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Eles envelheceram: E agora? | Marta Pessoa | TEDxBarraDaTijuca


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I am the result of a pathological shyness
and has a real dread speaking
public
only I accepted to come here because of a
noble cause
the first thing I thought was
have come to my place
this little robot that is present in
everywhere I can not stand
I tried to negotiate but did not will have to
leave such a aa elderly population grew
so much in recent decades that we
You have the impression that has much more
old in the world than young old age
that were once the exception is lived today
the majority and who may be very long
is 60 years old today can live up to its 90
100 years and can spend some of the text
their lives being old
this new longevity
unfortunately she comes from
difficulties of aging
after 80 years one in five
people have some type of dementia
one in four will have vision loss
and four out of five problems
hearing
Statistical dementia is alarming
every three seconds a new case arises
in the world in Brazil there are more than 2
million people with disease
alzheimer
probably everyone here knows
someone whose parents grew old and
need care and know the
difficulties that child daughter is
passing caring for an elderly is not
pushover
who goes through it knows and all it takes to
believes that most of us here will
pass so we will be part of a
growing group that does work
invisible unpaid
family caregivers the staff of this
century may well be caretaker
familiar
one day you will be one and the thing that is
brand which is no longer simple it can
to further complicate
in my case I have 63 years and I take care
my nanny who is almost 90 and lives
john in person for more than two thousand
kilometers me and I tell this
history of experience that I live
with the purpose of encouraging everyone
to see their parents began
age need care not to
panic in not to give up before
to try and now that old age round I
I like to think that younger will
turn my story and will see the
care of the older a good cause
to hug
I grew up watching my seniors
paraíba of backwoods family being
well maintained
from an early age I knew the difficulty
because he heard my mother take care of your
grandmother for years when she moved in
us after being widowed was nothing
easy but my mother had to
It helps a lot of people employed relatives
coming even the neighborhood
help it I have small talk
say daily with my great-grandmother the
hear their stories over and over as
They were sold for the first time and I
was very afraid because he knew that one day
My time would come and I did not
brothers with whom to share this
responsibility
I was an only child and one day in order
unexpected
it was my turn to look after I entered
an unknown world with no
preparation and a lot of loneliness
an adventure that I live for more than 20
years that definitely transformed
My life’s been very difficult in
beginning and at the beginning I never thought
possible get the job done
I ended up giving I had a happy childhood
normal and with zealous parents and as a
extra bonus I had my nanny
who always called for baby
completely unique person she
We arrived at my house before sunrise and
still young poor orphan undocumented
no known age and sisters that
life turned away from her and never
He managed to learn to read and write
and this brought a lot of illiteracy
insecurity for her she went to live
in our family
all that meant essential for
survival work and family
baby case never never left home
alone or for medical or for
I never travel tours she be afraid of
leave the house which was a safe haven
He never ridden a bus and get
real fear
the idea of ​​entering the real airplane
her talent was caring and like the
people
she was always babysitting for all of us and
our good always was the priority
I I left home 20 years
age and let my parents enem
here I felt so connected as the
they my life
after I left the house I followed
a normal direction was married to teach in
university
I was born in my two masters
daughters
I separated out of my john person
town to do a doctorate and out
back after you finish if not
complete and did not return not complete
good after came a new remarriage
work and a nomadic life that made me
changing city every 12 years
but I was still the daughter of parents
independent and active
there 22 years ago came the first
overturn
my father had a stroke soon after
my mother had a cancer that killed her
months later and my family than before
It was independent and had never needed
me was my dad is reduced
invalid
the baby always depended on them in
blink of an eye
I had to prepare myself to take care
from both
I stopped being an only child and spent
be one caregiver and it was not easy
I have to prepare myself and entered the
world that was completely unknown
and complete solitude
I wondered how to care at the time of
my mother everything seemed easier
now with this society and the net
Volatile structures way it was
nothing seemed to help me serve
where were the big families where’s
the helpful neighborhood all had
had only gone townhouse helplessness
this situation being alone and living
far
the most natural solution was to bring them
to live with me but before I had to
consider some aspects before
take the decision
doctors warned me that will take
Elderly place where he could have lived
a devastating impact
moreover in my case the
frequent changes of city and not
make them go through again
adaptations to top it off all
the problems I had I was in
Amid a cancer treatment
bring them to live with me gave me
fear because in the event of my death
maybe he would not be able to live
where I was seeing and had no
more to return
there was still the asylum option but to
me creating new china was
out of question
I am childless elderly are bound to
this solution is considered a
inexcusable abandonment
how I could not quit my job to do
the way back to my town
take care of them
I had to learn how to structure and me
take care of the distance and began to
five years I had to learn a lot
thing because it was in my head
how will it be this everyday as
