so there’s basically two forms of human
trafficking in this country labor
trafficking and sex trafficking so we
think about human trafficking we call it
a form of modern-day slavery the it’s
not really any different from historical
slavery because these are people who are
trapped in a situation and do not have
the freedoms leave the difference with
historical slavery is that historical
slavery was based on race and ethnicity
and modern-day slavery is based on
vulnerabilities now we know young people
are vulnerable simply because they’re
young the definition of sex trafficking
according to the federal laws which also
our Kansas laws duplicate a commercial
sex act that is induced by force fraud
or coercion or in which the person
induced is to pursue is induced to
perform an act is under the age of 18
and that’s because children cannot
legally consent to sex so force fraud
and coercion are not required that means
that when we talk about child
prostitutes there’s no such thing
children cannot consent to sex therefore
they cannot consent to prostitution in
our country experts believe at least a
hundred thousand US children are being
trafficked for sex every year some
experts believe it’s closer to three
hundred thousand in June I was at a
conference in Texas and Texas found
90,000 children in Texas alone who were
being used for commercial sex so I think
the numbers closer to 300,000 and the
the average age of entry into
prostitution is 12 to 14 years old so
every time I read the Topeka Capital
Journal and I see those are those
comments on under the Articles that say
well this is sex between two consenting
adults who care
don’t the police have something better
to do no because the truth is its most
likely that the person in prostitution
is a child or was a child when they were
first prostituted so 12 to 14 years old
is the average age of entry into
prostitution
that’s quite stunning who are these
victims well they’re US citizens and
they’re foreign nationals and they’re
male and they’re female they’re they’re
vulnerable simply because they’re young
they come from all different backgrounds
Runaways are particularly high risk and
we know this because one in three
Runaways is approached by a pimp or John
within 48 hours of running away these
guys these traffickers they’re at the
bus stops they’re at the train stations
they’re looking for our kids they’re
looking for the kid that feels looks
isolated that doesn’t know where they’re
going and they pretend to be a friend
often they’ll say do you know where
you’re going can I buy you a burger do
you need a place to stay tonight and the
kick is trapped because what do you know
how to do it thirteen what do you know
how to do at 14 years old and if you’re
running away it’s often for a reason so
we found that a large number of children
are in the care of foster foster
families or some kind of social services
but just because a kid is in social
services or in the juvenile system
doesn’t mean that your kids are safe
there’s lots of kids middle-class kids
who have been stolen from us by
traffickers simply because they’re youth
because they’re vulnerable because it’s
not necessarily what you do or don’t do
it’s how that child feels so if I feel a
child doesn’t feel loved they become
vulnerable to traffickers some experts
believe that only 25 percent of Runaways
are even reported miss
and why might that be well alright I’m
an honest person
crappy parents right there’s just some
crappy parents out there I say let
everybody Drive but have a drive a
license to have kids right take a test
so you at least have some basic
knowledge of how to raise another human
being but also we have a lot of busy
parents parents who work two jobs
single parents grandparents who are
trying to take care of younger kids for
a lot of complicated reasons but that
the fact that those kids are
unsupervised makes them vulnerable in a
lot of different ways and they’re
vulnerable to traffickers traffickers
are smart they’re con artists right they
are going after the money so what they
do is they go along they go to the mall
and they’re looking wherever kids are
that’s where they go but let’s say the
mall because I love to go the mall when
I was a child and they’ll go to the food
court they’ll be like hey you have
beautiful eyes
and the person goes thanks and they’re
like that’s not the one Wow
you’ve got gorgeous eyes thanks dude
that’s not the one wowza you have
beautiful eyes oh thanks no I don’t
that’s the one cuz that’s the one that
wants my attention that’s the one that
lacks confidence in themselves that’s
the one who needs me and that I can draw
in and pull into my web and so these
Romeo pimps we call them the Romeo pimps
will draw our kids and make them think
that this is their boyfriend that they
love them and they’ll sell them this
dream of the life they’re gonna have
together a life with cars and jewelry
and a beautiful home
