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molto piacere the ascetic walk envoy how
grazie how neutrality shapes our
happiness I want to share with you my
personal story dealing with a family
history of suicides schizophrenia
depression mental illnesses or brain
disorders to be more accurate and it’s
story of struggle to find happiness and
personal freedom a story to remove
stigma destructive self judgment and
self sabotage but before I even get
there I want to start with a simple
question it’s your mind fall or are you
mindful right now at this moment think
about it because our mind fall is a mind
filled with thoughts anticipation stress
be mindful on the other hand is having a
mind that is alert but serene it’s kind
of put in the mining neutral in a
position where we observe without
judgment so I would like you all to be
neutral do you think you can be neutral
for the next few minutes yes I said I
will take that as a resounding yes Wow
being neutral that’s a human dilemma
because we’re trained to seek the truth
and to form a definite opinion about
everything we know we believe we know or
even things we know we don’t know that’s
how we are complicated
hmm every one of us here is programmed
not to be neutral you
definitely you lazy you as well and me
most of the time we are obsessed with
being right instead of being happy
we got betrayed by our own mental maps
and rigid mindsets and our brain our
brain can resist letting go of an
announcer question our ego always wants
to be right allegedly is acting on our
own behalf so some questions arise how
can we be neutral about our own stories
how could you be neutral about your pain
struggles and failures
well neutrality is the key to a mindful
healthy and happy life
I was born in Cuba communist Cuba most
of my beliefs were instilled by the
Cuban government my domestication
process what we call education was very
ideological and political propaganda
polluted my mind since early childhood I
grew up looking for answers about the
disparities between the official
literature and the reality of my own
life religion was banned my mom ordered
my grandmother not to bring me to church
anymore because the system wouldn’t
allow it
so I was a very worried child to attach
to my mental reasoning fears and lack of
neutrality and of course I think that at
a point I felt that I was very
constipated and I will explain that
later I will because these are my
getting married no smiles come on mom
dad what about smile to say goodbye to
the crowd on the way to the honeymoon
surprise no smiles either the wedding
night was hell my parents divorced when
I was 4 so sometimes I say to myself
well you were born out of a constipated
love but love is love after all and yes
indeed I was a constipated child that
had not smiled for many years my mental
clattering fears and lack of neutrality
brought me to what I call chronic
constipation city ketse but not stomach
constipation I’m talking about emotional
psychological and spiritual constipation
so let’s think about what can I tell you
that happened during those years what I
remember is that when I was 15 my life
told disgraceful and contradictory yes I
suffered from panic attacks nightmares
hallucinations fear of losing my sanity
and low self-esteem
bullies branded me as weak and weird and
yes I was a bit weird I have to be
honest this is me at 15 my grandma joked
about this picture saying that it should
be placed as a label and sugar jars to
scare away cockroaches
she was a lovely lady and she loved me
so much and I loved burr I do so but the
reality that I want to tell you today is
that we all have our own stories but we
should detach from that story yes or no
a little bit so how can I eliminate so
many years of mental scarcity how does
one reprogram and rewire one’s thoughts
toward abundance and joy which laxatives
could I use to cure my metastasized
emotional and spiritual constipation
when I was 15
during those years I had to pay visits
to my father to the psychiatric hospital
he was hospitalized for schizophrenia he
looked like a zombie inexpressive and
known from electroshock sessions and one
day when I went to visit him and this is
for you papa I asked God for a miracle a
divine intervention yes I could not go
to church but I kept God in my heart and
it was a God of love and compassion a
God with no exclusivity of any church or
religion simply a god of infinite and
unconditional love
I begged for my sanity because I didn’t
want to grow up and end up like my
father and that was hard because he felt
like a treason to him
I could hear tormenting voices I would
wake up swearing and agitated from
nightmares so my mom took me to the
psychiatrist and I was medicated with
antidepressants a pill a day for more
than a year
because by then I didn’t know better now
I’m meditated instead of medicated so
years years went by and finally leaving
Cuba became an option and I took it at
28 I was starting my new life in Canada
as a political refugee I was very well
educated in Cuba but an emotional
illiterate desperate young overweight
guy looking for answers to so many and
answer questions and at that moment my
encounter with neutrality began not out
of desperation no I got a little bit of
inspiration of being in the world and
conquer my fears so I want to tell you
that neutrality or mindfulness is the
sometimes we humans are too invested in
our own dramas Spanish telenovelas soap
operas bear in our capacity to free
ourselves from what I call
self-inflicted optional suffering why
because you should know this pain plus
resistance equals suffering neutrality
has enabled me to separate facts from
fiction in a story of Lipton hood I kept
reproducing in my own mind it was like a
mental picture blown out of proportion
so when I decided to accept my heritage
and to make peace with any genetic
predisposition I got
fear became my best ally instead of my
worst enemy so mindfulness is actually
the pursuit of conscious neutrality
because as a generalist I know this
