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An unapologetic drag queen of India | Alex Mathew | TEDxSGGSCC


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and equities and curtains

now you must be wondering what is this

good decent curtains no it’s not

swearing words it means sons and

daughters in Malayalam

I am Miami my the drag queen how many of

you know who is a drag queen does

anybody know I can see one hand they’re

a couple of hands they’re they’re okay

I’m not alone so a drag queen is is

usually a male who dresses up as the

opposite sex and does feminine roles

feminine gender roles and use it with a

lot of feminity and these are my

inspiration and these are the ones who

are actually going around the world and

performing now in India we have like

Atta girl I am and of course Indian

theatre where we do drag for so long now

before I did drag I loved to perform in

theatre and I loved the singing karaoke

bars but you know I was not getting that

adrenaline rush that I was longing for

that’s when I shut myself up I started

watching all movies different kinds of

movies which I can gain inspiration out

of and that’s when I saw a beautiful

movie known as mrs. Doubtfire where

Robin Williams acted in drag I was like

if Robin Williams can do drag then I can

do drag too so that’s when I came across

different other drag queens Dame Edna

RuPaul RuPaul’s Drag Race and I came

across my drag mother LaHood baddest on

now

drag is a pure performance art and I

have been facing all these years of my

life that drag is either crossdresser or

is either transgender drag is not

be mixed with sexuality I love being Who

I am I’m not caught in the wrong body

and I love to perform as a woman onstage

simple now coming back to my family we

all know that we live in a country where

doing something like this is not

accepted so it was difficult for my

family as well

my mother said sexuality go to hell with

sexuality I don’t care about sexuality

but you should not do drag my dad was

like a child is a sin but drag is okay

if you get money out of it so what I did

was I give them time and space I told

them let them you know figure out what

they’re what they want and what they

think about me but we realized that we

were hurting each other we were actually

like you know space and time was hurting

each other so they moved to Bangalore

now in Bangalore they haven’t seen me

perform live as Miami I don’t know the

reason and maybe I might know the reason

after they see see me in the stock and

they’ll come and see me perform life

soon now coming back to my my first

performance in drag as you see I wore my

mother sari and blouse and I got on the

stage because I was longing to perform

in drag and I like put mullah poo that

is Justin sours and I put I put one

cheap wig actually and I went onstage

and I sang a my alum song no less up a

girl and danced to karate now after this

performance I felt really good I felt

like the adrenaline rush that I was

longing for however there was criticism

that I was placing people started

calling me you look like a hitter your

makeup is not that great you have a

cheap wig and what is that sorry so I

took it as a challenge

a bold challenge to show them that you

know what I can

redo myself that’s when I tied up my bad

wig into a buck click tide a jasmine

flowers and put a customer sorry

a graceful cassava sari with tricolor

border and I went to perform on stage

now you see a redefined Miami now

they’re big different funny incidences

in my life and I want to share something

with you so there was a straight man who

came across my pictures and Instagram

and he was like in all with my pictures

and he was like you looking so beautiful

as a girl and I would like to sleep with

you I’m like it has if it’s going to

happen so what I did was I was like if

you want to sleep with me

sleep with me as a guy then he is a no

no I can’t sleep with you as a guy so I

said sweetie the door is that way you

can go there now the next incident that

I want to talk about was when I was

chatting on an online app and that is

when a guy today I’ve seen you somewhere

and I was like maybe after the

performance that you’ve seen me and he

was a guy I saw you you were that guy

wearing sari and dancing on stage I said

yes that was me he was like I don’t

approve of this I said bye because I am

a straight acting gay man hurry yeah

yeah a straight acting gay man I said

sweetheart you are so confused about

your sexuality please all the best with

your life now this incident actually hit

me the most and this happened last year

was when I saw a picture of a drag queen

floating in lot of these square groups

closed queer groups in Facebook where it

was written would you date a guy who

does drag and I was like okay would you

date a guy who does Drive and on the

caption it was written I would if he

doesn’t hurt me I like what will I do

will I take my six

Sheils and he too will I take my fake

nails and claw you out so I was like

enough is enough I’m going to sing a

