so I was I was talking about seven rules
for outliers we will start off with rule
number one
removing the box now I’m not talking
about those gigantic Amazon boxes that
you get and you open it and there’s one
tiny pen that comes out no I’m talking
about the boxes that we all consciously
or unconsciously create in our minds for
each new experience or event that will
come in touch with let me explain what I
mean you see a certain type of person
wearing certain types of clothes you put
them in a box you see a man who loves
cooking or loves the color pink put them
in a box we see somebody who enjoys a
girl who enjoys watching you know WWE or
Game of Thrones we put them in a box so
what are we doing here we stereotyping
all of these different types of people
I’m a Marwari whether be the you know
community from Rajasthan and a
stereotype that’s associated with us is
there’s a box for us right which says
early marriage CA or be calm and family
business right there’s a box for that
now I happen to be my body too and I’m a
first generation entrepreneur I’m an
engineer and in fact I am probably going
to enter the Limca Book of World Records
for being the oldest unmarried my body
broken I don’t and when thank you so
when you have these boxes for people and
something or somebody doesn’t fit into
it it makes you uncomfortable you don’t
know what to do with that with something
new that’s coming at you because you
can’t box it and that is where let me
tell you try this as an experiment
remove the box you will see that
suddenly when you stop using this box
system in your mind you have this vast
expanse of free-flowing thoughts and
ideas which are ever-expanding like the
universe and suddenly anything new
that’s coming your way
it is surprise you how much your own
ability to digest that information is
and I’ll give you another quick you know
thought here
so there’s a beautiful line that I am
read which the purpose of an argument or
a debate should not be to prove one
person right one person wrong it should
not be to force your opinion on the
other person the purpose should be to
expand the collective consciousness and
that’s truly what is possible when your
mind itself is limitless so that’s rule
number one
you move the Box you will number two now
there are certain types of enterprising
people who not only create these boxes
for themselves very generously they
distribute to all and sundry so not only
am i boxing my own thoughts and making
sure the people box these things – now
have you become example so that that’s
my cap with caps there is this
stereotype that cats are selfish
especially dog level love propagating
these things catch the selfish they
won’t come to you if you call their name
they would play with you now my cat that
that’s actually my arm
he sleeps next to me at night he comes
when I call his name and in fact he
plays with these little balls which make
sound and he picks them up in his mouth
and gets them wherever he feels like
playing
he’s a cab and he does that and that
that’s an assumption that’s a stereotype
that’s being broken when you think about
rule number two which says if it starts
in the mind it can aim there – right so
you see this image it’s a photo of samos
muhammed escapes and it on each eye for
those of you who are not familiar iran
each eye is a very famous Hyderabad EVP
which you get in a lot of these
hole-in-the-wall cafes around the city
so let me ask you a question with a
quick show of hands how many of you have
been to one of these hole-in-the-wall
joints in all city and I see like two
female hands okay while that now when I
first came to Hyderabad I’m a tea
aficionado I’m from Kolkata we all love
was China so when I came
I was told that term women don’t go to
these Iraq making copies and they don’t
go and I was told is the same thing so I
asked why is there a sign outside which
says dogs and women not allowed why can
women not go so as an experiment one day
I decided to walk into an Iraqi Shia
cafe and order myself a cup of tea I
half-expected
somebody tell me tell me madam sorry you
were not allowed here you can please
leave didn’t happen what did happen was
I was accosted it like the plague so on
the table i sat and became anything in
the wartime that’s a different story but
nobody asked me to get out and then each
time that in fact I have done this over
the years
I enjoy my cup of tea my go to lot of
Villani chai cafes what I end up sitting
at this having a little cup of solid
kita nobody ever tells me to get out and
what I have done here is I’ve actually
challenged the current status cornet I
have broken a stereotype I’ve broken the
box because when people have confused
can’t with don’t and then they see that
there is this woman sitting here and
having chime when they see more of it it
becomes normal for them and then you
change the thinking that okay women are
not allowed in this place you know what
it’s okay they are we were wrong and
that’s how you break that assumption
another thing that that you know for
example you could hear people would say
if you’re very angry there’s only one
