congratulations it’s at Vova I’m sorry
congratulations it’s at Vova I’m sorry sorry I messed up okay let’s start again
that’s what doctors told my mom when I
that’s what doctors told my mom when I was born 21st of January 1996 when my
was born 21st of January 1996 when my
was born 21st of January 1996 when my mom was told I’m head of OVA sorry
mom was told I’m head of OVA sorry
mom was told I’m head of OVA sorry when my mom was told I was a girl I told
when my mom was told I was a girl I told
when my mom was told I was a girl I told my ears pierced pink clothes and
my ears pierced pink clothes and
my ears pierced pink clothes and comments like oh my god you are so
comments like oh my god you are so
comments like oh my god you are so beautiful you look like a beautiful
beautiful you look like a beautiful
beautiful you look like a beautiful young lady have I already told you how
young lady have I already told you how
young lady have I already told you how beautiful you are you look like a
beautiful you are you look like a
beautiful you are you look like a beautiful princess I don’t think I tell
beautiful princess I don’t think I tell
beautiful princess I don’t think I tell you enough how beautiful you are
you enough how beautiful you are
you enough how beautiful you are you are guess what yeah beautiful been
you are guess what yeah beautiful been
you are guess what yeah beautiful been objectified since I was one day old
objectified since I was one day old
objectified since I was one day old amazing it looks very simple to assign a
amazing it looks very simple to assign a
amazing it looks very simple to assign a sex of a newborn baby a birth and it
sex of a newborn baby a birth and it
sex of a newborn baby a birth and it looks easy to to assign a jungler to
looks easy to to assign a jungler to
looks easy to to assign a jungler to that newborn baby attending to that sex
that newborn baby attending to that sex
that newborn baby attending to that sex like comments toys and clothes sorry the
like comments toys and clothes sorry the
like comments toys and clothes sorry the baby has a vagina and a clitoris that
baby has a vagina and a clitoris that
baby has a vagina and a clitoris that baby will be level as girl in terms of
baby will be level as girl in terms of
baby will be level as girl in terms of sex and younger and if the baby has a
sex and younger and if the baby has a
sex and younger and if the baby has a penis and testicles the baby will be
penis and testicles the baby will be
penis and testicles the baby will be label as boy in terms of sex and gender
label as boy in terms of sex and gender
label as boy in terms of sex and gender – it’s easy isn’t it well it’s actually
– it’s easy isn’t it well it’s actually
– it’s easy isn’t it well it’s actually not that simple and it finally didn’t
not that simple and it finally didn’t
not that simple and it finally didn’t work for me
my name is Rene I know it looked like
my name is Rene I know it looked like eight years old or maybe ten that I’m
eight years old or maybe ten that I’m
eight years old or maybe ten that I’m actually 22 you my ID says on female
actually 22 you my ID says on female
actually 22 you my ID says on female doctors say young female and society
doctors say young female and society
doctors say young female and society says I’m female true what is it price it
says I’m female true what is it price it
says I’m female true what is it price it seems that everybody agrees on it
seems that everybody agrees on it
seems that everybody agrees on it however personally to tell you the truth
however personally to tell you the truth
however personally to tell you the truth I don’t know who I am and I’m okay with
I don’t know who I am and I’m okay with
I don’t know who I am and I’m okay with it I just define myself as a unicorn
it I just define myself as a unicorn
it I just define myself as a unicorn without the horn actually I do not have
without the horn actually I do not have
without the horn actually I do not have a horn
a horn
a horn Jenny tell you speaking in fact I have
Jenny tell you speaking in fact I have
Jenny tell you speaking in fact I have the opposite of a horn and what is the
the opposite of a horn and what is the
the opposite of a horn and what is the opposite of a horn a whole simple well
opposite of a horn a whole simple well
opposite of a horn a whole simple well is that truly simple today I will be
is that truly simple today I will be
is that truly simple today I will be telling you the story of my life
telling you the story of my life
telling you the story of my life focusing on the transition I’ve went
focusing on the transition I’ve went
focusing on the transition I’ve went through the discover of my identity and
through the discover of my identity and
through the discover of my identity and most important why I define myself as a
most important why I define myself as a
most important why I define myself as a unicorn without the horn when I was a
unicorn without the horn when I was a
unicorn without the horn when I was a child my mom used to tell me you are a
child my mom used to tell me you are a
child my mom used to tell me you are a girl because you have a vulva and your
girl because you have a vulva and your
girl because you have a vulva and your brother is a boy Peterson has a penis at
brother is a boy Peterson has a penis at
brother is a boy Peterson has a penis at that moment I already knew I was not a
that moment I already knew I was not a
that moment I already knew I was not a girl just because I don’t feel like I’m
girl just because I don’t feel like I’m
girl just because I don’t feel like I’m a girl and I thought that if I wished
a girl and I thought that if I wished
a girl and I thought that if I wished not ago I had to be a boy the opposite
not ago I had to be a boy the opposite
