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Il segreto del successo è la pazienza | Raffaele Gaito | TEDxSalerno


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visual c how many of you know what
it means this word is fine
how many of you have done at least one
Once in his life he won the cynical ma
I explain it to the other big things as well
term born quite recently that
indicates the activity of looking at one
episode behind the other of a TV series
never stop
to understand those who raised the
hand know it and the classic marathon from
we look at each other’s sofa
episode with yet another for one
Another then another and yet not
we never stop
today thanks to tools like netflix e
many others
in fact the way in which it has changed has changed
we take advantage of the serial products of the series
of bugs or other kind we do not have anymore
wait a week how it happened
we have it before for a new episode
everything there and we want to look at another one
yet another thing all at your fingertips
a click on our remote and if there
think something very similar
it also happens with objects thanks to
tools like amazon raw
what do you need a free one?
pair of shoes for an accessory for the
your smartphone
whatever you need
you can get the next day in some
city ​​even in the same day
after a few hours again all there
just a click away on ours
smartphone in this case and we want
talk about the food what you want to eat
tonight wanting favorite pizza came out
of a hamburger to eat meat pasta
you just have to choose everything you have to
one click on your smartphone
thanks to tools like just eat
and what about sex you can skip the
embarrassing of embarrassing evening outings
where you do not know what to say about the two of
unexpected spades today you can still
once we have everything there within reach of one
click on our smartphone with tools
as tindars I think one of the impacts
bigger ones I’ve had
digital technology in general
on our life especially in the
last years and in terms of speed the
speed with which we manage to
get the things these had
shown tindara et cetera
they are just some of the many tools and
applications systems companies that have
literally knocked down the barriers between
us and our wishes bar yesterday in
terms of space but barriers
especially in terms of time
I think about this thing more I believe that
we are living a while at the time of the
all right away
we are getting used to this thing
that we will have the smartphone there is an app
we can get one thing we are
starting to take for granted a little
this thing completely and immediately
the Americans who obviously have a
name for anything they call this
trend we have in recent years
with the name of instant gratification that
means instant gratification if
you never heard this term there
I give an example I show you that
what is instantaneous dedication?
double idea to blue whatsapp and all
the problems that he introduced
this single news tell me it’s not
never happened to someone I say to look
your smartphone in particular of
watch whatsapp open a chat and
think or say the phrase displayed
but did not answer with with all the
consequences that this phrase carries in the
our mind no in terms of
anger of thought conjectures
of incazzature that we only do
because someone has visualized but not
he replied I believe that with digital both
it will happen in the pink we are starting to
confuse the speed of the vehicle with the
speed of the end and this thing is
terrible because it’s giving us inside of
we who thanks to digital, that is, there is one
subtle illusion of success as if
thanks to digital success was
within everyone’s reach as if I were
almost due and fast quick immediate
only an illusion allowed
we are surrounded by di
vanity metrics to fuel this
illusion and therefore we live the era in the
which we count the likes we count the
shares with tweet we count
followers at any one time
of you can open your smartphone and
sharing something is social
average and have an immediate result
have an immediate response to have
that
instant change I was talking about
first and paradoxically when there is not
we
along with tearing up what was born
wrong and so it’s because I’m doing it
so few like because nobody is
commenting or even worse because
that person is by no means the follo that
he is no longer a friend of mine
you know what the matter was
the most absurd thing about this thing
our brain when it is in
this situation of gratification
snapshot has been proven that produces
a substance called dopamine la
dopamine makes us feel good gives us one
nice feeling so more of it
we produce more we want
if you have never heard of the
dopamine dopamine and the same
substance that is produced when
we form when we drink alcohol when
let it bet
all things that tourists still have
a common feature that the
addiction and this illusion happened
slowly I think it’s a little bit
also fed by the media in the last
years with the continuous story telling
of people of boys who race al
digital have come to a lot of success
very quickly they became rich
since I was young I think of my shoulders
they are many in the history mark
zuckerberg the founder of facebook
he thought we all know it all
I have to tell you the way to one of the
many he is ivan spiegel the founder of
snap chat with a very story
similar to that of mark or still kevin
systrom the instagram founder yet
once a story very similar to
that of the previous two or if
we want to take an example all one
strange all Italian
the most famous fashion blogger in the world
our clear ferragni history of
this type are no longer just enemies of
sector as it happened in the past by now
they are everywhere becoming very often gods
points of reference if not even
a yardstick especially for i
especially for younger pieri
guys and then you could be in this world
tell me that maybe it’s stuff you do not
concerns will not touch you’re
different all this that I said to you
it touches me and it could be so maybe
you are right, however, could concern the
brothers and sisters could
concern your children could
cover your grandchildren
there are scientific studies above all
in the United States of America in the last
Key years proved that this
great application trend
instantaneously to everything and immediately it is having
a devastating impact
young people if the new generations by
millennials onwards having an impact
devastating and new generations
very young guys by now always have
