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Memories: How they define you | Puja Marwaha | TEDxBITSPilani


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good morning the school boy I have a
Naruto here today during the chase one
of the favorite things that I feel like
I am a gatherer of stories I am a
terrible story and the idea of actually
creating a story Bank of memories or
other wonderful institution that I was
for a really came from that oh you know
we all have a lot of memories and we
sometimes believe that these memories
are bad
sometimes you believe they are may stop
us from from way to the future but I
really do believe that they hold within
them the power to come help us to
construct a almost a theory and
framework in which we can hold our
future you know I myself come and the
product I think of a two sets of
memories of a lineage that has both
extreme nationalists of which I my
family has been extremely proud to a
narrative of partition that Brazil about
a lot of loss a lot of anger a lot of
pain and I really do believe that the
person I become I can see how those
trends have come together the stories
have come together to create for me a
not just pain my joy and insight and
finally follow when I joined try 22
years ago I found that there was no
common orientation all I was told for
the stories
of how we you know we are a story of
resilience with a story of craziness or
daesh’s we’re a organization that
started with zero rupees no big funds
nobody back and today we are an
organization that has supported almost 3
million children we currently support
about six and a half lakh children where
did that come out of it came out of us I
think constantly looking at what is it
that we stand for at Kohler you wild
reinvent so therefore for for for me
you know we restart we ask ourselves do
we want to keep that madness do we want
to keep that audaciousness we do and
difficult to do when you have older you
know those memories can sometimes be
away but how are the stories they for me
the stories that that I’ve been told
that I am telling him turn often tell me
what is it that can help me through a
terrible situation what is it that can
actually create something completely new
and and really therefore our stories
from the past empowering but not
inhibiting that that they both have the
magic of their time and often they get
changed in the retelling but also the
magic of the future so one of the things
we decided to do was actually create our
for ourselves saying if we are this this
collection of huge number of narratives
for the magic of all the people who have
joined us left us worked as volunteers
worked with children
we worked across the world for us how do
we kind of gather this this storehouse
because you realize you lose it you know
somebody chooses to tell a story
something it doesn’t so we created what
we call the pride memory project and the
whole construct of this is to recreate
or create our history as we go along but
created from many voices so you know you
can’t have a history written by the CEO
of the organization or or of course the
victor in in many cases but but can you
bring him a many many voices how do you
get people to join in and give us all
the narratives of aspects of a
particular story and I decide for
ourselves what of that can you pull up
so one of the things we work we work
here with unshod a– she is the creator
of the indian memory project scene it’s
the first digital archive or the
sub-continental story sometimes it could
be families of that would be a
institution and what is what we saw
happening is magical because we started
finding that we chose 20 photographs
from our 36 years and we got the people
around those photographs to be narrate
stories and you can’t imagine the effect
of those who were lucky enough to go and
hear those things it you know just
hearing that you know trying to have a
tiny office in someone’s bedroom and you
know there were any chance but we had
about 30 people so they would play
musical chairs but hearing it from the
musical chair person was a huge magic
I think our existing people who have the
danger of seeing us as another office
you know they walk in there is a jack
and really it’s while it may be a
higgledy-piggledy vsauce chair people
people will complain it’s not
comfortable etc but when they hear there
was no chair at all you know I you could
really see what happens when you do that
so I want to share some of these stories
with you this is a first chart as you
know try the name itself has these three
pieces it has two children one day we we
all we did was sell us and we were told
that the warehouse we were in at that
point is being shut up in 24 hours when
we locked out by the ITT and people were
weeping trying to take the cards away
you know saying now can I like quickly
save some income but in that moment was
born the idea that we would have to
diversify was all very well to be
weeping and thinking of the thoughts and
running but really we needed to bring in
different sources of income so then that
that movement that story to me has
always been about finding incredible
hopes and a new way of doing something
in a very bad situation and I have seen
for myself for example experience that
every time I’m in a hole
initially I am I always everything is
terrible
and then you just think of this this
moment where people were sitting you
know picking up these sides and you say
in that moment you actually figured out
I came now how do I get the ordinary the
small India
philanthropist to be born and we gave
birth to that idea in 94 which was we
said to the rickshaw wallah as the
anybody because frankly at that time it
was two hundred forty rupees a girl
today it’s two thousand rupees in here
anybody can do it you know how
philanthropy is something people always
think of someone who has a lot of money
but for cry the the concept that
everybody can be a philanthropist you
know you can contribute and that fool
will be big enough and huge enough to be
able to impact a lot of children and how
you putting start doing that so really
it became about a search for what we
call the everyday hero the everyday hero
picks up a check outside
I remember this little old lady and I
