I want to share a notion with you all
here today and that notion is that your
best life the version where you see
yourself living successfully in terms of
health wealth love is on the other side
of failure I’m gonna explain why in a
second I’m an actor I act for a living
that’s how I make my money and I wasn’t
very proud to say this a very long time
ago in fact it got so bad that sometimes
my parents friends would come over and
they’d ask me so what do you want to do
when you finish school and I would say
something to do with politics and acting
and it disheartened me when they all
were receptive to the political part and
completely disregarded the acting part
and said oh you have a politician in the
family good for you guys it did nothing
for my confidence I moved around schools
a lot I went from an 8 for 4 system to
an American international system to a
British system to again another British
system school with a different school
year and through all that moving I felt
like I lost my place I was doing a lot
of catching up I worked really really
hard at being average I would move to a
new school and the curriculum I had
learned in previous school was
irrelevant they were learning things in
a different way and I completely didn’t
understand and I was always catching up
that was my story so my parents I went
to boarding school I would go home and
they would say so what are your grades
let’s see your grades and I they would
see a sea of be letters on a piece of
paper letters that didn’t reflect how
much effort I thought I put I would put
I would see a sea and I thought I put a
plus effort to get that sea so with all
that moving around school became about
social survival for me
you’re growing through puberty you know
you like boys and and the popular girls
the nerdy girls the losers the it was
just a social survival mess for me and
that was my experience so studying fell
short when he came to academics I didn’t
do so well fast forward to my a-levels
I came here to Bourke house and I ran
for house captain reluctantly and I was
nominated and that sort of started my
leadership journey the journey where I
thought oh actually I do have something
to bring to the table so I was living in
this weird ironic place where I was
succeeding in terms of leadership and I
was house captain and I was doing round
square and I was failing academically I
realised I had a really bad problem with
failure when I went to see a guidance
counselor at one of the schools that I
went to and she told me she I entered
her office and she told me how are you I
said I’m good
and she said what brings you here today
I don’t know if you’ve ever been to a
guidance counselor’s office but they’re
often there’s tone is very somber and I
said I just failed a math test and I
don’t know I just feel like I’m failing
and I started telling her my life story
and I completely started crying and I
said I’m feeling so much pressure to
succeed and do well and it’s not like
I’m not trying but there was a
disconnect between what I would bring
home and the way that I came home so my
parents would see one thing I felt a
different thing so failure every time I
failed every test I failed I would
recede into a corner
I would slowly disappear and I would say
I’m not good enough I’m not good enough
I
not good enough the guidance counselor
then told me I need to continue and
follow up and do more sessions and I
told her no thank you
and she gave me some recommendations for
when I go home and I took that letter
and I ripped it up outside her door and
I threw in the trash and I was like I
would never hear thank you and so I’m in
my a-levels I’m not doing well
academically it comes time for my exams
my final a level exams and I got the
week my exams were starting I got a
rejection letter from every single
University that I had applied to every
single one the week my exams are
starting and I thought this is the
reason I doing my exams so that I do go
to college and I do move on with my life
but that seems like it’s not gonna
happen for me and for a very long time I
I didn’t have it in me to wake up I
didn’t have it in me to get up and go
out but go about my day and come to
school and listen to about how all my
colleagues were getting into this
University and this university and how
they were on standby for this university
and I had nothing and so I gathered
myself and I came and I wrote my exams
but I was already defeated mentally
before I even picked up my pen before
the examiner said start I had failed I
was I had checked out and I said well
this is the end of the road for me but
that wasn’t the case so I finished my
exams and I went home and luckily
because of my leadership and how well I
did in terms of my leadership skills and
my encouragement that I received from
the teachers here I was nominated for
people-to-people program that I took and
I went for theatre film and television
in California and I could not believe
that I had bought so many lies about
myself
my capabilities and about failure in
general I met him I met a man whose job
it was to stand in line he stood in line
and got paid and that’s how he paid his
bills and I said to myself you can be
anything it doesn’t matter if you pass
or you fail your efforts will always be
met at the end of it so I’m not telling
you go and fail your exams I’m telling
you if you try and you don’t do well
it’s okay there is a life after it your
best life in fact I would venture to say
because you had to pick yourself up and
get creative with how you wanted to
succeed I was the weirdest failure
because I would fail but I would still
think I was going to get all this money
and I was gonna be so successful and I
was still gonna be an actor in Hollywood
and I was still gonna do what I wanted
to do but I just didn’t know how I was
gonna get there because I was currently
failing so the vision I had wasn’t taken
away from me and that’s the message I
want to share with you all here today is
that you can fail but you can grow from
that feat failure so fail fast and get
it out of the way so that you stop
taking it personal as a personal attack
on your character because that’s not the
case that’s not what it’s there for it’s
there to teach you to pick yourself up
and to move forward thank you
you
[Applause]