everyone wants to be happy but education
or domestication creates beliefs that
turn into brain tattoos hard to find in
the space of our subconscious mind
attachments lead to suffering and weakly
that we create attachments to our past
stories beliefs mental maps and we are
not able to see how trapped we are in
this vicious cycle by cultivating
neutrality mindfulness will gain the
wisdom to explore and heal our wounds
and this is the juice this is where the
magic happens
listen to this while I was doing this I
discovered that I didn’t have to feel
sorry for my father for not having one
arm I discovered that my father had lost
an arm as a kid for a greater good why
because if he had kept his left arm he
could have been successful at committing
suicide so God took his arm so I could
receive from him the gift of life and
Here I am grateful grateful for
everything I have lived there and of
course you can tell me we can’t be
neutral all the time for sure there are
times to stand up and speak out there
are times to set boundaries
there are times to claim your rights and
times to fight for human dignity and
noble gases but still you can do that in
a mindful and conscious way I have found
inner peace by lowering the volume of
the limiting voices in my head because
we spend too much time trying to change
the outside instead of improving and
optimizing our inner self our being the
interior so in my 15 years working as a
journalist for CNN espanol
I interviewed hundreds of amazing
individuals from all walks of life and I
studied them and I know for sure that
they all achieved success by thinking
and perceiving reality in a conscious
and mindful State so I want to share
with you three ideas on how to become
happier and more successful based on
personal experience first I want you to
be a were constantly observe yourself at
a conscious level yeah it’s like having
a drone because at a conscious level you
are an observer a powerful one you are a
creator an ingenious one second be like
bamboo firm empty inside and flexible
bamboo forests been together to face the
winds and to survive any kind of weather
and flexibility will help us navigate
the river of uncertainty
and third smile you will remember my
name smile a smile smile for no
particular reason
will you rather be right instead of
happy that’s your choice but if you want
to have a peaceful life starrock sir
sighs in your smile today smiling will
become then natural smiling is actually
the laxative for emotional and spiritual
constipation so transformation is
possible human mental ranging Aeryn is
possible if I’m standing here smiling in
front of you in Rome today is because
detachment and neutrality have helped me
to turn a scarcity into infinite
possibilities victimization into mindful
exponential leadership and fear into
freedom
we all are masters of our destiny and I
free of emotional and spiritual
constipation thank you so much thank you you
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you
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[Applause]
molto piacere the ascetic walk envoy how
grazie how neutrality shapes our
happiness I want to share with you my
personal story dealing with a family
history of suicides schizophrenia
depression mental illnesses or brain
disorders to be more accurate and it’s
story of struggle to find happiness and
personal freedom a story to remove
stigma destructive self judgment and
self sabotage but before I even get
there I want to start with a simple
question it’s your mind fall or are you
mindful right now at this moment think
about it because our mind fall is a mind
filled with thoughts anticipation stress
be mindful on the other hand is having a
mind that is alert but serene it’s kind
of put in the mining neutral in a
position where we observe without
judgment so I would like you all to be
neutral do you think you can be neutral
for the next few minutes yes I said I
will take that as a resounding yes Wow
being neutral that’s a human dilemma
because we’re trained to seek the truth
and to form a definite opinion about
everything we know we believe we know or
even things we know we don’t know that’s
how we are complicated
hmm every one of us here is programmed
not to be neutral you
definitely you lazy you as well and me
most of the time we are obsessed with
being right instead of being happy
we got betrayed by our own mental maps
and rigid mindsets and our brain our
brain can resist letting go of an
announcer question our ego always wants
to be right allegedly is acting on our
own behalf so some questions arise how
can we be neutral about our own stories
how could you be neutral about your pain
struggles and failures
well neutrality is the key to a mindful
healthy and happy life
I was born in Cuba communist Cuba most
of my beliefs were instilled by the
Cuban government my domestication
process what we call education was very
ideological and political propaganda
polluted my mind since early childhood I
grew up looking for answers about the
disparities between the official
literature and the reality of my own
life religion was banned my mom ordered
my grandmother not to bring me to church
anymore because the system wouldn’t
allow it
so I was a very worried child to attach
to my mental reasoning fears and lack of
neutrality and of course I think that at
a point I felt that I was very
constipated and I will explain that
later I will because these are my
getting married no smiles come on mom
dad what about smile to say goodbye to
the crowd on the way to the honeymoon
surprise no smiles either the wedding
night was hell my parents divorced when
I was 4 so sometimes I say to myself
well you were born out of a constipated
love but love is love after all and yes
indeed I was a constipated child that
had not smiled for many years my mental
clattering fears and lack of neutrality
brought me to what I call chronic
constipation city ketse but not stomach
constipation I’m talking about emotional
psychological and spiritual constipation
