[Music]
thank you
greets everybody hello everybody all
right my name is dr. Martin Glynn a K
doc marten aka dad you heard all that
noise before I started I paid them
because I know if I if I’m not very good
at least I know I’ve had some kind of
euphoric expression before we start it’s
a real privilege to be here and kind of
feeling nervous right now because I’ve
felt the impact of all the speakers that
have gone I just want to explain before
we start with the word generativity
means because I’ve spoken to quite a lot
as a younger generation outside I’ve
been talking to me generativity just
means passing it on to the next
generation and in some respects that’s
what my talks about so I’m 60 I turned
16 July what does that mean it means
that I kind of get more pleasure I want
to just crap TV I get more pleasure out
of doing mundane things like looking
foxes at my back garden I become a great
grandfather and the strangest thing is I
wasn’t prepared to be a great
grandfather and what I realize is legacy
passing it on and so at the age of 60
I’ve got a PhD worldwide reputation
written the books did everything my mum
wanted me to be I wanted to change the
world
I was very idealistic I felt when I got
a PhD I’m gonna be like you saying ball
change the world I remember when I went
to my examiner and said I’m doing a PhD
I’m gonna change the world certainly
three people’s going to read it got it
but I’ve got my own but I went to rattly
and they gave me the book deal so
thousands of people ready but yesterday
I was really clever
Paul was clever but today I decided it’s
time to change myself and what this is
about and welcome I’m going to take you
on a little journey I wanted to walk
wouldn’t two years ago
I’ve got diagnosed with an enlarged
prostate and the first thing that
happened when I was told I did the
typical man any men in the room know
when you get splinter if you have your
arm off
well I remember with me when I told I’ve
got an enlarged prostate before I was
going to die and I said to the doctor
doctor I’m gonna die I’m frightened of
it because we’re dying every day
so I said why am i frightened of it then
he says because you’re aware of you so
suddenly I stopped hearing I was given
so much advice about if you die and take
this and take that now I couldn’t see I
won’t look at myself in the mirror
although the prostate is round where my
bottom is but I still couldn’t look at
myself in the mirror because I thought
something was wrong with me
I’d forgotten about my intelligence I’ve
forgotten about stuff like that
but internally I was screaming so
happily as I started treading water what
does that mean
it meant that you’d see me functioning
externally I’m outside big doc marten
big personality laughing joking but I
remember when I was at school treading
water you at the table he looks like
you’re floating what underneath you’re
flapping and I was flapping so I was
treading water boy if you look at our
picture looks like you’re drowning and I
was drowning I was drowning in self-pity
fear I start to get frightened of
everything you know I felt like one of
those people on a plane you ever
experienced turbulence so you sitting
next to someone and you feel you want to
admit stuff to them because you think
you’re gonna die and then the plane goes
and then you get no I’m when he lied you
know I mean so I was treading water and
that’s me I started to tell him myself
I’m gonna die what we’re going to do
panicking so I had to do some reflection
now I don’t know about you but my
reflection takes place in
bath I’m one of those people who likes
that bath that burns the skin off your
bottom hot water listening to Miles
Davis that’s my way of reflecting I had
to reflect Who am I what am i why am i
doing it I’ve got to pee I’ve done
everything society asks everything my
mom asked but somehow in the reflection
didn’t feel right they feel comfortable
because I felt I don’t want society
asked but I didn’t ask myself what did I
want what did I need to do because I
thought now got a prostate issue
everything’s changed so I went stayed to
some profile go for a professorship get
another book deal raise my profile
community because you see I grew up in a
place called st. Anne’s II not in them
very poor grew up in a slum and I
remember my PhD was working with
dangerous men
so it was offenders that gave me my PhD
so I suddenly realized is everything
that I had and have came from the
community but I gained the status and a
profile and I had to make a decision but
in order to make the decision I needed
to break free and breaking free means I
needed to break free of habits break
free have been- been breaking free of so
many different things but I needed to
break free and I’ve studied slavery and
one thing I know that slavery was not
just the case of coming off the
plantation slavery was about changing
your mentality that you’re more than
being a slave and I was a slave to
everything I was a slave to fear I was a
slave to anxiety I was a slave to lost
ambition I was just a slave but like
most slaves you have to break the chains
so I had to separate myself and part of