am I going to maintain a house
province the food and cleaning
maintenance
is buying clothes remedies take them
for medical province of somewhere
how am I going to hire caregivers
and maintain a range of services as
it will be good I was gradually
learning together more with
baby was facing this challenge and
came my second separation that
my life that no longer has anything
Normal or common neighbors so
five years until it came second
twist my father died and I have already
I felt more prepared to take over the
away but still I thought
for me would be easier and better for
she bring her to live with me and
my surprise she did not leave the
my parents she considered
as his and made me promise that I would never
would get on the plane she so
feared
to leave her place as she still
some have not any she has autonomy
physical I found that I could meet the
her desire to assemble your team and me
organize I did it and went
learning
we so ten years and came to
third turn around when she already
He spent much of the 80 years and I was already in
third marriage life is not only
sadness also saw the joy came to
break it down
the fall is always the old age has changed
baby fell needed surgery was
with the hospital weeks of uti risk
death
and when he left his need care
24 hours
there’s no way now it was time to
she move in with me but as my
Life is nothing normal and the problems
walk the hills
I discovered my second cancer and there
again a fear of bringing live there
me and in the event of my death
this distance structure that had to
has mounted
back to her that now was much more
serious was a person it alone
illiterate and without relatives
so I had to think about how to make
and me because reorganize the structure
I had built could not depend
more exclusively of me could not
miss any time
and then after months of negotiation
with it can convince her to leave
to my parents’ house and live in a
apartment in the building where they lived
two of my cousins and their families
It was a success she did very well there
It was safer and I feel a whole lot
more supported and this has been so since
2013
we are living very much waiting
the fourth about-face as I
I could realize that message taking
account the distance in the different phases
I was inspired in saying that is
I take a village to raise a child
it takes a village to take care of the elderly
rather it takes a network
support
I ended up building this village and my
this support network was a network
formed with solidarity and
collaboration formed by relatives
friends neighbors medical caregivers
service providers and all products
world passing have to enter the
my network and it was she who made me
without this network would not have the job done
It has been possible network support
solidarity and collaboration
I learned to be a caregiver
family all these years
first about the importance of affection
who cares for those who like already out in
forward with much advantage
care for those who do not like to spoil
own life and said he respected the elderly
the affection I felt for baby was
always a great motivation for
face challenges when no affection
We need to create
about the value of money is obviously
I need to build a base material
the future there are numerous things that
They need to be done and no money
It is impractical
I also learned about the value of
Communication is necessary to communicate
lot with the elderly that is distant and
with your network
it is necessary that they feel you
close while away
I learned about the loneliness of those who care
single family caregiver or not
it goes through a moment of solitude
insupportable
you do not have with whom to share the burden
the responsibility of these tasks is
unthinkable
then it is usually caregivers
family members are women
It is to convince the family and bring
men to participate in this care
women are very lonely,
burdened with this task
later I learned that it takes care of
who cares for who will care will not
have a care for who cares is very
common you see the people who care
abandon their lives
forget their health do not have time
leisure do not take care of their
finances since with all their time and
as has no one to care for the caregiver
You must learn to take care of yourself
idea is not to take care of other
person cost another life and finally
learn about how technology key
It can be a great ally
thanks to technology I got
realize my dream to participate
remotely from a medical consultation with
baby
I run a company that thought is very
sensitive to the difficulties of those who take
account the distance to make a system
telepresence is a little robot who
affectionately call robot he makes me
be present in person john
along with baby with him I can go
shopping with her I can walk in
the house with her I can approach the
the dinner table knows what she is
having dinner
We can talk on the porch and she
stole and from anywhere in the world
both forgotten that the distance
separating
without this robot also I would have been
much further and farther than
I would like
and what is my message I did
care in the cause
care to 1/12 the distance could
I have defeated me but he brought me a
learning opportunity and I
I feel a better person realizing
this message I want to help find
a new form of care – lonely,
more supportive
this world where everything is ethereal and
ephemeral it is necessary to recreate the
Old culture support
I want to grow old in one of the world
older people are well maintained and the
family caregivers and supported the
old age belongs to all of us and take care
it is our obligation
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this query does not query is super
important
I have received the result of a
biopsy she was suspected of
thyroid cancer and if it were not a
robot I would have to have gone to buy
a last minute river crossing for
john person to talk to
doctor then with bold I could take
all my doubts thankfully
was not cancer does not get cancer
this family and were queries as
natural that’s me here running the
eat mobile robot
sometimes I looked down to see me
thin and white as theft
thanks
Hello
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