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L’idéalisation du bonheur | Aurélie PEREZ | TEDxValenciennes


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Valencian good evening okay so I’m
very moved tonight because are you figuring
I was born in Valenciennes it’s when
not even anything to integrate into his
Hometown
before I even introduce myself, I’ll go
suggest that we move a little bit because
I am still the 9th intervention of
the evening I think you give all
and I do not agree with that because
that now we will talk about happiness
so I’m going to ask you already
stir your shoulder a little bit
We’re going there we’re good we have
understood that in life it was necessary to
give
here I am going to ask you from you
stretch either that way to your
legs are drooling as you sit
here and turn your head to
relieve cervical and grows in
kh lexus if you go right now
I do them it did me good
still
so good evening i will call it from the eu
peruse as you understood it
I’m 37 years old and I’m going to tell you a
little bit of my story and people
that I was able to accompany
so in fact at the age of 30 I’m
am found to be tired of being
happy yes yes you go of course
tired of being happy finally india be
happy say like society and
like my parents all we hear
around us wash me instilled it’s to
to say that I was married I had a
house a job that I liked
and by the side of it’s going that did not stop it
to be unhappy and to cry in
hiding every day for months
that inevitably raises questions
when you all have health the family
friends work there is a problem there
is a part of you that is not
heard is so a moment I got
asked the right question
1 as we said the problem it can
not be the others it is inevitably in
self and i realized i realized
that she is a whole part of me that
I had never explored because ba
ba because we had never learned to
do it
and then I received a lot
of things in my education in my life
but not that and I started to
plunge into this universe that me
would it be necessary to be happy
except that here the problem you see is
once we have defined it
in the wake of waking the thirst for the soul
we want to know everything
I went through all phases
I tested everything
but in the end it’s not the technique that
does it matter kate that made me vibrate
I had to know who I was
and I accept myself as a person
so it’s still a big
inner revolution
at the base I am training
Speech Therapist
since very little good I had said to my
parents will I be or cashiers or
madonna
my dad told me either mcdonald’s win
more money
good in the end I was speech therapist because
that I had this fiber in me from
want to help people and so suddenly
I know that for a lot of years I
I am fulfilled and it does not go and I am
tell me next I had done some
training for stress management
for my patients to feel
better also while we worked and
I say to myself I could maybe
do something in there we will see
the signs of life and actually
I had signs we came to see me
for that while I was not doing
especially of pub at the beginning and there it has
been a beautiful adventure so beautiful
is so rich that I can not
not tell everything most people tell me
say yes but you will be happy in life
you’re lucky they mistake luck
and opportunities that is to say that he and
an opportunity I seize it from elsewhere
I’m here tonight by a bigger
chances a great opportunity link
but I’m here too because I like
talk with people and that inevitably he
there is an exchange
so we feed each other
other
we share our values ​​and we build
projects that are in these values ​​that
it was the first thing because
it’s too easy to say you have the
luck
we do not know the number of hours of
work that’s behind it because its
request for personal sacrifice and that’s
so no it’s not that easy
the idealization of happiness why this
title which I after I showed you
just a few small pictures that’s
to say that we often want everything
right away I heard tonight a lot
talked about his request for perseverance
it takes effort yes it’s true
then because the most beautiful things
that are building up takes time
so I want to tell you you have
a project do not let go you have
your goal in sight
but now right now
what first step you need
cross what you are laying the
question
the first step is not required
to be difficult because good when we
look at the end it’s a bit complicated
we play there I have to do all that
the first run would already be to
doing good is what you do from
Well, every morning do you
get to get up in the morning with the
smile even when there are problems
because that’s what it’s good to be
not have a perfect life no one
we have all had relatives who we
have left health concerns
problems of working with cats
girl racing of course it’s always
the fault of the leaders too is ultimately
what is happiness except the
details of life if not of
enjoy what we live denis to be too
forward nor too much in the past the
nostalgia but to be in the moment
present
like tonight for example you pinch
a wonderful evening in our
company and so it feels like one of my
happiness projects it was precisely
last year I had told myself
oh, I’m sick of it all is morose in
France I was in my base I was
also allow a much sometimes pack
crying and moaning to sulk so
I was in my hunger in my phase olala
in France there’s nothing that moves so I
left to do a study of happiness at
abroad of course without sponsor with
just a one-way ticket and my suitcase of 20
kg us when I say that people are getting
say oh well yes
but after that you would come back then no
I was aiming it was why not
to settle abroad I had not
expected to come back and in + 20 kg why
because I thought to myself if I come back
I know that I have my apartment my
business at the slightest difficulty i’m going
go home so I gave everything to
associations and have it really I had
that my suitcase weighs 20kg and when I’m
income almost a year later in France
with just my suitcase of 20 kg more
of savings of course more work
also we had to start all over again
for that when people say you have to
luck I prefer to tell myself that I
give means happiness is demanding
but it is a beautiful requirement
so that’s how it feels
photo before leaving for the trip
happy a song by pharrell williams
ana pis I will discover plenty of
people full of things the world