that separation from myself mentally I
had to take a good look in the mirror
there’s a great book portrait of Dorian
Gray and in the in the book a person
sells his soul to the devil
and he stays young with the picture ages
and I realized as a friend said to me
the day I’ve got the body of a 60 year
old but the mind of a 12 year old
and a bit like the portrait of Dorian
Gray I am aging but I wouldn’t accept it
so in the separation the first thing I
had to do my separation to stop blaming
I blamed everything I blamed white
people
I blame University I believe everything
but I never really took responsibility
because what I realized is I had choices
good friend of mine always tells me you
got choices so the first thing I could
do is separation is stop the blame game
stop blaming everything I had to be
humble let me tell you what you know
you’ve got a prostate problem
trust me it’s humbling it is humbling
all the things you took for granted go
out the winter at the window I’m mildly
incontinent now you’ll notice if you saw
me today we keep going to the toilet but
I’ve had to accept it so what the
doctors taught me be humble what did my
mom tell me when I was growing up be
humble what did you rape say be humble
my point being is most of us don’t know
about being humble is being humble is
when I saw in today realizing I matter
whether you’re a drug addict with an
alcoholic whether you’re transgender you
can’t make judgments on that so you have
to be humble and that’s what I
discovered about separation but I also
needed I need to accept myself and I
realized that as much as I thought I
accepted myself I didn’t I was fine when
I was in front of students it’s fine
when I was in public but in private I
couldn’t accept myself I was not happy
with the way I was so what started to
happen is needed a rebirth I was there
at the birth of my son and if you ever
seen a child born it’s hard it’s
difficult see this head come out and I
remember when the nurse came with his
scissors to cut the placenta and I
couldn’t do it because I thought I’m
going to hurt my child I couldn’t do it
but I realized I needed a rebirth
because I got to a point at the age of
60 I was no longer 40 or 50 I was 60
what you see with rebirth in you need a
midwife somebody to bring the hands your
hands to bring you into the world
I saw the talk this morning about how
naturally you come into the world but
when you go through a rebirth
it’s a completely different process so I
recognized I needed to be a rebirth that
was part of my separation because
rebirthing Burton is a separated process
you go from inside the wound to coming
out so I needed some epic transition and
this is where it happened one of my
bridges was sitting in the room right
now I’m not going to call him by his
first name he knows where it is
you’ll see me talking to him afterwards
so you can find out who he is in the
community word got around I’ve got a
prostate issue so people came up to me
and said yo duck you’ve been around for
40 odd years we need a legacy from you
and I was saying bridging I’d given up
because I fought with the prostate icon
do not I’m finished done this person
come to me has said the old Martin
we need something from you I said what
we need a legacy we need you to come
back then the Clara to come was you know
something that was said this morning
I’ve always been frightened of love and
intimacy my man gave me unconditional
love like my mom and then suddenly at
work I’m working with staff members who
were here today who come and give me
love and say Martin we need you and then
people on the team who’s organized TED
Talks at mine we’d like you to do this
was suddenly what I realize is I gain
clarity and part the clarity was I was
embracing love because when you think
your lives come into our end money ain’t
going to save it stay to some profile
ain’t gonna save it what’s going to save
it is the people that embrace you when
you were here lowest and I realized at
the age of 60 I was low so I found
clarity by one thing because suddenly
people in the community let me tell you
you know in the Fela I got a prostate I
had to go through the internal
examination and when I came to work
after that the first examination I
always remember yeah I got a lot of very
liberal might was really feeling it
before you know you know like they
almost wanted my pain in the community
though it won’t like that
in the community was simply like your
mind the debye have long fingers
did he have sharp fingernails did you
know did he smile when he did it
but you know something what I realized
is the one thing that helped me cope
with the difficulty is the humor and
humor comes from a place of openness and
honesty so I found on the streets they
say your bridge and we’re all dying what
makes you any different what makes you
think you’re better because you got PhD
I had somebody at work that said to me
how can you have a prostate problem you
got a doctorate so I embrace the
community I went back and so the people
in the room started to repair me rebuild
me but they said bridging feeling upon
