[Applause]
imagine that you are a divorced single
parent struggling to make ends meet
despite working a full-time job you are
in a place where you don’t have any
family and limited social supports
you’re feeling the pressure of taking
care of your child paying your rent
paying for and maintaining your vehicle
you’re feeling overwhelmed with all the
responsibilities you feel alone it’s
like the walls are closing in it’s as if
there’s no light at the end of the
tunnel every time you think you’re
moving forward something happens to set
you back you get a raise at work and
then your rent goes up you think you
have an opportunity to save some money
and your tire blows out the weight of it
all is so much that you just want it to
go away
your worst days are filled with
irritation frustration and anger that
was me at 25 years old I was living in a
dark place and I could not figure out
what was going wrong in my life
I had no positive ways to deal with the
circumstances that were going on in my
life and affecting my situation I cannot
comprehend how my emotions were
affecting me mentally and physically
emotions affect brain function in that
they contribute to the responses to
demands and opportunities as well as
they affect bodily functions and mental
processes the workings of the brain or
the core effect are the mental responses
to positive and negative stimuli when
intense negative core epic can result in
detrimental consequence
such as chronic physical health
conditions harmful coping mechanisms
immune deficiencies depression anxiety
and higher rates of mortality
I had aches every week whether it was a
headache
a backache a stomachache I also develop
ailments and other parts of my body like
joint pain I smoked cigarettes and drink
alcohol daily this is how I dealt with
my problems
positive koreff echt increases emotional
well-being especially during life
transitions and periods of high stress
the negative things though are more
harmful in that the negativity
infiltrates all areas of your life I was
unhappy at work I was unhappy at home
there weren’t any places where I could
find joy the psychological physiological
and behavioral responses were in
correlation with my core effect this
court effect is connected to several
other brain functions emotions influence
health by informing about wellness
behaviors attitudes and decisions when
stress reaches a certain level the
executive functioning of the brain
transitions to the primitive functioning
of the brain and when that happens over
a long period of time the brain begins
to shrink and not function as well when
this occurs thoughts become irrational
thinking becomes clouded and
decision-making ability diminishes it
was like I was operating in a fog most
days I thought I was making good logical
decisions for my life but I wasn’t I
wasn’t because I couldn’t do to my
diminished brain functioning stress is a
prevalent factor in all mental and
physical processes and triggers the
body’s fight or flight response
as the body experiences extreme stress
emotions elevate out of control
resulting in the body being in a
constant state of fight-or-flight this
heightened level of stress accelerates
the generation of the cortisol hormone
this is what was happening to me
cortisol helps regulate blood pressure
cardiovascular functioning and aiding
the body to efficiently metabolize
carbohydrates fats and proteins
regulated and optimal levels of cortisol
assist the body in maintaining balance
elevated cortisol levels for an extended
period of time can cause weight gain
especially around the waist and hips and
also result in suppression of the immune
system decreasing of sexual drive and
functioning as well as increasing blood
pressure and sugar levels during that
time I was obese I was borderline
diabetic and I was ill all the time I’m
always maxed out my sick days at work
and eventually started using some of my
vacation days as well my high cortisol
levels were affecting my emotional
response is causing dysregulation due to
my low brain functioning low brain
functioning affects perception
perception is correlated with beliefs
and supposed locus of control
faulty perception may lead to
automatically thinking the worse which
is driven by pessimism pessimism is
common in emotional dysregulation I had
pessimistic perception this meant that I
believed that things were always
happening to me and the world was
working against me I did not consider
what I was doing to affect my life I
believed that problems and situations
were worse than what they actually were
I believed life events were controlled
by others I had not really considered
what I could do for myself
emotions are critical factors of current
and future behavior thus the negative
perceptions resulted in abnormal
behavior such as overreacting being
overly irritated and frustrated and
unfavorable treatment of others emotions
are invoked sometimes subconsciously
there were days I would wake up and I
was instantly irritated frustrated and
angry I hadn’t done anything I had
simply opened my eyes hadn’t even got
out of bed yet on the other hand there
were days in which I was exhausted
because my body was in such a state of
distress that I could not sleep healthy
perception leads to logical rational and
quality decision-making and uses emotion
as a collaborative part of making
choices good decision-making includes
considering the emotional part of the
outcome poor decision-making does not
consider emotional outcomes prior to