way to calm down take a deep breath
count to 10 now it may work for you it
may not I decided that that’s not
something that works for me so all I
need to do is look at a photo of my cat
and that’s enough you know and I’m
happier you know I count down that works
for me whatever works for you so that
brings you to rule number three it’s
very easy when you think about it the
one person who knows you the best who
knows all your deepest darkest secrets
and you know all of the embarrassing
thoughts you ever had all of the peggy
thoughts you had that one person is you
yourself and very often this person
comes up with them with the worst time
mind you know remind you of all of these
things you’ve done or have spent I mean
that so mean right coming here and
talking on the stage that’ll be a little
you know voice inside me saying he
remember the last time you fell off the
stage hey remember the last time that
you were here and you cracked that lame
joke nobody laughed at its almost
masochistic right we do this to
ourselves
so I’m saying instead of being your
worst enemy
since you know yourself so well try
being your own best friend the best
friend who encourages you the best
friend who empowers you who lifts you up
when you’re down the best friend will
support you so if I have to come here my
my voice should tell me you know what
today you will be you’ll be speaking so
well your diction will be so great you
will enunciate everything so clearly
anybody in the audience will get what
you’re saying or your job if your jokes
are going to make people um follow the
chairs laughing write something nice
that’s coming up so try this as an
experiment
try being your own best friend right not
the mean person who uses those nasty
secrets at the wrong times but being the
best friend that you can to yourself
that brings me to my fourth point once
bitten once shy why is this important
now a lot of us here especially in the
Indian context we feel that failure is
an impediment nobody wants to have a
backlog it’s like the end of the world
nobody wants to get one mark less than
an exam because mom is going to make
Hell at home if you start up and it
fails well you know suddenly everybody
will be like I told you so
yeah the Vinaya this had to happen so
this act of not using that failure to
your advantage it’s actually
disadvantages for us because each time
that you’re bitten if you feel that
that’s enough to deter you from ever
doing it again you’re using out you so
much I’ll give you my example I started
my company moshus six years ago
bootstrapped no daddy’s money and we
started working with
maintain and virtual reality now as you
can imagine first things we heard were
you’re in the wrong country they’re in
the wrong space in the wrong time it too
early and all of these different things
that happened now we could have taken
each of these critiques and feedback and
shut shop in three years and we would
have become a statistic ninety-five
percent of startups shut down in the
first three years right that’s what we
would have gotten to but because we
learned from each experience each
failure each time that we stumbled and
fell is why today we have been able to
create a virtual reality software with
which anybody can create their own we
are without any need for coding and
that’s something that’s redefining
access of VR to the normal person and we
wouldn’t have been able to do this six
years ago we’ve been able to do it
because this is the summation of all the
things that have happened till now which
is why it’s so important that if you’re
bitten once maybe be smarter the next
time but make sure that you limit it to
once bitten once shine right which
brings me to the next point and I don’t
know if any of you can read that it will
take courage to to get up maybe and come
here and read it I’m talking about
having the courage to be shameless why
now all of us have this button in our
minds which is constantly active if
we’re in a public situation right we’re
thinking oh I’m dancing like everybody
must be staring at me I must look so
ridiculous there’s a pimple on my face
today everybody’s just staring at that
there’s a there’s a tear in my dress I
you know I got out of a cab and I have
done that everybody must be looking at
that heel constantly self-conscious
you’re constantly thinking of being
embarrassed or being you know feeling
guilty about something then button it
just refuses to turn off and the problem
with that is sometimes and I’m wondering
you know maybe with the show of hands
you can tell me how many of you have
hesitated in asking for your old money
back from a friend because you’re like
well everybody like why it’s your money
your friends take in
instead this one completely returned it
right why we have to think about asking
because we’re thinking you know they’ll
feel offended they’ll think I’m not
being a friend enough there’s so many
cuts that come right now
there’s a simple thing that I would say
here I would say ask anyway because the
end of the day if you ask and if there’s
an O that comes in you’re back to the
