I went to an all-boys oh and when they
expect like I did that the social
environment there would be a kind of
Darwinian survival with fittest a real
macho type deal but when I found there
was the unspoken acknowledgment that
each and every one of us suffered and
that got support of equality in the
social sphere of this school and even
hierarchies were rendered ridiculous
anyone could talk to anyone about any
problem people well I think this is
anomalous because in America mental
vulnerability is not condemned rather
when a boy expresses emotion any sort
from piety to joy to melancholy epithets
are Thrones masculinity is calling the
questions in socialized to not say do
not express those feelings again and
it’s not just other men other man we all
do it to each other it’s just any norm
that’s been held up for a while and on
top of this mass media enforces those
roles back on tools take for example the
film taxi driver in the film protagonist
Travis Bickle in response to his long
list of woes and troubles by killing
people I mean it’s it the message is
clear you hate your old lady kicks you
out of the house hurt something you have
long lists of deaths hurt yourself
the fact that matter is that I’m not
quite surprised why America was was
shocked when a man inspired my taxi
driver shot President Ronald Reagan I’m
not sure why America was surprised again
when this the band Devo requested lyric
requested a poem to put the song from
this very would-be assassin this cycle
of pop culture to violence into pop
culture again is what Peggy Noonan calls
the cycle with the culture of death in
her famous column she says that kids are
fish swimming in the ocean of culture
but in America that ocean is poisoned I
purposely checked the news today before
I came here and I turned on the
television and on the news all you could
see were news death suicide everything
that was the only thing that made
headlines I turned on the TV there’s a
law-and-order episode about school
shooting why is the question and the
fact of the matter is when you live an
emotionally stunted man from it the
culture that repressed emotions you feed
his wounds the very norms that we hold
up to our children feed violence and
misogyny and I think we can fix this the
fact that matter is the philosopher
Plato said that man soul is of three
tears first there’s reason then there’s
emotion then there’s appetite and he
gives the parable of a man in a chariot
the man is reason and two horses are
emotion emotion and data type and reason
is supposed to
strike a balance between these two
horses in order for the chariot to ride
smoothly the fact matter in America we
slaughtered the emotional horse for men
so we have reason in a chariot with
appetite bringing him bringing this man
wherever you want started in
conversation and with ourselves we need
to start doing rationally with our
emotions when a man or a boy is feeling
emotional the best thing we can do is
dialogue with them talk to them about
what’s going on and you do not shame
that this isn’t going to happen
overnight and I think we need some role
models to hold up for us to achieve our
goal I think well the best moral miles
we have right now is the actor Nick
Offerman some of you may know him from
the NBC show Parks and Recreation in
this show he’s a libertarian man’s man
he loves me he loves limited government
he loves outdoors woodwork finally grew
facial hair the works this has been the
norm of American men since the inception
of our republics and that’s great I’m
not saying there’s anything wrong with
that
some of these aspects are based on
Offerman himself but he said something
recently in an interview with men’s
health that really explained how we can
reconcile this process and the fact that
matter is he said that you can be a
macho man you can be a very a man very
much
raises gender identity but you have to
deal with that human emotion inside you
that isn’t gendered it’s not masculine
or feminine it just is
in his words it’s a more masculine
stance to take to embrace one’s emotions
than to bury them I think once this
message is internalized in the American
public things are going to change we’re
going to be able to talk reasonably
about the objective existence and
emotions in all human beings and I think
that in an emotionally open society the
culture of death will recede because the
fact of the matter is is that when you
have an emotionally open culture
violence becomes unsellable this starts
with me the start of you talking to
people rationally dealing with your
emotions rationally it really starts
when a man opens himself up to his very
humanity
you
expect like I did that the social
environment there would be a kind of
Darwinian survival with fittest a real
macho type deal but when I found there
was the unspoken acknowledgment that
each and every one of us suffered and
that got support of equality in the
social sphere of this school and even
hierarchies were rendered ridiculous
anyone could talk to anyone about any
problem people well I think this is
anomalous because in America mental
vulnerability is not condemned rather
when a boy expresses emotion any sort
from piety to joy to melancholy epithets
are Thrones masculinity is calling the
questions in socialized to not say do
not express those feelings again and
it’s not just other men other man we all
do it to each other it’s just any norm
that’s been held up for a while and on
top of this mass media enforces those
roles back on tools take for example the
film taxi driver in the film protagonist
Travis Bickle in response to his long
list of woes and troubles by killing
people I mean it’s it the message is
clear you hate your old lady kicks you
out of the house hurt something you have
long lists of deaths hurt yourself
the fact that matter is that I’m not
quite surprised why America was was
shocked when a man inspired my taxi
driver shot President Ronald Reagan I’m
not sure why America was surprised again
when this the band Devo requested lyric
requested a poem to put the song from
this very would-be assassin this cycle
of pop culture to violence into pop
culture again is what Peggy Noonan calls
the cycle with the culture of death in
her famous column she says that kids are
fish swimming in the ocean of culture
but in America that ocean is poisoned I
purposely checked the news today before
I came here and I turned on the
television and on the news all you could
see were news death suicide everything
that was the only thing that made
headlines I turned on the TV there’s a
law-and-order episode about school
shooting why is the question and the
fact of the matter is when you live an
emotionally stunted man from it the
culture that repressed emotions you feed
his wounds the very norms that we hold
up to our children feed violence and
misogyny and I think we can fix this the
fact that matter is the philosopher
Plato said that man soul is of three
tears first there’s reason then there’s
emotion then there’s appetite and he
gives the parable of a man in a chariot
the man is reason and two horses are
emotion emotion and data type and reason
is supposed to
strike a balance between these two
horses in order for the chariot to ride
smoothly the fact matter in America we
slaughtered the emotional horse for men
so we have reason in a chariot with
appetite bringing him bringing this man
wherever you want started in
conversation and with ourselves we need
to start doing rationally with our
emotions when a man or a boy is feeling
emotional the best thing we can do is
dialogue with them talk to them about
what’s going on and you do not shame
that this isn’t going to happen
overnight and I think we need some role
models to hold up for us to achieve our
goal I think well the best moral miles
we have right now is the actor Nick
Offerman some of you may know him from
the NBC show Parks and Recreation in
this show he’s a libertarian man’s man
he loves me he loves limited government
he loves outdoors woodwork finally grew
facial hair the works this has been the
norm of American men since the inception
of our republics and that’s great I’m
not saying there’s anything wrong with
that
some of these aspects are based on
Offerman himself but he said something
recently in an interview with men’s
health that really explained how we can
reconcile this process and the fact that
matter is he said that you can be a
macho man you can be a very a man very
much
raises gender identity but you have to
deal with that human emotion inside you
that isn’t gendered it’s not masculine
or feminine it just is
in his words it’s a more masculine
stance to take to embrace one’s emotions
than to bury them I think once this
message is internalized in the American
public things are going to change we’re
going to be able to talk reasonably
about the objective existence and
emotions in all human beings and I think
that in an emotionally open society the
culture of death will recede because the
fact of the matter is is that when you
have an emotionally open culture
violence becomes unsellable this starts
with me the start of you talking to
people rationally dealing with your
emotions rationally it really starts
when a man opens himself up to his very
humanity
you
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