not ago I had to be a boy the opposite the why everything we have in life is
the why everything we have in life is
the why everything we have in life is divided into two completely closed and
divided into two completely closed and
divided into two completely closed and different categories intelligence or
different categories intelligence or
different categories intelligence or ignorant ugly and beautiful dry and wet
ignorant ugly and beautiful dry and wet
ignorant ugly and beautiful dry and wet hot
hot
hot and cold small antique male or female so
and cold small antique male or female so
and cold small antique male or female so if I was not a girl
if I was not a girl
if I was not a girl that means when I had to be a boy the
that means when I had to be a boy the
that means when I had to be a boy the opposite this fact mark my first step on
opposite this fact mark my first step on
opposite this fact mark my first step on my transition to find my identity but
my transition to find my identity but
my transition to find my identity but how could that be possible to be a boy
how could that be possible to be a boy
how could that be possible to be a boy if I have a vulva this to statement went
if I have a vulva this to statement went
if I have a vulva this to statement went out of my mind because of everyone
out of my mind because of everyone
out of my mind because of everyone repeating me the message you were born
repeating me the message you were born
repeating me the message you were born ago
ago
ago you are ago you will always be a girl to
you are ago you will always be a girl to
you are ago you will always be a girl to a point that I genuinely believed I was
a point that I genuinely believed I was
a point that I genuinely believed I was ago this was my second step on my
ago this was my second step on my
ago this was my second step on my trouble to find my identity when I was
trouble to find my identity when I was
trouble to find my identity when I was 14 when girls are supposed to have
14 when girls are supposed to have
14 when girls are supposed to have breasts and have the period I didn’t
breasts and have the period I didn’t
breasts and have the period I didn’t have the period and I didn’t have
have the period and I didn’t have
have the period and I didn’t have breasts now I have this fact didn’t
breasts now I have this fact didn’t
breasts now I have this fact didn’t bother me initially just features I have
bother me initially just features I have
bother me initially just features I have never had problems with my body or
never had problems with my body or
never had problems with my body or appearance but it was very very
appearance but it was very very
appearance but it was very very uncomfortable on the weekends
uncomfortable on the weekends
uncomfortable on the weekends that was the time when I used to have
that was the time when I used to have
that was the time when I used to have family meals at those meetings the main
family meals at those meetings the main
family meals at those meetings the main topic on the table with my body I used
topic on the table with my body I used
topic on the table with my body I used to receive comments like unique like a
to receive comments like unique like a
to receive comments like unique like a child
child
child oh you have to eat more in order to
oh you have to eat more in order to
oh you have to eat more in order to develop breasts you are not a real woman
develop breasts you are not a real woman
develop breasts you are not a real woman real I was maybe made of concrete or
real I was maybe made of concrete or
real I was maybe made of concrete or something like that I don’t know so the
something like that I don’t know so the
something like that I don’t know so the internal message
internal message
internal message I was actually receiving with your body
I was actually receiving with your body
I was actually receiving with your body is wrong by the time I had no contact
is wrong by the time I had no contact
is wrong by the time I had no contact with my family everything was okay
with my family everything was okay
with my family everything was okay because I’ve never had problems with my
because I’ve never had problems with my
because I’ve never had problems with my barrier appearance as I saw yet why is
barrier appearance as I saw yet why is
barrier appearance as I saw yet why is it mandatory to all women
it mandatory to all women
it mandatory to all women to have breasts at the period at the age
to have breasts at the period at the age
to have breasts at the period at the age of 17 those questions are family
of 17 those questions are family
of 17 those questions are family meetings disappeared
meetings disappeared
meetings disappeared my breasts began to develop and my PBO
my breasts began to develop and my PBO
my breasts began to develop and my PBO arrived either a am yo period I’m here
arrived either a am yo period I’m here
arrived either a am yo period I’m here it was my period knocking on the door
it was my period knocking on the door
it was my period knocking on the door working I remember every one of my
working I remember every one of my
working I remember every one of my family congratulating me for being a
family congratulating me for being a
family congratulating me for being a real woman’s own yeah
real woman’s own yeah
real woman’s own yeah real woman thanks family for your
real woman thanks family for your
real woman thanks family for your support I am now so much relieved to
support I am now so much relieved to
support I am now so much relieved to know that I am real and not made of
know that I am real and not made of
know that I am real and not made of plastic just thank you when I was 18 I
plastic just thank you when I was 18 I
plastic just thank you when I was 18 I moved to Grenada to study psychology and
