picture this it’s a Wednesday afternoon
your teenage child had just came home
from school you asked them how was your
day a simple question and they reply
with good or great then they go up to
their room and it feels like you don’t
see them until you call them down for
dinner
three hours later this scenario happens
in many homes around the world Richard
Bach a 1970s bestselling author of
Jonathan Livingston Seagull had once
said that the bond that links your true
family is not one of blood but of
respect and joy in each other’s life if
you take a moment and deeply analyze
these very words you may change the way
you view your life or even your
lifestyle for the most important thing
we can obtain on our time on earth is
the love and joy of others we call
family through the past couple months
through many research and my own
personal experience I have become
incredibly informed on the importance of
family bonding and how by helping
another family it may impact you in a
way that you’ve never ever imagined when
one hears the words family bonding many
things rush through their minds however
the true definition is a meaningful time
designated to your family this does not
mean a simple yes-or-no conversation a
day it means that you actually take the
time to participate and communicate in
events with your loved ones when this
time is taken out of your day you will
see how affect your life in multiple
ways there are five main ways bonding
with loved ones impacts life to begin
with families learn to listen and work
well together in certain situations when
you know that you have a family member
to talk to you about any problem that
comes your way they will help you be
able to take a step back take a breath
get a look from a different perspective
and move forward simply just by
listening about family members needs
will help you will help families come
together secondly the second way family
to get together NIST
parents model expected behavior and
Society for kids to follow saying please
and thank you respecting others when you
talk to them and being able to stay calm
and chaotic matters are only a couple
ways of how parents act in society so
their kids grow up to the same this
affects both the adults and children
because adults act better in society and
their children grow up to do the same
the Third Way family bonding impacts
life as family members feel important
and that you want to spend time with
them lots of times during a child’s
teenage years the parents usually feel
neglected because their child has all
these plans where the parents are not
involved this could also be reversed
when the adults have many plans due to
work or social responsibilities with
acquaintances or employees so it’s very
important for the teenager and/or the
and or the adults sometimes say it’s
family night the fourth way is
communications between loved ones helps
impact their bonding when a family
members can communicate with each other
a mutual understanding is created and
that means that they can understand
where they’re coming from in certain
situations when they have mutual
understanding there are less arguments
in the household and when I think we can
all agree that when there are less
arguments in the household a more happy
and stress-free environment is created
finally out of all five in my opinion
the fifth is the most important because
families create a neutral respect when a
family members have a mutual respect any
incident or challenge that comes their
way we much more enjoyable to go through
while also maintaining that strong
family togetherness which is what family
bonding is really all about so now that
you understand the five main
ways of family bonding let’s now look at
how we can achieve them the obvious way
is to talk to your family members daily
in some ways you can achieve this our
outdoor activities family movie nights
monumental places or even just family
vacations or family dinners really the
list goes on and on so for this year
from my experience the main thing I
focused on was a family project that
would just be my family and it was
long-term so we could focus on it
together I’ve always known that some
time in my life I had wanted to do a
project on helping others however when I
finally got this opportunity I had no
idea how much it would impact my life in
the long run here’s what I did my family
and I joined a charity called chemo
angels what this charity does it is
assigns a cancer patient to anyone that
joins kind of like you got paired up
with a buddy or partner in school the
chemo angel is supposed to send letters
and a small toy each week to their
patient to help brighten their days you
can receive anyone from 2 to 80 years
old for my family it took a while to be
paired up with the patient but it was
far worth the wait we had been assigned
a three year old named Connor a 3 year
old with cancer I had the opportunity to
brighten a toddler’s day who should
already be on the playground or happy
playing with his toy dinosaurs on the
floor while his mom’s making dinner in
the kitchen my family had that chance to
put a smile on this little boy’s face
the type of cancer Connor has is acute
lymphoblastic leukemia also known as
áall which means that he has too many
immature white blood cells in his bone
marrow kind of like if you have too many
immature students in a classroom things
would be very chaotic and go out of
control it would just not be good but on
a more serious note about 3,000 people
in the u.s. under the age of 20 are
found to have a ll each year
through chemo angels my entire family was connected to Connor they had sent
was connected to Connor they had sent just a small biography about his likes
just a small biography about his likes and dislikes and a little bit about his
and dislikes and a little bit about his family so for the past year we have been
family so for the past year we have been sending him letters on Brite
