independence the act of not relying on
others for one’s
necessities now where’s a society have
decided that in order to survive in this
world one must be independent
advertisements on the internet saying be
independent or wikiHow articles saying
thirteen steps become independent we are
so obsessed with this term independence
but is it necessarily bad to rely on
other people I ask myself this three
years ago sitting in the empty bus
staring at the big beautiful skies of
Seoul South Korea it was a quiet day
students going to their classes
businessmen in their gray suits
attending their workplaces just a normal
workday but it was some occasion for me
and so while my uncle’s family was gone
to their respective places I was alone
so I actually decide to do something
with my life and I went outside I went
outside instead of picking around the
house like I normally would and so I
went to the mall it was enormous it was
gigantic
it’s seoul there of shops selling bags
shoes clothes you name it and so i spent
a lot of my time there nothing really
caught my eye but then again i couldn’t
buy anything if it even if it did i was
just a poor boy at the time but i did
spend a lot of time there and by the
time I got home it was already like 9
o’clock and as a young good boy I
respected my curfews and so it was 9
o’clock and I was expecting to get like
beat or something by my uncle but that
never happened in fact they called me
truly independent as if shopping alone
with some sort of personal
accomplishment but it seems to be that
way especially in places like South
Korea there’s a huge stigma surrounding
the idea of dependency students are at
the age of 6 forced to take the bus to
school and parents don’t seem to give
their children any life advice telling
them find out for yourself and so adding
that to their hectic
academic lives students were so stressed
and as a result of it many crashed so
why is your stigma surrounding one side
of it with dependency but not on the
other extreme well maybe there is a
reason we as a species are so obsessed
with this idea of avoiding negative
aspects and we so we draw a line between
good and bad though often times we
forget that having too much of something
whether good or bad can lead to bad
results in the end take sleep for
example we all love a nice nap after a
long day but nap too long for days weeks
months even years and you’ve got
yourself in a coma they are both both
are very similar ideas where you’re
resting your body is resting to help
yourself in the future but you can
always see the difference so this is
what I proposed to be happening this is
a good ideal taken to the extreme and
there’s also there’s also could be
another reason when we think of
independent people our age we don’t
think of someone going to the grocery
store to buy groceries to survive for
the week no we think of someone who is
more outgoing more adventurous more
talkative social so our perception of
Independence is really defined as what
other people have told us about their
independence and their freedoms but how
do you really want to be completely free
so let me ask a question to you all how
many of you’ve been home alone for a day
two days a week two weeks more than that
well I don’t go past two weeks myself
even those who survived a week would
know of the hardships of surviving alone
you have to do your homework you have to
work and prepare meals without any
outside voices telling you what to do
and sometimes we do need that outside
voice and after a while
it’s not as that as first but after a
while the loneliness starts setting in
and you find yourself talking to
yourself about this and that how your
day went how you have no friends all of
that stuff so what am I trying to say
here well the question I’m trying to
pose is how we all want complete freedom
but how free do you really want to be
now I’m not trying to trash independence
nor am I saying that you should
completely just leech off your friends
that’s a great idea no what I’m trying
to say is that we should not rush
ourselves into into these ideals of
Independence but because obviously
independence has its good qualities for
example it helps people control their
faith it enables children to get the
experiences and qualifications they need
for when they actually do need to become
independent for like their adult lives
there is a reason why I told my story
it’s not all just boring don’t worry
about it I actually have some fun stuff
because getting off that bus on that
sunny day in South Korea Seoul South
Korea mind you it felt refreshing I got
to taste freedom for the first time in
my life and well the the adrenaline was
just kicking in and next thing you know
I was exploring my world and it was all
just so great and then I got lost and
but at that point it didn’t really kick
in I mean I was still just having the
time of my life just exploring and it
wasn’t until later that I really
realized that crap I was lost and so you
had this twelve-year-old kid running on
the streets of Seoul South Korea
trying to find someone anyone who could
spend their time to talk to me for like
five minutes trying to find my home
where it was because I was a clueless
little kid at the time but obviously I’m
here right now so I did find my way back
but it wasn’t easy but from that
experience it really did it enriched
some of my skills
it helped me read maps it allowed me to
talk to express myself and for other
people and most importantly it allowed
me to stay calm
as calm as I can be I guess in a
stressful situation and so my point in
all of this is that while independence
is still a good thing we should not
force ourselves into into progressing to
there however I’m not discouraging
yourself you wrap yourself in bubble
wrap and hide away watching Netflix know
we can still state we can still take
steps in order to in order to begin our
journey to independence in fact making
the decision to become independent is a
decision that will improve independence
so this is why I implore you all of you
try try get a head start leave the house
for once take off your blanket clothes
Netflix go outside for once in your
lifetime and try getting lost and try
finally we’re back that’ll help with
your directional skills try working
maybe it’ll help your financial
independence try everything again and
again and again until you get better at
it because practice makes perfect
and that’s very good so what I’m saying
is well we shouldn’t force some
dependence when are we gonna head start
we’re young after all and we can live
our worryfree lies we’re at it because
it’s impossible to prepare for
everything that life throws at you we
can try our best to do to avoid it thank
you
[Applause]