song about it and I’m going to sing the

song to you come on come on to the radio

on it’s Friday night and I won’t be long

gonna do my hair put my makeup on it’s

Friday night and I won’t be long till I

hit the dance floor hit the dance floor

I got all I need

well I ain’t no macho I ain’t no macho

but I’m a fierce drag queen baby I don’t

need your hate to have fun tonight I

love drag queens baby I don’t need your

head to have fun tonight I love drag

queens I don’t need no hatred as long as

I can feel the love

I don’t need no hatred as long as I keep

dancing so thank you thank you so much

uh you know I wouldn’t be here if it

weren’t for my community and that is the

LGBT community and women all around the

country because you know there are a lot

of people out there who’s ready to

preach hate throw hate at you but I take

it as like you know it’s all patriotic

thrown at me so I take it with

a pinch of salt because I believe in

love I am the queen of love so I only

spread and take love and that’s what I

believe in now I’m pretty sure you all

know love is not easy give and take love

isn’t that easy

so I would like to sing another song

about it

love’s never easy take it from a girl

who knows love comes as quickly as it

goes love’s never easy always in moments

of despair and we goes get more than our

share all the women want to like is to

find a man who’s kind and true we seen

like through man’s eyes so we know what

Oh loves never easy ah this this song is

really really close to my heart because

obviously it’s from Thailand it’s from

Bombay Dreams another but it touched my

soul always so now has a performance

artist or has a drag performance artist

I always kept gold gold for myself on my

first year of as a drag queen I said you

know what I need to do a photo shoot and

I want to even take part in Oh in the

theatre play or you know so that’s when

I got the opportunity to be featured in

a photoshoot known as you–as Karnataka

at maximal above in’ in bangalore and i

was part of a famous theater ensemble

known as the wedding party done by

catholic’ ahmad at famous ranga Shankara

now in the second year of me performing

as drag queen I said I want to perform

so much that Bangalore needs to know

about me and also I want to reach out to

schools and colleges because I believe

that is where the change has to start

that is where people will get to know

about my art form and that’s why I

perform five times in two months for

Bangalore pride and I actually reached

out to students I perform for school

students at a school known as Pune then

I gave a talk on sensitization of media

for the LGBT community at muliple

University and I conducted a gender

sensitisation workshop for under 25

students because the change has to start

somewhere and with all of this you know

I’m lucky and I’m so grateful that I got

featured in places like a Geo life

BuzzFeed news minute hidden pockets

Hindu of eBay and bagged Lumira

better India now after seeing all of

this

I knew that my journey is never going to

end and it’s only started so my future

ambition is that with this that the

whole nation knows about Miami and I

start a talk show known as Chaya with

Maya with the focus on being on with the

LGBT community and also hopefully next

year that I go international and I

perform internationally drag is an art

form like any other performance art form

all you need to do is accept it the way

it is there are many people out there

just like me who is ready to perform for

you my other dream that I want to see is

that I get to see my parents someday

sitting there and watching me perform

because that’s something really close to

my heart and I hope it happens soon

these are my drag daughters cash tally

cash tally on your right side and that’s

Rumi heart and there are my inspiration

RuPaul and Dame Edna now I like I said

before I believe in love and love only

exists I’ve got questions such as when

are you planning to do sex reassignment

surgery or do you feel like you are in a

woman but all these questions for me

doesn’t hurt me or doesn’t affect me

because whatever hate is just thrown at

me is just like water off a duck’s back

because I truly love myself now has the

famous US drag queen said RuPaul said if

you can’t love yourself how are you

going to love somebody else

now before I end this talk I would like

to do this last song for you it’s called

less bobby girl how many of you know

who’s Bobby girl who’s it done by see

those girls know what happened like you

guys don’t know byaku I don’t you know

yeah yeah so I’m going to sing the song

girl

are we go I’m a Barbie girl in the

Barbie van life in plastic it’s

fantastic you can brush my hair undress

me everywhere imagination life is your

creation come on Barbie let’s go party

ah-ah-ah-yeah come on barbie let’s go

party I you I hear you come come Barbie

let’s go party ah-ah-ah-yeah come on

barbie let’s go party aiyoo aiyoo thank you so much thank you

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