same spot that you anyways were at right
you’ve not lost anything there’s nothing
that you’ve lost but if there’s a yes
you could actually end up getting
something which you wanted and it’s very
important if you talk about negotiations
and business for instance there’s a
there’s a there’s a concept around
leaving too much at the table and that
happens when you just don’t ask there’s
no harm in asking
but from losing a little bit of your ego
what else you have to lose right and so
I would say ask anyway in fact I would
say that if it’s serving your purpose
there’s nothing wrong with asking for
those of you who are sleeping now
I’m telling you you should be looking
here and I have no poems with making
complete off myself if it serves my
purpose and if that still doesn’t work
I’m telling you I’m gonna start dancing
right now like right here but everybody
needs to look at it’s not cool if you
don’t do that you see what I did that
you need to make sure that if it serves
your purpose
go ahead put yourself out there that
brings you my next point being powerful
now some of the people not sure why the
images are not showing but so there’s a
photo of Marine Ramadi on the screen
there and you know in Donald Trump and
Jack Ma add value I’ll define being
powerful first so the dictionary says
being powerful means having great
strength or great power or having
control and influence over people and
events or having an effect on people’s
thoughts and feelings now with the show
of hands please answer how many of you
think that each of these three men on in
on the screen right
have these effects on at least one
person the influence of their thoughts
of feelings at least one person
everybody agrees great so going forward
do you think she’s powerful with the
same definition show of hands
great she isn’t already is one
thing now by the second definition all
of you are powerful too because you you
totally completely have influence over a
single person’s life your own you are
not someone right you have so much power
over your own life one life on this
earth we have the power today to be who
we are and to become who we really want
to be they say that one of the true
hell’s on earth is when you end up
meeting the person you could have become
so what’s stopping us from getting there
we are powerful there is no point in
waiting for someone else to come and say
that to you who has your best interest
at heart you can say you know boyfriend
girlfriend mother husband father dog cat
okay but they would still not have as
much of your best interest at heart as
you yourself would so they say if not
you then who
and so it’s up to us to be able to
achieve our true potential looking
inside by feeling powerful because we
are powerful so any somebody the rules
so far we will actually talk about this
in a minute so so let me talk about the
so many so far right the rules so far
remove the box if it starts in the mind
you can end it there right
that’s rule number two and that’s very
very important right
you’re your own enemy be your best
friend it’s important once written once
shy have the courage to be shameless be
powerful six so far right now last but
not the least we come to the seventh
rule which is stoking the fire stoking
the fire in your belly now
or that fire no I’m not even talking
about the kind of fire that makes you
run to the bathroom I am talking about
Tron your life energy your life force
picture it as this this spot of fire
which is burning this magic fire you
know those annoying but they candles
that we have to huff and puff out and
they just do not go off there’s this
fire that we are born with it starts
from the moment that we hit earth till
the moment that we leave it it’s always
burning even in your darkest times it’s
still there might be down to embers but
it’s still there
it’s your core driving force it was it’s
what gives rise to your passion your
perseverance your ambitions it’s why
you’re alive right and if you think
about it in your darkest moments even
when the fire is low you have it in your
control to stoke that fire to be able to
use your power and get it to a merrill
adoring point so going back to the image
you saw just before this of me in a
hospital bed that was taken a couple of
hours after I was hospitalized with
multiple fractures in my spine
this photo is less than two years old I
had an accident road accident I was
between you know the riverbed and a
vehicle and I factored multiple
vertebrae so now that’s something that I
didn’t have power over it happened but
my reaction and how I dealt with this
situation was in my control so here this
is the photo that I shared with friends
because I didn’t want to make it worse
than it was it was really bad and then
the next two years have been so
difficult for me because I have been
battling with the bedrest issues that
followed I was bedridden for almost four
months you know and now if you look at
my MRIs of the back it’s like it’s like
an unknow world woman’s I mean there’s
so much stuff there but I was able to
realize at every point that I have the
