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Conecte-se enxergando além da imagem pessoal | Patricia Tucci | TEDxSaoPauloSalon


[Music]
it was very clear here that working
Well with different people is the secret
for success in the future
was already in the present and it was also clear
which will go that the vertical is bankrupt
I thought when I was little when I
Grow up I’ll send it’s time for
revenge and ended it
Because that’s how we’re going to do it.
so that people work with the
people for the people for our projects
in this new scenario that comes
presenting the secrets are the ties
are the connections and the image helps us
connect with each other
When we talk about image to people.
quickly thinks about the day’s look at
clothing in appearance
if this is part of the image but is not
by itself the image goes far beyond
clothes
our behavior our way of
arrive in an environment as agent
greets a customer
we shake hands or
that handshake a people mill
smile has a closed face is there any
nervous team
all this influences the image
it also influences the way people
behave in the environment as we
also influences our
schedules we meet schedule does not
it also influences our way of speaking
I speak very fast potatoes there is not
gained while those who speak
slowly is that person who speaks
high image that passes a very
different from the person who speaks
our way of speaking is a
important component of personal image
then we have the appearance the
behavior until the physical posture
our way of speaking and our content
all these are elements of the image
folks
Now, when we talk about establishing
connection through personal image
first we have to go through a
knot a large personal image node that are
the interpretations that we make of the
image of others and this name is very
deep
I want to see you, will you help me here?
the eyes do not see perfect but who sees
man looks at us we should not judge a
book but a picture speaks more than
thousand words
Look how many of us have an image.
folks
That’s because we’re all the time.
interpreting the other in the wrong way or
being misinterpreted
And I’m going to confess that I too
I do it with us, I also judge the
others although I work in this area there are 20
I still keep looking at people.
also make my judgment and I will
share a story with you a
story that happened in the workshop
a few years ago
to exemplify this question of how the
People judge the image of others, I also
I do this despite working with 20
years and personal image and in this workshop
sat down in front of me
participant that every speaker wishes to
have in life
discouraged I looked at that person
I thought so you are discouraged because you are
sick right?
can happen is tired us
began to talk posture begins to
talk about behavior and the person
discouraged to change the subject was
to the image of communication and it
discouraged then I thought she ‘ll see that she
does not like the subject everyone who
likes image personal development
So we changed to talk about it.
corporate fashion and then she snorted
New , I thought people there.
huh
How is a person coming to work?
because it was a training of a company
and sits with a posture like that
will perform throughout the year
her attitude goes bad and also
it went through my head was to see that no
like me is with me not everyone is
Thank you for liking me.
after a few hours with that person
we arrive at the makeup part and using
Everything I tell you, I’ll solve it.
overlay image impressions invite
to be our model of makeup and
she then got up and said goodbye
I was needing I told her and
I asked to realize that you are like this
bit annoyed here that happened and she
replied three months ago I got married
and a month ago I was a widow and she was
there she was holding out for
new job a new position in a
personal development training
she gave me beyond a life lesson is
a very big gift that is called
context that we could understand
everything that is happening to the person
because usually when we do the
judgment of the other that we know is
very little
we do not have a real context
how many of us know the history of
co -worker on our side
suddenly that person all happy that
it seems that does not take life seriously is
with a mother hospitalized with cancer
How many times do we look at one?
customer that people think is wrong
but it’s identical you even twist
same team
who are we to judge another are
perfect
we are above all so wanted
to combine with you from now on
we will take an oath that the
people will never judge others
by personal image
Whoever is with me raises his hand for
kindness
Let’s repeat, I swear to you, never again.
I will judge people by personal image
never again
I’ll judge my boss’s ugly face.
after presenting an idea never
more
Judging is the ironic face of my client.
when I present my price there are people
You ‘re already in love, you ‘re realizing.
that it is impossible to take this oath is
so impossible that even people
Thank you, thank you, thank you very much.
was brave, charitable, right?
good intention prevailed but on leaving
from here and go to the first restaurant and
bakery you will look at the dishes and
Talk or taste is not good, I’ll get this
this one is not so cool
because we eat first with the
one more way the personal image
so what we can do is
learn to deal with these nodes these nodes
will continue to happen because we
we are born physiologically a gland
installed in our brains to judge the
image of the other this was our
first form and will always be ours
first form of communication who has
children here all of us since childhood
we used facial reading as a
form of communication to understand whether
people are doing well or not and this
still today
in the early days in prehistory people
he used it with a way of
defend
and in fact that’s what got us
until here
the brain besides judging the other it
Judge the negative is the positive and only
people like the negative is what makes
people take care of being cautious
once we looked with a
dinosaur was talking and if I eat
so I’ll go the other way
today we look at what a person is talking about
just gonna rob me I’m gonna cross the
Let’s continue the street
using these devices with a form of
defense
and this trial will continue
precisely because of this gland
installed in our brain
We’re all going to make these judgments.
but I want to negotiate with you here
it’s the verdict
So I want to give you three tips.
to be able to work on this very strong issue
that the personal image is in the
personal or professional relationship
93% of our communication is non-verbal
it is the image and will remain for
so let’s take care of it for not doing
false judgments and can do
connections with people despite us
then tip number 1 of the second chance
sometimes we look at the face of the
person does not go with her face
The saint does not hit but how often do you
was misjudged on the first impression
how many times people have come to
you after a little intimacy
They said the way the girl is going to tell you.
first time I met you in wate
As ae first time the full
theories and I find you so angry not
I wanted to work with you.
if people are wrong about you
we can make a mistake about them
so the second chance of the third
the fourth to fifth the other tip is neither
everything is up to you
if the person with a face that
does not mean she does not like you
this does not mean that it has not
liked your project can be
including that she enjoyed it so much
she has a closed face thinking
How am I going to break a contract with
another supplier to hire you
It may be that your boss has a
closed face because at that time of a
stab here in the belly he felt
bad can be so many things before being
agent
but what we do is always look at the
another through us we use the
personal filter defendants are our
customs our culture the way the
people have been educated to our personality
so I look at somebody I see
face closed soon I think you do not like
me I see the other puffing I think
Who snorts because he’s disheartened?
this is what you think
this is what you see is the reality is
much larger than our spectrum
The third tip is to be proactive and look for
context, we need to know the
story before hitting the hammer
find information about this person
facebook today google the colleague on the side
other people who worked with this
you have so much information to
respect for this person seeks to
person
what you found so far with this
intention with this movement that you
Wait, that’s what I told you.
proactively seeks this context of this
way the knots will continue to exist but
we will overcome this
first to value us for
help because it is only by creating bonds that
people will succeed in the present and in the
future of work
thank you very much
[Applause]
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