the more they have less and less self-esteem a sense
of perennial dissatisfaction of
inadequate perennial a lack of
trust in private life but
especially in the work visa
that of what we are going to be
speaking today this is only one
example
I do not know if you’ve ever seen this one
girl who is called lisette le sette
climb to the forefront of the news
a few months ago for a deal that
surreal she had just moved to
new york and it is literally filled
of debts in no time for
buy things, objects, clothes, jewels
just to show you in his photos
on instagram a story about real it
I repeat it is full of debts for
buy items to show in his
photos on instagram because she will be among
they challenge york and therefore wanted to live one
star life
indeed today we would say a life as an influencer
it does not matter that he actually put it
standing a fake because that life
it did not belong to it paradoxically
she could not even afford to
that life I did not have the money but not the money
he did not care because he wanted everything
immediately or the immediate result wanted
instant gratification of which
I spoke before
you know what i believe i think a little at
we are losing the use of the
patience we are starting to give up
discounted this all immediately
and we are also becoming addicted to
this instant gratification
with easton and creators cation like the
they call what they call it by
Americans but do not get confused when
I speak of patience has no patience
nothing to do with slowness with
the stillness the patience for how the
I see the way and vision is to succeed
invest in the long run perhaps the
goals in the long run but perhaps
have you ever heard the famous speech of
steve jobs in stanford makes a metaphor
beautiful says in life you can not
connect the dots looking forward ii
then join only looking back though
at some point you must trust that
you can stop back and join together
these dots
that’s why it’s essential to keep in
consideration of the active part of the
patience and constancy
while the passive part and laziness the
patience is not simply knowing
wait for what we do while
let’s wait
and there the difference and then maybe
we should tell more history of
constancy we will have to tell how
this gentleman behind me that yes
he calls jack but the founder of ali baba
he was refused ten times to harvard
before founding his alibaba company
and then become the richest man in the
China or tell of how this
sir called peter vesterbacka
the founder of rovio had launched 51
unsuccessful games his company was
close to bankruptcy and then he devised
also herbert who became one of the
most famous games in history or
tell how brian acton this is
another gentleman behind me
the founder of whatsapp when he was looking
work was rejected by first
facebook and then from twitter then decided to
founding his whatsapp company is the
sold to facebook for 19 billion o
tell how the busca la
founder of pocket rabbit had to
change the business way of his
company dozens of times argue with the
users enraged with the advice of
administration to resign from the CEO
of the company but then eventually succeed in
sell your company ikea e
revolutionize an entire industry
what these four have in common
stories two things
the focus on a goal and the love for
the process because I believe that the
difference in the end either
truly there in loving the process
what you do in falling in love with
process because pc the process is the
concrete part and the active part
daily operative of patience
the process is very often already the
result the process are the small ones
step that day after day that there
they bring the result
the process are the points mentioned
steve jobs i wanted to share with you
4 motivations written four advantages
in my opinion for which we should
regain possession of this capacity
lost of this patience because
we must recover patience like the
motivation are many but I tried to
list 4 tolerance latency there
tolerant curtains towards errors towards
mistakes
of others but above all towards i
ours and error after mistake us
we only have more experience
we also become more resilient and
let us remember that the famous path of
I was talking to the first process before I spoke
it does not necessarily have to go alone
direction
at some point we must also have the
strength and courage to admit with the
same as we are doing wrong and change
route
the second the time the patience is
the only way we have to recover
time which is something on which
we are completely losing the
control in recent years is actually
it is something that is closely connected
with our mental health then with
our happiness
decisions patience is the only weapon
that we have to make decisions
weighted to have the focus on
present guys at the current time
be able to evaluate it based on those
taking a decision
you want to improve your performances
of business work started by
this is the fourth and last patience
necessary to learn to admit
with ourselves that we do not know everything
that we do not know everything and sometimes
we must give ourselves time to learn them
things and at the same time, however, we must
learn to be patient
forgive the pun
reminding us that the beautiful things and
important things in life do not happen
in front of the evening in a day the bear
love true friendship.il in this case
business success and career
patience is a habit and because
such we must train it
how we train patience like we do
to train this patience if
begin to go right questions
you begin to send us goals in
long period
but having the ability to break them up
in many small goals in the famous
divide and conquer by enjoying these
small goals by closing these
small daily successes in the age of
failures daily by wanting the
process the path
let’s try to change the narrative
let’s start talking about results instead
that happened because if we wanted to do it
a sports metaphor we are not
running 100 meters from what we are
running a marathon we are running
a marathon and once we have
understood this I believe the key of the
success or better maybe we should say the
key to the results is really
easy
I think it’s really easy for those
search for instant gratification
when he does not get it
abandonment to the race and it is there that he feels the
difference because in a context where the
99 percent people abandon to the
race wins that has patience
third the French
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