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Are Millennials Oversensitive? | Shira Sneg | TEDxUBCO


sticks and stones may break my bones but

words will never hurt me

two Millennials that isn’t a dash of the

past because words they matter they hold

weight and they hold meaning and while

awards and the way that we use them are

both significant that’s only a portion

of what I’m going to be talking about

today today I aim to tackle a somewhat

touchy subject are millenials

oversensitive so you might be wondering

to yourselves what tomorrow are

millenials

good question Millennials or Generation

Y encompasses anyone born between the

early 1980s to early 2000s as a

millennial myself my friends and I are

often told that we are too sensitive to

politically correct but we are delicate

little snowflakes that can’t handle

anything I felt like that was the

general sentiment towards my generation

in order to really confirm that I of

course went to consult Google so when

they looked up Millennials are – on

Google this is what the four things that

popped up we are apparently too lazy to

eat cereal we’re too PC or politically

correct we are too soft and we’re too

sensitive and aside from the cereal

comment which I don’t really know what

that’s what they see online mentions of

Jerry Seinfeld’s saying that we are

winning comedy because we can’t take a

joke and countless of others calling us

social justice warriors so with that I

want to acknowledge a couple of things

first of all culture is organic it is a

set of shared and learned attitudes

ideas behaviors feelings and experiences

that I shared and are shaped and change

over time and in space that means that

culture will become different and

secondly I am a student in a university

where we encourage this kind of

discussion that opens minds and debate

so with that I would like to indulge you

in a quick game I made for you and I

will of course need your participation

so what I’ll be doing is I’ll be showing

an image up on the screen and if you

believe that image is acceptable and

appropriate today please put your hand

up got it very good here’s the first

image so I’m not seeing hands but that’s

okay I was ready for this I have another

I don’t know if you just don’t want to

participate or if you really feel like

this is not great um but maybe maybe

it’s because of the latter one and maybe

because these images they’re about half

a century old or more and yes these are

ads and we can say that’s just that

that’s just media and marketing but I

think that that would be a mistake

because marketing and media have a huge

influence on how we see the world and

therefore how we act within it

we’ve changed right we’ve gotten better

let’s do another round

okay so again please put your hand up if

you feel like the image in its message

is appropriate and acceptable today

let’s go it gets me too so I’m not

seeing a lot of hands either but last

image let’s go but here’s the thing

about these images they are younger than

my sisters who attend high school so

have things really gotten better I would

say no what I would say has changed is

that Millennials are much more

comfortable calling out these

problematic messages and ideologies but

for that know we get called

oversensitive see I think that calling

each other’s oversensitive is

problematic on its own I know

typical millennial but I’ll explain why

calling someone oversensitive talks

about a person’s characteristic not

their argument and therefore we’re not

actually advancing the base and

discussion we are just kind of insulting

someone secondly saying that someone is

oversensitive also implies that there is

something wrong with being sensitive and

I think that’s a mistake because

sensitivity and emotion are powerful

there are youth influencers and

motivators for why we do things and who

we choose to be

with so under estimating the power of

emotion would be a mistake and thirdly I

want you to consider this scenario so I

did this myself and now I’m the girl

entirely here and say this person was

like oh my gosh a traffic today was so

gay or maybe they were saying deck exam

today absolutely right for me and I was

like they’re saying maybe you should

rethink how you’re saying these things

maybe there is a problem maybe maybe you

should I know that it was hard and you

might have been late but think about how

your wording things and they said sheer

just get over I didn’t know what I mean

you’re just too sensitive aren’t they

oversensitive also because they didn’t

even take into account my criticism and

think about how they are saying

something aren’t they

oversensitive because they didn’t take a

moment and just right away criticize me

see I don’t think that calling each

other’s names is helpful well I would

say that that goes back to kindergarten

but I don’t think that’s productive

instead we should have actual

conversations where we are intentionally

listening to one another so with that I

would like to propose a new outlook on

the Millennial to me Millennials they’re

sensitive and they’re empathic they’re

also aware and educated and finally

Millennials are critical and they’re

vocal and I know maybe you’re thinking

okay sure cool

but why do they have to comment so much

on everything

just gets too much I get it it can look

like that I think that there is a couple

of things that are happening

first of all Millennials are embracing

the idea of shared responsibility and

that means that we care about a lot

secondly we must remember that

Millennials grew up with the rise of the

Internet and therefore we have greater

access to a lot of information as well

as a greater audience it does get

overwhelming but I think that this is

better than being bystanders could not

rise up to help a victim when they need

their help I don’t think that we’re so

so different because for one then people

protest the Vietnam War when they found

out about it from television greater

access to information people like my

parents baby boomers are known for that

activism for peace gender equality and

environmental issues they care to me

that sounds the same to me it even looks

the same heck I’ll even put a black and

white filter on it

and what that to me means is that there

is this immense opportunity for

discussion and collaboration and working

collectively to make a difference in

this world and we should take this

opportunity well I think we’re lacking

here is this communication bit we should

learn how to participate with one

another better see freedom of speech and

freedom of expression are integral to

debate and discussion and advancing

knowledge yes but they cannot be trumped

by evidence and respect for one another

in your next interactions perhaps with

the people in this room I urge you to go

in with an open mind and an open heart

ready to listen to learn to truly engage

to not assume but clarify because I

believe that we can work together if we

just started there to be honest I’m

pretty okay with being a snowflake

because to me being a snowflake means

that I realized that we are all unique

and therefore we have our own

contribution into this world but we also

all come in the same way to this world

so we’re all snowflakes and the cool

thing about snow is that collectively

so let’s use that to our advantage as

well and let’s create a storm

let’s create a movement thank you

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