tell the story we lost her few years ago
every year once a year she come to give
her 200 all she could afford was a 240
to please she kept giving that she would
walk from Mahalakshmi station to our
office you know little old thing she was
would walk and she would say I see the
money on a task because I needed to give
you that much you know so as long as you
are able to see I think in in everybody
that every one of us can be a hero every
one of us can do something can change
that is a huge crisis actually almost
it’s become our today recall it almost
arrays on the earth what I can do I must
do and the the the second story actually
is about a dude say a deep was a young
19 year old in Banaras
he said he noticed you know I remember
he came to our office with his she took
photographs of missing two that he cut
out from
he said I want to do something about
this and we were like okay why don’t you
take money a fellowship by which you can
fulfill your target each other as we
call it and do what you want so taken it
upon himself to fight he realized that
in his young girls were missing because
they were being trafficked for
prostitution he has cleared his area
near Banaras of the whole concept of
child prostitution today he has rescued
close to thousand girls more importantly
he’s kind of become like this one man
legal arm he puts his foot 26 people
behind bars and I know for you that
number self what is 26 believe me in
this country to be able to but anybody
who’s a trafficker into prison is not
easy because the whole system complies
so there is a deep who stop it other
young boy found I think the most
incredible resources and ability to do
that a second story is of of this young
man called oven from alpha desh a power
very simply came to us with a research
proposal he wanted he was put in charge
and he noticed that the children from
the Lama the tribe were not able to none
very simply because they could
understand a word that their Telugu
speaking teachers were sleeping and he
then took it upon himself to do this
entire research create a dictionary
simple innovation you know a simple man
finding a simple way to change something
permanently actually for those children
in that area i-i-i think the other set
of set of stories that we already bought
upon and it’s a really difficult one for
most people is this concept of just ask
you know people have the most in
good resource what will they say and say
no that somebody may have an idea you
want somebody may have a motorcycle you
want we have a story in her eye about
out there was this young man who was an
old dude
he had a motorcycle you are interested
in children and a leaf and you know what
is this looking after but just I want to
do it so we are like ripping what I
don’t do it but you know you have a nice
motorbike why don’t you carry cards just
deliver them there just deliver that set
it so I think it it’s just constantly
the stories of saying us there are
incredible resources around you you know
and to me that’s become a huge lesson
for a lot of people who join try you
come from very privileged sections of
society they actually used to giving I
am not used to asking you know to be
able to just walk in and say I am asking
for children giving you an opportunity
to join actually I’m walking in here
with dignity and pride because I would
offer you walk and you’re gonna offer me
hello now you’re going to get a chance
to participate in this incredible change
for children so really how do you ask a
set of volunteers it in how do you know
they were sick of it there was this roof
that they are school the government’s
food and in cap and they just couldn’t
do it the cry people who are telling it
tell them that you can’t do it yourself
or you boss you know there is a budget
for it get it done and they just kept
asking and today they have a roof for
their classroom it took a year of
persistent are skinny but it happened so
it’s really about saying find out what
can be done ask the person for it and
it’s amazing and
believable what people will do and how
they will step up and how they will
change your lives now if I miracle
change their lives just a little bit in
order to be able to help so really to me
up you know this this whole exercise of
putting together and I can stand here
and share for the next 25 minutes all
the stories about how everything that we
do I remember we were in a terrible
situation in in mm and there was an
earthquake and the story of how we
survived that those are earthquake
inside right because what happened was
that our donors went and gave for the
earth which they didn’t want to give for
children you know so you suddenly do not
have F money and yet had that movement
there though what what we saw what I saw
what I experienced was an organization
that said okay it’s the same thing as
the dots okay this is not working is
there something else we can do and we
went from there within three years we
had quadrupled our incomes and I always
believed that if we didn’t go through
that testing time I’m not sure that we
would have got ahead you know each one
of you will find I think that in your
life there are things that you would
prefer sometimes to forget sometimes
things that you prefer not to forget but
stop it you can really learn from and
say how do i shape my future and that
for me let’s make this really what we
want to do
let’s start looking at everything around
us as we dream for the future let’s look
at what we have what are the stories we
have tell the stories share the
photographs you know and today we have
an incredible sharing culture and create
and shape your future you know let the
memories be powerful let them not be
stories of only looking for the pain and
this fred.ropp and that went wrong but
actually look at them as the framework
in which each of us can hold who we can
become because at any stage you know I
am still a work in in beginning
I’m still trying to invent myself I am
trying to reinvent myself at whatever
age and ayah so really to me let’s use
memories let’s let’s actually look at
how we can create this amazing reservoir
stories that each of our lives not just
my organization up thank you so much
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