so ever since I can remember all I
wanted to do is be a leader remember
looking up to my father when I was young
he could do everything knew the answer
to every question knew the solution to
every problem nothing he couldn’t do so
what being a leader mean to me then I
had to be faster then I had to be
stronger and I had to be smarter I
brought that into everything I did try
to be captain every sports team tried to
get straight A’s in every class yelled a
lot because I thought a leader yelled
right five I’m in charge a lot of that
going on so kind of continuing on that
journey I get to West Point pretty
confident in myself thinking I’m a
leader pretty smart pretty pretty decent
shape I look around
everybody’s smarter than me everybody’s
faster than me at about month in
starting my freshman year at West Point
9/11 happens you realize hey guys this
isn’t just training anymore we’re gonna
go to war didn’t know what was gonna
happen first couple weeks you know
rumors are flying around hey they’re
gonna deploy the cadets to Afghanistan
so you spend four years and all I was
focused on was perfecting my skill
perfecting being a leader studied
Eisenhower studied sunsoo read
Clausewitz more times than I want to
admit went to military school spent my
summers training everything about
getting ready to go so I graduate
volunteer for the first unit go in
Afghanistan is in my head I’ve been
waiting for four years I didn’t want to
wait any longer
I wanted to get my chance to lead I
wanted to get my chance to put into
practice everything I’ve been working to
do so I get to Afghanistan pretty proud
of myself
West Point grad ready to go meet my
commander
hey sweat why you out of shape
hey sweat where’s the Ranger tab what
are you doing here right back at the
beginning it’s alright
spent four months working for him never
beat him in her own never did more
pull-ups than him couldn’t get his loud
as him just reinforce him I got to be in
charge I got to figure out how to
perfect this it’s about five months in
June 2006 I get my chance I take my
first command we’re going on on our
first patrol so I do everything I’ve
practiced I come up with the plan I’ve
got the orders right I’ve got graphics
and we’ve rehearsed it and I’ve built
little tables and we’re ready to go so I
do my you know leadership pose kind of
supervise a little bit bark some orders
we’re ready to go so we take off we’ve
been where we were been about a hundred
times we’ve been where we were going
about a hundred times about 15 minutes
into the patrol a couple bright red
flashes go flying past I wonder wonder
if someone shot a flare what was that
and the big rocket-propelled grenade
blows up trucks are disabled I barely
get a chance to you know my first
command out hey we’re troops in contact
and the radio goes down all you can hear
is pull the headset off try to look
around but I’m the leader I got to
figure out what’s going on I got to make
a decision all you see is smoke guns are
going all you hear is heavy machine-gun
fire smoke the bullets are so bright
with the tracer rounds and the blasts
coming off the machine guns that your
night-vision goggles aren’t even working
throw my night-vision goggles up so
everything I practice has already not
worked so we’re like Plan C right now so
I start running between the trucks
started yelling at my guys making sure
everyone’s good making sure the guns are
working making sure we’re not running
out of ammo
kind of running around checking my head
cut off not making any actual decisions
just yelling a lot so we get through
that we get back talk to my number two
so our first class Espinoza been in the
army about 20 years seis aren’t what I
do wrong there he said I’m glad you
asked I said the guys they know how to
shoot let him shoot they know how to
patrol let him patrol what are you
trying to do he said make the decisions
you need to make sir
he said I don’t need you running around
screaming and yelling I need you in
control enabling setting those guys up
for success getting out of their way I
need you to let go sir it’s one of the
most profound moments in my life
still this day I probably call them
about ten times a year just say hey
thanks so transition out of the military
get into corporate America get a snazzy
new suit pretty excited
I got a nice job alright hey I’m a
leader guys been in combat you know I
went to leadership college I’m ready to
go I’m ready for this boy was I mistaken
so I realized all the things I’ve
learned in the military they needed to
be tweaked just slightly before they’d
really translate to uh to corporate
America one of the first meetings I’m in
a bunch of higher-ups are there and
there’s just there’s a lot of talking
going on and a great idea nowyou great
idea
no your great idea it’s about 40 minutes
and I just got up and left it’s in my
head
we’re wasting time we have work we have
to do things that have to get done what
am i doing sit in here about 45 minutes
later my boss comes find me I sweat what
are you doing I said wait you asked me
to get this thing done tonight I’m not
gonna get it done if I’m sitting there
