughter and my wife told me
the obvious light
and I felt like a scolded child and
answer obvious very slowly
and then I kept thinking and said that
would have happened if this was the other way around
my son was coming with the girlfriend me
surely I would not even have
put to think where I sleep the girlfriend
because it was obvious that he had to sleep
with the
and there I made as a small click choose or
Something is wrong here and I started to give
laps and well thank god we have
internet between the internet and I found
with the word micromachism and I said no
this is impossible but I am a type
normal I’m not macho then I do not
good in that search I found myself
the definition of a gentleman
llama luis bonino that is really the
that coined the word at the beginning of the
90 I had never heard it and according to me
I’m a guy who more or less reads but
I had never heard the definition and I
I’m going to take it
leave to read this because I thought
quite interesting says this term
designates the subtle and imperceptible
maneuvers and exercise strategies
male domain power in what
daily
that attempt to varying degrees against
female autonomy avilés arts tricks
tricks and manipulations with which the
males try to impose on women
your own reasons desires and interests
in daily life
and this is also conscious and
unconscious wow
Next page that the internet throws at me
and I see a well-known clothing store
with beautiful baby clothes
beautiful things for those who have had
children are wonderful and I find a
light blue shirt that says smart
like dad of tender and next to it was the
rosadita that said pretty as mom
it could not be the other way around
could be cute as dad and smart
as moms no good they gave me
millions of those shirts and there I started
to think about everyday examples and a
little to question me if this really is
A) Yes
first it came to my head the typical
example of the mom of my best
friends that said no I iron him the
shirts because the baby does not know how to iron
the ok he never learned he’ll never learn
one thing that happened to me in an office
where a girl was telling a classmate
of work that does not enter where the boss
because I was in the attitude of little girls
I imagine that it is curious sensitive that
it will have happened I have no idea
and from there I started looking for themes clearly
labor then we see a typical
corporate directory where the
Female presence is always reduced
and when a woman takes the floor
any of the men who are there
be more or less with greater the going to
interrupt and it will not matter what
is saying and it does not matter if he says it
ok or says it wrong
but not only the short but in many
cases has happened that hey you have good
letter not because he does not take the notes
I think it ‘s the most degrading thing that
there is a good meeting but it happens
and so a lot came to mind
of examples and things that I have lived a
company where most women
of the collaborators the companies are
women said it’s better to have a boss
man because that’s how there is balance
Wow
and from there I thought about the roles and there are
roles that we automatically define
for men or for women
Have you ever seen a receptionist or
you would hire a good babysitter
the roles seem to be
pre-established care is not true
from women and so on and so on and
there you have to start giving it a spin
If you stop to think about these
examples surely the list will be
endless and you will go thinking
in all the things that happen to them
daily
I’m going to tell you something
and I think it has been noticed men
we are afraid we love the status quo and
to maintain that status quo one of the
great tools that I found
is the micro machismo
if it is a form of violence
at some point they called it
soft violence
after violence at the end
and the critical of this type of violence
is that it is socially accepted
and we live it every day
I propose
that when we come up against this kind of
attitudes let’s put the evidence
let’s do the exercise ourselves
without making it public- in principle they leave
to surprise me I’m doing this
exercise and it really has called me the
attention the number of times that I
spend a day in different circles
social activities and is
permanent
and the deeper problem is still that
this hits here
he hits women in the psyche
ah
I really believe that
the changes are made with small things
with attitudes with showing against
example I believe that equity is a
subject of reciprocity
and I think that together
we should try to change this little to
little giving the example
and I say that because I think that we
we must but that actually we
we deserve
Thank you
[Applause]
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