talking on this issue called as critics
can it enhance personality can it be a
part of you can it define you can it
make you can it break you can it give it
to you what you want can it shows you
the path of success is it negative or
positive is it just a myth or is it a
reality for me critics has always been
apart for a woman to be in man’s world I
faced a lot of critics married for 22
years and coming up with the all
credentials criminology psychology
victimology being on a really special
police officer social activist NGO
criminal lawyer was not a easy journey
for me a mother of two Indian society
I always wanted to be looked into as a
person who could be in the home at one
corner because I’m a woman seriously I
would already talking about a gender
here
no critics enhances you
I accepted critics from the time when I
knew that they are going to be looking
up at me rather they will be looking
down at me they wanted to tell me you
can never ever stand equal in the man’s
critics whenever it knocks your door you
know what it’s bringing up it is
negative that’s what people say
it’s very negative you go outside you’ll
see a lot of people will bring it up to
you and say this is the way you dress is
this is the way you work is this is what
you do that’s all critics food critics
film critics about me about you
whenever I always to do something good
in my life my best friend used to stand
up critics you can do you will never do
so what I thought I have been the
psychologist I said that’s not possible
critics can’t break me if I have to be
successful in life if I have to be what
I want to be I have to accept critics
it’s just the same we’ll help you just
saying that help yourself by understand
critics take it in the way it is it was
very difficult
very difficult I was diagnosed with the
pituitary adenomas in 2007 it’s called
as brain tumor a brain tumor of
pituitary gland imagine a mother of two
not been asked for how you do how you do
things
marry whole family but critics never
left me coming into that life of being a
victim of your own self I had to take
myself help in every way I can and was
understanding that what to do with my
life now where I have a pituitary
adenomas where I’m standing I have a
hormonal disbalance
I have to take 16 medicines every day to
sit and stand people don’t understand
that they understand critics they didn’t
want it to see beyond me because they
want to see a flaw in me they wanted to
see how can I break a new job how can we
break her personality so that she does
not stand my disease never left me
handicapped it was a beautiful moment of
my life
it still is it’s a bomb ticking inside
me maybe one day just everybody goes but
maybe for me it’s written what I did I
said I’ll do what I do best
ignore and I did and I took critics I
accepted it I said you want to break me
break critics because this is where I
belong I want you to see myself
flying high rediscovering myself but
Curtis was not allowing me to do that
my family my in-laws everybody wherever
I was going I was understanding that
some way down the lane something is not
right and that’s when I said I have to
at Bukit I have to become a devil’s
advocate so to stand myself I made it my
best friend I started studying I didn’t
want it to get into depression I didn’t
want it to lie down I didn’t want it to
be a wick tum’ I wanted to be a survivor
and who big made me a survivor
the critics because critics gave me a
motive to live on it gave me a motive to
understand me to make me what I am today
to fight back to give you what everybody
said she can’t do it she can never do it
I never wanted to cry on myself even
once and I never did because I don’t
want to prove the other people around
who were there standing and laughing at
me I said no there’s not going to be
done I’m not only a mum I’m not only a
wife I’m not only a daughter I’m just
beyond that and how will I tell you that
I’m beyond that by working on my
weaknesses by working on critics I stood
I fought I’m standing here in front of
you today as a successful woman but that
success every night every morning goes
to drain because there is one way or the
other it’s the people who will stop me
and say you can’t make it and every time
I look up at them and I say watch me
so critics if you love your critics you
make it a power whenever somebody was
saying something to me I started writing
it down because I knew that critics is a
weakness they are seeing in me and how
can I come back to you I started writing
it down and I started making critics my
power I’m making my weakness my power to
come in front of you all to make you
understand that you all are a Wiggum to
critics because this is what you do the
best look into yourself if somebody has
said something to you don’t get
depressed don’t fight it
tell the other person don’t become
defensive or offensive write it down
that person who has given your critic is
your best friend don’t let him/her go
away because they are the one was going
to be standing in front of you for your
success so what I am today I thank
everybody in my life to bring me the
critics I might go out and I hear a lot
many things just moving behind me you
know how to depressive it becomes
sometimes you are doing such good thing
with such good heart
but it is never enough for anybody why
because they are not born with that they
don’t understand that they’re made taken
this weakness of them into a power and
they can understand those person what
they have lacked behind so it is not
that they are pulling me down they’re
degrading themselves so standing here
maybe as a role model I’m trying to put
to the audience critics is
not that disease it is a power accepted
make it the best friend of yours who
could make you successful in life
critics enhances personality thank you [Applause]