[Music]
[Applause]
good evening leadership is love
leadership is love this is the medicine
for human connection the words spoken by
my predecessor great teacher Bill Shawn
and I’m before he passed away some seven
years ago every class at UC Berkeley in
leadership he ended with the words so
the students could hear and walk away
with that leadership is love every one
of us has a leader every single one of
you is a leader leadership is a choice
doesn’t it’s not about having direct
reports not about being in a high place
company active leadership are happening
all the time
for questions that the Navajo tradition
asks when someone’s not feeling well the
first one is when in your life did you
stop singing when in your life did you
stop dancing when in your life did you
stop telling stories and when in your
life did you stop feeling comfortable in
the sweet territory of silence they
didn’t give pills and shots and things
they wanted to understand how a person
maybe fell out of sync was no longer in
sync with themself or in sync with the
world what did it mean to stop what does
it mean to stop singing when did you
stop really living really enjoying
yourself taking rest doing new things
when in your life did you stop telling
stories when did you stop relating to
people connecting to people a little too
busy to connect to people and when did
people stop connecting to you UC
Berkeley I have a wonderful job I’m the
heart guy at the Business School
I get to teach the five powers of
leadership of personal connection the
five powers of the power of presence the
power of communication power of
conviction the power of intention and
the power of knowledge these five powers
show up all the time and these five
powers lead us to creating new
relationships and new possibilities with
people surrounding us a long time ago
when I was 25 it was November 19th 1977
I’m standing on the airfield at Ben
Gurion Airport outside of Tel Aviv it’s
a very very special day there’s an Air
Egypt jet circling around it’s there
illegally because a great thing is about
to happen it lands and the tall elegant
man comes down the stairway it’s Anwar
Sadat he comes down the stairway into a
sea of dignitaries Prime Minister
Menachem Begin is there General Moshe
Dayan Yitzhak Rabin
he doesn’t stay very long there he moves
over to a middle-aged grandmotherly
woman on the right-hand side of the
airfield
it’s former prime minister Golda Meir
his former arch enemy he boughs to her
extends his hand and says madam it is
such a pleasure to see you she takes his
hand moves it to the right we’re all
wondering what’s going to happen and two
steps forward and she throws her arms
around him and says mr. president I
welcome you to my land I’ve been waiting
my entire life for this moment in that
moment you saw the five powers her
presence her presence was completely
integrated with awareness
self-confidence and a lot of
vulnerability the communication the
conviction the meeting of two old
enemies suddenly became a new
possibility and
it wasn’t perfect then and it’s not
perfect now but somehow relations were
established embassies happened some
months after and that moment of showing
up and choosing to be present choosing
to be present
that’s the choice all of us can make you
never know who’s going to cross your
path you never know who’s going to enter
your world it could be the grocery clerk
a post-office person it could be a
teacher it could be anyone are you open
to human connection you never know what
that’s going to lead you do a lot of
working corporations I was working with
a leader of a national security lab for
years his very very nice man Gary and I
liked him a lot that he had a really bad
reputation in the laboratory because he
was very frugal and he wouldn’t sign
purchase orders and ultimately he
paralyzed the workforce they could do
their work so I did a workforce study
and I showed him the results I sent Gary
at this moment my friend 78% of 7,000
people would give you a no-confidence
vote how does that feel and he went into
denial mark you can’t count very well
I’m sure you didn’t count the things and
so forth I said you can take it and look
at the data what are you gonna do about
it
and finally after some hours he said
okay I need to change the movie how
should I do it I said I’m your coach I’m
not gonna tell you how to do it how do
you want to do it he said well the
problem is they don’t know me said okay
let them know you he decided he wanted
to share his leadership story where he
came from what his story was I said
brilliant idea three weeks from now
there’s an emerging leaders conference
they’re gonna be beginning work in a
Leadership Academy and you can be the
keynote speaker and kick the whole thing
off a just about died of nervousness but
he did it anyway so at this Grand Hotel
in the Albuquerque area here’s Gary 68
shaking like a leaf coming towards the
audience just like you
550 engineers and scientists right there
can you imagine the crowd engineers and
scientists and he looked at me and I
gave my nod he looked into their eyes
and he said my father died when I was
six my father died when I was six my
mother after her day job had to go out