moved to Grenada to study psychology and
moved to Grenada to study psychology and music that’s why I’m quite crazy I am
music that’s why I’m quite crazy I am
music that’s why I’m quite crazy I am truly thankful to a teacher of social
truly thankful to a teacher of social
truly thankful to a teacher of social psychology who told the class an
psychology who told the class an
psychology who told the class an expression I will never forget it says
expression I will never forget it says
expression I will never forget it says boo stuck on a stick it has been taken
boo stuck on a stick it has been taken
boo stuck on a stick it has been taken for real
for real
for real by a large group of people is still poo
by a large group of people is still poo
by a large group of people is still poo stuck on a stick the first time I heard
stuck on a stick the first time I heard
stuck on a stick the first time I heard that expression I was not aware of how
that expression I was not aware of how
that expression I was not aware of how important that sentence will be in my
important that sentence will be in my
important that sentence will be in my entire life in my first dog birthday my
entire life in my first dog birthday my
entire life in my first dog birthday my twenties I started wondering why my
twenties I started wondering why my
twenties I started wondering why my people embraced began to develop later I
people embraced began to develop later I
people embraced began to develop later I found out that I had an intersex
found out that I had an intersex
found out that I had an intersex condition in my adolescence that made
condition in my adolescence that made
condition in my adolescence that made some of my sexual traits like my breasts
some of my sexual traits like my breasts
some of my sexual traits like my breasts developed later being intersex means
developed later being intersex means
developed later being intersex means breaking the sex binarism it implies
breaking the sex binarism it implies
breaking the sex binarism it implies having several traits outside of the
having several traits outside of the
having several traits outside of the typical male and female binary it can be
typical male and female binary it can be
typical male and female binary it can be temporary it can last forever it can be
temporary it can last forever it can be
temporary it can last forever it can be visible or not and absolutely it’s an
visible or not and absolutely it’s an
visible or not and absolutely it’s an to appear at birth you have notice it
to appear at birth you have notice it
to appear at birth you have notice it can appear at different levels – like
can appear at different levels – like
can appear at different levels – like creme somes Herman’s gonads external
creme somes Herman’s gonads external
creme somes Herman’s gonads external genitalia internal genitalia and
genitalia internal genitalia and
genitalia internal genitalia and secondary sexual characteristics like
secondary sexual characteristics like
secondary sexual characteristics like breasts and facial hair every intersex
breasts and facial hair every intersex
breasts and facial hair every intersex experience is different there are many
experience is different there are many
experience is different there are many many possibilities in my case I had a
many possibilities in my case I had a
many possibilities in my case I had a delay with my period and breast
delay with my period and breast
delay with my period and breast development that moment I remembered my
development that moment I remembered my
development that moment I remembered my childhood and everyone repeating me the
childhood and everyone repeating me the
childhood and everyone repeating me the sex is binary male or female I realized
sex is binary male or female I realized
sex is binary male or female I realized how society binarize –is everything we
how society binarize –is everything we
how society binarize –is everything we have in life from clothes to sports toys
have in life from clothes to sports toys
have in life from clothes to sports toys toilets and even people the most
toilets and even people the most
toilets and even people the most important I understood
important I understood
important I understood the sex as a binary category is poo
the sex as a binary category is poo
the sex as a binary category is poo stack mistake everyone believed in it
stack mistake everyone believed in it
stack mistake everyone believed in it but it doesn’t exist
but it doesn’t exist
but it doesn’t exist something like Santa Claus with the
something like Santa Claus with the
something like Santa Claus with the little little difference the sex don’t
little little difference the sex don’t
little little difference the sex don’t bring you gifts for Christmas what a
bring you gifts for Christmas what a
bring you gifts for Christmas what a pity
at that moment I also took my third step
at that moment I also took my third step on my travel to find my identity as I
on my travel to find my identity as I
on my travel to find my identity as I show you at the beginning of the talk
show you at the beginning of the talk
show you at the beginning of the talk the first one was defining myself inside
the first one was defining myself inside
the first one was defining myself inside the opposite box I was assigned a berth
the opposite box I was assigned a berth
the opposite box I was assigned a berth assuming that I was a boy but how could
assuming that I was a boy but how could
assuming that I was a boy but how could that be possible if I had a vulva and
that be possible if I had a vulva and
that be possible if I had a vulva and then he came my second step defining
then he came my second step defining
then he came my second step defining myself inside the box I was assigned a