while you guys are kind of talking at
each other a little little learning on
context is important right its bias to
action good in Afghanistan needs to be
tempered a little bit when you come home
also learned a little bit about trying
to fake it to you make it so I learned
everyone everyone’s big into fashion on
the outside mind you I gone to a high
school where were you wear a uniform a
college where you wear a uniform
I was in the army where I wore a uniform
so I had not dressed myself in probably
14 years so I’m trying to fit in I’m out
with some of the partners you know
they’re ordering drinks I’ve never heard
of and I’m like yeah you know I was
thinking about getting my wife a pair of
love oceans for Christmas get it get a
couple looks out of the side I’m like
you know solutions yeah but saving up
nobody says anything I get some looks
how about hanging out whatever guys
about a week later one of my real good
friends pulls me aside and says hey what
are you talking about and I’m like what
he’s like what are the Boosh ins pretty
woman
I said well you know the shoes he’s like
Louboutins it’s like come on when I tell
my wife this story if I could have taken
a picture of that just embarrassment and
shame and oh god don’t talk in public
Tyler what are you doing sorry we’re
gonna we’re gonna talk that put that the
back pocket pretend that didn’t happen
but all along this time I’m still trying
to figure out what being a leader means
but I see partners now and I see
executives and they’re making these
decisions and they’ve got information
they’re always connected and they’re
bumping and shakin and I’m trying to
emulate so I’m trying to read all the
right blogs trying to listen to my
podcasts and trying to work out I’m
trying to read the the self-improvement
books what does it look at the recent 25
self-improvement books a year who has
time I didn’t so I was trading robbing
Peter to pay Paul moving about a
thousand miles an hour and then I get
promoted so I’m all excited right hey
it’s my chance all right you know big
exact Tyler and I try to scale these
behaviors and I’m on the phone to eleven
o’clock every night not reading emails
and I’m going and I’m I’m doing the
opposite of what Warren Buffett says to
do I’m measuring the value of my
leadership by how full my calendar is
I’m look at while he’s people are doing
meetings that I’m inserting myself into
meetings and I’m on conference calls and
I’m running in
you know what happened I failed a bunch
of activity spent a year going with a
thousand miles an hour did have anything
to show for it failed in front of my
friends failed in front of my boss my
peers my teammates my family humiliating
didn’t know what to do I had my shot I
missed it
if I spent some time kind of going back
and thinking reflecting realize that all
these things I’d sort of learned along
the way I kept forgetting I figured I
should write these things down it’s all
about noise I was getting distracted by
noise I wasn’t able to separate the
noise and understand what really
mattered so I boil it down to four
principles that helped me live my life
help me make sure that I’m doing the
right thing that I’m making the right
decisions first one is probably the
first thing I heard when I was at West
Point and I did not understand it and
it’s slow is smooth smooth is fast
it’s not about speed it’s about control
whether it’s your daily life whether
you’re clearing a house in Afghanistan
if you’re moving at terminal velocity
you’re gonna miss details
you’re gonna miss experience you’re
gonna miss all of it the second one
those words it’s our first class
Espinoza told me make the decisions you
need to make don’t worry about stuff you
can’t control you can’t control it goes
into the box it doesn’t matter if it’s
not real yet you think about it don’t
let it keep you up at night
let go let folks make the decisions they
need to make third one be where you are
be present life is short sure than we
want it to be we don’t control it no
one’s gonna remember an email no one’s
gonna remember a facebook like or a
tweet they’re gonna remember laughs
they’re gonna remember an experience a
shared
miel a joke the other side of that is we
know when you’re not present everybody
knows
get your head in the phone you’re
looking somewhere else having a
half-hearted conversation it’s not real
the first fourth one excuse me isn’t
proof always try to keep learning find
ways to perfect your craft find ways to
challenge yourself the world’s a huge
place try to experience as much of it as
you can so when I look back at when I
was a kid my dad used to tell me hey hey
son
make a hundred you miss 100% of the
shots you don’t take
I said all right so now I’ve grown a
little bit my question is what if we
don’t see the shots
what if we’re so distracted and we’re
moving so fast and we’re keeping up with
the Joneses and we’re trying to be like
these guys we see on Instagram and girls
we see on TV we’re missing the shots we
have to separate our own noise so we can
see the shots we’ve got to slow down to
do more focus on seeing your shots and
then take it thank you guys
[Applause] [Music]