a particular kind of bed and a carpet I
hear these dreams all the time but honey
I just need you to do this one thing for
me I just need you to do this so we can
have all our dreams come together all
our dreams can come true if you’ll just
do this thing for us and so they trick
these kids into believing that they love
them they Conda and then they sell them
over and over so if if the quota is only
five customers a night are five hundred
to a thousand dollars that’s 1820 pay
drapes
a year it’s bad enough to be sexually
assaulted by your father your brother
your uncle the stepdad but imagine five
ten people every day abusing you and
raping you that changes a child it
changes them it consumes their soul
because they think there’s something
wrong with that that this would happen
to them because that’s the way kids
think right in the old days we used to
say if I rape a child I’m going to jail
right if I throw $100 on the dresser
she’s going to jail now slowly that’s
changing law enforcement is being
trained and they’re beginning to
understand this crime differently but we
still have that stigma around
prostitution right the stigma that these
are throwaway people that they’re people
who love sex who want to be there who
just want the money but that’s not true
this is a mug shots taken over 12 to 18
months you look at this child and you
tell me when the lights go out of her
soul you tell me when she loses her
sense of self 12 to 18 months and you
can see the effect of what it takes to
keep a child in slavery like this right
what does it take to make a child have
sex
ten men a day it takes abuse it takes
violence it takes threats right because
who here wants to have sex ten times
with somebody you love much less ten
times with somebody you don’t even know
and now y’all are all grown folks so I
can say this to you they don’t look like
Richard Gere right okay that’s a pretty
woman reference for those of you who are
you know like 12 so who are the
traffickers traffickers can be anybody
all right they can be US Nationals
there’s a lot of gangs and and organized
crime getting into trafficking because
actually human trafficking is in the top
two most lucrative crimes in the world
right now they think that it’s at least
a thirty two billion dollar industry so
the first is drugs second humans third
weapons why because if I have a drug and
I sell it to you I have to go get more
drugs but if I have a child I can sell
it to every single person in this room
over and over and over so it’s very
lucrative and the risk have been low in
the past right there’s been very little
cost we’re not even going after
traffickers heck in the old days if a
law enforcement came up on somebody a
man and a girl for example having sex
they’d be like go home don’t you know
where she’s been go home to your family
when really it’s the child it’s the
person who’s being prostituted who is
the victim but we’ve treated them like
criminals many experts believe that
ninety to ninety nine percent of people
in prostitution children and adults are
under pimp control and what that means
is traffickers take all the money they
don’t have a choice to be there and if
you don’t think it’s slavery look at
this this is I did not write this
I can spell much better than this but
this is one of the primary rules of
pimping you’ll find it over and over and
over when traffickers write about their
process own them mind body and soul on
their mind body and soul they want to
own our children mind body and soul
they do it because there’s money in fur
in it for them it’s a crime of greed for
them right if there was no money in it
if there was no demand they’d go find
something else to sell because it’s not
about what they sell it’s about making
money
so what drives this fire sex buyers
drive this crime it’s the ten to twenty
percent of men in our community in the
u.s. that by sex that drive this crime
and I want to tell you that some of them
know that they’re buying children and
they just don’t care they just don’t
care because for them it’s all about
their sexual gratification they feel
entitled to it there’s been multiple
stings where law enforcement has done a
lot of this is conducted on the internet
now and it’s even in our community so
when they do stings on the Internet the
the undercover officer will say well I’m
only 15 does that matter to you
and the true the John always says or the
sex buyer always says doesn’t matter to
me if it doesn’t matter to you and so
they they keep asking them and they’ll
go back and they’ll say when they get to
the door they’ll say now I’m only 15 are
you sure it doesn’t matter and the John
always says it doesn’t matter to me they
know and they don’t care and that’s
because they don’t see these women and
children as human beings they have
dehumanized these folks to the point
that they feel like they can do any
to them and in fact many times they talk
about it in terms of it’s like a cup of