deciding there is a chasm that is
created by the conflict of emotion and
considering alternatives for rational
decision-making I made decisions based
on what I felt like if I felt like doing
it it got done if I didn’t feel like it
it didn’t matter how important it was I
didn’t do it it didn’t get done and I
didn’t care
there were not there was not any
forethought as to what the consequences
of my decisions would be reconciling
this division can be achieved by pursuit
of good emotional well-being my emotions
were dictating my actions effective
management of emotional health and
well-being allows for higher brain
functioning minimizing the effects of
fight-or-flight
more often than not I was bothered by
everyone and everything including my
child although I felt bad I could not
control my attitude or my behaviors
things get out of control mentally and
physically
why because emotions lie to us create
lapses in judgment calls faulty
decision-making and impede healthy
bodily functioning and adversely affect
behavior and relationships stress and
emotional dysregulation can lead to a
vicious cycle that needs to be
consciously broken if happiness
contentment and emotional balance are to
be achieved so I had to do something I
had to figure out what was going to
happen in my life I could keep going
down the road I was going or I could try
and do something different hoping for a
different result so I had to do some
things I had to take a hard look at my
situation I mean really look at where I
was and make an honest assessment of my
life up to that point looking at the
good the bad and ugly I had to compare
where I was to where I want it to be
I needed to identify what steps I need
it to implement I connected with a
professional who would be honest with me
and hold me accountable I needed to be
more present and intentional in my
parenting I had to select and reach out
to safe people in my family and circle
of friends I emphasize the word safe
because not everyone is in a position to
hold your emotions and your deep dark
secrets in the way that you would like
them to I had to choose to get
uncomfortable with my status quo with
now I would like you to imagine that you
are living what you have determined to
be the good life you are mentally and
physically healthy you are educated at
the level you want to be you have
obtained a good job and are making a
name for yourself you are growing in
your career field you are partnered or
married and have a thriving relationship
you live in a nice house in a desirable
neighborhood you have supportive friends
and a great family you have children you
adore who attend good schools all in all
your life is exactly as you wanted it to
be and you are happy thank you [Applause]
imagine that you are a divorced single
parent struggling to make ends meet
despite working a full-time job you are
in a place where you don’t have any
family and limited social supports
you’re feeling the pressure of taking
care of your child paying your rent
paying for and maintaining your vehicle
you’re feeling overwhelmed with all the
responsibilities you feel alone it’s
like the walls are closing in it’s as if
there’s no light at the end of the
tunnel every time you think you’re
moving forward something happens to set
you back you get a raise at work and
then your rent goes up you think you
have an opportunity to save some money
and your tire blows out the weight of it
all is so much that you just want it to
go away
your worst days are filled with
irritation frustration and anger that
was me at 25 years old I was living in a
dark place and I could not figure out
what was going wrong in my life
I had no positive ways to deal with the
circumstances that were going on in my
life and affecting my situation I cannot
comprehend how my emotions were
affecting me mentally and physically
emotions affect brain function in that
they contribute to the responses to
demands and opportunities as well as
they affect bodily functions and mental
processes the workings of the brain or
the core effect are the mental responses
to positive and negative stimuli when
intense negative core epic can result in
detrimental consequence
such as chronic physical health
conditions harmful coping mechanisms
immune deficiencies depression anxiety
and higher rates of mortality
I had aches every week whether it was a
headache
a backache a stomachache I also develop
ailments and other parts of my body like
joint pain I smoked cigarettes and drink
alcohol daily this is how I dealt with
my problems
positive koreff echt increases emotional
well-being especially during life
transitions and periods of high stress
the negative things though are more
harmful in that the negativity
infiltrates all areas of your life I was
unhappy at work I was unhappy at home
there weren’t any places where I could
find joy the psychological physiological
and behavioral responses were in
correlation with my core effect this
court effect is connected to several
other brain functions emotions influence
health by informing about wellness
behaviors attitudes and decisions when
stress reaches a certain level the
executive functioning of the brain
transitions to the primitive functioning
of the brain and when that happens over
a long period of time the brain begins
to shrink and not function as well when
this occurs thoughts become irrational
thinking becomes clouded and
decision-making ability diminishes it
was like I was operating in a fog most
days I thought I was making good logical