power to be able to react and do what I
need to let me tell you a quick secret
ten days ago and there’s something again
I have not shared on a public platform
so far so giving Ted its importance ten
years ago
I fell down a flight of wet stairs and I
fractured my back again this time just
one vertebra but I did and you know what
was the first thing I asked the doctor
when he told me this amazing news I
asked but I have a TEDx talk in less
than two weeks I want to go for it how
will you make that happen and that’s by
the way me being quite sheer bliss and
asking him anyway
you could have said he was going on with
his three-week bedrest blonde when he
said oh okay well we have a few days for
it we’ll make it happen
but that was again me stoking my fire I
have just found out that this crap
happened again and I’m like no I’m not
going to let that take me down and I’m
here today literally with her with a
10-day old crack in my spine because I
followed all of these rules I have
removed the box where you’re thinking
about a fractured bed rest removed that
box
I ended assumptions in the mind where
you like can I should I has it been done
can it be done it’s like you know it’s
like Serena Williams she was she was
pregnant when she won this year at the
Australian Open and what the federal who
became the oldest man to win his you
know Wimbledon grams LA Grand Slam these
people weren’t thinking that just
because it hasn’t been done it can’t be
done so that assumption was ended there
right I became my own best friend so
when I decided that I want to come here
I supported myself and put my energy
behind that decision I was able to do
that once written once shy I made sure
that you know just because I have a bad
staircase experience maybe next time
I’ll be smarter I’ll make sure I’ll hold
the railing or I’ll have some you know
handsome guy here to help me out or you
know I’ll make sure that my hands are
free so I don’t fall again right make
sure that happened I had the courage to
be shameless you know like I said
whatever that whatever is the worst that
can happen I’ll deal with it I’m putting
myself out there if I trip and fall
right now because you know because I
can’t stand well unless make some lame
old lady joke and that’s it right
and I am powerful I’m here because I
feel powerful and you know last but not
the least
I’m stoking the fire within me I’m
making sure that it burns bright and is
going to keep burning till the last
breath leaves my body
so let’s you know change the world start
with self thank you
[Applause]
for outliers we will start off with rule
number one
removing the box now I’m not talking
about those gigantic Amazon boxes that
you get and you open it and there’s one
tiny pen that comes out no I’m talking
about the boxes that we all consciously
or unconsciously create in our minds for
each new experience or event that will
come in touch with let me explain what I
mean you see a certain type of person
wearing certain types of clothes you put
them in a box you see a man who loves
cooking or loves the color pink put them
in a box we see somebody who enjoys a
girl who enjoys watching you know WWE or
Game of Thrones we put them in a box so
what are we doing here we stereotyping
all of these different types of people
I’m a Marwari whether be the you know
community from Rajasthan and a
stereotype that’s associated with us is
there’s a box for us right which says
early marriage CA or be calm and family
business right there’s a box for that
now I happen to be my body too and I’m a
first generation entrepreneur I’m an
engineer and in fact I am probably going
to enter the Limca Book of World Records
for being the oldest unmarried my body
broken I don’t and when thank you so
when you have these boxes for people and
something or somebody doesn’t fit into
it it makes you uncomfortable you don’t
know what to do with that with something
new that’s coming at you because you
can’t box it and that is where let me
tell you try this as an experiment
remove the box you will see that
suddenly when you stop using this box
system in your mind you have this vast
expanse of free-flowing thoughts and
ideas which are ever-expanding like the
universe and suddenly anything new
that’s coming your way
it is surprise you how much your own
ability to digest that information is
and I’ll give you another quick you know
thought here
so there’s a beautiful line that I am
read which the purpose of an argument or
a debate should not be to prove one
person right one person wrong it should
not be to force your opinion on the
other person the purpose should be to
expand the collective consciousness and
that’s truly what is possible when your
mind itself is limitless so that’s rule
number one
you move the Box you will number two now
there are certain types of enterprising
people who not only create these boxes
for themselves very generously they
distribute to all and sundry so not only
am i boxing my own thoughts and making
sure the people box these things – now
have you become example so that that’s
my cap with caps there is this
stereotype that cats are selfish
