hello everyone my name is Sarah Fink on
and I’m really happy to be here I’m
going to share my story with you since I
was a child I was very creative very
ambitious I it was my dream to become a
dancer painter actor singer everything
under the Sun I was not too keen on
academics but my creative skills were
very high I had a great family support
which is why I could pursue my dreams
so I completed my nine years diploma in
Bharatnatyam
I did contemporary dance Bollywood dance
and oriental belly dance and took part
in every Dance and Drama competition and
I loved it I loved it stage was my life
my dad never discouraged me never turned
me down and it also helps you know when
you’re a daddy’s girl I’m sure most of
you women know how it is being a daddy’s
girl he always always encouraged me and
pushed me forward and even though when I
knew something that my dad wouldn’t
approve of all I would do is make this
puppy-dog face
you know flick of my eyelashes and say
Papa
I really want it and he could never
really say no to me by the way I tried
this trick on my husband now and it
works most of the time so I had a
fantastic childhood I was born and
raised in a beautiful family loving
family happy family dad who could barely
say no to me
and I never saw my dad sad depressed
angry I’m sure my parents must have had
their set of challenges but they made
sure that me and my sister never
witnessed them as I was growing up
I started setting all my dreams aside
why because I found a new dream you see
I was influenced by cartoon films a lot
I used to watch Aladdin Cinderella Snow
White Beauty and the Beast and my new
dream and mission was to find my prince
charming so that I could live happily
ever after
and then soon enough I did find my
prince charming he was charming of
course intelligent amazing
took care of me had a huge heart and
soon I got married to a fiend Khan Avene
Khan is peak performance coach to
millions across the globe he has coached
a few of the top celebrities in
Bollywood I got married to him
and life was like a fairy tale for me
you know perfect few months after my
marriage my dad took his own life all of
a sudden you know just like this let me
tell you one thing I have never ever
shared my this part of the story to
anyone this is the first time I’m
standing here in this crowd in sharing
my story and as I’m sharing my story my
so he took his own life and that was the
most traumatic moment for us for me and
my family you’re in somebody’s ill
somebody’s really old and frail some
when your subconscious mind you’re
prepared what do you do when you’re not
prepared what do you do when you love
somebody and you’ve always seen that
person happy joking around cheeky and
all of a sudden he’s just gone from your
life it was a bit unfair I was angry I
was hurt I was
dad I didn’t want to see anybody I
well my dad didn’t take his life because
of his family and close friends got to
know later that he took his life because
he was cheated and betrayed in his
business my dad was a man of honor and
he respected his work and family a lot
and maybe he thought that he couldn’t
provide for his family anymore or be the
strength and he just left us after that
day I devoted myself to press begging
God to give me some kind of distraction
take my mind away from this or at least
ease my pain a little bit soon after
that me and a fiend realized that I was
pregnant with twins and I was like oh my
god
thank God I really needed this and I was
very very very happy thanked God but
alas a happiness lasted only a few weeks
when we learned that it was an ectopic
pregnancy and it was a danger to my life
and I was operated immediately you know
that changed everything about me my
self-confidence my self belief my
relationships it does happen you know
you know we women we are not the
definition of strength and power because
just because we can conceive and bear
that immense pain just to bring new life
into this world we are called strong and
powerful because we’re very emotional
and because of our emotions how we
handle our emotions can change
everything and everyone around us I
think that’s the true power of women not
just the pain that we go through nine
months that’s that’s nothing compared to
the emotional strength that we been one
day I was sitting in my room and I
thought to myself I can’t give up
that’s not how I’ve been brought up I
have to do something so I just thought
I’m gonna follow my dreams I’m gonna
bring it back into my life so I
discussed with my partner and I said I
want to be an actor so he said fine fair
enough go ahead be an actor but you have
one year in one year you make it or you
forget it
and I first thought that Smith harsh
isn’t it why is he giving me a time
frame but obviously I trusted his
judgment I trusted his knowledge and
experience he’s been working with it top
people in the industry I said okay fine
I take on that challenge within one year
I will make it one week later we were
coming back home after dinner and we had
a car crash he snapped his collarbone
and I busted my ankles six months on bed
rest and couldn’t walk for six months I
thought to myself you know Wow
bring it on like bring it on this is
really unfair and I just thought to
myself never again will I be able to be
myself you know happy loving cheerful
high on life dancing around pranking
people I thought I’ve lost it all I’m
just gonna be this thing that is gonna
