what are we going to do today are we
going to go lighter because it’s what
your husband wants or are we going to go
shorter because your friends like you
most with short hair or are you going to
go darker because you’ve not been
getting so much compliments after all or
are we going to give you something that
is going to make you truly happy back in
2008 I was sitting at the table with a
school commission board explaining and
defending my case on why I should be
given a second chance I believe that I
have a valid reason because I just got
into a bicycle accident which made it
very difficult for me to go to school
because I was walking on crutches but
apparently that was my last case I was
going to defend because I was not given
a second chance of pursuing my law
studies at this particular school now
you heard it right I was going to become
a lawyer a prestigious career something
to be proud of my mom was as proud as a
peacock telling everybody on the island
that I was going to become a lawyer now
going back at this meeting I remember
their argument saying why should we care
for another Antillean another chance
now I’m not kidding that’s exactly what
they said they left me with two options
I could either stay at the school but
choose another profession or I had to
change schools which also meant change
cities but that was not on my agenda
because I wanted to go specifically to
their school because it was one of the
best and changing professions also not a
male gender because there was an other
profession that was making my heart jump
so you can imagine the devastation I
felt at that moment I was sad I was
crying I felt like I felt one time I
remember a friend coming over and we
were getting ready to go out and
she asked me at one point certainly do
you want to cut my bends and I got so
excited I went to the kitchen got this
big kitchen Caesar out and I cut the
most perfect bangs ever now you must
understand that since I was a kid I
always enjoyed doing here
it was something I always was doing I
was blow-drying my mother’s here
everybody and I remember when it was a
kid my very first school presentation
ever about what I wanted as a career was
that I wanted to be a hair stylist but I
never considered pursuing this because
the society has always made me believe
that hairstyling is not a career choice
it is a hobby but I the feeling I got
when I was cutting my friends hair I
knew that this is what I was going to do
but how was I going to explain this to
my mom and the society I mean the
society has always created this ideal
image of the perfect profession the
perfect career the perfect image the
perfect paycheck and her styling was
never a part of this I mean who was
going to quit their high paid career for
giass a childhood hobby I mean who does
that and I remember the most hurt
argument was you are not going to earn a
lot of money by doing here but after I
gathered my strength I called my mom and
I told my mom I was going to do this now
while she supported me everybody else
was looking at me crazy and they were
judging me before even knowing that they
were judging but I couldn’t care less
because I know that this I said and
nobody was going to stop me and now here
I am 10 years later I’ve done amazing
things I mean I have a four-year-old
daughter I have worked with many
celebrities my salon was voted three
years in a row the best hair salon on
the island
I am fully booked and I have a waiting
list
now that’s amazing right now I am very
extremely grateful for all these
opportunities and while everybody from
the outside has been seeing this as the
ultimate success I have been feeling
like I was not living my full potential
I started thinking to myself is desert
is this only thing that I am capable of
doing but how could I be possibly
thinking that I mean I am actually doing
what I said I wanted right I am doing my
passion I am doing here 24/7
but I kept ignoring these feelings and I
kept on going because bills needed to be
paid my daughter needed to be fed and
investments needed to be kept making you
see many of us end up choosing our path
out of fear disguised as practicality or
even power and what we really want seems
impossibly out of reach or even
ridiculous to expect and many of us end
up focusing on what truly matters to the
other instead of ourselves but I’m not
I’m not any different because after I
have been ignoring these feelings for a
very long time I started getting sick I
started to only come complaining
complaining because complaining seems
always easier and I too started
believing that I was just a hair stylist
and that’s the only thing that I’ll ever
be at that point I realized that I was
also focusing on what mattered to the
other and said to myself and I remember
just a glimpse of me not being able to
be there for my daughter and my business
my my goals and my vision made me get up
stop complaining and start doing
something about it now I had the
opportunity to ask a couple of kids what
they really want as a career
and sadly many of them chose to keep on
perfecting and to live up to the
expectation to their parents and the
society
many of these kids choose to please
their parents and others instead of
focusing on themselves and going after
the happiness and their passion their
heart to their dreams and that is
exactly why I started with my own
hairstyling teaching program because I
wanted these guests to be part of
something amazing I wanted these kids to
also believe that there is more than
just being an hair stylist I wanted to
offer them a platform where they get to
experience the real deal by getting the
right support and training by someone
who who’s been through it all I wanted
to elevate my own industry because I
wanted to keep elevating myself
you cannot give what you do not have you
see this team of tonight is about
smashing boxes but what I really want
you guys to start thinking is that there
is not even a box to begin with we don’t
have to be talking about smashing boxes
because by thinking that there is a box
we end up limiting our beliefs which
will either way prevent us from reaching
higher so if you really want to go after
that career or that passion or that
talent go for it it doesn’t matter if
others disagree and one valuable lesson
that I got of my experience is to never
ignore your feelings because they are
there for a reason and you must you must
you must get in touch with yourself because otherwise it will bite you there