put on a maid’s uniform and clean the
houses of the wealthy people in South
Miami Beach
so my five brothers and myself would
have food to eat on the weekends my
mother will be 96 next week she remains
my most beloved hero I thought I was at
a rock concert the cheering the
high-fives the double five people
hugging me and even know who they are
rushing towards the stage hugging this
man empathy absolutely like water
through the aisles the identification
because all of them didn’t grow up with
the silver spoon in their mouth a lot of
them grew up in very poor conditions
suddenly there was a universal
communication moment there was a
universal understanding there was a
universal human connection we are one
and now we understand and forgiveness
was all around the next day at the
laboratory you would have also thought
it was a holiday transformation was
everywhere positivity in the air I said
to Gary I’m gonna buy you lunch pal I’m
so proud of you see you 12:30 I’m
waiting 12:30 12:40 oh what’s happened
now shows up at 1:00 I said where the
hell were you been waiting for you for a
half an hour he said I’m really sorry
but I was signing purchase orders
Wow that was quick he said you know last
night was a huge wake-up call
a huge wake-up call I feel like a
hundred pounds came off me thank you so
much for the moment and I said no the
thanks is mine thank you these are the
possibilities of human connection our
stories our personal stories we all have
leadership stories you have 80 stories I
have 160 there are stories everywhere
everywhere and we can often connect
through our stories in May of 1984 I
went to see a production of Death of a
Salesman Dustin Hoffman in the main role
I was a theater director for years I
directed this play I know every word I
love it and I always got a place for
myself because my wife and family don’t
like to come because I comment on the
plays it’s going on they said you know
what we’ll meet you for a drink after so
I said fine I’ll be the third row center
happy as a clam Wednesday Walter Kerr
theater I’m right there where you’re
sitting and of course it’s an American
tragedy it’s Willy Loman poor guy my
father’s generation tries his best tries
his best and doesn’t have any work and
can’t support his wife and so he resorts
finally to suicide because at least the
life insurance will kick in and she’ll
have some security so imagine the last
scene with the widow Linda at the
cemetery theater just like this looking
at this wall and she says to the
audience why did you do it dear why did
you do it we made the last payment on
the house today and there’s nobody home
why did you do it
we’re free at last we’re free
we’re free suddenly I feel a hand on top
of my hand I think I’m imagining it but
I look in this actually a hand covering
my and I look
over to my left first who’s touching me
in New York City my left the elderly
woman with snow-white hair tears in her
eyes beautiful blue eyes and she just
mouths the words very quietly do you
mind do you mind and then of course the
applause and standing ovation Dustin
Hoffman my god the audience is like out
of their minds my seatmate says I’m so
sorry sir
excuse me I have to go that’s it in a
wait wait I someone talk to you for a
moment she said I have to get my train I
said I’ll get your train I promise I’ll
get you home we go to a little diner
crummy little diner in Times Square
sitting there having coffee Betty
Johnson 85 lost her husband seven years
ago tells me your story the kids never
call I’m so lonely I’m so lonely she
said but I’m feeling a little guilty I
said what is it
she said when Linda spoke those words we
made the last payment on the house today
I saw how lonely she was and suddenly I
didn’t feel so badly because I realized
I’m not the only lonely person I said Oh
sweetheart you are not the only lovely
person
I’m also lonely my sister’s lovely a lot
of us are lonely he just took my hand
she said it’s such an honor to spend an
afternoon with another lonely human we
met for several times after that coffee
theater talking about life the ups and
downs of life came a very very good good
friend of mine passed away a few years
ago so finally we see what happens when
presence is at the table there was so
much presence in that little diner the
vulnerability the carrying there was so
much love in that diner crummy little
table love all around Marianne
Williamson put it very well in her
best-selling book
I return to love when she said when
we’re liberated from our own fear our
presence automatically liberates
liberate others and when we let our own
light shine when we let our own light
shine we give others permission to do
the same love is the only medicine you
need for the journey of human connection
love is the only medicine you need it’s
actually what the world needs the most
right this very moment every one of you
is a leader every one of you has the
love within you to actually create the
new possibilities all of this all the
marianne williamson swards being
liberated from our own fear our presence
automatically darshan little acts of
leadership and they happen to also be
little acts of love thank you
[Applause]
[Music]
you
[Applause]