better community you got a walk at all
you can’t just you can’t just chat you
got to do it so suddenly I’m walking the
talk and if you know anything about
India wit culture Inuit culture when you
walk in your father’s footsteps you
going to kill a polar bear the child
walks in those footsteps so I had to
retrace my steps back into the community
so I was walking in other people’s
footsteps now I was no longer leading I
was actually following and I remember my
Angelou the word legacy so a lot of you
legacy is a long way off when you give
them bad news like I got bad news
legacies close I just become a great
grandparent my grandpa late grandsons
about six months old
which means in ten years time he’ll
probably be looking at this maybe I’ve
passed away but the issue is about
legacy which is about generativity so I
look at it your legacy every life you’ve
touched I’ve worked with thousands in
prison I’ve worked with thousands in the
community I’m still doing it I get it
from my mom yesterday when I left here I
spoke to one of my mom’s friends aren’t
spoke to in 45 years
it was amazing to know that still got a
link 45 years ago
so this Shubert legacy brings me on to
my final slide this
the reason I’ll put home because I
started out my life in an abusive
situation went through a trauma pain
hurt lost all of that stuff and then two
years ago I got bad news
rediscovered love and then suddenly what
I realized that one-year-old child
that’s me at one seven nine seventeen
thirty me now so I’ve come full circle
I’ve met myself again because when my
friend said Martin you got the body of a
16 year old and the mind of a child
the one thing I’ve loved about this
experience it’s kind of reminded me how
excited I got today when I saw that TEDx
sign I wanted to jump on it like a child
so what I’m dealing with is of come home
and coming home is coming home humble
I’m not walking home with my doctorate
or forty years of experience or the
books I’m working in with nothing but by
having as my friend teach me Willard who
does the world’s smallest sculptures
nothing’s bigger than something small
hello yes no why was me then I said Mike
Union owes me why then my point being is
I’ve come home and I’ve been welcomed
home and it’s a the African saying it
takes a whole village to raise a child
suddenly the village has raised me again
so I’ve gone back to being a child and
I’m being raised again by the community
so listen I’m glad you enjoyed walking
with me I’m off I’ll see you later on in
the bar thank you
[Applause]
you
thank you
greets everybody hello everybody all
right my name is dr. Martin Glynn a K
doc marten aka dad you heard all that
noise before I started I paid them
because I know if I if I’m not very good
at least I know I’ve had some kind of
euphoric expression before we start it’s
a real privilege to be here and kind of
feeling nervous right now because I’ve
felt the impact of all the speakers that
have gone I just want to explain before
we start with the word generativity
means because I’ve spoken to quite a lot
as a younger generation outside I’ve
been talking to me generativity just
means passing it on to the next
generation and in some respects that’s
what my talks about so I’m 60 I turned
16 July what does that mean it means
that I kind of get more pleasure I want
to just crap TV I get more pleasure out
of doing mundane things like looking
foxes at my back garden I become a great
grandfather and the strangest thing is I
wasn’t prepared to be a great
grandfather and what I realize is legacy
passing it on and so at the age of 60
I’ve got a PhD worldwide reputation
written the books did everything my mum
wanted me to be I wanted to change the
world
I was very idealistic I felt when I got
a PhD I’m gonna be like you saying ball
change the world I remember when I went
to my examiner and said I’m doing a PhD
I’m gonna change the world certainly
three people’s going to read it got it
but I’ve got my own but I went to rattly
and they gave me the book deal so
thousands of people ready but yesterday
I was really clever
Paul was clever but today I decided it’s
time to change myself and what this is
about and welcome I’m going to take you
on a little journey I wanted to walk
wouldn’t two years ago
I’ve got diagnosed with an enlarged
prostate and the first thing that
happened when I was told I did the
typical man any men in the room know
when you get splinter if you have your
arm off
well I remember with me when I told I’ve
got an enlarged prostate before I was
going to die and I said to the doctor
doctor I’m gonna die I’m frightened of
it because we’re dying every day
so I said why am i frightened of it then
he says because you’re aware of you so
suddenly I stopped hearing I was given
so much advice about if you die and take
this and take that now I couldn’t see I
won’t look at myself in the mirror
although the prostate is round where my
bottom is but I still couldn’t look at
myself in the mirror because I thought
something was wrong with me
I’d forgotten about my intelligence I’ve
forgotten about stuff like that
but internally I was screaming so