myself inside the box I was assigned a
myself inside the box I was assigned a berth assuming that hours of you so the
berth assuming that hours of you so the
berth assuming that hours of you so the third phase came as an acceptance of the
third phase came as an acceptance of the
third phase came as an acceptance of the first one I could be a boy with a vulva
first one I could be a boy with a vulva
first one I could be a boy with a vulva because sex is not binary and it doesn’t
because sex is not binary and it doesn’t
because sex is not binary and it doesn’t have an identity itself XY chromosomes
have an identity itself XY chromosomes
have an identity itself XY chromosomes are not male chromosomes they’re just XY
are not male chromosomes they’re just XY
are not male chromosomes they’re just XY chromosomes vulvas are not female
chromosomes vulvas are not female
chromosomes vulvas are not female genitalia they’re just full of us nobody
genitalia they’re just full of us nobody
genitalia they’re just full of us nobody says oh my god this is a male I this is
says oh my god this is a male I this is
says oh my god this is a male I this is the female nosed is it a male armed is
the female nosed is it a male armed is
the female nosed is it a male armed is it a female egg it doesn’t make sense
this third phase didn’t last long as I
this third phase didn’t last long as I started to feel unconfortable with level
started to feel unconfortable with level
started to feel unconfortable with level boy I realized that a substantive level
boy I realized that a substantive level
boy I realized that a substantive level was the same as entering to the binary
was the same as entering to the binary
was the same as entering to the binary system again male or female I have spent
system again male or female I have spent
system again male or female I have spent all my life wondering who I am and
all my life wondering who I am and
all my life wondering who I am and trying to fit in the binary categories
trying to fit in the binary categories
trying to fit in the binary categories now that I’m 20 to you I don’t know who
now that I’m 20 to you I don’t know who
now that I’m 20 to you I don’t know who I am
I am
I am I don’t perfectly okay with it to tell
I don’t perfectly okay with it to tell
I don’t perfectly okay with it to tell you the truth I couldn’t be better than
you the truth I couldn’t be better than
you the truth I couldn’t be better than now because I think the levels were
now because I think the levels were
now because I think the levels were oppressing me in some way
oppressing me in some way
oppressing me in some way guiding my behavior towards a society
guiding my behavior towards a society
guiding my behavior towards a society expected from me I just define myself as
expected from me I just define myself as
expected from me I just define myself as a unicorn pictures the same thing
a unicorn pictures the same thing
a unicorn pictures the same thing happens with sex gender and unicorns
happens with sex gender and unicorns
happens with sex gender and unicorns they don’t exist so in conclusion sorry
they don’t exist so in conclusion sorry
they don’t exist so in conclusion sorry the path to discover each one’s identity
the path to discover each one’s identity
the path to discover each one’s identity doesn’t have to be a path of agony and
doesn’t have to be a path of agony and
doesn’t have to be a path of agony and body shaming and absolutely it doesn’t
body shaming and absolutely it doesn’t
body shaming and absolutely it doesn’t have to have an end we all people are in
have to have an end we all people are in
have to have an end we all people are in constant growth and as life changes we
constant growth and as life changes we
constant growth and as life changes we change too and it’s okay it’s important
change too and it’s okay it’s important
change too and it’s okay it’s important not to regret for coming back to the
not to regret for coming back to the
not to regret for coming back to the first step on your travel because life
first step on your travel because life
first step on your travel because life is a travel itself in which we will be
is a travel itself in which we will be
is a travel itself in which we will be going through many roads that sometimes
going through many roads that sometimes
going through many roads that sometimes we bring us back
we bring us back
we bring us back to previous ways sex and gender binarism
to previous ways sex and gender binarism
to previous ways sex and gender binarism works like a cage for the body trying to
works like a cage for the body trying to
works like a cage for the body trying to fit it inside what we consider to be
fit it inside what we consider to be
fit it inside what we consider to be true but as a Spinoza said the only
true but as a Spinoza said the only
true but as a Spinoza said the only truth we have is that no one has yet
truth we have is that no one has yet
truth we have is that no one has yet laid down the limits to the powers of
laid down the limits to the powers of
laid down the limits to the powers of our bodies boxes are free cookies not
our bodies boxes are free cookies not
our bodies boxes are free cookies not for baddest so the same way we ask
for baddest so the same way we ask
for baddest so the same way we ask ourselves about our future plans where
ourselves about our future plans where
ourselves about our future plans where to move what to study let’s face the
to move what to study let’s face the
to move what to study let’s face the most simple question in life will never
most simple question in life will never
most simple question in life will never ask ourselves Who am I thank you
ask ourselves Who am I thank you
ask ourselves Who am I thank you [Applause]