be miserable in our own emotions but
then I thought to myself is that really
what my dad taught me and I said no I
have to give myself a chance I can’t let
this happen and soon enough I was
offered my first debut show don’t like
him until him destiny will find me and
as the title suggests destiny found me
my first year of the shoot and I was
escorted to this vanity van my vanity
van and I was walking and I saw my name
written on it Sarah Connor
Wow okay this is good this feels better
I walked in the vanity and I saw this
mirror with beautiful lights and makeup
set neatly hair products kept my costume
for the day put up and I sat in front of
but I sat on that check hiding all the
burdens of emotions trapped inside me
hoping that this would be a distraction
as the assistant director walked inside
my vanity van he handed over script for
me and he told me he turned few pages
and he said okay be starting from
episode number one scene number five
when I told him why are we starting from
scene number five why can’t we start
from scene number 1 isn’t that easy he
says it doesn’t work that way we have to
see the other actors availability and
location preferences I’m like okay then
so as I was reading the scene my first
scene was of an anger scene I was angry
I’m supposed to be angry so as I was
reading I was feeling that anger you
know and it was like I’m gonna go out
there and fight with my dad so I had the
shallow breathing and you feel it great
actors don’t act they feel and that’s
how you can convince your audience so I
walked out of the vanity van feeling
that anger came in front of my dad did
angry scene relived the scene couple of
times because – the director got the
perfect shot completed went back to my
vanity preparing for a second scene
second scene was that I was supposed to
meet my parents after a long time so I
was excited so fine I was feeling happy
and excited I walked out of vanity I
came rushing to my mom and dad hugged
them I said oh my god I really missed
you guys blah blah blah and we shot that
scene again many times to get the right
shot so went back to the vanity feeling
light and happy getting prepared for the
third scene the scene was a very sad
scene it was that my dad because of my
dad’s irresponsibility lot of people
died and I had to emote that sadness
anger frustration so I felt bad as I was
reading the script I had tears in my
eyes I’m like
okay I can do this so I walked out to my
manatee and I hold and I cried and I I
lost it my eyes were swollen up my face
was hot relived that scene again couple
of times and walked inside the vanity
for my last scene preparing for the last
scene but it was really I was feeling
really low I didn’t even want to do the
last scene so I told the assistant
director give me some time
you know I’ve just cried he sings sorry
we don’t have time it’s a daily soap you
know oh god okay then so I was reading
the last scene of the day and it was
beautiful I’m supposed to meet my
boyfriend if it’s a romantic scene
Bollywood music playing fantastic so I
was like alright then I was feeling
beautiful I was feeling that everybody
loves me and I love everyone so I walked
out of the vanity van feeling light
walking on cloud nine my hair was you
know all over the place and I was
feeling beautiful so I finished my last
scene I loved it
so I went back to the vanity van shut
the door sat in front of my mirror and
started taking off my makeup because it
was a backup for the day and as I was
taking off my makeup looking at myself
in the mirror I realized oh my god I
just played for intense scenes in a span
of 12 hours and I’m completely fine
so why was i holding on to those
dramatic and sad emotions in my heart
for such a long time I realized we
control our emotions emotions don’t
control us so that’s when I decided
never again I’m going to hold on to
those emotions that is going to bring me
and my family down I’m gonna hold on to
uplifting emotions you see and that’s
you you really don’t need a vanity van
to understand that nor do you need to be
professional actor to learn this simple
lesson of life this power all
possess its there within us ladies every
morning look at yourself in the mirror
ask yourself what role are you gonna be
playing today because you are the main
leader of your own life today I am
playing my daddy’s girl whose father is
watching her from beyond smiling proudly
tomorrow I’m gonna be playing Wonder
Woman
who’s gonna help and contribute the
after I’m gonna be playing probably
Betty Boop or Catwoman for my husband
I’m sure he’s gonna like that you can
play whatever you want to it’s your life
love your life live your life own it you
know sad woman devastated world happy
women happy world and being yourself
actually means being happy because we
women are not really designed for sad
and depression and anger if you design
to love and bring life whatever you feel
will design your future what do you want
to do do you want to cling on to your
past or do you want to design your
destiny choice is yours because whatever
choice you make will not only affect you
it’ll affect everyone around you I
choose to lead an extraordinary life
what do you choose do you want to be
victim of circumstances or do you want
this is how I discovered life in my
vanity van don’t compare yourself with
others don’t seek equality seek mastery
choice is yours
thank you ladies stay blessed you