sending him letters on Brite construction paper and every cut-set a
construction paper and every cut-set a toy as you can see for one of my letters
toy as you can see for one of my letters I had written to him about Valentine’s
I had written to him about Valentine’s Day since it was occurring that week my
Day since it was occurring that week my family had also given him a larger
family had also given him a larger present than normal since in his
present than normal since in his biography it said that he loves spending
biography it said that he loves spending holidays with his family so for the past
holidays with his family so for the past seven ish months we have been doing this
seven ish months we have been doing this for Connor and in the beginning what was
for Connor and in the beginning what was going on in my mind was what is he
going on in my mind was what is he thinking about our letters what is he
thinking about our letters what is he like is his health progressing because
like is his health progressing because even though we’ve never met nor seen
even though we’ve never met nor seen this little boy before my family and I
this little boy before my family and I had become emotionally attached to him
had become emotionally attached to him the point of chemo angels is to help
the point of chemo angels is to help others get through a horrible illness
others get through a horrible illness however in the long run you would never
however in the long run you would never expect the impact it could change on
expect the impact it could change on your life so time passes by and one day
your life so time passes by and one day and our mail we received a letter from
and our mail we received a letter from Connor we received a letter and let me
Connor we received a letter and let me tell you as soon as I saw this letter my
tell you as soon as I saw this letter my heart melted it was at this point in
heart melted it was at this point in time where I truly understood how much I
time where I truly understood how much I was actually impacting this little boy’s
was actually impacting this little boy’s life but my family wasn’t just changing
life but my family wasn’t just changing his life we were impacting the hopes and
his life we were impacting the hopes and joys of his brother his mom and his dad
joys of his brother his mom and his dad this is the point where I really said to
this is the point where I really said to myself wow this is actually happening at
myself wow this is actually happening at the bottom of the letter I had saw that
the bottom of the letter I had saw that it had Connors Facebook account called a
it had Connors Facebook account called a cure for Connor so I went on the
cure for Connor so I went on the Facebook account and the first thing I
Facebook account and the first thing I saw was a picture of Connor playing with
saw was a picture of Connor playing with one of our toys my family gave him and
one of our toys my family gave him and one of my family’s letters this just
one of my family’s letters this just made my month it was I just couldn’t
made my month it was I just couldn’t believe this in the beginning of April
believe this in the beginning of April when my family
when my family when on a spring break trip I looked
when on a spring break trip I looked over my shoulder and I saw my mom
over my shoulder and I saw my mom texting with Connors dad and I just see
texting with Connors dad and I just see these really long paragraphs because you
these really long paragraphs because you could just tell they were so intrigued
could just tell they were so intrigued to talk to each other about Connors
to talk to each other about Connors experience and how their family was
experience and how their family was holding up then about two weeks ago we
holding up then about two weeks ago we received a second very heartwarming
received a second very heartwarming letter from Connor that contained two
letter from Connor that contained two bracelets one for me and one for my
bracelets one for me and one for my sister on the bracelet it said a cure
sister on the bracelet it said a cure for Connor I wear everywhere I go in
for Connor I wear everywhere I go in this letter I could really deeply
this letter I could really deeply interpret how much my family husband
interpret how much my family husband impacting their lives just from a simple
impacting their lives just from a simple act of kindness each week I’d also
act of kindness each week I’d also realized so whenever my family would go
realized so whenever my family would go out to dinner one of the topics of
out to dinner one of the topics of conversations would be what are we
conversations would be what are we giving her this week or has anyone
giving her this week or has anyone checked Connors Facebook account to see
checked Connors Facebook account to see how he’s doing what I mean by this is it
how he’s doing what I mean by this is it started turning into a daily routine for
started turning into a daily routine for my family and then a light bulb went off
my family and then a light bulb went off I realized we weren’t just impacting
I realized we weren’t just impacting Connors family Connors family was
Connors family Connors family was influencing us just as much these past
influencing us just as much these past few months during this experience I’ve
few months during this experience I’ve never felt closer to my family than I
never felt closer to my family than I have ever in my life especially during
have ever in my life especially during my spring break trip it was the best I
my spring break trip it was the best I could recall I will never forget the
could recall I will never forget the laughs and memories of that trip simply
laughs and memories of that trip simply just by sharing our lives with another
just by sharing our lives with another family in need this bond that I had
family in need this bond that I had created my family is something I
