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Facades; Succumb or Overcome? | Hannah Bondalo | TEDxYouth@UCVTS


what does a mirror show you when you

look into it does it display a genuinely

nice person who follows the rules and

regulations of society does it reflect

upon the disappearing innocence as you

lie to your parents and friends does it

show a smile crying for help because of

a deeper sadness in your life or maybe

you’re just thinking about how you look

like a whole snack during my early

American literature class sophomore year

my substitute teacher often did a type

of poetry of the day activity in order

to further analyze a poem structure or

meaning one day our class was given a

title we were the masks by Paul Laurence

Dunbar now the poem displays how we you

to use false personas whether the

intention is to lie or perhaps for other

personal issues the poem begins with we

were the mask that grins and lies it

hides our cheeks and shades our eyes

raise your hand if you have ever lied

before if you’re not raising your hand

you’re probably lying to yourself right

now does this not perfectly show how we

typically present ourselves in front of

others on a day to day basis

constantly we lie and it becomes so

prominent that we forget who we are now

when I first read the poem I couldn’t

help but think about the mask

featuring Jim Carrey for those who

haven’t seen it it’s about this regular

banker who discovers his magical green

mask and it turns into this vivid

spontaneous being now trouble starts to

stir once you I was a bank and even more

trouble as cause because the creator’s

decided to make a sequel but the

philosophy of how and why we were our

own masks fascinated me I laid in bed

later that night thinking about how many

times the people around me have lied to

me people I thought were caring in kind

turned out to be the same people who

backs out one another and gossip behind

each other’s backs it was like watching

a rerun of Mean Girls as high schoolers

were tearing each other apart

it was quite the spectacle to see

friendships and Trust ruined in just one

school day and this even applies to

adults as well

celebrities and role models that we look

up to in this modern society get caught

up in all of the deception gossip and

lies

do you guys know people magazines or Us

Weekly magazines

fun fact that covers a viewers weekly

are about 35% accurate and this even

applies to family as well

the amount of times I’ve heard a family

member say something like Nancy hi how

are you how are the kids I love what

you’ve done with your hair and then

later saying oh my god I hate her so

much

I cannot stand her reality or so proper

Oh wash the world be over wise and

counting all our tears in sighs nay let

them only see us while we were the masks

sometimes we were masks to hide our

emotional feelings growing up we

question everything from religion to

education to relationships what do I

want to do with my life why am I still

friends with this person oh my god does

that boy even like me what’s the meaning

of life it reminds me of this video that

I saw online it starts with this ceramic

boy who wakes up all sad and depressed

he goes to his bathroom mirror and looks

at himself he takes out a mask that

looks exactly like him but with a happy

smile then he continues on with a

regular school day this includes getting

bullied in class not talking because

he’s too shy and reserved having no

friends to sit with at lunch and then he

goes home and he’s welcomed by the abuse

of his father and the constant screaming

and yelling of his parents later that

night he goes back into this bathroom

mirror again and he looks at himself he

takes off the mask and what is left is

cracks and missing pieces completely

broken with all these roaming and

unanswerable questions that we have in

our lives sometimes we do need a mask

because we can’t relay these feelings in

front of other people the problem is

when we take so much time that we lose

ourselves and we forget the types of

people that we want to become we smile

but oh great Chrysler cries to the our

tortured souls our eyes but besides

using masks to cover our self-doubts we

wear multiple masks in general if a

friend gives you a terrible birthday

present you’re not going to say that you

hate

get right in front of them you take it

politely and say thank you and perhaps

throw it out later on but the point is

that you’re doing it for the sake of

your friends feelings likewise you

aren’t going to teach someone how to

shoot a basketball during Cal class or

crack jokes during a funeral service

there are times and places to be

informal and formal including how you

talk and present yourself and depending

on how you care about behaviors social

norms and manners wearing different

types of masks displays how many

different kinds of personalities you can

create and these masks aren’t completely

immoral as you said sometimes they take

over our initial values and we forget

who we are well then it’s easy to ask

then why can’t we just be our genuine

selves we are only capable of being our

true selves if we are kept kept in a

place of pure isolation a place where no

person or thing can shape or influence

you but constantly we are surrounded by

all these influences whether it be with

parents friends family education

religion environment it’s quite

impossible to say that we can escape the

world and say that our true self is

based upon pure personal choices your

true self is based upon the values and

morals of the people that you meet and

deciding how you wanted to react to

certain situations comes from what you

learned which is kept in your

unconscious mind Sigmund Freud famous

philosopher he believed that the human

mind contained in unconscious and

conscious part the conscious mind

contains thoughts feelings and ideas

that are easily accessible because of

our awareness of the world while the

unconscious mind contains the

inaccessible knowledge that drives the

behavior of our personality such as the

morals that a parent or guardian teaches

you when you’re younger so the direct

answer is that none of us have a true

self our entities are a living facade

from the day we are born each of us are

impressionable and like said we have the

sphere of influence that molds and

shapes our personality and with this

we can see that the Contin conscious

mind is the thing that drives our

personality and behavior we don’t recall

the instances of when our parents first

speaks to us or teaches us how to eat or

speak because they’re kept in the

unconscious mind they’re placed into a

part of our brain that becomes the basis

of how we make decisions or react this

is why lying adapting and conforming are

all fundamental principles that travel

from the conscious part of our mind to

the unconscious each one of this in this

room is living in an inception of

facades all these influences in our

lives

build up to be what is called our true

self and part of our human nature every

day we continue to mold and shape our

personality and our own entities to our

ideal likings Paul Laurence Dunbar spomb

ends with we wear the mask and we do

wear the mask because it shapes us

it creates our entities and it will

leave an influence on the world to

become wearing a mask can be ugly if you

have the mindset that it’s only evil

that it can suppress you from living a

lifestyle you want but good moral values

being passionate about different types

of subjects that can lead you to living

a better life

accept that each of us live in the

facades of ourselves because we indeed

wear the mask so what will you make of

your mask what will you see in your

reflection thank you [Applause]

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