coffee when I’m done I just throw it
away does that sound like anybody else
to you anybody remember the BTK trial
and what he talked about is like when
I’m done with a tissue I throw it away
it’s a bit right and that’s the way a
many John’s talk about our kids even
when you meet in a person who’s maybe an
adult and in prostitution the majority
of time they started out as children and
they’ve grown up and they have nothing
else no other skills so we have to
understand prostitution as a crime of
violence against women and children
right some men buy women and children so
they can abuse them so they can do
things to them that they can’t do to
real women as if the person that they’re
using for their own sexual gratification
is not real as if the person they’re
abusing and choking and gang raping is
not a real person we have to change that
attitude so how do we stop this how do
we change it well the first thing we
have to do is address patriarchy we’re
all products of patriarchy right we all
grew up in a patriarchal culture but we
have to change the taas toxic
masculinity that grows along goes along
with that that says that some people are
entitled to some things and other people
are not that some people get to be human
beings and other people are less than
human we have to reject that hierarchy
and we have to teach men and boys that
it’s okay to be fully human
what toxic masculinity does is it takes
up men’s full humanity from them when we
tell boys boys don’t cry we’re telling
them they’re not allowed to be fully
human boys you get to cry
men you can cry your human being and
that’s what human beings do we need to
focus on positive self-esteem and
healthy body image that your body
belongs to you
do not make Sandra go hug Aunt Betty Joe
if Sandra doesn’t want to hug hug Aunt
Betty Joe because when you make that
child go hug and Betty Joe you’re saying
that that child’s comfort doesn’t matter
that they’re not entitled to their own
body and that somebody else’s pleasure
is more important than their own sense
of self so don’t make them hug Aunt
Betty Joe Thanksgivings coming up
healthy relationships many of us did not
grow up knowing how to have a healthy
relationship so we have to learn that
it’s okay
it’s okay that you didn’t know how to do
that but you’re adults now so you can
learn how to do that and teach your kids
consistent relationships with healthy
adults who demonstrate they care about a
child without wanting anything from that
child so it doesn’t matter it could be
your your kids best friend it could be a
teacher it could be a the church lady
any adult who cares about a kid
consistently cares about them and
doesn’t want anything back from that
child that makes a difference when I
talk to survivors they talk about that
one person who believed in them that one
person who saw them and helped them
survive even if the person didn’t know
what they were going through that that
one person saw them and loved them was
really important
talk about popular culture and the way
that it represents sexuality is the most
important thing about us right it used
to be that we cared about your character
how you treated other people who you are
how you are in this world but now
popular culture is telling us that
what’s important is our bodies our
physicality how we look our sexuality
but that’s the least important thing
about us right and we got to teach our
kids that
deconstructs the glorification of pimp
culture I never want to see another pimp
and Ho Party I never want to see another
pimp your ride pimp my pumpkin Halloween
just past right because what we’re doing
is we’re glorifying the traffickers the
ones who are violent the people who are
selling the criminals who were selling
human beings don’t glorify that just
because they have a bunch of stuff and a
lot of money doesn’t mean that they’re
important let’s do away with that idea
of materialism as being a showing value
of a human being we also need to get
better at understanding social media and
online gaming as I get older I find it
more and more difficult to keep up with
technology and you might as well they
are so good at using technology to get
to our kids also keep your kids in
healthy activities the arts faith-based
organizations student organizations Girl
Scouts Boy Scouts that’s all good it
keeps them busy and keeps them safe from
the traffickers and then counselling is
appropriate and ensuring that youth and
poverty have the things they need
because it’s really difficult when you
don’t have something to eat today to see
other people having so much so we can
create a huge change in our culture just
by doing these simple things finally I
want to remind you that the average age
of entry into prostitution is 12 to 14
years old and I leave you with this
picture of my 12 year old self just
because I want you to know that this is
what 12 year old looks like thank you
very much
you