especially dog level love propagating
these things catch the selfish they
won’t come to you if you call their name
they would play with you now my cat that
that’s actually my arm
he sleeps next to me at night he comes
when I call his name and in fact he
plays with these little balls which make
sound and he picks them up in his mouth
and gets them wherever he feels like
playing
he’s a cab and he does that and that
that’s an assumption that’s a stereotype
that’s being broken when you think about
rule number two which says if it starts
in the mind it can aim there – right so
you see this image it’s a photo of samos
muhammed escapes and it on each eye for
those of you who are not familiar iran
each eye is a very famous Hyderabad EVP
which you get in a lot of these
hole-in-the-wall cafes around the city
so let me ask you a question with a
quick show of hands how many of you have
been to one of these hole-in-the-wall
joints in all city and I see like two
female hands okay while that now when I
first came to Hyderabad I’m a tea
aficionado I’m from Kolkata we all love
was China so when I came
I was told that term women don’t go to
these Iraq making copies and they don’t
go and I was told is the same thing so I
asked why is there a sign outside which
says dogs and women not allowed why can
women not go so as an experiment one day
I decided to walk into an Iraqi Shia
cafe and order myself a cup of tea I
half-expected
somebody tell me tell me madam sorry you
were not allowed here you can please
leave didn’t happen what did happen was
I was accosted it like the plague so on
the table i sat and became anything in
the wartime that’s a different story but
nobody asked me to get out and then each
time that in fact I have done this over
the years
I enjoy my cup of tea my go to lot of
Villani chai cafes what I end up sitting
at this having a little cup of solid
kita nobody ever tells me to get out and
what I have done here is I’ve actually
challenged the current status cornet I
have broken a stereotype I’ve broken the
box because when people have confused
can’t with don’t and then they see that
there is this woman sitting here and
having chime when they see more of it it
becomes normal for them and then you
change the thinking that okay women are
not allowed in this place you know what
it’s okay they are we were wrong and
that’s how you break that assumption
another thing that that you know for
example you could hear people would say
if you’re very angry there’s only one
way to calm down take a deep breath
count to 10 now it may work for you it
may not I decided that that’s not
something that works for me so all I
need to do is look at a photo of my cat
and that’s enough you know and I’m
happier you know I count down that works
for me whatever works for you so that
brings you to rule number three it’s
very easy when you think about it the
one person who knows you the best who
knows all your deepest darkest secrets
and you know all of the embarrassing
thoughts you ever had all of the peggy
thoughts you had that one person is you
yourself and very often this person
comes up with them with the worst time
mind you know remind you of all of these
things you’ve done or have spent I mean
that so mean right coming here and
talking on the stage that’ll be a little
you know voice inside me saying he
remember the last time you fell off the
stage hey remember the last time that
you were here and you cracked that lame
joke nobody laughed at its almost
masochistic right we do this to
ourselves
so I’m saying instead of being your
worst enemy
since you know yourself so well try
being your own best friend the best
friend who encourages you the best
friend who empowers you who lifts you up
when you’re down the best friend will
support you so if I have to come here my
my voice should tell me you know what
today you will be you’ll be speaking so
well your diction will be so great you
will enunciate everything so clearly
anybody in the audience will get what
you’re saying or your job if your jokes
are going to make people um follow the
chairs laughing write something nice
that’s coming up so try this as an
experiment
try being your own best friend right not
the mean person who uses those nasty
secrets at the wrong times but being the
best friend that you can to yourself
that brings me to my fourth point once
bitten once shy why is this important
now a lot of us here especially in the
Indian context we feel that failure is
an impediment nobody wants to have a
backlog it’s like the end of the world
nobody wants to get one mark less than
an exam because mom is going to make
Hell at home if you start up and it
fails well you know suddenly everybody
will be like I told you so
yeah the Vinaya this had to happen so
this act of not using that failure to
your advantage it’s actually
disadvantages for us because each time
that you’re bitten if you feel that
that’s enough to deter you from ever
doing it again you’re using out you so
much I’ll give you my example I started
my company moshus six years ago
bootstrapped no daddy’s money and we