created my family is something I wouldn’t change for the world
wouldn’t change for the world all it takes simply just by listening
all it takes simply just by listening communicating respecting each other
communicating respecting each other creates a model of expected behaviors
creates a model of expected behaviors and a family bond really all it takes is
and a family bond really all it takes is a simple conversation a day a family
a simple conversation a day a family project or maybe even a spring break
project or maybe even a spring break trip to create that home feeling of what
trip to create that home feeling of what we call a family in my case while I had
we call a family in my case while I had known from the very big
known from the very big when I started at Kimo angel said I was
when I started at Kimo angel said I was going to impact this little boy’s life I
going to impact this little boy’s life I had no clue that in the long run it
had no clue that in the long run it wouldn’t change my life just as much the
wouldn’t change my life just as much the main thing that I’ve learned from this
main thing that I’ve learned from this experience is you need to bond and
experience is you need to bond and connect with your family members because
connect with your family members because you never know when they could leave
you never know when they could leave your life take every moment and memory
your life take every moment and memory with them and the present to heart even
with them and the present to heart even if it’s just about listening about their
if it’s just about listening about their day so next time one of your family
day so next time one of your family members say how was your day don’t use
members say how was your day don’t use the words good or great make an effort
the words good or great make an effort talk to them about your highs or lows or
talk to them about your highs or lows or just something that popped out to you to
just something that popped out to you to keep the conversation going
keep the conversation going now think about one event from today
now think about one event from today that you feel is worth sharing when you
that you feel is worth sharing when you go home tonight talk to your family
go home tonight talk to your family about it and see where the conversation
about it and see where the conversation takes you thank you so if you wanna
takes you thank you so if you wanna donate to Connors chemo funds this is
donate to Connors chemo funds this is his picture of his Facebook account you
his picture of his Facebook account you could go to his Facebook account it’s
could go to his Facebook account it’s just a cure for Connor but really every
just a cure for Connor but really every dollar helps I mean look at that little
dollar helps I mean look at that little boy’s face is so cute so thank you so
boy’s face is so cute so thank you so much and yeah okay
much and yeah okay [Applause]
your teenage child had just came home
from school you asked them how was your
day a simple question and they reply
with good or great then they go up to
their room and it feels like you don’t
see them until you call them down for
dinner
three hours later this scenario happens
in many homes around the world Richard
Bach a 1970s bestselling author of
Jonathan Livingston Seagull had once
said that the bond that links your true
family is not one of blood but of
respect and joy in each other’s life if
you take a moment and deeply analyze
these very words you may change the way
you view your life or even your
lifestyle for the most important thing
we can obtain on our time on earth is
the love and joy of others we call
family through the past couple months
through many research and my own
personal experience I have become
incredibly informed on the importance of
family bonding and how by helping
another family it may impact you in a
way that you’ve never ever imagined when
one hears the words family bonding many
things rush through their minds however
the true definition is a meaningful time
designated to your family this does not
mean a simple yes-or-no conversation a
day it means that you actually take the
time to participate and communicate in
events with your loved ones when this
time is taken out of your day you will
see how affect your life in multiple
ways there are five main ways bonding
with loved ones impacts life to begin
with families learn to listen and work
well together in certain situations when
you know that you have a family member
to talk to you about any problem that
comes your way they will help you be
able to take a step back take a breath
get a look from a different perspective
and move forward simply just by
listening about family members needs
will help you will help families come
together secondly the second way family
to get together NIST
parents model expected behavior and
Society for kids to follow saying please
and thank you respecting others when you
talk to them and being able to stay calm
and chaotic matters are only a couple
ways of how parents act in society so
their kids grow up to the same this
affects both the adults and children
because adults act better in society and
their children grow up to do the same
the Third Way family bonding impacts
life as family members feel important
and that you want to spend time with
them lots of times during a child’s
teenage years the parents usually feel
neglected because their child has all
these plans where the parents are not
involved this could also be reversed
when the adults have many plans due to
work or social responsibilities with
acquaintances or employees so it’s very
important for the teenager and/or the
and or the adults sometimes say it’s
family night the fourth way is
communications between loved ones helps
impact their bonding when a family
members can communicate with each other
a mutual understanding is created and
that means that they can understand