good evening leadership is love
leadership is love this is the medicine
for human connection the words spoken by
my predecessor great teacher Bill Shawn
and I’m before he passed away some seven
years ago every class at UC Berkeley in
leadership he ended with the words so
the students could hear and walk away
with that leadership is love every one
of us has a leader every single one of
you is a leader leadership is a choice
doesn’t it’s not about having direct
reports not about being in a high place
company active leadership are happening
all the time
for questions that the Navajo tradition
asks when someone’s not feeling well the
first one is when in your life did you
stop singing when in your life did you
stop dancing when in your life did you
stop telling stories and when in your
life did you stop feeling comfortable in
the sweet territory of silence they
didn’t give pills and shots and things
they wanted to understand how a person
maybe fell out of sync was no longer in
sync with themself or in sync with the
world what did it mean to stop what does
it mean to stop singing when did you
stop really living really enjoying
yourself taking rest doing new things
when in your life did you stop telling
stories when did you stop relating to
people connecting to people a little too
busy to connect to people and when did
people stop connecting to you UC
Berkeley I have a wonderful job I’m the
heart guy at the Business School
I get to teach the five powers of
leadership of personal connection the
five powers of the power of presence the
power of communication power of
conviction the power of intention and
the power of knowledge these five powers
show up all the time and these five
powers lead us to creating new
relationships and new possibilities with
people surrounding us a long time ago
when I was 25 it was November 19th 1977
I’m standing on the airfield at Ben
Gurion Airport outside of Tel Aviv it’s
a very very special day there’s an Air
Egypt jet circling around it’s there
illegally because a great thing is about
to happen it lands and the tall elegant
man comes down the stairway it’s Anwar
Sadat he comes down the stairway into a
sea of dignitaries Prime Minister
Menachem Begin is there General Moshe
Dayan Yitzhak Rabin
he doesn’t stay very long there he moves
over to a middle-aged grandmotherly
woman on the right-hand side of the
airfield
it’s former prime minister Golda Meir
his former arch enemy he boughs to her
extends his hand and says madam it is
such a pleasure to see you she takes his
hand moves it to the right we’re all
wondering what’s going to happen and two
steps forward and she throws her arms
around him and says mr. president I
welcome you to my land I’ve been waiting
my entire life for this moment in that
moment you saw the five powers her
presence her presence was completely
integrated with awareness
self-confidence and a lot of
vulnerability the communication the
conviction the meeting of two old
enemies suddenly became a new
possibility and
it wasn’t perfect then and it’s not
perfect now but somehow relations were
established embassies happened some
months after and that moment of showing
up and choosing to be present choosing
to be present
that’s the choice all of us can make you
never know who’s going to cross your
path you never know who’s going to enter
your world it could be the grocery clerk
a post-office person it could be a
teacher it could be anyone are you open
to human connection you never know what
that’s going to lead you do a lot of
working corporations I was working with
a leader of a national security lab for
years his very very nice man Gary and I
liked him a lot that he had a really bad
reputation in the laboratory because he
was very frugal and he wouldn’t sign
purchase orders and ultimately he
paralyzed the workforce they could do
their work so I did a workforce study
and I showed him the results I sent Gary
at this moment my friend 78% of 7,000
people would give you a no-confidence
vote how does that feel and he went into
denial mark you can’t count very well
I’m sure you didn’t count the things and
so forth I said you can take it and look
at the data what are you gonna do about
it
and finally after some hours he said
okay I need to change the movie how
should I do it I said I’m your coach I’m
not gonna tell you how to do it how do
you want to do it he said well the
problem is they don’t know me said okay
let them know you he decided he wanted
to share his leadership story where he
came from what his story was I said
brilliant idea three weeks from now
there’s an emerging leaders conference
they’re gonna be beginning work in a
Leadership Academy and you can be the
keynote speaker and kick the whole thing
off a just about died of nervousness but
he did it anyway so at this Grand Hotel
in the Albuquerque area here’s Gary 68
shaking like a leaf coming towards the
audience just like you
550 engineers and scientists right there
can you imagine the crowd engineers and
scientists and he looked at me and I
gave my nod he looked into their eyes
and he said my father died when I was
six my father died when I was six my
mother after her day job had to go out
put on a maid’s uniform and clean the