happily as I started treading water what
does that mean
it meant that you’d see me functioning
externally I’m outside big doc marten
big personality laughing joking but I
remember when I was at school treading
water you at the table he looks like
you’re floating what underneath you’re
flapping and I was flapping so I was
treading water boy if you look at our
picture looks like you’re drowning and I
was drowning I was drowning in self-pity
fear I start to get frightened of
everything you know I felt like one of
those people on a plane you ever
experienced turbulence so you sitting
next to someone and you feel you want to
admit stuff to them because you think
you’re gonna die and then the plane goes
and then you get no I’m when he lied you
know I mean so I was treading water and
that’s me I started to tell him myself
I’m gonna die what we’re going to do
panicking so I had to do some reflection
now I don’t know about you but my
reflection takes place in
bath I’m one of those people who likes
that bath that burns the skin off your
bottom hot water listening to Miles
Davis that’s my way of reflecting I had
to reflect Who am I what am i why am i
doing it I’ve got to pee I’ve done
everything society asks everything my
mom asked but somehow in the reflection
didn’t feel right they feel comfortable
because I felt I don’t want society
asked but I didn’t ask myself what did I
want what did I need to do because I
thought now got a prostate issue
everything’s changed so I went stayed to
some profile go for a professorship get
another book deal raise my profile
community because you see I grew up in a
place called st. Anne’s II not in them
very poor grew up in a slum and I
remember my PhD was working with
dangerous men
so it was offenders that gave me my PhD
so I suddenly realized is everything
that I had and have came from the
community but I gained the status and a
profile and I had to make a decision but
in order to make the decision I needed
to break free and breaking free means I
needed to break free of habits break
free have been- been breaking free of so
many different things but I needed to
break free and I’ve studied slavery and
one thing I know that slavery was not
just the case of coming off the
plantation slavery was about changing
your mentality that you’re more than
being a slave and I was a slave to
everything I was a slave to fear I was a
slave to anxiety I was a slave to lost
ambition I was just a slave but like
most slaves you have to break the chains
so I had to separate myself and part of
that separation from myself mentally I
had to take a good look in the mirror
there’s a great book portrait of Dorian
Gray and in the in the book a person
sells his soul to the devil
and he stays young with the picture ages
and I realized as a friend said to me
the day I’ve got the body of a 60 year
old but the mind of a 12 year old
and a bit like the portrait of Dorian
Gray I am aging but I wouldn’t accept it
so in the separation the first thing I
had to do my separation to stop blaming
I blamed everything I blamed white
people
I blame University I believe everything
but I never really took responsibility
because what I realized is I had choices
good friend of mine always tells me you
got choices so the first thing I could
do is separation is stop the blame game
stop blaming everything I had to be
humble let me tell you what you know
you’ve got a prostate problem
trust me it’s humbling it is humbling
all the things you took for granted go
out the winter at the window I’m mildly
incontinent now you’ll notice if you saw
me today we keep going to the toilet but
I’ve had to accept it so what the
doctors taught me be humble what did my
mom tell me when I was growing up be
humble what did you rape say be humble
my point being is most of us don’t know
about being humble is being humble is
when I saw in today realizing I matter
whether you’re a drug addict with an
alcoholic whether you’re transgender you
can’t make judgments on that so you have
to be humble and that’s what I
discovered about separation but I also
needed I need to accept myself and I
realized that as much as I thought I
accepted myself I didn’t I was fine when
I was in front of students it’s fine
when I was in public but in private I
couldn’t accept myself I was not happy
with the way I was so what started to
happen is needed a rebirth I was there
at the birth of my son and if you ever
seen a child born it’s hard it’s
difficult see this head come out and I
remember when the nurse came with his
scissors to cut the placenta and I
couldn’t do it because I thought I’m
going to hurt my child I couldn’t do it
but I realized I needed a rebirth
because I got to a point at the age of
60 I was no longer 40 or 50 I was 60
what you see with rebirth in you need a
midwife somebody to bring the hands your
hands to bring you into the world
I saw the talk this morning about how
naturally you come into the world but
when you go through a rebirth
it’s a completely different process so I
recognized I needed to be a rebirth that
was part of my separation because
rebirthing Burton is a separated process
