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Adicción a la Carencia | Raúl Estrada | TEDxParqueLaLoma


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hello let’s do a dynamic by
please I’m going to tell all of you
hi, i’m raul and you are going to say hello
raul ok then do you realize that here
re-enter I will applaud
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Hi, I’m raul
I am an anonymous lame
I have serious problems problems since
very small and to this day my father
that still lives well be my dad raul
do you prefer to be happy or to be right
and although the bean and although it appears
simple in the question is very complex
when it comes to reflecting on the complex
also at the time of doing it because
really many people we want to have
the reason but we really want more
reason that happiness
and well I’m an anonymous lame and I want
tell you my story
I still remember as if it were yesterday
when a sperm in 1969
and that he was swimming happily with millions of
my friends
and suddenly in my life without anyone
will ask and I will take into account ripped
an impressive career was a
fratricidal career where we were
fighting with each other and who believe me
I win
and I met my good mom I knew the
lobe of my mom with which we started
to do the job of creating life
and that’s how my life began, I started to grow and
when it was the size of a bean
and my heart was beating a pum pum pum pum
pum pum and suddenly
when I started to grow and develop
when my body was already complete my
fingers my feet all my limbs my
heart was stronger
I already had about three kilos
800 grams of weight imagine flame
commanded
I was all to give in there and
suddenly they gave birth to me verbatim
they gave birth I was very comfortable and
they pulled out of my area
and well they say that the first trauma
at birth the first trauma of
human being is the birth the truth what
I told them I do not remember anything but
surely it should be but then I
I adapted I had to adapt as everything was
human as all species adapt to what
what had happened and I found the love of
the arms of my mom from my dad and the
love of my family the bulling of
older brother who chewed gum on me
the in the hair
and so when I started to adapt to
my earthly life to my life to my life
physical
suddenly without asking me again
They left in kindergarten
I remember that I cried I cried I do not know if one or
two weeks until after I got
I realized that crying did not help
I mourn because I stopped and I learned to live
with my friends from kindergarten to
catching us to smear the mucus and
the rest
and when two years have passed in the
garden I started again to
adapt to feel comfortable
and again without asking me they took me out
from there and when I realized I was
mounted in the primary reach the
first was not easy when you’re
playing with pure parvulitos in a
kindergarten and they nail you where you see a child
which is in sixth and that is much more
big and stronger than you know the
bullying what you live and obviously
that happened in my life like everyone’s
you time goes by very fast and from
soon
I reached sixth year it was very quiet
and when I was adapting to the
primary
they gave me birth again without asking me and
I was already in high school now
had 10 teachers now talk about physics
chemistry biology and many things that in
actually I did it with a lot of enthusiasm and
discipline but really I do not
they were interested
and who believe I adapted for three years
in that interim that I tell you
my parents separated my mistress got married
with a military man who is also my second
father and he told me
that I wanted him to be military because I
I could find there my future in the
army and good enters the school
military was not easy if they know
some military friend ask him and total
I felt like it and in four years I graduated
and when I realized I was an officer
that he was mounted in a battalion
I am serving my country and I had gone
lieutenant ascended Lieutenant and when
I realized I was already 24 years old
the third part of me has come
life and I have not made any decision
the only thing he had done was to continue
that went on and on and on like the
Alberto cortez song that if not
they know it says something like that the saying of
Alberto Cortez and says the father assures
will be an engineer the mother pretend that
be a doctor the aunts suggest that it be a
banker a man of the world a great
seductive the grandmother suggests that learn
an office so that life can be
win as long as the grandfather predicts that the
child will put on the boots will be military
the child does not know from his galaxy
who does not have the key to what he has
what to do has to adapt and follow
the program that they are putting us and so
my life went at the age of 24 years
I decided to leave the army was not easy
making that decision was the first time
that they were not going to give birth
was the first write to give birth to me
only by own determination
and when I told my mom to lower the
army my mom told me but because you go
to leave the army 100 25 years old you
you can retire to raúl
I said in 25 years but I was 24 years old
Who knows if alive
and told me and dad and what is it
you want to do and for I do not know how not to
you know what you want to do, I do not know,
because a principle of knowing what
you want in life is to recognize that
where are you, you do not like it and I did not have the
vocation to pursue the career and I left
the army and I started with jobs
struggling economically until you can
undertake I am a serial entrepreneur
I say I am an expert in failures if
someone wants me to teach him how
I can teach you fail to give all
tips on what they have to do to make
go wrong in life and at the age of
26 years old I started to undertake and to fail
lose a lot of money to lose friendships
as well
to be about to lose my family
but fortunately it did not happen
good life and life gives us and
removes things until suddenly to the
age of 38 years old
already when it went well beyond good
you know that life expectancy
in Mexico are 76 years had that
then the 38 base in half and you do not
You find out what the hell this canyon is going
life and it’s there at that time I decided
I take a business but not