houses of the wealthy people in South
Miami Beach
so my five brothers and myself would
have food to eat on the weekends my
mother will be 96 next week she remains
my most beloved hero I thought I was at
a rock concert the cheering the
high-fives the double five people
hugging me and even know who they are
rushing towards the stage hugging this
man empathy absolutely like water
through the aisles the identification
because all of them didn’t grow up with
the silver spoon in their mouth a lot of
them grew up in very poor conditions
suddenly there was a universal
communication moment there was a
universal understanding there was a
universal human connection we are one
and now we understand and forgiveness
was all around the next day at the
laboratory you would have also thought
it was a holiday transformation was
everywhere positivity in the air I said
to Gary I’m gonna buy you lunch pal I’m
so proud of you see you 12:30 I’m
waiting 12:30 12:40 oh what’s happened
now shows up at 1:00 I said where the
hell were you been waiting for you for a
half an hour he said I’m really sorry
but I was signing purchase orders
Wow that was quick he said you know last
night was a huge wake-up call
a huge wake-up call I feel like a
hundred pounds came off me thank you so
much for the moment and I said no the
thanks is mine thank you these are the
possibilities of human connection our
stories our personal stories we all have
leadership stories you have 80 stories I
have 160 there are stories everywhere
everywhere and we can often connect
through our stories in May of 1984 I
went to see a production of Death of a
Salesman Dustin Hoffman in the main role
I was a theater director for years I
directed this play I know every word I
love it and I always got a place for
myself because my wife and family don’t
like to come because I comment on the
plays it’s going on they said you know
what we’ll meet you for a drink after so
I said fine I’ll be the third row center
happy as a clam Wednesday Walter Kerr
theater I’m right there where you’re
sitting and of course it’s an American
tragedy it’s Willy Loman poor guy my
father’s generation tries his best tries
his best and doesn’t have any work and
can’t support his wife and so he resorts
finally to suicide because at least the
life insurance will kick in and she’ll
have some security so imagine the last
scene with the widow Linda at the
cemetery theater just like this looking
at this wall and she says to the
audience why did you do it dear why did
you do it we made the last payment on
the house today and there’s nobody home
why did you do it
we’re free at last we’re free
we’re free suddenly I feel a hand on top
of my hand I think I’m imagining it but
I look in this actually a hand covering
my and I look
over to my left first who’s touching me
in New York City my left the elderly
woman with snow-white hair tears in her
eyes beautiful blue eyes and she just
mouths the words very quietly do you
mind do you mind and then of course the
applause and standing ovation Dustin
Hoffman my god the audience is like out
of their minds my seatmate says I’m so
sorry sir
excuse me I have to go that’s it in a
wait wait I someone talk to you for a
moment she said I have to get my train I
said I’ll get your train I promise I’ll
get you home we go to a little diner
crummy little diner in Times Square
sitting there having coffee Betty
Johnson 85 lost her husband seven years
ago tells me your story the kids never
call I’m so lonely I’m so lonely she
said but I’m feeling a little guilty I
said what is it
she said when Linda spoke those words we
made the last payment on the house today
I saw how lonely she was and suddenly I
didn’t feel so badly because I realized
I’m not the only lonely person I said Oh
sweetheart you are not the only lovely
person
I’m also lonely my sister’s lovely a lot
of us are lonely he just took my hand
she said it’s such an honor to spend an
afternoon with another lonely human we
met for several times after that coffee
theater talking about life the ups and
downs of life came a very very good good
friend of mine passed away a few years
ago so finally we see what happens when
presence is at the table there was so
much presence in that little diner the
vulnerability the carrying there was so
much love in that diner crummy little
table love all around Marianne
Williamson put it very well in her
best-selling book
I return to love when she said when
we’re liberated from our own fear our
presence automatically liberates
liberate others and when we let our own
light shine when we let our own light
shine we give others permission to do
the same love is the only medicine you
need for the journey of human connection
love is the only medicine you need it’s
actually what the world needs the most
right this very moment every one of you
is a leader every one of you has the
love within you to actually create the
new possibilities all of this all the
marianne williamson swards being
liberated from our own fear our presence
automatically darshan little acts of
leadership and they happen to also be
little acts of love thank you
[Applause]
[Music]
you
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