trafficking in this country labor
trafficking and sex trafficking so we
think about human trafficking we call it
a form of modern-day slavery the it’s
not really any different from historical
slavery because these are people who are
trapped in a situation and do not have
the freedoms leave the difference with
historical slavery is that historical
slavery was based on race and ethnicity
and modern-day slavery is based on
vulnerabilities now we know young people
are vulnerable simply because they’re
young the definition of sex trafficking
according to the federal laws which also
our Kansas laws duplicate a commercial
sex act that is induced by force fraud
or coercion or in which the person
induced is to pursue is induced to
perform an act is under the age of 18
and that’s because children cannot
legally consent to sex so force fraud
and coercion are not required that means
that when we talk about child
prostitutes there’s no such thing
children cannot consent to sex therefore
they cannot consent to prostitution in
our country experts believe at least a
hundred thousand US children are being
trafficked for sex every year some
experts believe it’s closer to three
hundred thousand in June I was at a
conference in Texas and Texas found
90,000 children in Texas alone who were
being used for commercial sex so I think
the numbers closer to 300,000 and the
the average age of entry into
prostitution is 12 to 14 years old so
every time I read the Topeka Capital
Journal and I see those are those
comments on under the Articles that say
well this is sex between two consenting
adults who care
don’t the police have something better
to do no because the truth is its most
likely that the person in prostitution
is a child or was a child when they were
first prostituted so 12 to 14 years old
is the average age of entry into
prostitution
that’s quite stunning who are these
victims well they’re US citizens and
they’re foreign nationals and they’re
male and they’re female they’re they’re
vulnerable simply because they’re young
they come from all different backgrounds
Runaways are particularly high risk and
we know this because one in three
Runaways is approached by a pimp or John
within 48 hours of running away these
guys these traffickers they’re at the
bus stops they’re at the train stations
they’re looking for our kids they’re
looking for the kid that feels looks
isolated that doesn’t know where they’re
going and they pretend to be a friend
often they’ll say do you know where
you’re going can I buy you a burger do
you need a place to stay tonight and the
kick is trapped because what do you know
how to do it thirteen what do you know
how to do at 14 years old and if you’re
running away it’s often for a reason so
we found that a large number of children
are in the care of foster foster
families or some kind of social services
but just because a kid is in social
services or in the juvenile system
doesn’t mean that your kids are safe
there’s lots of kids middle-class kids
who have been stolen from us by
traffickers simply because they’re youth
because they’re vulnerable because it’s
not necessarily what you do or don’t do
it’s how that child feels so if I feel a
child doesn’t feel loved they become
vulnerable to traffickers some experts
believe that only 25 percent of Runaways
are even reported miss
and why might that be well alright I’m
an honest person
crappy parents right there’s just some
crappy parents out there I say let
everybody Drive but have a drive a
license to have kids right take a test
so you at least have some basic
knowledge of how to raise another human
being but also we have a lot of busy
parents parents who work two jobs
single parents grandparents who are
trying to take care of younger kids for
a lot of complicated reasons but that
the fact that those kids are
unsupervised makes them vulnerable in a
lot of different ways and they’re
vulnerable to traffickers traffickers
are smart they’re con artists right they
are going after the money so what they
do is they go along they go to the mall
and they’re looking wherever kids are
that’s where they go but let’s say the
mall because I love to go the mall when
I was a child and they’ll go to the food
court they’ll be like hey you have
beautiful eyes
and the person goes thanks and they’re
like that’s not the one Wow
you’ve got gorgeous eyes thanks dude
that’s not the one wowza you have
beautiful eyes oh thanks no I don’t
that’s the one cuz that’s the one that
wants my attention that’s the one that
lacks confidence in themselves that’s
the one who needs me and that I can draw
in and pull into my web and so these
Romeo pimps we call them the Romeo pimps
will draw our kids and make them think
that this is their boyfriend that they
love them and they’ll sell them this
dream of the life they’re gonna have
together a life with cars and jewelry
and a beautiful home
a particular kind of bed and a carpet I