you go from inside the wound to coming
out so I needed some epic transition and
this is where it happened one of my
bridges was sitting in the room right
now I’m not going to call him by his
first name he knows where it is
you’ll see me talking to him afterwards
so you can find out who he is in the
community word got around I’ve got a
prostate issue so people came up to me
and said yo duck you’ve been around for
40 odd years we need a legacy from you
and I was saying bridging I’d given up
because I fought with the prostate icon
do not I’m finished done this person
come to me has said the old Martin
we need something from you I said what
we need a legacy we need you to come
back then the Clara to come was you know
something that was said this morning
I’ve always been frightened of love and
intimacy my man gave me unconditional
love like my mom and then suddenly at
work I’m working with staff members who
were here today who come and give me
love and say Martin we need you and then
people on the team who’s organized TED
Talks at mine we’d like you to do this
was suddenly what I realize is I gain
clarity and part the clarity was I was
embracing love because when you think
your lives come into our end money ain’t
going to save it stay to some profile
ain’t gonna save it what’s going to save
it is the people that embrace you when
you were here lowest and I realized at
the age of 60 I was low so I found
clarity by one thing because suddenly
people in the community let me tell you
you know in the Fela I got a prostate I
had to go through the internal
examination and when I came to work
after that the first examination I
always remember yeah I got a lot of very
liberal might was really feeling it
before you know you know like they
almost wanted my pain in the community
though it won’t like that
in the community was simply like your
mind the debye have long fingers
did he have sharp fingernails did you
know did he smile when he did it
but you know something what I realized
is the one thing that helped me cope
with the difficulty is the humor and
humor comes from a place of openness and
honesty so I found on the streets they
say your bridge and we’re all dying what
makes you any different what makes you
think you’re better because you got PhD
I had somebody at work that said to me
how can you have a prostate problem you
got a doctorate so I embrace the
community I went back and so the people
in the room started to repair me rebuild
me but they said bridging feeling upon
better community you got a walk at all
you can’t just you can’t just chat you
got to do it so suddenly I’m walking the
talk and if you know anything about
India wit culture Inuit culture when you
walk in your father’s footsteps you
going to kill a polar bear the child
walks in those footsteps so I had to
retrace my steps back into the community
so I was walking in other people’s
footsteps now I was no longer leading I
was actually following and I remember my
Angelou the word legacy so a lot of you
legacy is a long way off when you give
them bad news like I got bad news
legacies close I just become a great
grandparent my grandpa late grandsons
about six months old
which means in ten years time he’ll
probably be looking at this maybe I’ve
passed away but the issue is about
legacy which is about generativity so I
look at it your legacy every life you’ve
touched I’ve worked with thousands in
prison I’ve worked with thousands in the
community I’m still doing it I get it
from my mom yesterday when I left here I
spoke to one of my mom’s friends aren’t
spoke to in 45 years
it was amazing to know that still got a
link 45 years ago
so this Shubert legacy brings me on to
my final slide this
the reason I’ll put home because I
started out my life in an abusive
situation went through a trauma pain
hurt lost all of that stuff and then two
years ago I got bad news
rediscovered love and then suddenly what
I realized that one-year-old child
that’s me at one seven nine seventeen
thirty me now so I’ve come full circle
I’ve met myself again because when my
friend said Martin you got the body of a
16 year old and the mind of a child
the one thing I’ve loved about this
experience it’s kind of reminded me how
excited I got today when I saw that TEDx
sign I wanted to jump on it like a child
so what I’m dealing with is of come home
and coming home is coming home humble
I’m not walking home with my doctorate
or forty years of experience or the
books I’m working in with nothing but by
having as my friend teach me Willard who
does the world’s smallest sculptures
nothing’s bigger than something small
hello yes no why was me then I said Mike
Union owes me why then my point being is
I’ve come home and I’ve been welcomed
home and it’s a the African saying it
takes a whole village to raise a child
suddenly the village has raised me again
so I’ve gone back to being a child and
I’m being raised again by the community
so listen I’m glad you enjoyed walking
with me I’m off I’ll see you later on in
the bar thank you
[Applause]
you
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