going to go lighter because it’s what
your husband wants or are we going to go
shorter because your friends like you
most with short hair or are you going to
go darker because you’ve not been
getting so much compliments after all or
are we going to give you something that
is going to make you truly happy back in
2008 I was sitting at the table with a
school commission board explaining and
defending my case on why I should be
given a second chance I believe that I
have a valid reason because I just got
into a bicycle accident which made it
very difficult for me to go to school
because I was walking on crutches but
apparently that was my last case I was
going to defend because I was not given
a second chance of pursuing my law
studies at this particular school now
you heard it right I was going to become
a lawyer a prestigious career something
to be proud of my mom was as proud as a
peacock telling everybody on the island
that I was going to become a lawyer now
going back at this meeting I remember
their argument saying why should we care
for another Antillean another chance
now I’m not kidding that’s exactly what
they said they left me with two options
I could either stay at the school but
choose another profession or I had to
change schools which also meant change
cities but that was not on my agenda
because I wanted to go specifically to
their school because it was one of the
best and changing professions also not a
male gender because there was an other
profession that was making my heart jump
so you can imagine the devastation I
felt at that moment I was sad I was
crying I felt like I felt one time I
remember a friend coming over and we
were getting ready to go out and
she asked me at one point certainly do
you want to cut my bends and I got so
excited I went to the kitchen got this
big kitchen Caesar out and I cut the
most perfect bangs ever now you must
understand that since I was a kid I
always enjoyed doing here
it was something I always was doing I
was blow-drying my mother’s here
everybody and I remember when it was a
kid my very first school presentation
ever about what I wanted as a career was
that I wanted to be a hair stylist but I
never considered pursuing this because
the society has always made me believe
that hairstyling is not a career choice
it is a hobby but I the feeling I got
when I was cutting my friends hair I
knew that this is what I was going to do
but how was I going to explain this to
my mom and the society I mean the
society has always created this ideal
image of the perfect profession the
perfect career the perfect image the
perfect paycheck and her styling was
never a part of this I mean who was
going to quit their high paid career for
giass a childhood hobby I mean who does
that and I remember the most hurt
argument was you are not going to earn a
lot of money by doing here but after I
gathered my strength I called my mom and
I told my mom I was going to do this now
while she supported me everybody else
was looking at me crazy and they were
judging me before even knowing that they
were judging but I couldn’t care less
because I know that this I said and
nobody was going to stop me and now here
I am 10 years later I’ve done amazing
things I mean I have a four-year-old
daughter I have worked with many
celebrities my salon was voted three
years in a row the best hair salon on
the island
I am fully booked and I have a waiting
list
now that’s amazing right now I am very
extremely grateful for all these
opportunities and while everybody from
the outside has been seeing this as the
ultimate success I have been feeling
like I was not living my full potential
I started thinking to myself is desert
is this only thing that I am capable of
doing but how could I be possibly
thinking that I mean I am actually doing
what I said I wanted right I am doing my
passion I am doing here 24/7
but I kept ignoring these feelings and I
kept on going because bills needed to be
paid my daughter needed to be fed and
investments needed to be kept making you
see many of us end up choosing our path
out of fear disguised as practicality or
even power and what we really want seems
impossibly out of reach or even
ridiculous to expect and many of us end
up focusing on what truly matters to the
other instead of ourselves but I’m not
I’m not any different because after I
have been ignoring these feelings for a
very long time I started getting sick I
started to only come complaining
complaining because complaining seems
always easier and I too started
believing that I was just a hair stylist
and that’s the only thing that I’ll ever
be at that point I realized that I was
also focusing on what mattered to the
other and said to myself and I remember
just a glimpse of me not being able to
be there for my daughter and my business
my my goals and my vision made me get up
stop complaining and start doing
something about it now I had the
opportunity to ask a couple of kids what
they really want as a career
and sadly many of them chose to keep on
perfecting and to live up to the
expectation to their parents and the
society
many of these kids choose to please
their parents and others instead of
focusing on themselves and going after
the happiness and their passion their
heart to their dreams and that is
exactly why I started with my own
hairstyling teaching program because I
wanted these guests to be part of
something amazing I wanted these kids to
also believe that there is more than
just being an hair stylist I wanted to
offer them a platform where they get to
experience the real deal by getting the
right support and training by someone
who who’s been through it all I wanted
to elevate my own industry because I
wanted to keep elevating myself
you cannot give what you do not have you
see this team of tonight is about
smashing boxes but what I really want
you guys to start thinking is that there
is not even a box to begin with we don’t
have to be talking about smashing boxes
because by thinking that there is a box
we end up limiting our beliefs which
will either way prevent us from reaching
higher so if you really want to go after
that career or that passion or that
talent go for it it doesn’t matter if
others disagree and one valuable lesson
that I got of my experience is to never
ignore your feelings because they are
there for a reason and you must you must
you must get in touch with yourself because otherwise it will bite you there
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