hear these dreams all the time but honey
I just need you to do this one thing for
me I just need you to do this so we can
have all our dreams come together all
our dreams can come true if you’ll just
do this thing for us and so they trick
these kids into believing that they love
them they Conda and then they sell them
over and over so if if the quota is only
five customers a night are five hundred
to a thousand dollars that’s 1820 pay
drapes
a year it’s bad enough to be sexually
assaulted by your father your brother
your uncle the stepdad but imagine five
ten people every day abusing you and
raping you that changes a child it
changes them it consumes their soul
because they think there’s something
wrong with that that this would happen
to them because that’s the way kids
think right in the old days we used to
say if I rape a child I’m going to jail
right if I throw $100 on the dresser
she’s going to jail now slowly that’s
changing law enforcement is being
trained and they’re beginning to
understand this crime differently but we
still have that stigma around
prostitution right the stigma that these
are throwaway people that they’re people
who love sex who want to be there who
just want the money but that’s not true
this is a mug shots taken over 12 to 18
months you look at this child and you
tell me when the lights go out of her
soul you tell me when she loses her
sense of self 12 to 18 months and you
can see the effect of what it takes to
keep a child in slavery like this right
what does it take to make a child have
sex
ten men a day it takes abuse it takes
violence it takes threats right because
who here wants to have sex ten times
with somebody you love much less ten
times with somebody you don’t even know
and now y’all are all grown folks so I
can say this to you they don’t look like
Richard Gere right okay that’s a pretty
woman reference for those of you who are
you know like 12 so who are the
traffickers traffickers can be anybody
all right they can be US Nationals
there’s a lot of gangs and and organized
crime getting into trafficking because
actually human trafficking is in the top
two most lucrative crimes in the world
right now they think that it’s at least
a thirty two billion dollar industry so
the first is drugs second humans third
weapons why because if I have a drug and
I sell it to you I have to go get more
drugs but if I have a child I can sell
it to every single person in this room
over and over and over so it’s very
lucrative and the risk have been low in
the past right there’s been very little
cost we’re not even going after
traffickers heck in the old days if a
law enforcement came up on somebody a
man and a girl for example having sex
they’d be like go home don’t you know
where she’s been go home to your family
when really it’s the child it’s the
person who’s being prostituted who is
the victim but we’ve treated them like
criminals many experts believe that
ninety to ninety nine percent of people
in prostitution children and adults are
under pimp control and what that means
is traffickers take all the money they
don’t have a choice to be there and if
you don’t think it’s slavery look at
this this is I did not write this
I can spell much better than this but
this is one of the primary rules of
pimping you’ll find it over and over and
over when traffickers write about their
process own them mind body and soul on
their mind body and soul they want to
own our children mind body and soul
they do it because there’s money in fur
in it for them it’s a crime of greed for
them right if there was no money in it
if there was no demand they’d go find
something else to sell because it’s not
about what they sell it’s about making
money
so what drives this fire sex buyers
drive this crime it’s the ten to twenty
percent of men in our community in the
u.s. that by sex that drive this crime
and I want to tell you that some of them
know that they’re buying children and
they just don’t care they just don’t
care because for them it’s all about
their sexual gratification they feel
entitled to it there’s been multiple
stings where law enforcement has done a
lot of this is conducted on the internet
now and it’s even in our community so
when they do stings on the Internet the
the undercover officer will say well I’m
only 15 does that matter to you
and the true the John always says or the
sex buyer always says doesn’t matter to
me if it doesn’t matter to you and so
they they keep asking them and they’ll
go back and they’ll say when they get to
the door they’ll say now I’m only 15 are
you sure it doesn’t matter and the John
always says it doesn’t matter to me they
know and they don’t care and that’s
because they don’t see these women and
children as human beings they have
dehumanized these folks to the point
that they feel like they can do any
to them and in fact many times they talk
about it in terms of it’s like a cup of
coffee when I’m done I just throw it