congratulations it’s at Vova I’m sorry sorry I messed up okay let’s start again
that’s what doctors told my mom when I
that’s what doctors told my mom when I was born 21st of January 1996 when my
was born 21st of January 1996 when my
was born 21st of January 1996 when my mom was told I’m head of OVA sorry
mom was told I’m head of OVA sorry
mom was told I’m head of OVA sorry when my mom was told I was a girl I told
when my mom was told I was a girl I told
when my mom was told I was a girl I told my ears pierced pink clothes and
my ears pierced pink clothes and
my ears pierced pink clothes and comments like oh my god you are so
comments like oh my god you are so
comments like oh my god you are so beautiful you look like a beautiful
beautiful you look like a beautiful
beautiful you look like a beautiful young lady have I already told you how
young lady have I already told you how
young lady have I already told you how beautiful you are you look like a
beautiful you are you look like a
beautiful you are you look like a beautiful princess I don’t think I tell
beautiful princess I don’t think I tell
beautiful princess I don’t think I tell you enough how beautiful you are
you enough how beautiful you are
you enough how beautiful you are you are guess what yeah beautiful been
you are guess what yeah beautiful been
you are guess what yeah beautiful been objectified since I was one day old
objectified since I was one day old
objectified since I was one day old amazing it looks very simple to assign a
amazing it looks very simple to assign a
amazing it looks very simple to assign a sex of a newborn baby a birth and it
sex of a newborn baby a birth and it
sex of a newborn baby a birth and it looks easy to to assign a jungler to
looks easy to to assign a jungler to
looks easy to to assign a jungler to that newborn baby attending to that sex
that newborn baby attending to that sex
that newborn baby attending to that sex like comments toys and clothes sorry the
like comments toys and clothes sorry the
like comments toys and clothes sorry the baby has a vagina and a clitoris that
baby has a vagina and a clitoris that
baby has a vagina and a clitoris that baby will be level as girl in terms of
baby will be level as girl in terms of
baby will be level as girl in terms of sex and younger and if the baby has a
sex and younger and if the baby has a
sex and younger and if the baby has a penis and testicles the baby will be
penis and testicles the baby will be
penis and testicles the baby will be label as boy in terms of sex and gender
label as boy in terms of sex and gender
label as boy in terms of sex and gender – it’s easy isn’t it well it’s actually
– it’s easy isn’t it well it’s actually
– it’s easy isn’t it well it’s actually not that simple and it finally didn’t
not that simple and it finally didn’t
not that simple and it finally didn’t work for me
my name is Rene I know it looked like
my name is Rene I know it looked like eight years old or maybe ten that I’m
eight years old or maybe ten that I’m
eight years old or maybe ten that I’m actually 22 you my ID says on female
actually 22 you my ID says on female
actually 22 you my ID says on female doctors say young female and society
doctors say young female and society
doctors say young female and society says I’m female true what is it price it
says I’m female true what is it price it
says I’m female true what is it price it seems that everybody agrees on it
seems that everybody agrees on it
seems that everybody agrees on it however personally to tell you the truth
however personally to tell you the truth
however personally to tell you the truth I don’t know who I am and I’m okay with
I don’t know who I am and I’m okay with
I don’t know who I am and I’m okay with it I just define myself as a unicorn
it I just define myself as a unicorn
it I just define myself as a unicorn without the horn actually I do not have
without the horn actually I do not have
without the horn actually I do not have a horn
a horn
a horn Jenny tell you speaking in fact I have
Jenny tell you speaking in fact I have
Jenny tell you speaking in fact I have the opposite of a horn and what is the
the opposite of a horn and what is the
the opposite of a horn and what is the opposite of a horn a whole simple well
opposite of a horn a whole simple well
opposite of a horn a whole simple well is that truly simple today I will be
is that truly simple today I will be
is that truly simple today I will be telling you the story of my life
telling you the story of my life
telling you the story of my life focusing on the transition I’ve went
focusing on the transition I’ve went
focusing on the transition I’ve went through the discover of my identity and
through the discover of my identity and
through the discover of my identity and most important why I define myself as a
most important why I define myself as a
most important why I define myself as a unicorn without the horn when I was a
unicorn without the horn when I was a
unicorn without the horn when I was a child my mom used to tell me you are a
child my mom used to tell me you are a
child my mom used to tell me you are a girl because you have a vulva and your
girl because you have a vulva and your
girl because you have a vulva and your brother is a boy Peterson has a penis at
brother is a boy Peterson has a penis at
brother is a boy Peterson has a penis at that moment I already knew I was not a
that moment I already knew I was not a
that moment I already knew I was not a girl just because I don’t feel like I’m
girl just because I don’t feel like I’m
girl just because I don’t feel like I’m a girl and I thought that if I wished
a girl and I thought that if I wished
a girl and I thought that if I wished not ago I had to be a boy the opposite
not ago I had to be a boy the opposite