started working with
maintain and virtual reality now as you
can imagine first things we heard were
you’re in the wrong country they’re in
the wrong space in the wrong time it too
early and all of these different things
that happened now we could have taken
each of these critiques and feedback and
shut shop in three years and we would
have become a statistic ninety-five
percent of startups shut down in the
first three years right that’s what we
would have gotten to but because we
learned from each experience each
failure each time that we stumbled and
fell is why today we have been able to
create a virtual reality software with
which anybody can create their own we
are without any need for coding and
that’s something that’s redefining
access of VR to the normal person and we
wouldn’t have been able to do this six
years ago we’ve been able to do it
because this is the summation of all the
things that have happened till now which
is why it’s so important that if you’re
bitten once maybe be smarter the next
time but make sure that you limit it to
once bitten once shine right which
brings me to the next point and I don’t
know if any of you can read that it will
take courage to to get up maybe and come
here and read it I’m talking about
having the courage to be shameless why
now all of us have this button in our
minds which is constantly active if
we’re in a public situation right we’re
thinking oh I’m dancing like everybody
must be staring at me I must look so
ridiculous there’s a pimple on my face
today everybody’s just staring at that
there’s a there’s a tear in my dress I
you know I got out of a cab and I have
done that everybody must be looking at
that heel constantly self-conscious
you’re constantly thinking of being
embarrassed or being you know feeling
guilty about something then button it
just refuses to turn off and the problem
with that is sometimes and I’m wondering
you know maybe with the show of hands
you can tell me how many of you have
hesitated in asking for your old money
back from a friend because you’re like
well everybody like why it’s your money
your friends take in
instead this one completely returned it
right why we have to think about asking
because we’re thinking you know they’ll
feel offended they’ll think I’m not
being a friend enough there’s so many
cuts that come right now
there’s a simple thing that I would say
here I would say ask anyway because the
end of the day if you ask and if there’s
an O that comes in you’re back to the
same spot that you anyways were at right
you’ve not lost anything there’s nothing
that you’ve lost but if there’s a yes
you could actually end up getting
something which you wanted and it’s very
important if you talk about negotiations
and business for instance there’s a
there’s a there’s a concept around
leaving too much at the table and that
happens when you just don’t ask there’s
no harm in asking
but from losing a little bit of your ego
what else you have to lose right and so
I would say ask anyway in fact I would
say that if it’s serving your purpose
there’s nothing wrong with asking for
those of you who are sleeping now
I’m telling you you should be looking
here and I have no poems with making
complete off myself if it serves my
purpose and if that still doesn’t work
I’m telling you I’m gonna start dancing
right now like right here but everybody
needs to look at it’s not cool if you
don’t do that you see what I did that
you need to make sure that if it serves
your purpose
go ahead put yourself out there that
brings you my next point being powerful
now some of the people not sure why the
images are not showing but so there’s a
photo of Marine Ramadi on the screen
there and you know in Donald Trump and
Jack Ma add value I’ll define being
powerful first so the dictionary says
being powerful means having great
strength or great power or having
control and influence over people and
events or having an effect on people’s
thoughts and feelings now with the show
of hands please answer how many of you
think that each of these three men on in
on the screen right
have these effects on at least one
person the influence of their thoughts
of feelings at least one person
everybody agrees great so going forward
do you think she’s powerful with the
same definition show of hands
great she isn’t already is one
thing now by the second definition all
of you are powerful too because you you
totally completely have influence over a
single person’s life your own you are
not someone right you have so much power
over your own life one life on this
earth we have the power today to be who
we are and to become who we really want
to be they say that one of the true
hell’s on earth is when you end up
meeting the person you could have become
so what’s stopping us from getting there
we are powerful there is no point in
waiting for someone else to come and say
that to you who has your best interest
at heart you can say you know boyfriend
girlfriend mother husband father dog cat
okay but they would still not have as
much of your best interest at heart as
you yourself would so they say if not