others for one’s
necessities now where’s a society have
decided that in order to survive in this
world one must be independent
advertisements on the internet saying be
independent or wikiHow articles saying
thirteen steps become independent we are
so obsessed with this term independence
but is it necessarily bad to rely on
other people I ask myself this three
years ago sitting in the empty bus
staring at the big beautiful skies of
Seoul South Korea it was a quiet day
students going to their classes
businessmen in their gray suits
attending their workplaces just a normal
workday but it was some occasion for me
and so while my uncle’s family was gone
to their respective places I was alone
so I actually decide to do something
with my life and I went outside I went
outside instead of picking around the
house like I normally would and so I
went to the mall it was enormous it was
gigantic
it’s seoul there of shops selling bags
shoes clothes you name it and so i spent
a lot of my time there nothing really
caught my eye but then again i couldn’t
buy anything if it even if it did i was
just a poor boy at the time but i did
spend a lot of time there and by the
time I got home it was already like 9
o’clock and as a young good boy I
respected my curfews and so it was 9
o’clock and I was expecting to get like
beat or something by my uncle but that
never happened in fact they called me
truly independent as if shopping alone
with some sort of personal
accomplishment but it seems to be that
way especially in places like South
Korea there’s a huge stigma surrounding
the idea of dependency students are at
the age of 6 forced to take the bus to
school and parents don’t seem to give
their children any life advice telling
them find out for yourself and so adding
that to their hectic
academic lives students were so stressed
and as a result of it many crashed so
why is your stigma surrounding one side
of it with dependency but not on the
other extreme well maybe there is a
reason we as a species are so obsessed
with this idea of avoiding negative
aspects and we so we draw a line between
good and bad though often times we
forget that having too much of something
whether good or bad can lead to bad
results in the end take sleep for
example we all love a nice nap after a
long day but nap too long for days weeks
months even years and you’ve got
yourself in a coma they are both both
are very similar ideas where you’re
resting your body is resting to help
yourself in the future but you can
always see the difference so this is
what I proposed to be happening this is
a good ideal taken to the extreme and
there’s also there’s also could be
another reason when we think of
independent people our age we don’t
think of someone going to the grocery
store to buy groceries to survive for
the week no we think of someone who is
more outgoing more adventurous more
talkative social so our perception of
Independence is really defined as what
other people have told us about their
independence and their freedoms but how
do you really want to be completely free
so let me ask a question to you all how
many of you’ve been home alone for a day
two days a week two weeks more than that
well I don’t go past two weeks myself
even those who survived a week would
know of the hardships of surviving alone
you have to do your homework you have to
work and prepare meals without any
outside voices telling you what to do
and sometimes we do need that outside
voice and after a while
it’s not as that as first but after a
while the loneliness starts setting in
and you find yourself talking to
yourself about this and that how your
day went how you have no friends all of
that stuff so what am I trying to say
here well the question I’m trying to
pose is how we all want complete freedom
but how free do you really want to be
now I’m not trying to trash independence
nor am I saying that you should
completely just leech off your friends
that’s a great idea no what I’m trying
to say is that we should not rush
ourselves into into these ideals of
Independence but because obviously
independence has its good qualities for
example it helps people control their
faith it enables children to get the
experiences and qualifications they need
for when they actually do need to become
independent for like their adult lives
there is a reason why I told my story
it’s not all just boring don’t worry
about it I actually have some fun stuff
because getting off that bus on that
sunny day in South Korea Seoul South
Korea mind you it felt refreshing I got
to taste freedom for the first time in
my life and well the the adrenaline was
just kicking in and next thing you know
I was exploring my world and it was all
just so great and then I got lost and
but at that point it didn’t really kick
in I mean I was still just having the
time of my life just exploring and it
wasn’t until later that I really
realized that crap I was lost and so you
had this twelve-year-old kid running on
the streets of Seoul South Korea
trying to find someone anyone who could
spend their time to talk to me for like
five minutes trying to find my home
where it was because I was a clueless
little kid at the time but obviously I’m
here right now so I did find my way back
but it wasn’t easy but from that
experience it really did it enriched
some of my skills
it helped me read maps it allowed me to
talk to express myself and for other
people and most importantly it allowed
me to stay calm
as calm as I can be I guess in a
stressful situation and so my point in
all of this is that while independence
is still a good thing we should not
force ourselves into into progressing to
there however I’m not discouraging
yourself you wrap yourself in bubble
wrap and hide away watching Netflix know
we can still state we can still take
steps in order to in order to begin our
journey to independence in fact making
the decision to become independent is a
decision that will improve independence
so this is why I implore you all of you
try try get a head start leave the house
for once take off your blanket clothes
Netflix go outside for once in your
lifetime and try getting lost and try
finally we’re back that’ll help with
your directional skills try working
maybe it’ll help your financial
independence try everything again and
again and again until you get better at
it because practice makes perfect
and that’s very good so what I’m saying
is well we shouldn’t force some
dependence when are we gonna head start
we’re young after all and we can live
our worryfree lies we’re at it because
it’s impossible to prepare for
everything that life throws at you we
can try our best to do to avoid it thank
you
[Applause]
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