Expect it was really still 1
and first step new york
why new york because the city of
all possible it’s not a
legend
you arrive in new york talk to you with
people their according to you have a
meet you I test them I left
without contact with just an ad on
linkedin
and here and so precisely jarrige speaks
with people i interview a young
French who left to emigrate
because the goal was also to know
why are people expatriating themselves why
he seek their happiness elsewhere than
in their home country and is actually
I say to myself ah well at the same time I
resume my studies of the cornea tec
there is the opening you want to come abbaoui
let’s go there and there I find myself in the
google offices new york second day
did not wish that it was announced well
so we do not have it really is a very
very good time you also need to know
even though Americans are only
not very faithful ie how I
could you if you take your chance on
the second even everything is fine if you
gives the card in just ten years less
tomorrow he will never remember you
and you will call and it will not be
possible
so you really have to grab your
luck on the moment it’s a beautiful
school elsewhere
I met unhappy expatriates
leave France really because
it’s their country it’s their culture and
their family their friends but so much
blossomed to be in countries where they are
give the opportunity we made them
trust where he could come by
example at 22 years old and they are given a
real mission with responsibilities
where he could come up with
physical appearances completely out
standard and it did not bother anyone or
go for an interview in california en
tie suit is very frowned upon it’s worth
better arrive in denim tee shirt the country
facebook a name here I’m going I
move from new york to a beautiful moment
with conferences meetings and
second step san francisco and that’s it
the revelation of my happiness why I
do not know I will not know you
explain it I do not know if I should
try to explain it I was just
happy that is to say that the energy of
the city
it’s a very pretty city of people who
come to talk to you spontaneously without
no priori of any kind
the people what gives you your
chances are you talking the same once I
speak to someone who tells me but listens
I know a framework at linkedin you
always tell me about it
it’s a network left in port louis
you want to meet some yeah
days after but here’s a journal role of
cnu is with you know the end of the
visit on the roof terrace where we go
the whole bay of san francisco
and here we say life is still crazy
I do not know where I’m going to sleep tonight
I do not know if I will be able to eat
tomorrow but for now I’m going
have a good time
let’s take advantage of it so here is the famous golden
gate i hope to see him again
I confess the famous street that goes up
so that the little year tanned complexion
a meeting in san francisco on foot
very bad idea
I did not have the means to
take public transport that
are very expensive and they tell you by
example 5 minutes 10 minutes to
go what they do not say is that
that’s why you come to with
your appointment while transpiring
looked like nothing and you do not have
one minute
maybe you do not have
the habit of walking the streets
like that very funny
see me and for you anyway
to show a little the unevenness and after
adventure too that’s also the
the fruit of chance
a friend who tells me good listen we’re going
cover the invictus games you know
not at all it’s a competition
international created by prince harry
to allow soldiers who have
been wounded on the ground war at
pope at war or not at war of himself
rebuild through sport by the
support also their family their friends and
awesome concept it was a creation
magazine the only magazine that dealt
of military sport for precisely him
to make a place in the world go on there
go
room where I ended up there on the
photo i make my line with my ayem
disney world 2 yes it’s in orlando
so I could not make an attraction
always the question that is asked me no
I could not but we spent a
absolutely beautiful week with
sportsmen with so prince harry
necessarily who were with us what
was frankly he’s bluffing it’s
just amazing the closeness he has
with people the happiness they
communicate to people it’s just
unbelievable
and so we famous sportsmen who have
all given for a week where the
principle is really to say ok on
in competition but we are especially here
to say we can continue our life
we no longer have physical health
we do not necessarily have the same place in
society is hard no one continues and
we have peace messages as often
people saying yes but me the
military war I’m interested
no no these people and explain you
although they are here to defend their
country in case of problems but that in
their inner self
what they want is peace they are
never as happy as when everything is
go well see you
and it was incredible encounters
I remember a Jordanian
so we gave copies of
magazine who asked me about him
to dedicate his magazine no but wait
he had just been a gold medal but no
but I would like the Indian ndi not so
you knew it’s good the first time
we give the floor to Jordanians
beautiful castle so that’s it and they were
all surrounded by their family their friends
and that’s also who carried them I’m
reminds of someone who told me but
you know if I’m still alive at
today’s time it’s my wife and
my son because I can not anymore
defend my country I have more form
physical to have a position I am
completely traumatized income from this
that happened to me it’s them who gives me
want to get up and live and so
of course all his medals because
that he has gained a lot
he dedicated them to his family
then it was mexico not the
Mexico is not just a cactus country
I wanted to tell you it’s not because
I saw a big cat in a cactus
who has that
nor is it the country of
barbapapas pink purple and blue not so
you knew them me I have them
discoveries there is also a country
full of contrasts
that is to say that you have I went
alexis daily in the in the
capital you have an amazing city
who is in a bowl surrounded by
mountains with the pollution spill at
over completely overcrowded with
problems of water reserves necessarily and
must know also that there they drink
more coca than water simply
because coca costs less
that a bottle of water so big
