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“El poder de creer para crear” | Mercedes Villegas | TEDxMedellinMujeres


[Music]
Today I come to ask you not to create a
single word of what I ‘m going to say
because when he asks me
when my life changed it was not because of that
I listen but for what I
I dedicated to verify one of you are
owners of your destination
each of you own what you
today they are experimenting and each of
you have the power to make your
something mediocre miserable and sad or something
wonderful great and extraordinary
as my accent reveals me I’m costeña
I was born in a society in a culture in
a macho family where respect
from man to woman was like the
daily bread
it was normal for the man to be
unfaithful to the woman who mistreated her
psychologically and physically emotionally
It was what I always saw in my father and my
mother was what I saw in my sisters to
as they were doing they were going
having close family relationships
so how do you think it was my first
relationship if it was a relationship
machista where violence existed
violence from the verbal physical word
emotional mail and I remember that one day
crying a lot touch background
That day I got many questions
to my head and I said because I’m here
and the answer was are your beliefs is
What you have been told is what you have seen
you do not know anything different but that day
I also realized that I was there
by my own choice that nobody
had forced to be there so I
I said that if I chose to be here I
I can also choose to leave here
that’s how I took my suitcase and went to
a city that had nothing to do
with me neither with my language nor with my
culture or knew absolutely anyone
and in a time where the woman was not leaving
alone and did not go alone except this guy
from places where I did not know anyone by
course when you change a
situation so be very painful
believe me you’re going to have to face
to pain the pain of leaving that area
of comfort that of comfort has nothing
because your mind and your body like it
know what is going to happen tomorrow
no matter if you are mistreating
it does not matter if they are going to say a bad
word simply that habit is created
but I made the decision to take a step
go ahead and look at the pain in front and
tell him I’m sorry
Now it’s me who go for my dreams and
hugged after being this and I go forward
that’s how I went to a city like
london and of course they looked at me and I
they said you’re crazy how do you think you’re going to
to do that alarms began to arrive
of all kinds began to fill with
fears and the first thing they told me was
you go to london that city is full
of Muslims Muslims are
terrorists are stalkers are bad
but
and how life is so wise put me
Muslim on the road a friend
unconditional who without asking me anything
changed and became a true
procrastinator in that person who supported me
in sorrows and in those desires of
return to my country
a person who was taking mangoes to me
house so that I felt like
was my home
a person who when lost and
sad and there’s going to be a person who
he opened the doors of his house and there
I learned that one can not generalize
Then he tells me you’re going to london
God, if you speak English
I said if I speak English I say yes
yes yesh it is not said yesh it is said and it is so
There I started my way learning English
and took a step forward and said I’m going to
I learned English because they also told me
forget that when one is tiny if
they do not learn that their brain is covered
to one and there’s no way to get through
nowhere
I decided to verify it and in three months
while my Colombian friends are
they went to Colombian restaurants to talk in
Spanish among them I was going to a
cafe invites a stranger and you
He said that spoke English
Please, I just wanted to practice
I was going cinema alone because nobody wanted to go
with me and also made a fool of
many times because I was the first
I wanted to order a coffee at a bar in a
airport and it was like that in three months
while my friends had
enrolled in a year and two year class
I learned unspoken English what
he wrote and understood it perfectly and
I was able to start studying my career
administration and then many of
our beliefs told me are you going to
go to london
it’s not that those Englishmen are bad class
they are unfriendly they think they are better
family in addition or target the tourists
life put me in English on the road
with which I knew a true relationship of
couple a man who was loving tender
faithful that his family opened the doors
from his house as if I were his daughter
well they spent four years verifying
before believing
and that’s how he takes my suitcase because
It was time to return to my country and
I remember that little girl always painted a
house a number of children a husband a
dog and my husband was faithful loving
tender generous and told me not about that so
well they do not give so much but I was not the
same
so today I do not only have the house
the husband the children but also the
dog goods
you would eat that apple could
true that no
these are the apples that we eat
every time they tell us a belief and the
we integrate as our every time
We decided to believe that you can not
you can not you do not deserve
every time it does not break or we accept it
every time they make us feel scared and what
we accept
I knew that there was another kind of
apples some apples that you told me
you have limit
you can you deserve you are a woman
that does not deserve to be harmed or
battered
I decide I respected myself and decided not to
go back to eat more
those rotten apple but you know
because we eat those apples
rotten because he’s not afraid to be
different because he is not afraid to leave us
of the standard because every time we
we left the standard
they will always point us out and we will always
they are going to say what we do not like
listen well I remember that sometime my
daughter having six years tells me mom
I am very sad
There is a girl who tells me that I am ugly
that I’m not worth and every time I do
something she criticizes me and it reminded me
a person who made me believe that I
I must be ashamed my story and my
history is simply what formed me
the character that I have today and the one that has
helped to achieve every dream that
propose proposed from my heart but
that’s how I told my daughter I went to the
bathroom and I put on a kimono I put on a
bathing cap put me a pair of tennis shoes
one half of one color another of another day
I was already in my pajamas and I told him, daughter, let’s go
to accompany me says but mom for where
let’s go like this dressed like this
I told him Korda, I only ask you
trust me
we do not come to a mall
He is obviously happy as if he were
halloween and we started to walk
We toured the mall
agreement that there was a music concert
classic we enter him we eat an ice cream
and then when we got to the house she
I said daughter if you realized what happened
at the mall
some looked at us with contempt others
laughed others did not understand others approached
of all kinds of reactions there were so
my love, the only thing they want to teach you
is that it is not what other people
think is what you carry in your heart
is when you believe in yourself because that’s what
really important
what others do not belong to you but what
you have inside you if it belongs to you and
you will carry it all your life as well as today
my program has also learned from
Valuable people who have dared
not to eat the rotten apple and to
change the word failure by
opportunity people who interviewed
as lina hinestrosa a woman who
word called cancer that for many
means death she turned her into
life in hope
she turned it into positivism too
interviewed people like catalina
escobar who one day his son for a
accident is pulled from a balcony taking
barely a year and a half and this child dies
that failure or tragedy like you could
call her she turned it into a great
opportunity for thousands of children in
Latin America and today has one of the
most impressive foundations of all
Latin America
interviewed people like víctor hugo
who being a great crosby athlete
pour in a motorcycle accident
his right arm is immersed in the
depression is submerged in drug addiction
until one day he decides to choose and stand
from that bed and say I do not want to be
pity Mattino
I want to remain worthy of
admiration
this man gets up and chooses to follow
being a great athlete and today competes hand
at hand with the best in the world
he simply takes that right that
we all have the power to choose
remember women we are not our
biography are our choices not
we are our circumstances are
our decisions and daily
we can build bridges towards that
that brings us closer to our dreams that
we have to comply and we must
deserve and every day we can
destroy those bridges towards what
It does not infringe that hurts us makes
those people who come to you and
they make you feel pain
remember that you have the power to choose and
remember that you have the great power of
believe to create the laws
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