Traditional a different business
and I wanted to start doing network networks
marketing if they saw how difficult it is to do
networks but what exciting and then
I got involved in my network theme
marketing of wanting to help people
they do not want me to help them
and when I was searching and searching and
looking for more people I found a
psychiatrist in guadalajara who
He clarified that he was not consulting me
you told me you know that raúl this wave that
is submitted is like double to
I like if it’s like double to because I
I see that you organize yourselves cooperate
wool rent rooms there is a guy who gives
a talk you invite people and it’s
like the double a is a double to
business told me lamy sale invited and
he invited me to a double session to me
I was shocked I’m honest if there
someone here in the room that is double to
I congratulate him, I was impressed
solidarity of teamwork and
the substance that represents being in
this type of groups and not only was
the first session but for months
I was going to double sessions to
with the intention of learning that they were
doing them because there were people who
achieved transformational results in
his life and there were people who could not
achieve it when we talked on the network
obviously search for hope
look for another kind of life other than
that we have in an economy that every day
it compresses and gets harder
and there I realized that all part of a
addiction
because because people who have a
problem with addictions has to
fight to get out of it no one can
fight the battle of anyone who is in
addictions has to recognize it for
can leave it to get out of there
same happens when we are addicted to the
lack when we are addicted to the
lack and that our life has
programmed as they programmed mine
you realize that you have many things but
you do not have everything and life stops having
meaning for you
then I started to make some analogies
between double and what it was to create a
group of leaders to look for
inspire them to give the best of
his life so that they left the state in
who they were and then I created
what is called the double to business
that is an addict, you lost
who is an addicted addict comes from Latin
addicted addicts crisis wants to be
addicts means that it belongs to
something does belong to something that is
someone who has someone addicted to him
they called in the time of the Romans to
the slaves and tells a legend in
roma ‘that in those days the slaves
there was a slave who called himself addicts
precisely that he spent all his wool
when I asked the creditors I asked
borrowed money and earned and spent
all in in pachangas at parties in climbing
and go down and travel and suddenly when
he ran out of money and the creditor did not
I could pay him then to Dictus
to be a slave to pay the
creditor because the creditor grabbed it
and you are your own payment commitment
If you do not pay me, I’ll go to
sell and sell him as slave addicts
they were the slaves
it sounds like that
it does not sound like similar that suddenly
we are constantly in debt
enslaving us to pay debts
continue working on the issue of
analogy that if the lack the
lack really is an addiction because
who believe as in the
alcoholics as well as people who
has any addiction the only way
of coming out of a lack is recognizing
that we are lacking and recognizing it
we can genuinely do something that we
can help get out of that problem that
although it is not a problem because it is very
widespread we got used to it by
That’s what you told them, how was my
life and how life has surely been
many people like me
they passed it from kindergarten to
career and today they have not found
a purpose in life when we speak
of the purpose of seeking a purpose is
uncomfortable because people like that the
wants to strive you have a purpose
what is your purpose
firstly if in life we do not achieve
be happy
you can have a purpose because
really in life I made them to
what do you prefer to be right or
be happy if you want to be right
you will move away from happiness and the only
way you find the purpose is
that you be happy because you are not going to
find your purpose your purpose you
will find you when you need
or when you tirelessly seek to be
happy how can you tell if
you are or you are not, you are going to realize
simply and plainly being aware
wondering what every day in the
tomorrow to the person who is in the
mirror that is the most important person
in your life and he can tell you if there
congruence with what you are doing and
with what he is saying with what he is
living because today you and I
we know that many people live
inconsistencies through networks
socially we have a life in networks
social and a real life
you have to make that difference
if it were a graph, it had to come together
yes and that is not easy
they say that the first symptom of a
addiction is the denial that is not me
I am not not not my compadre him if I do not
I have problem yes then it is very
important
that we can demand to claim the
abundance to which we are entitled
all for the simple fact of being
living on this planet we have the right
to be happy we have the right to be
Abundant abundance does not mean
money please
if today you do not have money and you are not happy
when you have it, you do not have to
see with abundance money has to do
with abundance balance has to do
with balance and that balance is going to
find with perseverance and with
actions that approach you every day
where do you want to be, everyone has
wishes everyone wants to do things
but ask yourself what are you doing every
day to get where you want to be
I have to close
and I just want to leave this message
very important to you all
is that they talk with the one in the mirror
he is very wise he really knows you
he really knows what you feel to him not
you can cheat
he does not have instagram or facebook is more
you really are not even your friend in the
social networks because he knows you
is inside you ask if it is that
there really is some addiction to the
lack and nothing more emotional not nothing
more financial to any kind of
lack and at that moment that you the
find out what we do
alcoholics and let’s just say for today I am
abundant
Thank you
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