you then who
and so it’s up to us to be able to
achieve our true potential looking
inside by feeling powerful because we
are powerful so any somebody the rules
so far we will actually talk about this
in a minute so so let me talk about the
so many so far right the rules so far
remove the box if it starts in the mind
you can end it there right
that’s rule number two and that’s very
very important right
you’re your own enemy be your best
friend it’s important once written once
shy have the courage to be shameless be
powerful six so far right now last but
not the least we come to the seventh
rule which is stoking the fire stoking
the fire in your belly now
or that fire no I’m not even talking
about the kind of fire that makes you
run to the bathroom I am talking about
Tron your life energy your life force
picture it as this this spot of fire
which is burning this magic fire you
know those annoying but they candles
that we have to huff and puff out and
they just do not go off there’s this
fire that we are born with it starts
from the moment that we hit earth till
the moment that we leave it it’s always
burning even in your darkest times it’s
still there might be down to embers but
it’s still there
it’s your core driving force it was it’s
what gives rise to your passion your
perseverance your ambitions it’s why
you’re alive right and if you think
about it in your darkest moments even
when the fire is low you have it in your
control to stoke that fire to be able to
use your power and get it to a merrill
adoring point so going back to the image
you saw just before this of me in a
hospital bed that was taken a couple of
hours after I was hospitalized with
multiple fractures in my spine
this photo is less than two years old I
had an accident road accident I was
between you know the riverbed and a
vehicle and I factored multiple
vertebrae so now that’s something that I
didn’t have power over it happened but
my reaction and how I dealt with this
situation was in my control so here this
is the photo that I shared with friends
because I didn’t want to make it worse
than it was it was really bad and then
the next two years have been so
difficult for me because I have been
battling with the bedrest issues that
followed I was bedridden for almost four
months you know and now if you look at
my MRIs of the back it’s like it’s like
an unknow world woman’s I mean there’s
so much stuff there but I was able to
realize at every point that I have the
power to be able to react and do what I
need to let me tell you a quick secret
ten days ago and there’s something again
I have not shared on a public platform
so far so giving Ted its importance ten
years ago
I fell down a flight of wet stairs and I
fractured my back again this time just
one vertebra but I did and you know what
was the first thing I asked the doctor
when he told me this amazing news I
asked but I have a TEDx talk in less
than two weeks I want to go for it how
will you make that happen and that’s by
the way me being quite sheer bliss and
asking him anyway
you could have said he was going on with
his three-week bedrest blonde when he
said oh okay well we have a few days for
it we’ll make it happen
but that was again me stoking my fire I
have just found out that this crap
happened again and I’m like no I’m not
going to let that take me down and I’m
here today literally with her with a
10-day old crack in my spine because I
followed all of these rules I have
removed the box where you’re thinking
about a fractured bed rest removed that
box
I ended assumptions in the mind where
you like can I should I has it been done
can it be done it’s like you know it’s
like Serena Williams she was she was
pregnant when she won this year at the
Australian Open and what the federal who
became the oldest man to win his you
know Wimbledon grams LA Grand Slam these
people weren’t thinking that just
because it hasn’t been done it can’t be
done so that assumption was ended there
right I became my own best friend so
when I decided that I want to come here
I supported myself and put my energy
behind that decision I was able to do
that once written once shy I made sure
that you know just because I have a bad
staircase experience maybe next time
I’ll be smarter I’ll make sure I’ll hold
the railing or I’ll have some you know
handsome guy here to help me out or you
know I’ll make sure that my hands are
free so I don’t fall again right make
sure that happened I had the courage to
be shameless you know like I said
whatever that whatever is the worst that
can happen I’ll deal with it I’m putting
myself out there if I trip and fall
right now because you know because I
can’t stand well unless make some lame
old lady joke and that’s it right
and I am powerful I’m here because I
feel powerful and you know last but not
the least
I’m stoking the fire within me I’m
making sure that it burns bright and is
going to keep burning till the last
breath leaves my body
so let’s you know change the world start
with self thank you
[Applause]
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