not ago I had to be a boy the opposite the why everything we have in life is
the why everything we have in life is
the why everything we have in life is divided into two completely closed and
divided into two completely closed and
divided into two completely closed and different categories intelligence or
different categories intelligence or
different categories intelligence or ignorant ugly and beautiful dry and wet
ignorant ugly and beautiful dry and wet
ignorant ugly and beautiful dry and wet hot
hot
hot and cold small antique male or female so
and cold small antique male or female so
and cold small antique male or female so if I was not a girl
if I was not a girl
if I was not a girl that means when I had to be a boy the
that means when I had to be a boy the
that means when I had to be a boy the opposite this fact mark my first step on
opposite this fact mark my first step on
opposite this fact mark my first step on my transition to find my identity but
my transition to find my identity but
my transition to find my identity but how could that be possible to be a boy
how could that be possible to be a boy
how could that be possible to be a boy if I have a vulva this to statement went
if I have a vulva this to statement went
if I have a vulva this to statement went out of my mind because of everyone
out of my mind because of everyone
out of my mind because of everyone repeating me the message you were born
repeating me the message you were born
repeating me the message you were born ago
ago
ago you are ago you will always be a girl to
you are ago you will always be a girl to
you are ago you will always be a girl to a point that I genuinely believed I was
a point that I genuinely believed I was
a point that I genuinely believed I was ago this was my second step on my
ago this was my second step on my
ago this was my second step on my trouble to find my identity when I was
trouble to find my identity when I was
trouble to find my identity when I was 14 when girls are supposed to have
14 when girls are supposed to have
14 when girls are supposed to have breasts and have the period I didn’t
breasts and have the period I didn’t
breasts and have the period I didn’t have the period and I didn’t have
have the period and I didn’t have
have the period and I didn’t have breasts now I have this fact didn’t
breasts now I have this fact didn’t
breasts now I have this fact didn’t bother me initially just features I have
bother me initially just features I have
bother me initially just features I have never had problems with my body or
never had problems with my body or
never had problems with my body or appearance but it was very very
appearance but it was very very
appearance but it was very very uncomfortable on the weekends
uncomfortable on the weekends
uncomfortable on the weekends that was the time when I used to have
that was the time when I used to have
that was the time when I used to have family meals at those meetings the main
family meals at those meetings the main
family meals at those meetings the main topic on the table with my body I used
topic on the table with my body I used
topic on the table with my body I used to receive comments like unique like a
to receive comments like unique like a
to receive comments like unique like a child
child
child oh you have to eat more in order to
oh you have to eat more in order to
oh you have to eat more in order to develop breasts you are not a real woman
develop breasts you are not a real woman
develop breasts you are not a real woman real I was maybe made of concrete or
real I was maybe made of concrete or
real I was maybe made of concrete or something like that I don’t know so the
something like that I don’t know so the
something like that I don’t know so the internal message
internal message
internal message I was actually receiving with your body
I was actually receiving with your body
I was actually receiving with your body is wrong by the time I had no contact
is wrong by the time I had no contact
is wrong by the time I had no contact with my family everything was okay
with my family everything was okay
with my family everything was okay because I’ve never had problems with my
because I’ve never had problems with my
because I’ve never had problems with my barrier appearance as I saw yet why is
barrier appearance as I saw yet why is
barrier appearance as I saw yet why is it mandatory to all women
it mandatory to all women
it mandatory to all women to have breasts at the period at the age
to have breasts at the period at the age
to have breasts at the period at the age of 17 those questions are family
of 17 those questions are family
of 17 those questions are family meetings disappeared
meetings disappeared
meetings disappeared my breasts began to develop and my PBO
my breasts began to develop and my PBO
my breasts began to develop and my PBO arrived either a am yo period I’m here
arrived either a am yo period I’m here
arrived either a am yo period I’m here it was my period knocking on the door
it was my period knocking on the door
it was my period knocking on the door working I remember every one of my
working I remember every one of my
working I remember every one of my family congratulating me for being a
family congratulating me for being a
family congratulating me for being a real woman’s own yeah
real woman’s own yeah
real woman’s own yeah real woman thanks family for your
real woman thanks family for your
real woman thanks family for your support I am now so much relieved to
support I am now so much relieved to
support I am now so much relieved to know that I am real and not made of
know that I am real and not made of
know that I am real and not made of plastic just thank you when I was 18 I
plastic just thank you when I was 18 I
plastic just thank you when I was 18 I moved to Grenada to study psychology and