where they’re coming from in certain
situations when they have mutual
understanding there are less arguments
in the household and when I think we can
all agree that when there are less
arguments in the household a more happy
and stress-free environment is created
finally out of all five in my opinion
the fifth is the most important because
families create a neutral respect when a
family members have a mutual respect any
incident or challenge that comes their
way we much more enjoyable to go through
while also maintaining that strong
family togetherness which is what family
bonding is really all about so now that
you understand the five main
ways of family bonding let’s now look at
how we can achieve them the obvious way
is to talk to your family members daily
in some ways you can achieve this our
outdoor activities family movie nights
monumental places or even just family
vacations or family dinners really the
list goes on and on so for this year
from my experience the main thing I
focused on was a family project that
would just be my family and it was
long-term so we could focus on it
together I’ve always known that some
time in my life I had wanted to do a
project on helping others however when I
finally got this opportunity I had no
idea how much it would impact my life in
the long run here’s what I did my family
and I joined a charity called chemo
angels what this charity does it is
assigns a cancer patient to anyone that
joins kind of like you got paired up
with a buddy or partner in school the
chemo angel is supposed to send letters
and a small toy each week to their
patient to help brighten their days you
can receive anyone from 2 to 80 years
old for my family it took a while to be
paired up with the patient but it was
far worth the wait we had been assigned
a three year old named Connor a 3 year
old with cancer I had the opportunity to
brighten a toddler’s day who should
already be on the playground or happy
playing with his toy dinosaurs on the
floor while his mom’s making dinner in
the kitchen my family had that chance to
put a smile on this little boy’s face
the type of cancer Connor has is acute
lymphoblastic leukemia also known as
áall which means that he has too many
immature white blood cells in his bone
marrow kind of like if you have too many
immature students in a classroom things
would be very chaotic and go out of
control it would just not be good but on
a more serious note about 3,000 people
in the u.s. under the age of 20 are
found to have a ll each year
through chemo angels my entire family was connected to Connor they had sent
was connected to Connor they had sent just a small biography about his likes
just a small biography about his likes and dislikes and a little bit about his
and dislikes and a little bit about his family so for the past year we have been
family so for the past year we have been sending him letters on Brite
sending him letters on Brite construction paper and every cut-set a
construction paper and every cut-set a toy as you can see for one of my letters
toy as you can see for one of my letters I had written to him about Valentine’s
I had written to him about Valentine’s Day since it was occurring that week my
Day since it was occurring that week my family had also given him a larger
family had also given him a larger present than normal since in his
present than normal since in his biography it said that he loves spending
biography it said that he loves spending holidays with his family so for the past
holidays with his family so for the past seven ish months we have been doing this
seven ish months we have been doing this for Connor and in the beginning what was
for Connor and in the beginning what was going on in my mind was what is he
going on in my mind was what is he thinking about our letters what is he
thinking about our letters what is he like is his health progressing because
like is his health progressing because even though we’ve never met nor seen
even though we’ve never met nor seen this little boy before my family and I
this little boy before my family and I had become emotionally attached to him
had become emotionally attached to him the point of chemo angels is to help
the point of chemo angels is to help others get through a horrible illness
others get through a horrible illness however in the long run you would never
however in the long run you would never expect the impact it could change on
expect the impact it could change on your life so time passes by and one day
your life so time passes by and one day and our mail we received a letter from
and our mail we received a letter from Connor we received a letter and let me
Connor we received a letter and let me tell you as soon as I saw this letter my
tell you as soon as I saw this letter my heart melted it was at this point in
heart melted it was at this point in time where I truly understood how much I
time where I truly understood how much I was actually impacting this little boy’s
was actually impacting this little boy’s life but my family wasn’t just changing
life but my family wasn’t just changing his life we were impacting the hopes and
his life we were impacting the hopes and joys of his brother his mom and his dad
joys of his brother his mom and his dad this is the point where I really said to
this is the point where I really said to myself wow this is actually happening at
myself wow this is actually happening at the bottom of the letter I had saw that
the bottom of the letter I had saw that it had Connors Facebook account called a
it had Connors Facebook account called a cure for Connor so I went on the
cure for Connor so I went on the Facebook account and the first thing I
Facebook account and the first thing I saw was a picture of Connor playing with
saw was a picture of Connor playing with one of our toys my family gave him and
one of our toys my family gave him and one of my family’s letters this just