and I’m really happy to be here I’m
going to share my story with you since I
was a child I was very creative very
ambitious I it was my dream to become a
dancer painter actor singer everything
under the Sun I was not too keen on
academics but my creative skills were
very high I had a great family support
which is why I could pursue my dreams
so I completed my nine years diploma in
Bharatnatyam
I did contemporary dance Bollywood dance
and oriental belly dance and took part
in every Dance and Drama competition and
I loved it I loved it stage was my life
my dad never discouraged me never turned
me down and it also helps you know when
you’re a daddy’s girl I’m sure most of
you women know how it is being a daddy’s
girl he always always encouraged me and
pushed me forward and even though when I
knew something that my dad wouldn’t
approve of all I would do is make this
puppy-dog face
you know flick of my eyelashes and say
Papa
I really want it and he could never
really say no to me by the way I tried
this trick on my husband now and it
works most of the time so I had a
fantastic childhood I was born and
raised in a beautiful family loving
family happy family dad who could barely
say no to me
and I never saw my dad sad depressed
angry I’m sure my parents must have had
their set of challenges but they made
sure that me and my sister never
witnessed them as I was growing up
I started setting all my dreams aside
why because I found a new dream you see
I was influenced by cartoon films a lot
I used to watch Aladdin Cinderella Snow
White Beauty and the Beast and my new
dream and mission was to find my prince
charming so that I could live happily
ever after
and then soon enough I did find my
prince charming he was charming of
course intelligent amazing
took care of me had a huge heart and
soon I got married to a fiend Khan Avene
Khan is peak performance coach to
millions across the globe he has coached
a few of the top celebrities in
Bollywood I got married to him
and life was like a fairy tale for me
you know perfect few months after my
marriage my dad took his own life all of
a sudden you know just like this let me
tell you one thing I have never ever
shared my this part of the story to
anyone this is the first time I’m
standing here in this crowd in sharing
my story and as I’m sharing my story my
so he took his own life and that was the
most traumatic moment for us for me and
my family you’re in somebody’s ill
somebody’s really old and frail some
when your subconscious mind you’re
prepared what do you do when you’re not
prepared what do you do when you love
somebody and you’ve always seen that
person happy joking around cheeky and
all of a sudden he’s just gone from your
life it was a bit unfair I was angry I
was hurt I was
dad I didn’t want to see anybody I
well my dad didn’t take his life because
of his family and close friends got to
know later that he took his life because
he was cheated and betrayed in his
business my dad was a man of honor and
he respected his work and family a lot
and maybe he thought that he couldn’t
provide for his family anymore or be the
strength and he just left us after that
day I devoted myself to press begging
God to give me some kind of distraction
take my mind away from this or at least
ease my pain a little bit soon after
that me and a fiend realized that I was
pregnant with twins and I was like oh my
god
thank God I really needed this and I was
very very very happy thanked God but
alas a happiness lasted only a few weeks
when we learned that it was an ectopic
pregnancy and it was a danger to my life
and I was operated immediately you know
that changed everything about me my
self-confidence my self belief my
relationships it does happen you know
you know we women we are not the
definition of strength and power because
just because we can conceive and bear
that immense pain just to bring new life
into this world we are called strong and
powerful because we’re very emotional
and because of our emotions how we
handle our emotions can change
everything and everyone around us I
think that’s the true power of women not
just the pain that we go through nine
months that’s that’s nothing compared to
the emotional strength that we been one
day I was sitting in my room and I
thought to myself I can’t give up
that’s not how I’ve been brought up I
have to do something so I just thought
I’m gonna follow my dreams I’m gonna
bring it back into my life so I
discussed with my partner and I said I
want to be an actor so he said fine fair
enough go ahead be an actor but you have
one year in one year you make it or you
forget it
and I first thought that Smith harsh
isn’t it why is he giving me a time
frame but obviously I trusted his
judgment I trusted his knowledge and
experience he’s been working with it top
people in the industry I said okay fine
I take on that challenge within one year
I will make it one week later we were
coming back home after dinner and we had
a car crash he snapped his collarbone
and I busted my ankles six months on bed
rest and couldn’t walk for six months I
thought to myself you know Wow
bring it on like bring it on this is
really unfair and I just thought to
myself never again will I be able to be
myself you know happy loving cheerful
high on life dancing around pranking
people I thought I’ve lost it all I’m
just gonna be this thing that is gonna
be miserable in our own emotions but