decisions for my life but I wasn’t I
wasn’t because I couldn’t do to my
diminished brain functioning stress is a
prevalent factor in all mental and
physical processes and triggers the
body’s fight or flight response
as the body experiences extreme stress
emotions elevate out of control
resulting in the body being in a
constant state of fight-or-flight this
heightened level of stress accelerates
the generation of the cortisol hormone
this is what was happening to me
cortisol helps regulate blood pressure
cardiovascular functioning and aiding
the body to efficiently metabolize
carbohydrates fats and proteins
regulated and optimal levels of cortisol
assist the body in maintaining balance
elevated cortisol levels for an extended
period of time can cause weight gain
especially around the waist and hips and
also result in suppression of the immune
system decreasing of sexual drive and
functioning as well as increasing blood
pressure and sugar levels during that
time I was obese I was borderline
diabetic and I was ill all the time I’m
always maxed out my sick days at work
and eventually started using some of my
vacation days as well my high cortisol
levels were affecting my emotional
response is causing dysregulation due to
my low brain functioning low brain
functioning affects perception
perception is correlated with beliefs
and supposed locus of control
faulty perception may lead to
automatically thinking the worse which
is driven by pessimism pessimism is
common in emotional dysregulation I had
pessimistic perception this meant that I
believed that things were always
happening to me and the world was
working against me I did not consider
what I was doing to affect my life I
believed that problems and situations
were worse than what they actually were
I believed life events were controlled
by others I had not really considered
what I could do for myself
emotions are critical factors of current
and future behavior thus the negative
perceptions resulted in abnormal
behavior such as overreacting being
overly irritated and frustrated and
unfavorable treatment of others emotions
are invoked sometimes subconsciously
there were days I would wake up and I
was instantly irritated frustrated and
angry I hadn’t done anything I had
simply opened my eyes hadn’t even got
out of bed yet on the other hand there
were days in which I was exhausted
because my body was in such a state of
distress that I could not sleep healthy
perception leads to logical rational and
quality decision-making and uses emotion
as a collaborative part of making
choices good decision-making includes
considering the emotional part of the
outcome poor decision-making does not
consider emotional outcomes prior to
deciding there is a chasm that is
created by the conflict of emotion and
considering alternatives for rational
decision-making I made decisions based
on what I felt like if I felt like doing
it it got done if I didn’t feel like it
it didn’t matter how important it was I
didn’t do it it didn’t get done and I
didn’t care
there were not there was not any
forethought as to what the consequences
of my decisions would be reconciling
this division can be achieved by pursuit
of good emotional well-being my emotions
were dictating my actions effective
management of emotional health and
well-being allows for higher brain
functioning minimizing the effects of
fight-or-flight
more often than not I was bothered by
everyone and everything including my
child although I felt bad I could not
control my attitude or my behaviors
things get out of control mentally and
physically
why because emotions lie to us create
lapses in judgment calls faulty
decision-making and impede healthy
bodily functioning and adversely affect
behavior and relationships stress and
emotional dysregulation can lead to a
vicious cycle that needs to be
consciously broken if happiness
contentment and emotional balance are to
be achieved so I had to do something I
had to figure out what was going to
happen in my life I could keep going
down the road I was going or I could try
and do something different hoping for a
different result so I had to do some
things I had to take a hard look at my
situation I mean really look at where I
was and make an honest assessment of my
life up to that point looking at the
good the bad and ugly I had to compare
where I was to where I want it to be
I needed to identify what steps I need
it to implement I connected with a
professional who would be honest with me
and hold me accountable I needed to be
more present and intentional in my
parenting I had to select and reach out
to safe people in my family and circle
of friends I emphasize the word safe
because not everyone is in a position to
hold your emotions and your deep dark
secrets in the way that you would like
them to I had to choose to get
uncomfortable with my status quo with
now I would like you to imagine that you
are living what you have determined to
be the good life you are mentally and
physically healthy you are educated at
the level you want to be you have
obtained a good job and are making a
name for yourself you are growing in
your career field you are partnered or
married and have a thriving relationship
you live in a nice house in a desirable
neighborhood you have supportive friends
and a great family you have children you
adore who attend good schools all in all
your life is exactly as you wanted it to
be and you are happy thank you [Applause]
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