one of my family’s letters this just made my month it was I just couldn’t
made my month it was I just couldn’t believe this in the beginning of April
believe this in the beginning of April when my family
when my family when on a spring break trip I looked
when on a spring break trip I looked over my shoulder and I saw my mom
over my shoulder and I saw my mom texting with Connors dad and I just see
texting with Connors dad and I just see these really long paragraphs because you
these really long paragraphs because you could just tell they were so intrigued
could just tell they were so intrigued to talk to each other about Connors
to talk to each other about Connors experience and how their family was
experience and how their family was holding up then about two weeks ago we
holding up then about two weeks ago we received a second very heartwarming
received a second very heartwarming letter from Connor that contained two
letter from Connor that contained two bracelets one for me and one for my
bracelets one for me and one for my sister on the bracelet it said a cure
sister on the bracelet it said a cure for Connor I wear everywhere I go in
for Connor I wear everywhere I go in this letter I could really deeply
this letter I could really deeply interpret how much my family husband
interpret how much my family husband impacting their lives just from a simple
impacting their lives just from a simple act of kindness each week I’d also
act of kindness each week I’d also realized so whenever my family would go
realized so whenever my family would go out to dinner one of the topics of
out to dinner one of the topics of conversations would be what are we
conversations would be what are we giving her this week or has anyone
giving her this week or has anyone checked Connors Facebook account to see
checked Connors Facebook account to see how he’s doing what I mean by this is it
how he’s doing what I mean by this is it started turning into a daily routine for
started turning into a daily routine for my family and then a light bulb went off
my family and then a light bulb went off I realized we weren’t just impacting
I realized we weren’t just impacting Connors family Connors family was
Connors family Connors family was influencing us just as much these past
influencing us just as much these past few months during this experience I’ve
few months during this experience I’ve never felt closer to my family than I
never felt closer to my family than I have ever in my life especially during
have ever in my life especially during my spring break trip it was the best I
my spring break trip it was the best I could recall I will never forget the
could recall I will never forget the laughs and memories of that trip simply
laughs and memories of that trip simply just by sharing our lives with another
just by sharing our lives with another family in need this bond that I had
family in need this bond that I had created my family is something I
created my family is something I wouldn’t change for the world
wouldn’t change for the world all it takes simply just by listening
all it takes simply just by listening communicating respecting each other
communicating respecting each other creates a model of expected behaviors
creates a model of expected behaviors and a family bond really all it takes is
and a family bond really all it takes is a simple conversation a day a family
a simple conversation a day a family project or maybe even a spring break
project or maybe even a spring break trip to create that home feeling of what
trip to create that home feeling of what we call a family in my case while I had
we call a family in my case while I had known from the very big
known from the very big when I started at Kimo angel said I was
when I started at Kimo angel said I was going to impact this little boy’s life I
going to impact this little boy’s life I had no clue that in the long run it
had no clue that in the long run it wouldn’t change my life just as much the
wouldn’t change my life just as much the main thing that I’ve learned from this
main thing that I’ve learned from this experience is you need to bond and
experience is you need to bond and connect with your family members because
connect with your family members because you never know when they could leave
you never know when they could leave your life take every moment and memory
your life take every moment and memory with them and the present to heart even
with them and the present to heart even if it’s just about listening about their
if it’s just about listening about their day so next time one of your family
day so next time one of your family members say how was your day don’t use
members say how was your day don’t use the words good or great make an effort
the words good or great make an effort talk to them about your highs or lows or
talk to them about your highs or lows or just something that popped out to you to
just something that popped out to you to keep the conversation going
keep the conversation going now think about one event from today
now think about one event from today that you feel is worth sharing when you
that you feel is worth sharing when you go home tonight talk to your family
go home tonight talk to your family about it and see where the conversation
about it and see where the conversation takes you thank you so if you wanna
takes you thank you so if you wanna donate to Connors chemo funds this is
donate to Connors chemo funds this is his picture of his Facebook account you
his picture of his Facebook account you could go to his Facebook account it’s
could go to his Facebook account it’s just a cure for Connor but really every
just a cure for Connor but really every dollar helps I mean look at that little
dollar helps I mean look at that little boy’s face is so cute so thank you so
boy’s face is so cute so thank you so much and yeah okay
much and yeah okay [Applause]
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