moved to Grenada to study psychology and
moved to Grenada to study psychology and music that’s why I’m quite crazy I am
music that’s why I’m quite crazy I am
music that’s why I’m quite crazy I am truly thankful to a teacher of social
truly thankful to a teacher of social
truly thankful to a teacher of social psychology who told the class an
psychology who told the class an
psychology who told the class an expression I will never forget it says
expression I will never forget it says
expression I will never forget it says boo stuck on a stick it has been taken
boo stuck on a stick it has been taken
boo stuck on a stick it has been taken for real
for real
for real by a large group of people is still poo
by a large group of people is still poo
by a large group of people is still poo stuck on a stick the first time I heard
stuck on a stick the first time I heard
stuck on a stick the first time I heard that expression I was not aware of how
that expression I was not aware of how
that expression I was not aware of how important that sentence will be in my
important that sentence will be in my
important that sentence will be in my entire life in my first dog birthday my
entire life in my first dog birthday my
entire life in my first dog birthday my twenties I started wondering why my
twenties I started wondering why my
twenties I started wondering why my people embraced began to develop later I
people embraced began to develop later I
people embraced began to develop later I found out that I had an intersex
found out that I had an intersex
found out that I had an intersex condition in my adolescence that made
condition in my adolescence that made
condition in my adolescence that made some of my sexual traits like my breasts
some of my sexual traits like my breasts
some of my sexual traits like my breasts developed later being intersex means
developed later being intersex means
developed later being intersex means breaking the sex binarism it implies
breaking the sex binarism it implies
breaking the sex binarism it implies having several traits outside of the
having several traits outside of the
having several traits outside of the typical male and female binary it can be
typical male and female binary it can be
typical male and female binary it can be temporary it can last forever it can be
temporary it can last forever it can be
temporary it can last forever it can be visible or not and absolutely it’s an
visible or not and absolutely it’s an
visible or not and absolutely it’s an to appear at birth you have notice it
to appear at birth you have notice it
to appear at birth you have notice it can appear at different levels – like
can appear at different levels – like
can appear at different levels – like creme somes Herman’s gonads external
creme somes Herman’s gonads external
creme somes Herman’s gonads external genitalia internal genitalia and
genitalia internal genitalia and
genitalia internal genitalia and secondary sexual characteristics like
secondary sexual characteristics like
secondary sexual characteristics like breasts and facial hair every intersex
breasts and facial hair every intersex
breasts and facial hair every intersex experience is different there are many
experience is different there are many
experience is different there are many many possibilities in my case I had a
many possibilities in my case I had a
many possibilities in my case I had a delay with my period and breast
delay with my period and breast
delay with my period and breast development that moment I remembered my
development that moment I remembered my
development that moment I remembered my childhood and everyone repeating me the
childhood and everyone repeating me the
childhood and everyone repeating me the sex is binary male or female I realized
sex is binary male or female I realized
sex is binary male or female I realized how society binarize –is everything we
how society binarize –is everything we
how society binarize –is everything we have in life from clothes to sports toys
have in life from clothes to sports toys
have in life from clothes to sports toys toilets and even people the most
toilets and even people the most
toilets and even people the most important I understood
important I understood
important I understood the sex as a binary category is poo
the sex as a binary category is poo
the sex as a binary category is poo stack mistake everyone believed in it
stack mistake everyone believed in it
stack mistake everyone believed in it but it doesn’t exist
but it doesn’t exist
but it doesn’t exist something like Santa Claus with the
something like Santa Claus with the
something like Santa Claus with the little little difference the sex don’t
little little difference the sex don’t
little little difference the sex don’t bring you gifts for Christmas what a
bring you gifts for Christmas what a
bring you gifts for Christmas what a pity
at that moment I also took my third step
at that moment I also took my third step on my travel to find my identity as I
on my travel to find my identity as I
on my travel to find my identity as I show you at the beginning of the talk
show you at the beginning of the talk
show you at the beginning of the talk the first one was defining myself inside
the first one was defining myself inside
the first one was defining myself inside the opposite box I was assigned a berth
the opposite box I was assigned a berth
the opposite box I was assigned a berth assuming that I was a boy but how could
assuming that I was a boy but how could
assuming that I was a boy but how could that be possible if I had a vulva and
that be possible if I had a vulva and
that be possible if I had a vulva and then he came my second step defining
then he came my second step defining
then he came my second step defining myself inside the box I was assigned a