hydration health problems etc
and in addition the naughty factories that are
installed at home takes them all
water from groundwater because
if my memory is good it takes 5 liters
of water to make a liter of coca
so I hope I have you all well
feel guilty tonight for the rascal and
that you are going to stop torture and
mexican these groups is so there
it was amazing because it’s
people who beat they are still in a
standard of living or did not show up and
in fact he welcomes you arms
open
they are always smiling a little
detail it’s true mexico is when
even well polluted by corruption
so it’s true that there may be some
adventures that are not very pleasant to
life but overall it was a welcome
just amazing in families
that they did not even know and
just on the contact of the month contact
picked at home and so the country of
cultures mexico has never forgotten its
sky culture there you see by
example an aztec pyramid
but on the other hand they make additions
that is all that which
has good whose news
civilizations that came to their homes
when they were evangelized at one time
they take everything that suits them
and the rest and leave that aside
could be an example for your life
and if you take everything that you
correspond and that you stop
take what does not suit you
would lighten you already and after direction
Peru then Peru there was less
nice for me because actually there
I really had more more money
I had done to help Mom dad because
that it’s not ok and I’m lucky
to have a family from somewhere else and I
found in addition to lima that is called
badly to grease I did not know 90% of
time it’s gray then for morale
you know a little bit about the effects of
time on the morale one lives in the
north all our advice
and it was not easy because
the more that I really could not
approaching the premises there really was
a big barrier there is such a
difference of if you want he sees a
european he thinks money what so I
could not have genuine contact
as I wanted it except in the
second part to cusco the side the
mountains so there was the little one
beach of the hands just for fun
where we really are in life
authentic so there I could meet
people including a girl of 20
years with whom we speak a little bit of
everything so he wanted to take me to the
male cats and throw everything owl and
she told me we were talking about poverty to a
time and there by cons they close
completely and she tells me oh you the
French does not have the right to speak about
poverty
oops what did I say because
that’s also the problem when we go
in other cultures it’s sometimes
made of a father without realizing it
and she tells me but wait but even
the poorest of you they are
richer than us from yes it’s not
true it is not fake asia you have you
help you still have some
homes that will host the I have
bossed for associations I assure you
poverty here is still different
thing
so you can not use that word of
body I respect so after lima and
cuzco
I finally do a trekking for me
it was the only time I took for
me where I went to the mountains
always with this area is where there in
top of the mountain
I felt happy just in
communion with nature just do not think
for nothing just tell me right yeah ok that
I return to France
yes I am aware that I am
completely disconnected completely
more in phase I do not know what I
I’m going to do that scary it can
to be dizzying so it can do
how does the mountain tell itself that everything is
possible and why not
at 37, I’ve already been twice
restart at zero why not a
third
where is the problem what do you want
to tell you is that I have co I
met people too when I’m
party in all that was coaching
emotional health happiness at
job
I accompanied people who often
the wrong problem
ie for example I remember
of a lady who told me it’s been 15 years
that I work my trust in me and
it does not move forward and we talk we dig and
his problem was not trust in
she is she esteem herself for
you in the room you may feel
not the difference and no I do not
will not give the answer tonight
because the goal is to awaken
consciences you lack to look for and
you will see that if we are wrong
of goal in life we can not
moving forward
fifteen years she’s working on a
objective that is not his problem
we have cropped have instituted at the exit of the
office by saying finally I will move forward
it was not solved
job demand
but finally she had a little bit
of ideas a little bit of the way
unveiled in front of her especially tell you
one thing that scares us is
the unknown then that should we
get excited for tonight we’re going
finish with just a little exercise I
just wanted to leave with a
example of what could you was
in everyday life and I’m going
take the example of breathing
because it’s the first thing we do
when we are and when we earth we make
our last breath
it’s our last act that’s good
to say that without breathing no oil
spangled with aix
so we will work that there is a
exercise called consistency
cardiac
scientists have calculated the pace
perfect perfect for calming your beats
of heart and therefore with consequence
to soothe you simply
and very often to take the good
decisions the first step it’s already
to have a clear mind not get
rush into fear the fears and
so it’s easy exercise you are
did a little a little montage you
see the gnawing beyond in the middle not the
red and gold today it will move
from top to bottom when he climbs you
thoroughly inhale through the nose you
inflate the belly when they go down
you blow by the mouth and you
get in the belly
you make me happy do it at least
six times in a row and log in
does that make it into your body
we go we inspire and we
breath
you can put a hand on your
sales to feel the moment we inspire
a cent
go again
hang on it’s half
it’s the last one inspires
and we suffer
it’s already better we little things
have thought positive in an exercise that
is to repeat a sentence this is the
positive dance plant this one she
every time I walk you
recommend every morning in front of
mirror I am unique
I am beautiful there is only me
like me and I assure you you are
unique you are beautiful
there is only you as you want
that the world is changing
start already by yourself be the
change that you want to see in the
world as gandhi said thank you for
your attention
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