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Ecosystem of connection:How connecting two lives connects the world | Audrey Jacobs | TEDxCincinnati


I set my friend up on a blind date that
she didn’t know as a date and she was
naked
let me explain my friend Karen had come
over the night before she was finally
over her broken engagement and done at
dating the wrong guys I wanted to help
her find her true love and then the next
night at a bar I saw a stranger who I
intuitively knew was the one for her
hey are you single I’m gonna reduce you
to your wife he laughed I kept going I
know this sounds crazy but how about I
arranged for Karen your future wife to
stop by your work so you can check her
out what do you do I learned while the
mark while he was studying to be an
acupuncturist worked as a massage
therapist I had to do it yes I bought
Karen a massage and didn’t tell her it
was a naked blind date she didn’t speak
to me for six months until they got
engaged now 12 years later she’s
forgiven me and I’m proud that they are
building their dream home for their sons
and a dog you know what about you has
someone made an introduction that
changed your life maybe to a doctor that
saved you an investor in your startup or
to your soulmate when you met the person
did you feel the spark of hope and
excitement yes that spark you felt comes
from the fire that burns in our souls
yearning to connect to others the
question is have we forgotten our fire
today we’ve begun to rely on technology
to connect us
but does it really work it’s ironic the
more digital connections we have the
more disconnected we feel feeling
disconnected is such an epidemic the UK
has appointed a minister of loneliness
yes a minister of loneliness technology
is only a tool
we still need humans to light that fire
of connection so is the answer we all
become matchmakers yes why because
connecting people feeds that fire and
connects us to the disconnected world
now me I’m a master matchmaker
I love making matches I do it everywhere
on airplanes cafes the gym and even on
my own dates
well look if there’s no chemistry I’ll
say sweetheart this isn’t happening
but lucky for you I’m a matchmaker
let’s find you a better match connecting
people is my life’s work
in my own backyard I host events for
singles inserts of community
spirituality and love I call it Audrey’s
tent
named after the biblical Abraham whose
tent was open to all I love when people
find love in my home but I don’t only
match for love my motto is I got a guy
literally I know a guy or a gal for
whatever you need friends and strangers
will ask me for connections for
everything from personal trainers to
plumbers to gourmet chefs to gurus
I also guide people to find meaning in
their life and then make a match to
manifest it like when I met saw a
handsome 40-something New Yorker with a
chiseled jaw and bright green eyes he
was a successful hedge fund investor who
had retired young and moved to San Diego
to enjoy life
what do you do all day
asked I play golf and date but I want to
do more hmm you could teach so it I in
traduced him to a local Business School
professor and now Saul teaches for
finance classes and inspires hundreds of
students you see solve finding his love
of teaching is a perfect example of how
a connection changed his life and helped
him find his purpose now a year later he
returned the kindness he introduced me
to his star student Maddy and told me to
hire her as my intern I did she was
amazing and when she was graduating she
wanted to be an investment advisor I
introduced her to a colleague and she
got her dream job you see once you start
matching you become part of the
ecosystem of connection I gave to Saul
he gave to me I gave to Maddy the
connections will keep flowing in all
directions
now is there a secret to making a good
match no simply ask listen and match
I’ll ask what are your dreams and when
people answer I’ll think who can I
connect them to who can make their
dreams come true
my favorite dreamers to match our
entrepreneurs I started Papp start my
company our crowd to match entrepreneurs
with investors to back their visionary
ideas we raise money and help startups
online yet we also believe in the power
of connecting our crowd in person so
each year in jerusalem’ we host 10,000
investors and entrepreneurs from 94
countries at our global investors summit
Australia nothing beats bonding over a
big bowl of hummus it works in five
years our crowd has connected twenty
five thousand investors to 150 startups
to raise and invest 700 million
but you don’t have to be a visionary
entrepreneur to be worthy of amazing
connections like Saul you only need to
be willing to be match and make matches
look I get it it can be scary you might
be ashamed to let people know you’re
looking for love or work be brave
ask for help my first rule of life is if
you don’t ask you don’t get so let
everyone you know who or what you seek
love job customers help starting your
business and when you’re matched act
upon it right away meet the person and
always thank the matchmaker to be the
matchmaker remember the fire of
connection that burns in you you don’t
need wealth education or a big network
to be a master matchmaker like me you
only need to ask listen and match make
matches no matter what the outcome it
doesn’t matter if it works what matters
is that you cared enough to connect to
souls so start now think of someone new
you’ve met maybe today who could benefit
from meeting someone you already know
and connect them making a match will
change their life and give your life
meaning
ancient wisdom says that if you save one
life you save the world I say if you
connect two lives you connect the world
thank you you
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