myself inside the box I was assigned a
myself inside the box I was assigned a berth assuming that hours of you so the
berth assuming that hours of you so the
berth assuming that hours of you so the third phase came as an acceptance of the
third phase came as an acceptance of the
third phase came as an acceptance of the first one I could be a boy with a vulva
first one I could be a boy with a vulva
first one I could be a boy with a vulva because sex is not binary and it doesn’t
because sex is not binary and it doesn’t
because sex is not binary and it doesn’t have an identity itself XY chromosomes
have an identity itself XY chromosomes
have an identity itself XY chromosomes are not male chromosomes they’re just XY
are not male chromosomes they’re just XY
are not male chromosomes they’re just XY chromosomes vulvas are not female
chromosomes vulvas are not female
chromosomes vulvas are not female genitalia they’re just full of us nobody
genitalia they’re just full of us nobody
genitalia they’re just full of us nobody says oh my god this is a male I this is
says oh my god this is a male I this is
says oh my god this is a male I this is the female nosed is it a male armed is
the female nosed is it a male armed is
the female nosed is it a male armed is it a female egg it doesn’t make sense
this third phase didn’t last long as I
this third phase didn’t last long as I started to feel unconfortable with level
started to feel unconfortable with level
started to feel unconfortable with level boy I realized that a substantive level
boy I realized that a substantive level
boy I realized that a substantive level was the same as entering to the binary
was the same as entering to the binary
was the same as entering to the binary system again male or female I have spent
system again male or female I have spent
system again male or female I have spent all my life wondering who I am and
all my life wondering who I am and
all my life wondering who I am and trying to fit in the binary categories
trying to fit in the binary categories
trying to fit in the binary categories now that I’m 20 to you I don’t know who
now that I’m 20 to you I don’t know who
now that I’m 20 to you I don’t know who I am
I am
I am I don’t perfectly okay with it to tell
I don’t perfectly okay with it to tell
I don’t perfectly okay with it to tell you the truth I couldn’t be better than
you the truth I couldn’t be better than
you the truth I couldn’t be better than now because I think the levels were
now because I think the levels were
now because I think the levels were oppressing me in some way
oppressing me in some way
oppressing me in some way guiding my behavior towards a society
guiding my behavior towards a society
guiding my behavior towards a society expected from me I just define myself as
expected from me I just define myself as
expected from me I just define myself as a unicorn pictures the same thing
a unicorn pictures the same thing
a unicorn pictures the same thing happens with sex gender and unicorns
happens with sex gender and unicorns
happens with sex gender and unicorns they don’t exist so in conclusion sorry
they don’t exist so in conclusion sorry
they don’t exist so in conclusion sorry the path to discover each one’s identity
the path to discover each one’s identity
the path to discover each one’s identity doesn’t have to be a path of agony and
doesn’t have to be a path of agony and
doesn’t have to be a path of agony and body shaming and absolutely it doesn’t
body shaming and absolutely it doesn’t
body shaming and absolutely it doesn’t have to have an end we all people are in
have to have an end we all people are in
have to have an end we all people are in constant growth and as life changes we
constant growth and as life changes we
constant growth and as life changes we change too and it’s okay it’s important
change too and it’s okay it’s important
change too and it’s okay it’s important not to regret for coming back to the
not to regret for coming back to the
not to regret for coming back to the first step on your travel because life
first step on your travel because life
first step on your travel because life is a travel itself in which we will be
is a travel itself in which we will be
is a travel itself in which we will be going through many roads that sometimes
going through many roads that sometimes
going through many roads that sometimes we bring us back
we bring us back
we bring us back to previous ways sex and gender binarism
to previous ways sex and gender binarism
to previous ways sex and gender binarism works like a cage for the body trying to
works like a cage for the body trying to
works like a cage for the body trying to fit it inside what we consider to be
fit it inside what we consider to be
fit it inside what we consider to be true but as a Spinoza said the only
true but as a Spinoza said the only
true but as a Spinoza said the only truth we have is that no one has yet
truth we have is that no one has yet
truth we have is that no one has yet laid down the limits to the powers of
laid down the limits to the powers of
laid down the limits to the powers of our bodies boxes are free cookies not
our bodies boxes are free cookies not
our bodies boxes are free cookies not for baddest so the same way we ask
for baddest so the same way we ask
for baddest so the same way we ask ourselves about our future plans where
ourselves about our future plans where
ourselves about our future plans where to move what to study let’s face the
to move what to study let’s face the
to move what to study let’s face the most simple question in life will never
most simple question in life will never
most simple question in life will never ask ourselves Who am I thank you
ask ourselves Who am I thank you
ask ourselves Who am I thank you [Applause]
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