wanted to do is be a leader remember
looking up to my father when I was young
he could do everything knew the answer
to every question knew the solution to
every problem nothing he couldn’t do so
what being a leader mean to me then I
had to be faster then I had to be
stronger and I had to be smarter I
brought that into everything I did try
to be captain every sports team tried to
get straight A’s in every class yelled a
lot because I thought a leader yelled
right five I’m in charge a lot of that
going on so kind of continuing on that
journey I get to West Point pretty
confident in myself thinking I’m a
leader pretty smart pretty pretty decent
shape I look around
everybody’s smarter than me everybody’s
faster than me at about month in
starting my freshman year at West Point
9/11 happens you realize hey guys this
isn’t just training anymore we’re gonna
go to war didn’t know what was gonna
happen first couple weeks you know
rumors are flying around hey they’re
gonna deploy the cadets to Afghanistan
so you spend four years and all I was
focused on was perfecting my skill
perfecting being a leader studied
Eisenhower studied sunsoo read
Clausewitz more times than I want to
admit went to military school spent my
summers training everything about
getting ready to go so I graduate
volunteer for the first unit go in
Afghanistan is in my head I’ve been
waiting for four years I didn’t want to
wait any longer
I wanted to get my chance to lead I
wanted to get my chance to put into
practice everything I’ve been working to
do so I get to Afghanistan pretty proud
of myself
West Point grad ready to go meet my
commander
hey sweat why you out of shape
hey sweat where’s the Ranger tab what
are you doing here right back at the
beginning it’s alright
spent four months working for him never
beat him in her own never did more
pull-ups than him couldn’t get his loud
as him just reinforce him I got to be in
charge I got to figure out how to
perfect this it’s about five months in
June 2006 I get my chance I take my
first command we’re going on on our
first patrol so I do everything I’ve
practiced I come up with the plan I’ve
got the orders right I’ve got graphics
and we’ve rehearsed it and I’ve built
little tables and we’re ready to go so I
do my you know leadership pose kind of
supervise a little bit bark some orders
we’re ready to go so we take off we’ve
been where we were been about a hundred
times we’ve been where we were going
about a hundred times about 15 minutes
into the patrol a couple bright red
flashes go flying past I wonder wonder
if someone shot a flare what was that
and the big rocket-propelled grenade
blows up trucks are disabled I barely
get a chance to you know my first
command out hey we’re troops in contact
and the radio goes down all you can hear
is pull the headset off try to look
around but I’m the leader I got to
figure out what’s going on I got to make
a decision all you see is smoke guns are
going all you hear is heavy machine-gun
fire smoke the bullets are so bright
with the tracer rounds and the blasts
coming off the machine guns that your
night-vision goggles aren’t even working
throw my night-vision goggles up so
everything I practice has already not
worked so we’re like Plan C right now so
I start running between the trucks
started yelling at my guys making sure
everyone’s good making sure the guns are
working making sure we’re not running
out of ammo
kind of running around checking my head
cut off not making any actual decisions
just yelling a lot so we get through
that we get back talk to my number two
so our first class Espinoza been in the
army about 20 years seis aren’t what I
do wrong there he said I’m glad you
asked I said the guys they know how to
shoot let him shoot they know how to
patrol let him patrol what are you
trying to do he said make the decisions
you need to make sir
he said I don’t need you running around
screaming and yelling I need you in
control enabling setting those guys up
for success getting out of their way I
need you to let go sir it’s one of the
most profound moments in my life
still this day I probably call them
about ten times a year just say hey
thanks so transition out of the military
get into corporate America get a snazzy
new suit pretty excited
I got a nice job alright hey I’m a
leader guys been in combat you know I
went to leadership college I’m ready to
go I’m ready for this boy was I mistaken
so I realized all the things I’ve
learned in the military they needed to
be tweaked just slightly before they’d
really translate to uh to corporate
America one of the first meetings I’m in
a bunch of higher-ups are there and
there’s just there’s a lot of talking
going on and a great idea nowyou great
idea
no your great idea it’s about 40 minutes
and I just got up and left it’s in my
head
we’re wasting time we have work we have
to do things that have to get done what
am i doing sit in here about 45 minutes
later my boss comes find me I sweat what
are you doing I said wait you asked me
to get this thing done tonight I’m not
gonna get it done if I’m sitting there
while you guys are kind of talking at
each other a little little learning on