here today and that notion is that your
best life the version where you see
yourself living successfully in terms of
health wealth love is on the other side
of failure I’m gonna explain why in a
second I’m an actor I act for a living
that’s how I make my money and I wasn’t
very proud to say this a very long time
ago in fact it got so bad that sometimes
my parents friends would come over and
they’d ask me so what do you want to do
when you finish school and I would say
something to do with politics and acting
and it disheartened me when they all
were receptive to the political part and
completely disregarded the acting part
and said oh you have a politician in the
family good for you guys it did nothing
for my confidence I moved around schools
a lot I went from an 8 for 4 system to
an American international system to a
British system to again another British
system school with a different school
year and through all that moving I felt
like I lost my place I was doing a lot
of catching up I worked really really
hard at being average I would move to a
new school and the curriculum I had
learned in previous school was
irrelevant they were learning things in
a different way and I completely didn’t
understand and I was always catching up
that was my story so my parents I went
to boarding school I would go home and
they would say so what are your grades
let’s see your grades and I they would
see a sea of be letters on a piece of
paper letters that didn’t reflect how
much effort I thought I put I would put
I would see a sea and I thought I put a
plus effort to get that sea so with all
that moving around school became about
social survival for me
you’re growing through puberty you know
you like boys and and the popular girls
the nerdy girls the losers the it was
just a social survival mess for me and
that was my experience so studying fell
short when he came to academics I didn’t
do so well fast forward to my a-levels
I came here to Bourke house and I ran
for house captain reluctantly and I was
nominated and that sort of started my
leadership journey the journey where I
thought oh actually I do have something
to bring to the table so I was living in
this weird ironic place where I was
succeeding in terms of leadership and I
was house captain and I was doing round
square and I was failing academically I
realised I had a really bad problem with
failure when I went to see a guidance
counselor at one of the schools that I
went to and she told me she I entered
her office and she told me how are you I
said I’m good
and she said what brings you here today
I don’t know if you’ve ever been to a
guidance counselor’s office but they’re
often there’s tone is very somber and I
said I just failed a math test and I
don’t know I just feel like I’m failing
and I started telling her my life story
and I completely started crying and I
said I’m feeling so much pressure to
succeed and do well and it’s not like
I’m not trying but there was a
disconnect between what I would bring
home and the way that I came home so my
parents would see one thing I felt a
different thing so failure every time I
failed every test I failed I would
recede into a corner
I would slowly disappear and I would say
I’m not good enough I’m not good enough
I
not good enough the guidance counselor
then told me I need to continue and
follow up and do more sessions and I
told her no thank you
and she gave me some recommendations for
when I go home and I took that letter
and I ripped it up outside her door and
I threw in the trash and I was like I
would never hear thank you and so I’m in
my a-levels I’m not doing well
academically it comes time for my exams
my final a level exams and I got the
week my exams were starting I got a
rejection letter from every single
University that I had applied to every
single one the week my exams are
starting and I thought this is the
reason I doing my exams so that I do go
to college and I do move on with my life
but that seems like it’s not gonna
happen for me and for a very long time I
I didn’t have it in me to wake up I
didn’t have it in me to get up and go
out but go about my day and come to
school and listen to about how all my
colleagues were getting into this
University and this university and how
they were on standby for this university
and I had nothing and so I gathered
myself and I came and I wrote my exams
but I was already defeated mentally
before I even picked up my pen before
the examiner said start I had failed I
was I had checked out and I said well
this is the end of the road for me but
that wasn’t the case so I finished my
exams and I went home and luckily
because of my leadership and how well I
did in terms of my leadership skills and
my encouragement that I received from
the teachers here I was nominated for
people-to-people program that I took and
I went for theatre film and television
in California and I could not believe
that I had bought so many lies about
myself
my capabilities and about failure in
general I met him I met a man whose job
it was to stand in line he stood in line
and got paid and that’s how he paid his
bills and I said to myself you can be
anything it doesn’t matter if you pass
or you fail your efforts will always be
met at the end of it so I’m not telling
you go and fail your exams I’m telling
you if you try and you don’t do well
it’s okay there is a life after it your
best life in fact I would venture to say
because you had to pick yourself up and
get creative with how you wanted to
succeed I was the weirdest failure
because I would fail but I would still
think I was going to get all this money
and I was gonna be so successful and I
was still gonna be an actor in Hollywood
and I was still gonna do what I wanted
to do but I just didn’t know how I was
gonna get there because I was currently
failing so the vision I had wasn’t taken
away from me and that’s the message I
want to share with you all here today is
that you can fail but you can grow from
that feat failure so fail fast and get
it out of the way so that you stop
taking it personal as a personal attack
on your character because that’s not the
case that’s not what it’s there for it’s
there to teach you to pick yourself up
and to move forward thank you
you
[Applause]
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