so let’s think about what can I tell you
that happened during those years what I
remember is that when I was 15 my life
told disgraceful and contradictory yes I
suffered from panic attacks nightmares
hallucinations fear of losing my sanity
and low self-esteem
bullies branded me as weak and weird and
yes I was a bit weird I have to be
honest this is me at 15 my grandma joked
about this picture saying that it should
be placed as a label and sugar jars to
scare away cockroaches
she was a lovely lady and she loved me
so much and I loved burr I do so but the
reality that I want to tell you today is
that we all have our own stories but we
should detach from that story yes or no
a little bit so how can I eliminate so
many years of mental scarcity how does
one reprogram and rewire one’s thoughts
toward abundance and joy which laxatives
could I use to cure my metastasized
emotional and spiritual constipation
when I was 15
during those years I had to pay visits
to my father to the psychiatric hospital
he was hospitalized for schizophrenia he
looked like a zombie inexpressive and
known from electroshock sessions and one
day when I went to visit him and this is
for you papa I asked God for a miracle a
divine intervention yes I could not go
to church but I kept God in my heart and
it was a God of love and compassion a
God with no exclusivity of any church or
religion simply a god of infinite and
unconditional love
I begged for my sanity because I didn’t
want to grow up and end up like my
father and that was hard because he felt
like a treason to him
I could hear tormenting voices I would
wake up swearing and agitated from
nightmares so my mom took me to the
psychiatrist and I was medicated with
antidepressants a pill a day for more
than a year
because by then I didn’t know better now
I’m meditated instead of medicated so
years years went by and finally leaving
Cuba became an option and I took it at
28 I was starting my new life in Canada
as a political refugee I was very well
educated in Cuba but an emotional
illiterate desperate young overweight
guy looking for answers to so many and
answer questions and at that moment my
encounter with neutrality began not out
of desperation no I got a little bit of
inspiration of being in the world and
conquer my fears so I want to tell you
that neutrality or mindfulness is the
sometimes we humans are too invested in
our own dramas Spanish telenovelas soap
operas bear in our capacity to free
ourselves from what I call
self-inflicted optional suffering why
because you should know this pain plus
resistance equals suffering neutrality
has enabled me to separate facts from
fiction in a story of Lipton hood I kept
reproducing in my own mind it was like a
mental picture blown out of proportion
so when I decided to accept my heritage
and to make peace with any genetic
predisposition I got
fear became my best ally instead of my
worst enemy so mindfulness is actually
the pursuit of conscious neutrality
because as a generalist I know this
everyone wants to be happy but education
or domestication creates beliefs that
turn into brain tattoos hard to find in
the space of our subconscious mind
attachments lead to suffering and weakly
that we create attachments to our past
stories beliefs mental maps and we are
not able to see how trapped we are in
this vicious cycle by cultivating
neutrality mindfulness will gain the
wisdom to explore and heal our wounds
and this is the juice this is where the
magic happens
listen to this while I was doing this I
discovered that I didn’t have to feel
sorry for my father for not having one
arm I discovered that my father had lost
an arm as a kid for a greater good why
because if he had kept his left arm he
could have been successful at committing
suicide so God took his arm so I could
receive from him the gift of life and
Here I am grateful grateful for
everything I have lived there and of
course you can tell me we can’t be
neutral all the time for sure there are
times to stand up and speak out there
are times to set boundaries
there are times to claim your rights and
times to fight for human dignity and
noble gases but still you can do that in
a mindful and conscious way I have found
inner peace by lowering the volume of
the limiting voices in my head because
we spend too much time trying to change
the outside instead of improving and
optimizing our inner self our being the
interior so in my 15 years working as a
journalist for CNN espanol
I interviewed hundreds of amazing
individuals from all walks of life and I
studied them and I know for sure that
they all achieved success by thinking
and perceiving reality in a conscious
and mindful State so I want to share
with you three ideas on how to become
happier and more successful based on
personal experience first I want you to
be a were constantly observe yourself at
a conscious level yeah it’s like having
a drone because at a conscious level you
are an observer a powerful one you are a
creator an ingenious one second be like
bamboo firm empty inside and flexible
bamboo forests been together to face the
winds and to survive any kind of weather
and flexibility will help us navigate
the river of uncertainty
and third smile you will remember my
name smile a smile smile for no
particular reason
will you rather be right instead of
happy that’s your choice but if you want
to have a peaceful life starrock sir
sighs in your smile today smiling will
become then natural smiling is actually
the laxative for emotional and spiritual
constipation so transformation is
possible human mental ranging Aeryn is
possible if I’m standing here smiling in
front of you in Rome today is because
detachment and neutrality have helped me
to turn a scarcity into infinite
possibilities victimization into mindful
exponential leadership and fear into
freedom
we all are masters of our destiny and I
free of emotional and spiritual
constipation thank you so much thank you you
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