away does that sound like anybody else
to you anybody remember the BTK trial
and what he talked about is like when
I’m done with a tissue I throw it away
it’s a bit right and that’s the way a
many John’s talk about our kids even
when you meet in a person who’s maybe an
adult and in prostitution the majority
of time they started out as children and
they’ve grown up and they have nothing
else no other skills so we have to
understand prostitution as a crime of
violence against women and children
right some men buy women and children so
they can abuse them so they can do
things to them that they can’t do to
real women as if the person that they’re
using for their own sexual gratification
is not real as if the person they’re
abusing and choking and gang raping is
not a real person we have to change that
attitude so how do we stop this how do
we change it well the first thing we
have to do is address patriarchy we’re
all products of patriarchy right we all
grew up in a patriarchal culture but we
have to change the taas toxic
masculinity that grows along goes along
with that that says that some people are
entitled to some things and other people
are not that some people get to be human
beings and other people are less than
human we have to reject that hierarchy
and we have to teach men and boys that
it’s okay to be fully human
what toxic masculinity does is it takes
up men’s full humanity from them when we
tell boys boys don’t cry we’re telling
them they’re not allowed to be fully
human boys you get to cry
men you can cry your human being and
that’s what human beings do we need to
focus on positive self-esteem and
healthy body image that your body
belongs to you
do not make Sandra go hug Aunt Betty Joe
if Sandra doesn’t want to hug hug Aunt
Betty Joe because when you make that
child go hug and Betty Joe you’re saying
that that child’s comfort doesn’t matter
that they’re not entitled to their own
body and that somebody else’s pleasure
is more important than their own sense
of self so don’t make them hug Aunt
Betty Joe Thanksgivings coming up
healthy relationships many of us did not
grow up knowing how to have a healthy
relationship so we have to learn that
it’s okay
it’s okay that you didn’t know how to do
that but you’re adults now so you can
learn how to do that and teach your kids
consistent relationships with healthy
adults who demonstrate they care about a
child without wanting anything from that
child so it doesn’t matter it could be
your your kids best friend it could be a
teacher it could be a the church lady
any adult who cares about a kid
consistently cares about them and
doesn’t want anything back from that
child that makes a difference when I
talk to survivors they talk about that
one person who believed in them that one
person who saw them and helped them
survive even if the person didn’t know
what they were going through that that
one person saw them and loved them was
really important
talk about popular culture and the way
that it represents sexuality is the most
important thing about us right it used
to be that we cared about your character
how you treated other people who you are
how you are in this world but now
popular culture is telling us that
what’s important is our bodies our
physicality how we look our sexuality
but that’s the least important thing
about us right and we got to teach our
kids that
deconstructs the glorification of pimp
culture I never want to see another pimp
and Ho Party I never want to see another
pimp your ride pimp my pumpkin Halloween
just past right because what we’re doing
is we’re glorifying the traffickers the
ones who are violent the people who are
selling the criminals who were selling
human beings don’t glorify that just
because they have a bunch of stuff and a
lot of money doesn’t mean that they’re
important let’s do away with that idea
of materialism as being a showing value
of a human being we also need to get
better at understanding social media and
online gaming as I get older I find it
more and more difficult to keep up with
technology and you might as well they
are so good at using technology to get
to our kids also keep your kids in
healthy activities the arts faith-based
organizations student organizations Girl
Scouts Boy Scouts that’s all good it
keeps them busy and keeps them safe from
the traffickers and then counselling is
appropriate and ensuring that youth and
poverty have the things they need
because it’s really difficult when you
don’t have something to eat today to see
other people having so much so we can
create a huge change in our culture just
by doing these simple things finally I
want to remind you that the average age
of entry into prostitution is 12 to 14
years old and I leave you with this
picture of my 12 year old self just
because I want you to know that this is
what 12 year old looks like thank you
very much
you
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