then I thought to myself is that really
what my dad taught me and I said no I
have to give myself a chance I can’t let
this happen and soon enough I was
offered my first debut show don’t like
him until him destiny will find me and
as the title suggests destiny found me
my first year of the shoot and I was
escorted to this vanity van my vanity
van and I was walking and I saw my name
written on it Sarah Connor
Wow okay this is good this feels better
I walked in the vanity and I saw this
mirror with beautiful lights and makeup
set neatly hair products kept my costume
for the day put up and I sat in front of
but I sat on that check hiding all the
burdens of emotions trapped inside me
hoping that this would be a distraction
as the assistant director walked inside
my vanity van he handed over script for
me and he told me he turned few pages
and he said okay be starting from
episode number one scene number five
when I told him why are we starting from
scene number five why can’t we start
from scene number 1 isn’t that easy he
says it doesn’t work that way we have to
see the other actors availability and
location preferences I’m like okay then
so as I was reading the scene my first
scene was of an anger scene I was angry
I’m supposed to be angry so as I was
reading I was feeling that anger you
know and it was like I’m gonna go out
there and fight with my dad so I had the
shallow breathing and you feel it great
actors don’t act they feel and that’s
how you can convince your audience so I
walked out of the vanity van feeling
that anger came in front of my dad did
angry scene relived the scene couple of
times because – the director got the
perfect shot completed went back to my
vanity preparing for a second scene
second scene was that I was supposed to
meet my parents after a long time so I
was excited so fine I was feeling happy
and excited I walked out of vanity I
came rushing to my mom and dad hugged
them I said oh my god I really missed
you guys blah blah blah and we shot that
scene again many times to get the right
shot so went back to the vanity feeling
light and happy getting prepared for the
third scene the scene was a very sad
scene it was that my dad because of my
dad’s irresponsibility lot of people
died and I had to emote that sadness
anger frustration so I felt bad as I was
reading the script I had tears in my
eyes I’m like
okay I can do this so I walked out to my
manatee and I hold and I cried and I I
lost it my eyes were swollen up my face
was hot relived that scene again couple
of times and walked inside the vanity
for my last scene preparing for the last
scene but it was really I was feeling
really low I didn’t even want to do the
last scene so I told the assistant
director give me some time
you know I’ve just cried he sings sorry
we don’t have time it’s a daily soap you
know oh god okay then so I was reading
the last scene of the day and it was
beautiful I’m supposed to meet my
boyfriend if it’s a romantic scene
Bollywood music playing fantastic so I
was like alright then I was feeling
beautiful I was feeling that everybody
loves me and I love everyone so I walked
out of the vanity van feeling light
walking on cloud nine my hair was you
know all over the place and I was
feeling beautiful so I finished my last
scene I loved it
so I went back to the vanity van shut
the door sat in front of my mirror and
started taking off my makeup because it
was a backup for the day and as I was
taking off my makeup looking at myself
in the mirror I realized oh my god I
just played for intense scenes in a span
of 12 hours and I’m completely fine
so why was i holding on to those
dramatic and sad emotions in my heart
for such a long time I realized we
control our emotions emotions don’t
control us so that’s when I decided
never again I’m going to hold on to
those emotions that is going to bring me
and my family down I’m gonna hold on to
uplifting emotions you see and that’s
you you really don’t need a vanity van
to understand that nor do you need to be
professional actor to learn this simple
lesson of life this power all
possess its there within us ladies every
morning look at yourself in the mirror
ask yourself what role are you gonna be
playing today because you are the main
leader of your own life today I am
playing my daddy’s girl whose father is
watching her from beyond smiling proudly
tomorrow I’m gonna be playing Wonder
Woman
who’s gonna help and contribute the
after I’m gonna be playing probably
Betty Boop or Catwoman for my husband
I’m sure he’s gonna like that you can
play whatever you want to it’s your life
love your life live your life own it you
know sad woman devastated world happy
women happy world and being yourself
actually means being happy because we
women are not really designed for sad
and depression and anger if you design
to love and bring life whatever you feel
will design your future what do you want
to do do you want to cling on to your
past or do you want to design your
destiny choice is yours because whatever
choice you make will not only affect you
it’ll affect everyone around you I
choose to lead an extraordinary life
what do you choose do you want to be
victim of circumstances or do you want
this is how I discovered life in my
vanity van don’t compare yourself with
others don’t seek equality seek mastery
choice is yours
thank you ladies stay blessed you
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