context is important right its bias to
action good in Afghanistan needs to be
tempered a little bit when you come home
also learned a little bit about trying
to fake it to you make it so I learned
everyone everyone’s big into fashion on
the outside mind you I gone to a high
school where were you wear a uniform a
college where you wear a uniform
I was in the army where I wore a uniform
so I had not dressed myself in probably
14 years so I’m trying to fit in I’m out
with some of the partners you know
they’re ordering drinks I’ve never heard
of and I’m like yeah you know I was
thinking about getting my wife a pair of
love oceans for Christmas get it get a
couple looks out of the side I’m like
you know solutions yeah but saving up
nobody says anything I get some looks
how about hanging out whatever guys
about a week later one of my real good
friends pulls me aside and says hey what
are you talking about and I’m like what
he’s like what are the Boosh ins pretty
woman
I said well you know the shoes he’s like
Louboutins it’s like come on when I tell
my wife this story if I could have taken
a picture of that just embarrassment and
shame and oh god don’t talk in public
Tyler what are you doing sorry we’re
gonna we’re gonna talk that put that the
back pocket pretend that didn’t happen
but all along this time I’m still trying
to figure out what being a leader means
but I see partners now and I see
executives and they’re making these
decisions and they’ve got information
they’re always connected and they’re
bumping and shakin and I’m trying to
emulate so I’m trying to read all the
right blogs trying to listen to my
podcasts and trying to work out I’m
trying to read the the self-improvement
books what does it look at the recent 25
self-improvement books a year who has
time I didn’t so I was trading robbing
Peter to pay Paul moving about a
thousand miles an hour and then I get
promoted so I’m all excited right hey
it’s my chance all right you know big
exact Tyler and I try to scale these
behaviors and I’m on the phone to eleven
o’clock every night not reading emails
and I’m going and I’m I’m doing the
opposite of what Warren Buffett says to
do I’m measuring the value of my
leadership by how full my calendar is
I’m look at while he’s people are doing
meetings that I’m inserting myself into
meetings and I’m on conference calls and
I’m running in
you know what happened I failed a bunch
of activity spent a year going with a
thousand miles an hour did have anything
to show for it failed in front of my
friends failed in front of my boss my
peers my teammates my family humiliating
didn’t know what to do I had my shot I
missed it
if I spent some time kind of going back
and thinking reflecting realize that all
these things I’d sort of learned along
the way I kept forgetting I figured I
should write these things down it’s all
about noise I was getting distracted by
noise I wasn’t able to separate the
noise and understand what really
mattered so I boil it down to four
principles that helped me live my life
help me make sure that I’m doing the
right thing that I’m making the right
decisions first one is probably the
first thing I heard when I was at West
Point and I did not understand it and
it’s slow is smooth smooth is fast
it’s not about speed it’s about control
whether it’s your daily life whether
you’re clearing a house in Afghanistan
if you’re moving at terminal velocity
you’re gonna miss details
you’re gonna miss experience you’re
gonna miss all of it the second one
those words it’s our first class
Espinoza told me make the decisions you
need to make don’t worry about stuff you
can’t control you can’t control it goes
into the box it doesn’t matter if it’s
not real yet you think about it don’t
let it keep you up at night
let go let folks make the decisions they
need to make third one be where you are
be present life is short sure than we
want it to be we don’t control it no
one’s gonna remember an email no one’s
gonna remember a facebook like or a
tweet they’re gonna remember laughs
they’re gonna remember an experience a
shared
miel a joke the other side of that is we
know when you’re not present everybody
knows
get your head in the phone you’re
looking somewhere else having a
half-hearted conversation it’s not real
the first fourth one excuse me isn’t
proof always try to keep learning find
ways to perfect your craft find ways to
challenge yourself the world’s a huge
place try to experience as much of it as
you can so when I look back at when I
was a kid my dad used to tell me hey hey
son
make a hundred you miss 100% of the
shots you don’t take
I said all right so now I’ve grown a
little bit my question is what if we
don’t see the shots
what if we’re so distracted and we’re
moving so fast and we’re keeping up with
the Joneses and we’re trying to be like
these guys we see on Instagram and girls
we see on TV we’re missing the shots we
have to separate our own noise so we can
see the shots we’ve got to slow down to
do more focus on seeing your shots and
then take it thank you guys
[Applause] [Music]
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